For real same here especially when they start the conversation with just a "Hey"
#BoringPeopleProblems
-
Ever wanted an RSS feed of all your favorite gaming news sites? Go check out our new Gaming Headlines feed! Read more about it here.
-
We have made minor adjustments to how the search bar works on ResetEra. You can read about the changes here.
#BoringPeopleProblems
I think it's disingenuous to keep talking to her just for the hopes that someday she'll be romantically interested in you. If you want to stay friends fine. Maybe something will happen in the future. But I feel like it's wrong to stay friends if you're only hoping for that "maybe someday." I've gotten pretty frustrated with guy friends that have done that to me.
Stop wasting time on her and move on, the time you're spending messaging her could be better spent messaging people who might be or are actually interested in you. Leave the ball in her court.
What do you mean by meet?
Where to meet girls? how to dress or act? how to start a convo? how to ask them out?
Watch this video and stop talking to her. Look for someone who's actually as into you as you are into them.
And then they dont reply back because they sent "hey" to lots of people and someone they liked more than you responded.
Long story short, I started dating a girl who I knew for a few months as of last week. Our first date went well, but we're just chatting now until our actual 2nd date after finals. I already have ice skating lined up for said 2nd legit date, but do you guys have any idea about what else we can do?
For reference, we're both theatre folk, she's indifferent towards games, & is kinda into comic book movies (Justice League was our first date).
For reference, we're both theatre folk, she's indifferent towards games, & is kinda into comic book movies (Justice League was our first date).
I really don't mean to intrude and interrupt a community I am not a part of, but anyone know if Earthbound64 is okay? I'm worried is all, and he was last active here.
Last edited:
No one knows. He made a thread about how sad he was and I dont think he's posted since.
He was just dumped/cat fished and said he was feeling the worse in his life, even Dinokill showed up to mock him and was permabanned.
I don't know, but I hope he's ok.
That sounds like fun, I'll add it to the list. Should I do it at either of our houses or at a store meant for that kind of stuff?
OP
OP
Checkout the Alphabet Dating thread - https://www.resetera.com/threads/alphabet-dating-era.2041/ . It's fairly London-centric, but you should still get some ideas from it. Which does raise an important aspect of dating - Learn your town! Some of the best dates are things you find in the local paper.
In my city, there's a small pop-up bar serving Christmas themed cocktails, right next to a "Christmas market" and gingerbread house display. At the zoo, colder weather means penguins go on parade. And there's always driving through the fancy neighborhoods looking at christmas lights.
So I do ok getting girls from Tinder to FB and I normally go straight with setting up a date... but the conversation can fizzle out which leads me to advice
Play it cool as I've been doing and just hit up a date when I'm free next
Or actively keep up conversations, small talk and pushing for a date?
I feel like I add these girls on FB and nothing really eventuates cause I'm not as active in pushing for meetups.
Play it cool as I've been doing and just hit up a date when I'm free next
Or actively keep up conversations, small talk and pushing for a date?
I feel like I add these girls on FB and nothing really eventuates cause I'm not as active in pushing for meetups.
It shows he just logged in 40 minutes ago if that helps.
Just play it cool, ask for the date quickly and if they are not interested move on. Social media conversations are not an investment just a function.
I need some advice Era and really maybe it will just help to get this out.
So I met this girl, Paige, on a dating app a couple of months ago. We talked on the app at first but then moved to texting and even talked on the phone, all on the first day. I met her the next day and we really hit it off. Planned a second date for that weekend and things seemed to be going well. We dated for two weeks and then she told me she felt overwhelmed and that things were moving too fast and that maybe we shouldn't hangout for a few days.
We didn't talk or see each other for about a week. I reached out to her and we talked and seemed to work things out. We dated for another week. The following Monday we were talking and she asked if I was free Thursday to go to the movies and I said yes. And she said she was glad and excited. I wake up Tuesday morning to a text saying I still like you and think youre cute, funny and great but that she lost that spark during that week break and that she didnt think we would be anything more than friends. I tried texting her back but she had blocked me.
Well last monday I tried calling her and it went straight to voicemail so I figured I'm still blocked. But then she text me asking if I called and I said yes. I told her I was thinking about her recently and that I missed her. She replied back that she kinda missed me too. So we've been talking the last few days. And not just like little conversations but we texted back and forth basically all day Saturday and Sunday. We've talked more this week and we even made plans to go see Justice League Sunday. Then she tells me shes been seeing someone and that she hopes it doesn't effect our plans and that she still wants to be friends.
Now I just don't know what to do. Part of me wants to be friends with her because I still care about her. But then I feel like it will only be because I'll always be hoping for something more. Then I think maybe i should just move on and that if I'm fiends I wont' be able to. But then again I really really like her. She was everything I was looking for in someone. Things were going so well and we both seemed to like each other so much. I just don't understand why things had to end. Or where they went wrong.
So I met this girl, Paige, on a dating app a couple of months ago. We talked on the app at first but then moved to texting and even talked on the phone, all on the first day. I met her the next day and we really hit it off. Planned a second date for that weekend and things seemed to be going well. We dated for two weeks and then she told me she felt overwhelmed and that things were moving too fast and that maybe we shouldn't hangout for a few days.
We didn't talk or see each other for about a week. I reached out to her and we talked and seemed to work things out. We dated for another week. The following Monday we were talking and she asked if I was free Thursday to go to the movies and I said yes. And she said she was glad and excited. I wake up Tuesday morning to a text saying I still like you and think youre cute, funny and great but that she lost that spark during that week break and that she didnt think we would be anything more than friends. I tried texting her back but she had blocked me.
Well last monday I tried calling her and it went straight to voicemail so I figured I'm still blocked. But then she text me asking if I called and I said yes. I told her I was thinking about her recently and that I missed her. She replied back that she kinda missed me too. So we've been talking the last few days. And not just like little conversations but we texted back and forth basically all day Saturday and Sunday. We've talked more this week and we even made plans to go see Justice League Sunday. Then she tells me shes been seeing someone and that she hopes it doesn't effect our plans and that she still wants to be friends.
Now I just don't know what to do. Part of me wants to be friends with her because I still care about her. But then I feel like it will only be because I'll always be hoping for something more. Then I think maybe i should just move on and that if I'm fiends I wont' be able to. But then again I really really like her. She was everything I was looking for in someone. Things were going so well and we both seemed to like each other so much. I just don't understand why things had to end. Or where they went wrong.
1. you didnt do anything wrong.
2. She was probably seeing that guy the whole time.
3. If you still like her, its probably best to just cut your losses and move on.
4. you probably shouldnt go to the movie. your freetime is valuable. If you want to be dating someone, you should spend it on someone who wants to be with you romantically.
Forget it, she's flakey and hedge betting. Your setting yourself up to be a comfort blanket for her when the other guys she's dating dont work out. Put your effort into finding someone new and just block/delete this girl.
I had (and still have) this problem—I badly want to accurately reflect how I'd respond in real life, so I get in my head and rewrite over and over to seem less boring, and then more boring or less weird/tryhard, decide on whether emojis or whatever are needed, fuss over punctuation, etc. In my experience everyone has a different sort of "texting grammar" and I'd freeze up trying to guess the other person's, and then I'd either take forever to respond or not respond at all.
The strategy I've been trying to get over it is: just respond. Just send the first (or okay, allow yrself a second) thing that comes to mind. even if it's bland. even if you're second guessing whether they'll get the joke you're trying to make. (caveat: no creepy jokes, obviously.) because if it's a person described above sending "hey" to two dozen people and they're going to ignore you, who gives a shit. you're not going to connect with them. but if it's someone who you have a genuine rapport with (or are beginning to build rapport with) what's most important is to just be in contact. it's not all on you, they will be doing at least half the work, so most of the battle is showing up. a "bad" texter who actually responds has a better shot than one who stays silent.
You may be right on point 2. She said it was someone from her friends group. But I don't think she was seeing him but probably had feelings for him already. And before we took the week break she was hanging out with him( and her other friends) that Friday. Then Sunday is when she said she felt overwhelmed and things were moving too fast.
You are probably right. But this whole situation has just been so weird to me. The planning a date and then suddenly breaking up and blocking. And now I'm unblocked and the amount of texting we've done these past few days just doesn't seem like a friend thing to me. Like Saturday we texted back and forth from about 2pm to 1am.
The amount of texting does not mean there is anything other than she's bored and you are the one giving her attention and you are ONLY doing that because you dont have another girl to talk to.
Go ahead and get a life lesson. She's not going to date you again or be your girlfriend. Keep doing what you are doing and find out for yourself.
Go ahead and get a life lesson. She's not going to date you again or be your girlfriend. Keep doing what you are doing and find out for yourself.
EarthBound64 and I talked at length yesterday and he was getting to a better place emotionally and feeling at least a little better.
I text my lesbian friend all day some days. There's nothing to it.
Don't look into it too much and move on. Trust me, worrying about it will make it so much worse.
Go meet dem girlz and score homie
Don't look into it too much and move on. Trust me, worrying about it will make it so much worse.
Go meet dem girlz and score homie
Isn't she saying in this texts that she wants to be your friend and that she's seeing some other guy? She's not interested in you like you are in her. If you can't accept it better to cut it now and move on. Or accept it and try talking to other girls.
That's good to know, I wish him the best.
I didn't know until last night that she was seeing someone else. I guess I'm just going to give it a few days to think it over. Everyone is telling me to cut ties and I know that's probably what I should do but it's just hard.
As long as you re better in person you ll be fine. Texting is a waste of time. Like seriously, nothing is better than face to face even to maintain communication. Absence makes the heart ...
Not a dating related question, just a general "what are Girls?" question
Is it normal for a girl to kick, punch, and step on your feet? Not literally of course, just playfully (slight taps). I don't mind it though, I think it's cute. Then she saw my journal and kept asking to write something in it. Gave it to her yesterday, took her like 10 minutes to write something, then kept bugging me to look at it. Haven't yet though, don't wanna know if she wrote down she thinks i'm a freaking pervert or something.
Is it normal for a girl to kick, punch, and step on your feet? Not literally of course, just playfully (slight taps). I don't mind it though, I think it's cute. Then she saw my journal and kept asking to write something in it. Gave it to her yesterday, took her like 10 minutes to write something, then kept bugging me to look at it. Haven't yet though, don't wanna know if she wrote down she thinks i'm a freaking pervert or something.
It may be possible she's keeping you around as a back up in case things don't go well with the other guy. I only say that because with how much you text, she knows that you are always available to her with relative ease on her end. And back up might just mean emotional support and not that she'll necessarily date you again. I don't think it's intentional on her part though - it's just that people tend to act in their own best interest without thinking much about how it effects others. Seems like she doesn't know what she wants and is making those sudden changes in decisions that are confusing you. That's not good for you.
This is the biggest thing though: The fact is that she said she wanted to be friends clearly to you (twice it seems) so it doesn't matter what you might perceive as "more than a friend thing." If you want to be friends be friends but if you're hoping for more, I'd tell her that and back off. Definitely reduce the amount of texting and ideally stop talking all together. Simply do it out of respect for yourself and your time and feelings.
Are you sure she blocked you? It doesn't normally go to voicemail and she wouldn't have known you called if you were blocked.
Either way, it does sound like she was hedging her bets and probably had an opportunity to go out with someone she may have already had a crush on, based on what you say above.
I'm pretty sure. 99% positive. I had texted her twice and it didn't say delivered like it normally does and I even called her. It rang once and went to a voicmail but not a normal one.
why all these doubts about innocent things. she's like super eager to share with you while you re playing the oyster game
Next time she wanna write something on your journal, write something on her arm, like "I think you re ugly". That's just a playful girl who needs a bit of stimulation man
Lol I never looked at it that way until now. I'm older than her too, so i'm her Senpai. Only thing preventing this from being anime is she's not a tsundere.
Que? I don't know what's an "oyster game".
Nah, I don't want to write that. That's mean.
Its all about the delivery, besides she can erase it whenever. You don't have to write "you're ugly" as is, just something a little bit outrageous. That's a girl who needs to live if that makes sense, she needs a bit of confrontation. Give her some !
Jeez. I don't understand why she would block you like that then, I guess maybe she didn't want to give you a chance to respond to her breaking it off? It's unusual to do when things are friendly. Especially since she changed her mind and texted you later. Sounds like she can't quite make up her mind. I know it's hard, but if you don't let her fade away and try to date someone else who values your time, there's a good chance you're going to get hurt by her even more.
Oh no no! She's not being mean or anything. She's pretty cool. Like I said, it's just playful taps, you don't even feel them, and I find it cute. I should most likely just tone down the things I talk to her with. I mean, one of the first things I talked to her about is hentai. That's definitely not something you should start a conversation with to a girl, or anyone at that. Great ice breaker though!
(Please don't do that)
OP
OP
Read it. Playful taps are a kind of flirting...at the very least, she's comfortable with you and could be receptive to flirting herself. Read the note, react to it, ask her out.
You don't say XD I find it cute tbh. Nothing wrong with being a little bit of a dork heh ?
But seriously just ask her out. "pay attention to me, i'm here !" /subtle
She already has a boyfriend. That's why I started with "Not a dating related question" :(
You have only known her for like 3 weeks and she tells you that she wants to stay friends? Move the fuck on. I'm near 100% sure that you still have feelings for her even if you want to stay friends for her. You start to spend more time with her and the feelings keep getting worse. I've been there and I'll never do that shit again. I thought she was the one, but I realized after nearly a year chasing her like an idiot, that "the one" would like me back. Don't waste your time with her. Be productive and go out meeting other girls man, if that's what you want to do. Life is short and without even knowing you'll be ill or get hit in a car crash. Don't be that guy sticking with her the whole time and wasting your time because you're thinking "Maybe she'll like me more if I stay with her?". You're more than that. Be confident and stay positive. That's how you'll get more girl. Hell, that's how you stay mentally healthy. Show the world who the fuck you are.
I've got a hunch that she blocks him the times she's spending with the other guy so that other guy doesn't know she's talking to JetMan07.
She likes you and is possibly looking for the rebound guy in order to get some attention. Don't be that guy if you can't handle it. Seriously, real talk, it hurts like hell if you can't
Especially if you have a lowkey crush on her. All the nopes. Protect yourself a bit
That's what I was thinking but she also said she wanted to be friends. But she blocked me so there was no chance of that happening.
She doesn't really seem like that kind of girl. Maybe I'm just completely wrong about her but I'm usually a good judge of character. She only blocked me after she broke up with me. Not multiple times as far as I know.
Rebound guy? No I think she sees him as a friend. But yes, look for a single to watch Hentai with. I Can tell you're already getting caught up.