No offense, some of ya'll are losers. Met all my girlfriends through mutual friends and common interests. It's not that difficult leaving strangers minding their own business alone. Step your life game up.
Cool for you, you're still not the subject of this thread which is basically hitting on total strangers in the bus or while they're buying laxative in a pharmacy.So I am in the 9.4% bracket (Married for 3 years now and a 6 month old baby). What is my takeaway then?
Yep, that's how I eventually found my wife. She reached out to me, and 6 years later, we have been married for 3 years and have a 6 month old baby. Couldn't be more blessed :)
But that's the thing. It's not a 10/10 fail rate. Even if you do fail, then accept defeat and move on. I don't mind looking like a loser to a total stranger because (1) I won't probably ever see them again and (2) I had the courage and confidence to try in the first place.
But that's the thing. It's not a 10/10 fail rate. Even if you do fail, then accept defeat and move on. I don't mind looking like a loser to a total stranger because (1) I won't probably ever see them again and (2) I had the courage and confidence to try in the first place.
I just wanted to say something I didn't get the chance to say earlier lol. Men have almost literally 0 repercussions for the things they say to women. 0. I could tell you story after story of gross shit men have said to me and my friends, on and off the job, who got to disappear and continue living their lives as if nothing happened.
As someone with social anxiety I could empathize with the idea of being nervous out of your mind to talk to someone. But it is not rational; it is not the other person's problem. Especially if the scenario is cold approaching a woman who just wants to buy some goddamn chips without fanfare.
If they aren't a freezer into which I can stuff my many varieties of sausages, I'm not interested in knowing them, tbh.Being hit on by random men in the pasta aisle of the supermarket isn't the pinnacle of social interaction you seem to think it is.
Yep, that's how I eventually found my wife. She reached out to me, and 6 years later, we have been married for 3 years and have a 6 month old baby. Couldn't be more blessed :)
It's even more hilarious, he didn't found success through the method discussed in the thread, he actually used a dating app.So every women must be subjected to constant harrasment because YOU found success? So basically "fuck you, got mine".
But that's the thing. It's not a 10/10 fail rate. Even if you do fail, then accept defeat and move on. I don't mind looking like a loser to a total stranger because (1) I won't probably ever see them again and (2) I had the courage and confidence to try in the first place.
Is quite something else right?cold opens and mansplaining and all these gross obsessions with getting the green light to overstep boundaries, women be damned.
this thread is amazing :')
that's a completely inaccurate and unrealistic hypothetical scenario that has no bearing on the actual universe we live inRight, and I think I asked you to expand on that, if even your actions pleased 99 people but displeased 1 that means you should never do it right? Since it has the potential to "make the life worse" of one person?
You can't just lie and tell people that you got to know someone as an actual human being with thoughts and feelings and ideas and interests instead of being overcome by romantic and/or sexual interest as you observed a stranger engaged in the mundane necessitities of life. That's not how this works!-college group of friends, hit it off with one
-met one guy online, didn't realize we lived so close so we met up for shits and giggles and ended up hanging out a lot and clicking well
-I met my husband at a college club and he started inviting me to parties after we found we enjoyed talking to each other, hooked up at one of the parties
i wanna know why married men are so concerned about the possibility that they might not be allowed to randomly approach women when they're minding their own business
FOR THE LOVE OF ALL THAT IS HOLY TEACH THEM CONSENT!I asked a few clarifying questions ITT for future knowledge to share with my progeny.
But that's the thing. It's not a 10/10 fail rate. Even if you do fail, then accept defeat and move on. I don't mind looking like a loser to a total stranger because (1) I won't probably ever see them again and (2) I had the courage and confidence to try in the first place.
i wanna know why married men are so concerned about the possibility that they might not be allowed to randomly approach women when they're minding their own business
Alright one more post for now. Since you guys seem to be clueless and think it's impossible to date unless you accost someone in public, I'll list a few places I've met guys I dated:
-friend of a friend, hung out some a hooked up
-another friend in our social group
-college group of friends, hit it off with one
-met one guy online, didn't realize we lived so close so we met up for shits and giggles and ended up hanging out a lot and clicking well
-college parties
-I met my husband at a college club and he started inviting me to parties after we found we enjoyed talking to each other, hooked up at one of the parties
If I hadn't married I'd probably date someone from a new circle of friends, or through my field of work (not same office though please), or heck even online gaming since I'm so into that (but would never respond to "omg a girl please date me")—I just meet up with people a lot and make friends
If you guys have so much trouble getting into relationships it's probably bc you have no friends in the first place. Remedy that first. Talking to people in public to be friendly is fine if the culture of your area dictates that (Texas or whatever) but by god don't randomly hit on people or make suggestive comments to a stranger. An overwhelming majority of women here are saying no so stop saying yes.
Is quite something else right?
A thread asking women how they feel about cold approach. Which leads to get 90% of the replies from men.
Is like they are talking in our behalf.
I've never approached a girl to ask for their number but would this still be weird at a convention or a concert? That's where I could imagine myself to do it to find people that were interested in the same stuff I am (and potentially hang out and keep in contact)
Wait, based on what has been said in this thread (which is a vast majority of women saying they don't like it, it makes them uncomfortable, feel unsafe, etc.), your take is, "oh cool let me try it"?As a black male I have never even considered doing this, especially given how it would only take a single misinterpretation or false accusation for me to end up in trouble.
That being said, based on what certain posters have said, I have to admit I am now somewhat curious to try this "cold approach" thing just to see what will result from it.
That's your issue to work out. Not mine.Ok, so from what I am understanding, from the 2 examples you posted, you wanted to get to them to develop a potential relationship/friendship with those women, which was started by your first DM, right?
See, shit like this makes me cringe so hard inside.
I asked a few clarifying questions ITT for future knowledge to share with my progeny.
FOR THE LOVE OF ALL THAT IS HOLY TEACH THEM CONSENT!
That's for everyone with kids btw.
Wait, based on what has been said in this thread (which is a vast majority of women saying they don't like it, it makes them uncomfortable, feel unsafe, etc.), your take is, "oh cool let me try it"?
What?
Wait, based on what has been said in this thread (which is a vast majority of women saying they don't like it, it makes them uncomfortable, feel unsafe, etc.), your take is, "oh cool let me try it"?
What?
That's your issue to work out. Not mine.
Wanted to get to them? What does that even mean. I talked to the people I was already interacting with more personally? That makes you cringe?
Why are you like this?To some of the other guy posters in this thread, where is you dignity? Why are you belittling yourself trying to approach a woman for romantic reasons when 10/10 times you end up looking like a loser?
Why are you like this?
You're kind of making of a point one moment, but then you take it to such an absolute extreme, literally no other person could agree.
Congrats on the little bundle of joy, seriously it's actually pretty easy to overlook to teach consent to kids (there's already a billion things to pass on to them already).While consent seems a bit out of context for this discussion - I sure will. I only have a daughter at the moment, so talking about consent will be important so she feels empowered to take the appropriate action if someone isn't asking for it. I'll also know how she feels if/when she complains to me about creepy behavior from men down the road (though I understand her sharing those experiences may not happen).
We've got a dude who really want to do the news as a white woman call the police on him.As a black male I have never even considered doing this, especially given how it would only take a single misinterpretation or false accusation for me to end up in trouble.
That being said, based on what certain posters have said, I have to admit I am now somewhat curious to try this "cold approach" thing just to see what will result from it.
I mean, ignoring women's feelings in the matter does seem to be the MO for men in this thread in general.
Because talking to someone face to face is more enjoyable than texting when youre BOTH (keyword here) enjoying the conversation. You can also read people better. No matter how hard you try, you can't spin this to be a bad thing.
Because talking to someone face to face is more enjoyable than texting when youre enjoying the conversation. You can also read people better. No matter how hard you try, you can't spin this to be a bad thing.
Major oversight on my part there, I tend to freely offer beers even to people who don't necessarily want one.Tbh this thread is worth it for some of the hilarious sarcastic reactions of fellow ERA women
I'd buy you gals a beer
After asking of course ;)
You wouldn't understand this but lots of men just wanna get their dick wet first and if it leads to an SO that's cool tooAt this point, I have to ask, what are men here actually looking for in a SO? I mean, I'm asexual and aromantic so maybe I "just don't get it", but I thought a SO is someone you want to spend the rest of your life with. Isn't compatibility, shared interests, and actual care for each other. Why are men looking in grocery stores for such things with strangers they don't even know for SOs?
You wouldn't understand this but lots of men just wanna get their dick wet first and if it leads to an SO that's cool too
If I cold approached someone else, but their body language said otherwise, then I respect that and move on.
However, if they show interest back, then I'll carry on with the conversation.
They're not looking for SO's if they're talking to women on the street and in grocery stores.At this point, I have to ask, what are men here actually looking for in a SO? I mean, I'm asexual and aromantic so maybe I "just don't get it", but I thought a SO is someone you want to spend the rest of your life with. Isn't compatibility, shared interests, and actual care for each other. Why are men looking in grocery stores for such things with strangers they don't even know for SOs?