I am a part-time Lyft driver to earn extra cash for fun things and I usually have one or two decently odd, funny, or sad rides a night.
Tonight, a girl got in my car alone, leaving her date on the curb behind her. I did my usual and enthusiastic (I am a genuinely happy person. This is not fake and I am constantly told my positivity is infectious) "Hello! How's it going!" to which she responded, "can you please get me home?" and then began to bawl. I said, "it sounds like you had a bad night, is there something I should know or can I help you in any way?" I am very poor in dealing with sad emotions. I usually respond with jokes and laughter and must force myself to assess how a person will take that jovial attitude before saying anything potentially offensive.
She then proceeded to tell me how mad and hurt she was. She was on a first date with the guy I saw and when she told him that she had herpes, he told her the date was over and that she needed to find a ride home. She told me that she was raped two years ago after being roofied in a bar and found out a year later with her steady boyfriend that she had herpes from that rape. Her boyfriend tested clean and then proceeded to break up with her.
She said she had a string of first dates ever since then and, despite always be up-front with people, they would immediately lose interest and end the dates.
She was furious at the state of her life and the desperation in finding a mate. She was a physically attractive girl as far as I could tell, and still young enough (26) to have plenty of future ahead of her.
I tried reassuring her that there are guys out there that would understand and she would find someone who would love her and treat her well, and that she wouldn't have to settle on a loser.
Am I wrong, though?
I feel like I wouldn't have a problem with it. Hell, she was attractive and had a professional career. If I were single, she was very much my type. Breakouts are rare and are well-contained with valtrex. Risk of contracting is extremely low when there is no breakout.
Would you, ERAers date or marry a potential mate if you found out they had the herp?
Tonight, a girl got in my car alone, leaving her date on the curb behind her. I did my usual and enthusiastic (I am a genuinely happy person. This is not fake and I am constantly told my positivity is infectious) "Hello! How's it going!" to which she responded, "can you please get me home?" and then began to bawl. I said, "it sounds like you had a bad night, is there something I should know or can I help you in any way?" I am very poor in dealing with sad emotions. I usually respond with jokes and laughter and must force myself to assess how a person will take that jovial attitude before saying anything potentially offensive.
She then proceeded to tell me how mad and hurt she was. She was on a first date with the guy I saw and when she told him that she had herpes, he told her the date was over and that she needed to find a ride home. She told me that she was raped two years ago after being roofied in a bar and found out a year later with her steady boyfriend that she had herpes from that rape. Her boyfriend tested clean and then proceeded to break up with her.
She said she had a string of first dates ever since then and, despite always be up-front with people, they would immediately lose interest and end the dates.
She was furious at the state of her life and the desperation in finding a mate. She was a physically attractive girl as far as I could tell, and still young enough (26) to have plenty of future ahead of her.
I tried reassuring her that there are guys out there that would understand and she would find someone who would love her and treat her well, and that she wouldn't have to settle on a loser.
Am I wrong, though?
I feel like I wouldn't have a problem with it. Hell, she was attractive and had a professional career. If I were single, she was very much my type. Breakouts are rare and are well-contained with valtrex. Risk of contracting is extremely low when there is no breakout.
Would you, ERAers date or marry a potential mate if you found out they had the herp?