Should I be single again?

Kismet · Jul 7, 2018

A few things happened to me and my boyfriend and I'd like to know who's to blame here. Am I a cold person or is my boyfriend overreacting?

It all started yesterday when my boyfriend was having dinner. I didn't eat because I wasn't hungry. I always feed him when we have this particual dish, but now I didn't feed him and he's mad about it. We didn't sleep all night because we discussed this happening.

He also told me that I forgot to prepare two roti's for him, which I did forget. But in the end there was more than enough food.

Then he started to complain about the fact that I didn't turn on the video during our phone conversation we had last night, asking me if I really miss him while he's away.

Am I not being attentive enough or is my boyfriend overreacting? It's tiring!

Bt the way...I'm 34 years old and from Kosovo and he's 37 years from Mauritius, so we both have our temperament.

Shahadan · Jul 7, 2018

Escape

Goldfishking · Jul 7, 2018

If you're arguing about food and video chats. It's probably not about food or video chats.
I imagine there's something else on his mind. Try asking him about it.

Ramirez · Jul 7, 2018

Sounds clingy.

Deleted member 2625 · Jul 7, 2018

Ah just sounds like a tiff. To me anyway.

pleaseinsertdisctwo · Jul 7, 2018

LMAO I remember you. Yes you need to not be in the relationship anymore, just from how you described how much you hated your boyfriend's eyebags tbh :p

and your topic title alone is telling.

I'm not sure if he's clingy in general but he's definitely insecure about the relationship and your feelings. Which, from what I can tell... are kinda justified. I don't think you love him. But then again I'm just a random dude on the 'net and I don't know much aside from what you've said on here

xxracerxx · Jul 7, 2018

Two things...what do you mean feed him the dish? Like physically spoon the food into his mouth? Second, what is roti?

sprsk · Jul 7, 2018

Feed him meaning you put the food in his mouth yourself?

MrNewVegas · Jul 7, 2018

Mad because you didn't feed him as in make him food or as in physically moving food into his mouth?

Both are pretty dumb to get upset over but if it's that latter option, jeez does he think you're his slave?

Shahadan · Jul 7, 2018

sprsk said:
Feed him meaning you put the food in his mouth yourself?

That what I understood too. I'm half laughing at the idea that they had to talk all night about it

Inugami · Jul 7, 2018

Kismet said:
Bt the way...I'm 34 years old and from Kosovo and he's 37 years from Mauritius, so we both have our temperament.

If you're blowing up over food, I'd hate to see how you two would react over something actually stressful. No one can tell you how you should handle your relationship, but to me it seems that there is something obviously much more important, much deeper that's at play here that you guys need to discuss.

Goldfishking said:
If you're arguing about food and video chats. It's probably not about food or video chats.
I imagine there's something else on his mind. Try asking him about it.

This.

EloquentM · Jul 7, 2018

At the edge of my seat here over the definition of "feed him"

PhazonBlonde · Jul 7, 2018

Lol at all the "leave now" comments. This is all really minor stuff that can easily be worked out with communication cuddling and sex.

Angie · Jul 7, 2018

Are things not great between you and your BF? Or you asking if you should be single because of that particular argument?

Because (and granted, I do not know you and your BF) if you asking if you should be single because of one argument, seems a bit of overreaction, by both.

Kismet · Jul 7, 2018

Yes, physically feeding him. Cutting the food and putting it in his mouth. Handfeeding.

ghostemoji · Jul 7, 2018

Kismet said:
Yes, physically feeding him. Cutting the food and putting it in his mouth. Handfeeding.

Yes. Leave.

Inugami · Jul 7, 2018

PhazonBlonde said:
Lol at all the "leave now" comments. This is all really minor stuff that can easily be worked out with communication cuddling and sex.

You definitely can't trust anyone who's opinion is to immediately jump to it the moment someone asks... Way too many jaded people. That said, this definitely doesn't sound like it's something minor. Normal people don't get this upset over something this small. There is almost certainly something more going on and this was just a final straw on the camel's back type of thing.

Kismet said:
Yes, physically feeding him. Cutting the food and putting it in his mouth. Handfeeding.

This is something my mother stopped doing when I was 2. This alone is pretty concerning.

ahoyhoy · Jul 7, 2018

Kismet said:
Yes, physically feeding him. Cutting the food and putting it in his mouth. Handfeeding.

What the fuck? Is this a thing in Kosovo?

Nephtis · Jul 7, 2018

Holy shit lol

*has minor tiff with so*

"Era should I be single?"

You don't need anyone's advice for that. You need to think about it and come up to that conclusion on your own. If you feel the relationship is not working then it's not working. Come on.

Have a conversation — an honest, heartfelt conversation with your partner and figure out where you want to go. Don't come to us for something like this. Or maybe you do just want out of the relationship and want Era to confirm what you already feel. Or maybe you want to shift the blame to Era for telling you to end the relationship if we do advice it.

wyndhamprice · Jul 7, 2018

Kismet said:
Yes, physically feeding him. Cutting the food and putting it in his mouth. Handfeeding.

You can't just say shit like this with no context and expect us to think it's normal

808s & Villainy · Jul 7, 2018

Kismet said:
Yes, physically feeding him. Cutting the food and putting it in his mouth. Handfeeding.

. . .

Nephtis · Jul 7, 2018

wyndhamprice said:
You can't just say shit like this with no context and expect us to think it's normal

Also this.

Sai · Jul 7, 2018

what

the

fuck

S E V E R

you need to leave him and he needs to leave you.

SEVER

what am i READING?!?!

god this must be what an aneurysm feels like

aerie · Jul 7, 2018

It just sounds like you need better communication to be honest, but don't feed your partner like that unless they have a medical reason for it, its a kink and then only sometimes.

Unicorn · Jul 7, 2018

Kismet said:
Yes, physically feeding him. Cutting the food and putting it in his mouth. Handfeeding.

yooooo.

Are you a Feeder?

Kyoufu · Jul 7, 2018

Kismet said:
Yes, physically feeding him. Cutting the food and putting it in his mouth. Handfeeding.

...what...

NSA · Jul 7, 2018

I hope you two never have any real problems.

AnimeJesus · Jul 7, 2018

Kismet said:
Yes, physically feeding him. Cutting the food and putting it in his mouth. Handfeeding.

Adult baby?

crimzonflame · Jul 7, 2018

Do you feed your boyfriend roti and curry?

Sai · Jul 7, 2018

why can't any of you just have normal fucking relationships

whatsinaname · Jul 7, 2018

Kismet said:
snip

I mean, these are the kind of arguments my niece had with her grandfather when she was 5.

Kirblar · Jul 7, 2018

Kismet said:
Yes, physically feeding him. Cutting the food and putting it in his mouth. Handfeeding.

If he's not physically disabled this is the reddest of red flags.

brawndolicious · Jul 7, 2018

Kismet said:
Yes, physically feeding him. Cutting the food and putting it in his mouth. Handfeeding.

Is this because he has a disability or a way of showing affection? If it's a disability, then the issue probably is he's insecure that you're willing to stay with him long-term. If it's just to show affection, then I don't know that's really weird to expect.

Happy Puppy · Jul 7, 2018

Goldfishking said:
If you're arguing about food and video chats. It's probably not about food or video chats.
I imagine there's something else on his mind. Try asking him about it.

I agree with this statement.
Unrelated question. Is it usual in this relationship that you feel like the bad guy, the person who did wrong? Don't know if it's a normal pattern in your relationship.

Master Alucard · Jul 7, 2018

is that some kind of fetish he has?

36 Chambers · Jul 7, 2018

Is handfeeding a gay thing? I've literally never heard of anyone getting fed outside of actual babies.

Hawkijustin · Jul 7, 2018

Next time chew it for him and throw it up into his mouth- bird style.

MrNewVegas · Jul 7, 2018

brawndolicious said:
Is this because he has a disability or a way of showing affection? If it's a disability, then the issue probably is he's insecure that you're willing to stay with him long-term. If it's just to show affection, then I don't know that's really weird to expect.

I don't think it's a disability. He stated it happens with this meal specifically. Maybe the guy has a memory of being fed Jamaican food as a young child?

Kismet · Jul 7, 2018

I want to talk about him but he's constantly watching soccer. And tonight he's insisting that I massage his feet. But I'm so sick amd tired of this.

Did I make him like this?

He's not disabled by the way. A very healthy Mauritian man.

And yes, I feed him that particular dish. But I just didn't feel like doing it anymorem

Wazzy · Jul 7, 2018

Kismet said:
Yes, physically feeding him. Cutting the food and putting it in his mouth. Handfeeding.

I'm in tears. ARE YOU FOR REAL?

WHY

Messofanego · Jul 7, 2018

xxracerxx said:
Two things...what do you mean feed him the dish? Like physically spoon the food into his mouth? Second, what is roti?

A staple of South Asian food. Chapati are another name for roti. Ever had naan? They're similar.

Bond · Jul 7, 2018

Handfeeding? It's cute sometimes but arguing over it sounds pretty childish.

Sai · Jul 7, 2018

PhazonBlonde · Jul 7, 2018

Hawkijustin said:
Next time chew it for him and throw it up into his mouth- bird style.

I tried this with my ex boyfriend

DO NOT RECCOMEND

EloquentM · Jul 7, 2018

36 Chambers said:
Is handfeeding a gay thing? I've literally never heard of anyone getting fed outside of actual babies.

Yes, hand feeding is strictly a "gay thing".

DrFunk · Jul 7, 2018

Kismet said:
Yes, physically feeding him. Cutting the food and putting it in his mouth. Handfeeding.

What now

Van Bur3n · Jul 7, 2018

Kismet said:
I want to talk about him but he's constantly watching soccer. And tonight he's insisting that I massage his feet. But I'm so sick amd tired of this.

It's time move on to greener pastures, OP.

36 Chambers said:
Is handfeeding a gay thing? I've literally never heard of anyone getting fed outside of actual babies.

I can confirm it is still a thing, and not exclusive to gays. I've had the unfortunate opportunity to have to watch it.

xxracerxx · Jul 7, 2018

Messofanego said:
A staple of South Asian food. Chapati are another name for roti. Ever had naan? They're similar.

Yum

Soda · Jul 7, 2018

Kismet said:
Yes, physically feeding him. Cutting the food and putting it in his mouth. Handfeeding.

Yeah, this is clearly a troll post.

Y'all marks fell for a work.

Unicorn · Jul 7, 2018

Also, why would nationality matter much? Being this needy ain't a cultural thing to look past.

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