In theory, this day is a good idea. After all, men do face institutional issues that suck: toxic masculinity, traditional gender roles, uphill battles when fighting for custody, and so on.
In practice, considering most every day is Men's Day, I don't think the majority of people celebrating this day are going to be celebrating it in good faith. You can just look at the responses to Ellen's tweet:
To be frank, I don't see the purpose of this day. There already exists a National Mental Health Day, why does there need to be a National Mental Health for Men Day?
There are too many "holidays" appreciating things that simply don't need appreciating.
My dude, there exists a Mental Health day for a reason. I don't understand why a specific day dedicated to Men's Mental Health exists. And more importantly, why a lot of the messaging for the day seems to be just stroking the egos of men. Like this:I've seen a few comments online about every day being men's day and it doesn't wash with me. If this event helps hilight the issues and terrible stats then I support it. It's not about drawing lines and igniting sex wars.
Ref. comments about a specific type of person celebrating the day, yeah you get shitbags everywhere. But it's not just a bunch of misogynists celebrating - it's getting global appeal. It was even advertised in my workplace and there was a talk on it. And I work for one of the most inclusive organizations I've ever encountered (meaning we have groups dedicated to the representation and rights of women within the organisation).
Why are people acting like men don't already get this recognition? Like men silently toil away with no recognition? Like men have no say in society?
Era: Yes men have issues dealing with toxic masculinity, gender stereotypes, abusive households, and mental house and should seek help or treatment.
Also Era: How about you shut up, deal with your issues on your own, and stop murdering people. lol why is this even a day?
They don't even realize that Toxic Masculinity society wide causes these responses of "Why do men even need a day, there's a mental health day for a reason?"
They don't even realize that Toxic Masculinity society wide causes these responses of "Why do men even need a day, there's a mental health day for a reason?"
It should be international toxic masculinity day. "international men's day" just sounds like some MRA bullshit
That's because masculinity in and of itself isn't toxic, yet hyper masculinity is. I guess it's a mouthful to say toxic hyper-masculinity so it's truncated, lol.This seems really good, might have to give it a watch later.
Can't help but notice that they never actually use the phrase "toxic masculinity" in that trailer, despite that being exactly what they're talking about. Shame how some people will just fold up and start regurgitating talking points from their favorite ignorant Youtubers whenever they hear that phrase, despite agreeing that it's a bad thing that hurts men.
What was Ellen's tweet?In theory, this day is a good idea. After all, men do face institutional issues that suck: toxic masculinity, traditional gender roles, uphill battles when fighting for custody, and so on.
In practice, considering most every day is Men's Day, I don't think the majority of people celebrating this day are going to be celebrating it in good faith. You can just look at the responses to Ellen's tweet:
To be frank, I don't see the purpose of this day. There already exists a National Mental Health Day, why does there need to be a National Mental Health for Men Day?
This is actually a big reason why feminism is important for improving the quality of men's lives too. Most of these issues that disproportionately affect men would never have even been brought up if we weren't already in the process of addressing systemic gender inequality. Feminism is shining a light on all societal injustices, not just those that are experienced by women. It's important that we talk about all of them.
Because all the issues covered here are also covered under the Mental Health umbrella.They don't even realize that Toxic Masculinity society wide causes these responses of "Why do men even need a day, there's a mental health day for a reason?"
How does mental health day help men that are 40% of spousal abuse victims?Because all the issues covered here are also covered under the Mental Health umbrella.
Toxic masculinity is a by-product of a patriarchal society, or generally a society geared towards men. The main way to get rid of TM is by slowly pushing back on society's focus on men. But, people want to enjoy the benefits of such a society and get rid of its consequences. People want to enjoy their media with big-breasted women in skimpy outfits while decrying how society places an unfair burden on men. These men want society to take it easier on them while simultaneously defending institutions like media that reinforce a patriarchal society and make life harder for women.
Era: Yes men have issues dealing with toxic masculinity, gender stereotypes, abusive households, and mental health and should seek help or treatment.
Also Era: How about you shut up, deal with your issues on your own, and stop murdering people. lol why is this even a day?
It was a link to a video where Ellen celebrated International Men's Day by joking "wow, men sorely needed one!" and then putting pictures of hot dudes from other countries.
Exactly this! So many people think "Toxic masculinity" means "Men are shitty". But it really means that people impose a view of masculinity onto boys/men to act and behave a certain way, and to not do certain things.They don't even realize that Toxic Masculinity society wide causes these responses of "Why do men even need a day, there's a mental health day for a reason?"
That's covered under National Domestic Violence month (October)How does mental health day help men that are 40% of spousal abuse victims?
You are acting like it is reasonable to spread these awareness campaigns to other months while it is unreasonable to wanting a a day to consolidate issues affecting 1/2 of the Earth population. You know that prostate awareness would get drowned out on cancer awareness MONTH.That's covered under National Domestic Violence month (October)
But what about prostate cancer? National Cancer Awareness Month. (October)
Homelessness? National Hunger & Homelessness Week. (November)
Suicide? Suicide Prevention Awareness Month. (September)
The only truly shitty post I noticed in this thread was this oneSome honest to goodness misandry going on in here. Only serves to highlight why an International Men's Day is needed.
Yet men also make up the majority of violent offenders, rapists, terrorists etc
And sorry to hear about your issues OP but the ones who designed it so you can't show emotion without being shamed for it are also men unfortunately.
Reading about the numerous kidnappings, murders and unsolved mysteries both historic and current committed by men honestly make it difficult for me not to think there are a lot more bad than good.
Era: Yes men have issues dealing with toxic masculinity, gender stereotypes, abusive households, and mental health and should seek help or treatment.
Also Era: How about you shut up, deal with your issues on your own, and stop murdering people. lol why is this even a day?
Yet men also make up the majority of violent offenders, rapists, terrorists etc
And sorry to hear about your issues OP but the ones who designed it so you can't show emotion without being shamed for it are also men unfortunately.
Reading about the numerous kidnappings, murders and unsolved mysteries both historic and current committed by men honestly make it difficult for me not to think there are a lot more bad than good.
Isn't every day already International Mens Day?
I read that some places also call it International Toilet Day. That might be a noble cause, apparantly one in three people don't have access to a toilet in the world.
Still, if we can take down Toxic Masculanity on this day. I suppose that's a good purpose as well.
...We don't need a damn 'day' designated specially for us.
Every day of the year is international men's day. We'll be alright.
this thoIt should be international toxic masculinity day. "international men's day" just sounds like some MRA bullshit
My issue has nothing to do with awareness. My issue has everything to do with the messaging of this day. The ads attached to the OP present this day as the one day of the year where MEN finally get the spotlight on these issues affecting them. Clearly, this isn't the case at all. If every topic that men feel is so urgent that they need this day is covered by other campaigns that span the entire year, what is the purpose of this day?You are acting like it is reasonable to spread these awareness campaigns to other months while it is unreasonable to wanting a a day to consolidate issues affecting 1/2 of the Earth population. You know that prostate awareness would get drowned out on cancer awareness MONTH.
It's about awareness and you are complaining about ONE DAY.
Literally half of the posts in this thread are "Lol why is this even a day, every day is mens day."Where are you seeing that? I think everyone here recognizes real issues like men avoiding talking about health while calling each other pussies and trying to deal with it on their own. That's absolutely a problem that needs to be brought to light.
It's the stuff about "let's take a day to recognize and honor the sacrifices men make for society", accompanied by a stupid image of a man apparently doing everything while his family dicks around that's dumb.
Where are you seeing that? I think everyone here recognizes real issues like men avoiding talking about health while calling each other pussies and trying to deal with it on their own. That's absolutely a problem that needs to be brought to light.
It's the stuff about "let's take a day to recognize and honor the sacrifices men make for society", accompanied by a stupid image of a man apparently doing everything while his family dicks around that's dumb.
My issue has nothing to do with awareness. My issue has everything to do with the messaging of this day. The ads attached to the OP present this day as the one day of the year where MEN finally get the spotlight on these issues affecting them. Clearly, this isn't the case at all. If every topic that men feel is so urgent that they need this day is covered by other campaigns that span the entire year, what is the purpose of this day?
To me, this day was created to balance out International Women's Day and now serves as a day where men can come together and complain about how society oppresses them with zero self-awareness. Again, I'm not dismissing the importance of these causes, I'm dismissing the messaging as disingenuous.
Man, reading comprehension is incredibly difficult.
My issue has nothing to do with awareness. My issue has everything to do with the messaging of this day. The ads attached to the OP present this day as the one day of the year where MEN finally get the spotlight on these issues affecting them. Clearly, this isn't the case at all. If every topic that men feel is so urgent that they need this day is covered by other campaigns that span the entire year, what is the purpose of this day?
To me, this day was created to balance out International Women's Day and now serves as a day where men can come together and complain about how society oppresses them with zero self-awareness. Again, I'm not dismissing the importance of these causes, I'm dismissing the messaging as disingenuous.
As good a time as ever to shine a little light on mental and physical health issues that men deal with, and finding positive role models in our lives.
Despite society becoming more progressive, it's still often hard as men to come forward about depression, anxiety, stress, etc, which in turn just exacerbates the issues. Same goes for any physical problems. Speaking as someone who is right at the border of being a Gen-Xer and a Millennial, raised by baby boomers, my peers and I were largely taught that men need to "tough it out" and that anything less was seen as a weakness.
This applied when attempting to speak to parents, other men, and even women. Being labeled a "pussy" was all too easy. Not sure how this pertains to Generation Z'ers though, and if it's gotten any easier for them growing up mainly in the 2000s.
As someone who suffers from depression, which really comes in waves in between periods of relative normalcy, it's tough to explain to friends because they say they never see it. But again, that's me trying to "tough it out" by putting extra pressure on myself to not show that side of myself to them, because I don't want to burden others with my problems.
Feel free to share your own experiences.
Yet men also make up the majority of violent offenders, rapists, terrorists etc
And sorry to hear about your issues OP but the ones who designed it so you can't show emotion without being shamed for it are also men unfortunately.
Reading about the numerous kidnappings, murders and unsolved mysteries both historic and current committed by men honestly make it difficult for me not to think there are a lot more bad than good.