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I'm afraid that I'm funny online/texting but bland and boring in person

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So much of my ability to express myself relies on humor that is written rather than spoken, like misspelled words or intentionally bad sentence structure. When I hang out with people in person I become quiet and boring because those things don't work. Please tell me I'm not the only one that feels this way.
 
Strangelove_77

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I think it's more difficult overall to be funny in person compared to online or in text messages. You have to be way more quick witted. Tone, pronunciation and diction are also extremely important. Just a ton of other stuff that you don't think of when you're sitting there thinking up the perfect comment or text to send.

I dunno, just be more funny.
 
Hellwarden

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Most people are honestly pretty boring OP.

You don't have to be hilarious or entertaining all the time. Just try when you're around people you like.
 
Bishop89

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Im sort of the same op.

I think it's because you have the time to think and reply, whereas you can't have a conversation with someone in real life with 3 minute pauses lol
 
kittens

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I'm the opposite usually. I like putting energy into irl relationships but get lazy online. I mean my humor is awkward as fuck often times and very much shaped by being a Child of the Internet or whatever but I just roll with it (or just feel awkward). Honestly if you just read this all as one run on sentence then you probably have a decent idea of what I sound like

oh shit maybe I'm worse at this than I think
 
Medalion

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Confidence because of anonymity is very powerful, and allows you to call up humor quicker when you're not inhibited by your self-conscious insecurities
 

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I'm uninteresting everywhere, except to very specific people.

That's fine though; I like making those people laugh.
 
jb1234

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See, my worry is that I'm bland and boring in RL and on the internet. ;)
 
Adam_Roman

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I felt that way for a long time. I just double down on my shitty puns and wear my girlfriend's groans as a badge of honor. It makes it especially satisfying when she laughs at them though.
 
Bakercat

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Find people that laugh at everything and surround yourself with them. /s

I've had people tell me I should do stand up and I'm like lol no. My comedy comes from the top of my head and acting out physically. I feel like if I had to sit down and write out my jokes for a 15 min presentation they would all fall flat. I just do better with quick responses to things around me. Also, many of my jokes revolve around sexual ideas and themes, so maybe find a theme you enjoy and make it your strong suit. Good thing about sex is it can be applied to about anything around you lol.

Edit: since you feel more comfortable with your writing of jokes, maybe try to work them in a way you would say them to an audience. Maybe tell them to yourself in a mirror and change it to better suit it to that. This is how I would work on bettering my promos when I was wrestling.

Many people in comedy can't do it all. Some are better at standup, and other like me do improv better. Just got to find your calling and always be willing to learn from mistakes.
 
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deepFlaw

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Mhmm, I feel the same way about myself sometimes. But I don't think it's fully true; it's more that I feel more comfortable with humor and timing like that? And I just have to work up my comfortablity/confidence more in real life first.
 
nsilvias

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im actually the funny person in real life and the dull boring person online.
being funny online sucks because theirs so much shitposting already
 
Kain-Nosgoth

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yeah same for me, i'm not spontaneous at all and can't come up with interesting thing to say on the spot, but when you're writing you have plenty of time to think
 
Titik

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I'm the opposite. I'm quite charming in person but so boring in sms. I usually use it to arrange times for meet ups and meetings.
 
OP
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I was giving examples of how written words help me establish a tone for when I write something funny. I don't always use it, nor do I think it is the source of my humor.
 
Dastidood

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GrizzNKev said:
I'm pretty okay at being funny. I imagine weird scenarios then tweet them out like they're really happening
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OP keep in mind that people commenting on your weird scenarios with "LOL", "ROFLMAO" or "literally shit out loud while laughing" doesn't equate to much in real life...

Managing to get a genuine laugh in real life is much much more difficult... kind of an art really...
 
Akira86

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i believe you grizznkev

i mispell words all the time because it's funny, to me.
 
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