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How bad is to look at women on the street?

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Gustaf

Gustaf

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yesterday i was driving going back home and i saw this woman in a bike and look at her and thought to myself, wow she is hot, and thats what it.

but i started thinking about when men tend to cat call them and felt like, "at least im not like those guys".

but it made me ponder, how different is what we did.

i mean its not like when i saw her, i thought of "all the things i would to her because she is so hot bla bla bla" i just glimpsed at her and think to myself, she is hot.

maybe this is a stupid topic, but sometimes i guess i cant help turning to see an attractive woman in the street ;/
 
Wackamole

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Oct 27, 2017
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You don't have to feel ashamed because you thought someone was hot. That's normal. Just don't be a dumb prick.

It's a bit weird that this so so confusing to a lot of men.
 
Stat

Stat

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Firstly, I would also make sure you look at women on the street as I have found you walk into people. Especially if you are driving and they are pedestrians.

In all seriousness, its impossible to avoid those thoughts, but its different if you act/cat call. You're allowed to look/glimpse and think someone is attractive, but you probably shouldn't be staring intently.

If you couldn't look at people you were attracted to, how would you ever meet a life partner?
 
Doober

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Assuming this thread was made in good faith, you're fine. There's nothing wrong with noting attractiveness.
 
thewienke

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Oct 25, 2017
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I think it's generally okay to give a passing appreciative glance but don't be a creep and stare.
 
GK86

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Looking is fine. Staring like a jackass and/or being creepy about it is not. And definitely not catcalling.
 

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Noticing attractive people is fine, we all do it. But that should be it, notice then both you and your eyes move on. What's your eyes lock it's not noticing, it becomes staring or leering, and that's fucking creepy.
 
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Gustaf

Gustaf

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Stat said:
Firstly, I would also make sure you look at women on the street as I have found you walk into people. Especially if you are driving and they are pedestrians.

In all seriousness, its impossible to avoid those thoughts, but its different if you act/cat call. You're allowed to look/glimpse and think someone is attractive, but you probably shouldn't be staring intently.

If you couldn't look at people you were attracted to, how would you ever meet a life partner?
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oh yeah i was looking at her because well here in my city we dont really have "bike lines" so she was going the same way i was going, so thats why i noted her in the first place, then realize she was attractive haha
 
astro

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Oct 25, 2017
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There is nothing wrong with looking at someone.

There is something wrong with:

Looking for too long.
Leering.
Making comments.
Repeatedly looking.
Etc...
 
Old Gimlet Eyes

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Oct 25, 2017
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Wow you saw someone who you thought was attractive, you probably should take a hot poker to your eyes to make sure that doesn't happen again.
 
Cation

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Oct 28, 2017
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Someone needs to make a "how to be normal - ResetERA edition" book for dummies
 
Komo

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I mean you're fine OP, you just glanced thought she was hot and that's that.
 

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You're over-thinking it. You're human, of course you'll gladly look at a person you find attractive.

One of my OCD related books mentions a study that says that most college students think lustful thoughts of each other, both men and women, almost all the time they pass each other. Even when they are not even trying to think sexual/lustful thoughts, the brain will make those thoughts come up. Poof. Just like that.

Its okay, again don't over-think it.
 
Mesoian

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Rule of thumb, if you have to ask yourself whether what you just did is creepy, you're likely being creepy.
 
I Don't Like

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The trick is you focus on something behind them so you can stare intently and then when they're like, "What the hell are you starting at?" you just say, "Actuuuaally, I was looking at that thing behind you. Don't be so presumptuous, geez." Then they feel bad and give you their number and eventually you get married.
 
Hampig

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Oct 25, 2017
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What matters is your actions, not your thoughts. You can glance at people, that's normal and to be expected. You can sit in your car and imagine that bike woman with a beak and robot arms for hours if you'd like. But just stay aware that your thoughts can influence your actions, and if you feel that happening to a point where you're negatively affecting the world/people around you, maybe take a second to check yourself.
 
Rune Walsh

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If you notice a quick lycanthropic transformation followed by howling, you may be in the wrong.
 
Aldi

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JigglesBunny

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Look, never stare. Never shout, cat call or otherwise be skeevy. This goes for everyone, not just women. I promise, this is NOT difficult.
 
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