I am officially moving in with my spouse of 2 years! Everything seems to be going great - but theres one thing we haven't really went over and talked about that we've been trying to avoid for obvious reason - splitting the bills. Our arrangement was basically for me to find a job up here so we could live together and I could move in to his house and talk bills later! Sounds simple, right?
Well, I was able to find a job, but my job pays almost exactly half of his job. In addition, the house I am moving into he has lived for over a year, and the mortgage itself is three times what I would be used to paying in total living expenses. Its a large house, granted, but it feels like I took a pay cut to pay more in bills/utilities and it simply feels like I am getting such a raw deal to split everything in half and have such a drastic increase in responsibility. Especially with the huge disparity on what he is paying and used to spending on bills vs myself. I know there's definitely a love tax - but I could easily take this 1500+/month elsewhere and live much more comfortably - And I don't think there's a way to make him understand that! Not to mention this area is just much more expensive in general.
So I want to hear from Era - has anyone moved in with a spouse? What are some of the ways you have split the bills?
For right now, the current agreement is that I would pay a third of the mortgage, and split the other bills evenly. This gives me only a ~25%-33% increase in cost of living vs living by myself. Still outrageous in my opinion but I guess it's the love tax.
Well, I was able to find a job, but my job pays almost exactly half of his job. In addition, the house I am moving into he has lived for over a year, and the mortgage itself is three times what I would be used to paying in total living expenses. Its a large house, granted, but it feels like I took a pay cut to pay more in bills/utilities and it simply feels like I am getting such a raw deal to split everything in half and have such a drastic increase in responsibility. Especially with the huge disparity on what he is paying and used to spending on bills vs myself. I know there's definitely a love tax - but I could easily take this 1500+/month elsewhere and live much more comfortably - And I don't think there's a way to make him understand that! Not to mention this area is just much more expensive in general.
So I want to hear from Era - has anyone moved in with a spouse? What are some of the ways you have split the bills?
For right now, the current agreement is that I would pay a third of the mortgage, and split the other bills evenly. This gives me only a ~25%-33% increase in cost of living vs living by myself. Still outrageous in my opinion but I guess it's the love tax.