Never had a relationship shorter than a year.
Distance has consistently been an instrumental factor in why they fall apart.
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Never had a relationship shorter than a year.
Distance has consistently been an instrumental factor in why they fall apart.
I'm kind inclined to think it's mostly over honestly. I texted her a bit last night after the date and I feel like if I hadn't texted her, she wouldn't have texted me at all. I also suggested an idea for next time but she didn't really acknowledge it in her response. She could've been tired I guess because she said she had to wake up early for work, but I just feel like she wasn't about it. I probably won't text her today but I'm not sure how often I should going forward.
One thing you should know as a Filipino myself, that's just how most Filipino families are. They'll get really close to you.
One warning though is just not get cocky about it or start thinking "she's the one" that sorta thing too early.
Filipino families get close to whoever their son or daughter is dating. That's just how it is.
It's likely not all in your head. You're feeling her getting more distant and it is happening. Now, whether or not that is because she's checking out of the relationship, only she knows. Alwayscrazybacon has far more experience than me and told you you should not bring it up, you probably should follow his advice, but a couple of months ago it happened to me what seems to be a very similar experience to what you are living and I did bring it up (and am still in a relationship with the same girl 4~ months later).
It turns out, in my case, my girlfriend needs space to deal with work stress (currently she works way too much) and, while I still find it challenging to deal with it myself we've been working through it. It's important to talk about this things, I think, and if you're in this relationship seriously, you should talk about everything.
Good advice, I'd add that it takes time for people to feel comfortable to talk about everything. Even when you are in a relationship early days.
Thanks for the advice Alwayscrazybacon and Notaskwid. I'm going to see how Saturday plays out before doing anything or asking her what's happening. Talking about it has calmed me down a lot though - which is probably what I needed more than anything.
One to say, "thanks, nice meeting you, had a good time", and if you haven't already in person (which you should have), maybe set up a second date. But that's it, for now.
This is next level shit that I'm not ready for yet.
She said she's not available next week because of Thanksgiving plans but that we could do something when she gets back. My concern is shit dying out in this long gap. Maybe she doesn't wanna text till she gets back. I don't know. This is my first promising date in forever. I had been talking to three other girls before her and none of them panned out so maybe I'm letting that get to me.
Do a text here and there, no more than one or two a day - stuff like, "hope you had a great thanksgiving", maybe send her a pic of your thanksgiving spread - fun, disposable stuff. Just to keep you in the back of her mind, but not so much to annoy her.
No luck so far, tbh I'm quite busy will all these homeworks I'm too tired to invest some time in a club. I hope i'll have more time someday.
But yeah you're right, finding a partner just for finding a partner is not the best idea. So I didn't install tinder actually. Anyway I appreciate your concern, thank you !
A question like that makes it seems as though a relationship falling apart is inevitable.
idk this sounds so meta and beta, ultimately forgettable stuff that will make her file your ass under "free food"
And you using the words 'meta' and 'beta' in a dating context, and making an assumption that women will date guys for free food if they don't like them...
...Yeah it's not a great look.
Please, do tell of your "alpha" approach you'd rather employ. Also, free food? Damn, that's disrespectful.
Well you obviously have to send her an alpha as fuck dick pic instead.
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I'll say this much, you probably won't be able to metagame texting and turn a "fade out" into a success. You've met, if she likes you enough you'll go out again.
Contrary to advice I tend to give out, gonna start up a Facebook convo with a girl I met at a party two weekends ago. Nice, pretty, lives two hours away. Long distance stuff is ewww, just gonna try and have some fun.
Contrary to advice I tend to give out, gonna start up a Facebook convo with a girl I met at a party two weekends ago. Nice, pretty, lives two hours away. Long distance stuff is ewww, just gonna try and have some fun.
Hey, if you like girls who respond to positively to dick-pics after one date, more power to you, I'm not judging. But for people who want someone to stick around for the long term, hopefully leading to a meaningful emotional connection, you might wanna think twice about that approach.
I kill my food with my bare hands and cook it over open flames I make by just staring at the wood chips.
I've seduced hundreds of women, some of them married, with just a look. My pets are wolves and tigers. I eat only what I hunt. I am the true alpha.
Same, I also sleep on a jagged bed of rocks, which is also where I do all my apha-fucking!
Yup, think on it as practice, learn what you can from it, don't let it get you down and keep on trucking.
Think on it as one less person in your potential dating pool now that's not right for you. One step closer to finding the person who wants to be with you and will quite happily delete their dating apps for you!
Yeah I know but she was so hot and intelligent. She was just my type. It was the first time I came across a girl like her on okc.
Obviously not, if she wasn't interested in you.
I mean, unless your type involves people who aren't interested in you.
I generally like people who are interested in me.
Huh? One of the reasons I like a girl wouldn't be because she likes me too. She had qualities that I look for in a girl. If she didn't like me that's too bad, but I'm not gonna say she's not my type because of that.
And there's tons more out there who'll be just your type, it can be gutting but it's done. This might be a little harsh but it's not getting her down is it? She's ghosted you and she's back on OKC so like I said, don't let it get you down.
Reminds me of one of the legends of Robert the Bruce.
After he was beaten at the Battle of Strath-Fillan in 1306 legend has it he fled the battlefield and hid in a cave where he almost decided to leave Scotland and never come back.
During his respite in the cave he saw a spider attempt to build a web but fail many times. However the spider persevered and after trying again and again it eventually succeeded and built a beautiful web to live in. This gave Bruce the positivity and the drive to go back to his men and declare that "If at first you don't succeed try, try and try again!"
Sure, it's in reference to securing Scottish Independence through a bloody and long war with the English but it can be applied to pretty much anything, especially dating.
You honestly believe that every woman on Earth is in your potential dating pool? Lol.
That's not how that works.
Jesus chill man.
People can be interested in people and not know if they like them back. You don't know everything when you first meet someone