DatingEra - This isn't like one of your animes

Alek · Dec 6, 2017

I think the problem is if she just doesn't want you as a sexual partner, rather than not wanting sex broadly, then she's likely to leave you later, dissatisfied with the relationship. So if you can't resolve that, then it won't work in the long term. So it's obviously something you need to address, one way or another...

I think Sygma's advice of reminding her of your value, isn't terrible, but I would recommend simply trying to talk it out. Perhaps she's asexual? If that's the case then you can still have a conversation about what makes you happy in a relationship, and see if she'll meet you half way, etc. If she just doesn't want to have sex with you, then she probably doesn't view your relationship in the way that you want her to, and the only way to change that would be to change how she thinks about you.

In that respect, reminding her of your value could be a good idea. Both as a sexual partner, but also just generally. Do things spontaneously, surprise her, be romantic, see how she reacts. If I were having trouble like that in a relationship I'd probably take her on a weekend in Paris or something like that, personally - if I couldn't resolve it, I'd think about how important the relationship was to me.

Personally, I wouldn't be satisfied having sex once or twice a month - especially if the girl is unsatisfied with those moments too. So I'd struggle to sustain the relationship. In that regard, yes, flirting, and showing that you're valued by other women would place some strain on your relationship, but at the same time, if the issue isn't resolved it's not a relationship I would want to be in anyway. I would probably be open first, romantic second, take Sygma's advice third, then give up and find someone that makes me happy.

Sygma · Dec 6, 2017

Chronospherics said:
In that respect, reminding her of your value could be a good idea. Both as a sexual partner, but also just generally. Do things spontaneously, surprise her, be romantic, see how she reacts. If I were having trouble like that in a relationship I'd probably take her on a weekend in Paris or something like that, personally - if I couldn't resolve it, I'd think about how important the relationship was to me.

Ding ding !

also

but at the same time, if the issue isn't resolved it's not a relationship I would want to be in anyway.

Well yeah, there's no relationship. Just suffering in the hope that eventually stuff will get better. And in most cases it won't. I don't need to remind people in here the global divorce rate

Subpar Scrub · Dec 6, 2017

Sygma said:
Ask her what's not triggering her desire, have some honest talks.

Yeah totally, this is good.

Sygma said:
Flirt with other women... remind her she's expandable.

I think you meant expendable, in which case, what the fuck type of advice is this? How does flirting with other women remind her that "she's expendable" unless Mega did it in a way which allowed his girlfriend to observe it? Do you honestly think such a situation would end well?

Sygma · Dec 6, 2017

Subpar Scrub said:
Yeah totally, this is good.

I think you meant expendable, in which case, what the fuck type of advice is this? How does flirting with other women remind her that "she's expendable" unless Mega did it in a way which allowed his girlfriend to observe it? Do you honestly think such a situation would end well?

Oh yeah, completely. It's either she's in a relationship with him, or he's gonna get some of that intimacy he needs with somebody else.

It's not even a game, its just the nature of the beast.

Notaskwid · Dec 6, 2017

Subpar Scrub said:
Yeah totally, this is good.

I think you meant expendable, in which case, what the fuck type of advice is this? How does flirting with other women remind her that "she's expendable" unless Mega did it in a way which allowed his girlfriend to observe it? Do you honestly think such a situation would end well?

You come home and brag to her, obviously. "You should have seen it, she was totally into me"

Alice · Dec 6, 2017

So...

How do you deal with someone who just isn't intellectually on your level?

I've been spending time with a woman for a while, and conversations are generally fun, but lately we've been getting into more complicated topics where I can and will make use of "big words", and we've gotten into a situation where she called me out on those words as if I were engaging into Star Trek level Technobabble with words that, to me, are common use.

I caught myself simply avoiding discussions about these subjects because they inherently lead into disappointment, but I do feel a vague sense of intellectual superiority now, and to be frank, I hate that feeling. It shouldn't be there.

This is the first time I've encountered something like that, relationship wise, how do you deal with that, or should I just let go of it and move on to someone else more "fitting"?

Sygma · Dec 6, 2017

Notaskwid said:
You come home and brag to her, obviously. "You should have seen it, she was totally into me"

Yeah. Can even say "hey you know, bars are still opened at this hour" if she keeps being like that. Even tho in mega's case its more complicated, since he didn't even sound excited by his gf a bit back in time

I caught myself simply avoiding discussions about these subjects because they inherently lead into disappointment, but I do feel a vague sense of intellectual superiority now, and to be frank, I hate that feeling. It shouldn't be there.

This is the first time I've encountered something like that, relationship wise, how do you deal with that, or should I just let go of it and move on to someone else more "fitting"?

What are the qualities you deem attractive in her ?

Does she have another kind of intelligence that you don't possess ? (kinesthetic, musical, and so on)

Quantum Leap · Dec 6, 2017

Alice said:
So...

How do you deal with someone who just isn't intellectually on your level?

The same thing is happening to me but i'm not making a huge deal out of it. We just Google search a bunch of stuff together so she can learn about what i'm talking about

Alek · Dec 6, 2017

Jzeero said:
The same thing is happening to me but i'm not making a huge deal out of it. We just Google search a bunch of stuff together so she can learn about what i'm talking about

Yeah I would just teach them if you're willing. However, there's a big distinction between lacking intelligence, and the absence of knowledge. An intelligent girl might not have been to university, yet she's intelligent, cognitively developed enough follow an explanation of a complex theory, or piece of research. In contrast, a girl that lacks intelligence likely lacks the tools to process that information quickly, she may find herself lost in conversation, and she won't appreciate the information you supply. She may seem enamoured at first, but she's likely to become bored of being dispensed information that she has little appreciation for, or deep understanding of.

In general though, I like talking about girls about things they don't understand, and I think they like it too. When I talk about philosophy and psychology, they always seem interested. The girl went out with last week remarked that I made her realise that she's never seen anyone particularly intelligent before - and noted that she liked it.

Alice · Dec 6, 2017

It's less about understanding, in my case than, like... bitching about me even going as far as using "Big Words". She doesn't go into researching them, or even being interested about them, it's just that the conversation about the topic comes to an abrupt end at that moment.

So far I've taken it gracefully and didn't argue about it, but I'm not a fan of it.

I love pursuing knowledge together, be it about stuff I don't know, or about stuff they don't know, but so far it's been very shallow in that regard. It's starting to ruin an otherwise good thing because it's happened a bit more frequently lately.

Alek · Dec 6, 2017

Alice said:
It's less about understanding, in my case than, like... bitching about me even going as far as using "Big Words". She doesn't go into researching them, or even being interested about them, it's just that the conversation about the topic comes to an abrupt end at that moment.

So far I've taken it gracefully and didn't argue about it, but I'm not a fan of it.

I love pursuing knowledge together, be it about stuff I don't know, or about stuff they don't know, but so far it's been very shallow in that regard. It's starting to ruin an otherwise good thing because it's happened a bit more frequently lately.

Sounds like this part of what I was saying?

... In contrast, a girl that lacks intelligence likely lacks the tools to process that information quickly, she may find herself lost in conversation, and she won't appreciate the information you supply. She may seem enamoured at first, but she's likely to become bored of being dispensed information that she has little appreciation for, or deep understanding of.

Alice · Dec 6, 2017

Chronospherics said:
Sounds like this part of what I was saying?

... In contrast, a girl that lacks intelligence likely lacks the tools to process that information quickly, she may find herself lost in conversation, and she won't appreciate the information you supply. She may seem enamoured at first, but she's likely to become bored of being dispensed information that she has little appreciation for, or deep understanding of.

Ahhh, yes, right. That sounds accurate. I guess I'll give it a spin for a while and look if it becomes more of an issue? Dropping her over something (currently) so small would feel a bit superficial myself.

Poketune · Dec 6, 2017

Got stood up at the Timmies. Shame too, I really clicked with this pass. Oh well, c'est la vie.

Alek · Dec 6, 2017

Alice said:
Ahhh, yes, right. That sounds accurate. I guess I'll give it a spin for a while and look if it becomes more of an issue? Dropping her over something (currently) so small would feel a bit superficial myself.

Yeah that makes sense. I would always just see how things go personally. Like if you both seem happy together otherwise, then maybe you can both make each other happy despite that issue.

Alwayscrazybacon · Dec 6, 2017

Notaskwid said:
You come home and brag to her, obviously. "You should have seen it, she was totally into me"

Sygma said:
Yeah. Can even say "hey you know, bars are still opened at this hour" if she keeps being like that.

This is just a disgusting attitude, threatten her until she gives up the sex.

Deleted member 33533 · Dec 6, 2017

Megalosaro said:
I absolutely refuse to play games with her. I'm not going to flirt with other women. I'll admit I should be more confident, but I have so many conflicting emotions on this subject that I don't even know how to unravel this. Like, I don't think I'm entitled to her pussy. If she doesn't want to give it up, that's her priority. But it's something that I want to share with her and is part of a healthy relationship. When she said that, alot of my own insecurities and anxieties started flaring. Like, before I never cared that she had past dudes. But now I do all of a sudden. I started to wonder how easier she was turned on by them. And that's not fair to her. But I can't help those thoughts pouring in. It's like a poison.

I hope you tell her this. It's obviously easier said than done but good luck.

Sygma said:
Oh yeah, completely. It's either she's in a relationship with him, or he's gonna get some of that intimacy he needs with somebody else.

It's not even a game, its just the nature of the beast.

It sounds like a game to me. I think people are taking issue with this because it's emotionally manipulative. Instead of being direct, you're trying to change how she views you through indirect actions instead of just talking to her.

Sygma · Dec 6, 2017

SuperiorTrashTalk said:
I hope you tell her this. It's obviously easier said than done but good luck.

It sounds like a game to me. I think people are taking issue with this because it's emotionally manipulative. Instead of being direct, you're trying to change how she views you through indirect actions instead of just talking to her.

I'm sorry but, manipulative? Mega had issues with said intimacy to the point that he began rationalizing the fact that they might not be sexually compatible.

There s that thing called the five love languages, and If I was him I d begin by figuring that out, because he might very well be big on physical touch while she express love via actions (its one example, not a prediction)

After figuring that one out you contemplate what it means if one is at the opposite of the other. In that case it would mean a relationship built on compromises, with a firm sense of having half your needs met.

And at that point you weight it out. Is that person worth that much? Can't there be another person with whom I d have all my needs covered? Is all of this in a self elevating direction?

Alek · Dec 6, 2017

Alwayscrazybacon said:
This is just a disgusting attitude, threatten her until she gives up the sex.

I would just make an effort to demonstrate I have an active social life outside of our relationship. You don't have to do anything crass to make someone think about how much they value you. That's also why time apart is often good.

Perhaps, that's not the issue anyway though. As I said before, I recommend talking about it first.

Driggonny · Dec 6, 2017

Wtf at some of these reactions. Why is the assumption that she's not being honest when she says she's never turned on and not sure why?? In what way could that statement possibly be manipulative in any way?

Sygma · Dec 6, 2017

Alwayscrazybacon said:
This is just a disgusting attitude, threatten her until she gives up the sex.

It's not about the sex, but about intimacy. Cuddling, taking showers, sweet nothings, sex, sensation of actually being close to your partner overall

It is what defines a romantic relationship, otherwise it's a friendship. You re not with somebody to feel alone, so to speak. If the idea of being really close with your current partner is not enticing any longer then why bother?

Sure you can talk things out, and act on them but in the end of the day if one of the two isn't entirely honest it will not work.

Figuring out love language and compromising is one thing, but everyone will try to control the other on some extent, directly or indirectly.

My initial post was no more than : if who I am, the way I treat you and what we have together not enough for you, I will move on and find that someone else

Driggonny · Dec 6, 2017

Sygma said:
It's not about the sex, but about intimacy. Cuddling, taking showers, sweet nothings, sex, sensation of actually being close to your partner overall

It is what defines a romantic relationship, otherwise it's a friendship. You re not with somebody to feel alone, so to speak. If the idea of being really close with your current partner is not enticing any longer then why bother?

Sure you can talk things out, and act on them but in the end of the day if one of the two isn't entirely honest it will not work.

Figuring out love language and compromising is one thing, but everyone will try to control the other on some extent, directly or indirectly.

My initial post was no more than : if who I am, the way I treat you and what we have together not enough for you, I will move on and find that someone else

How is she not being honest? How is she being controlling? You can have all those other forms of touch without sex.

It's disingenuous to make a value judgement and say "well what I did is not good enough for her" when many many factors could be at play

norm9 said:
I watched a documentary on asexual people years ago and the five or six people interviewed were really really insistent they didn't want to have sex or even a SO at all. By the end of the doc, a number of them had a boy/girlfriend and was no longer asexual. Makes me wonder if asexuality is just a symptom of loneliness.

It's not. It's a real sexuality (or lack there of)

M1chl · Dec 6, 2017

I done fucked up. Everything was fine, then I got jealous and she is angry on me and it crushes me. I hate this piece of shit jealous feeling. That's all I sort it out, but now I am total trainwreck, so I came here to vent, hope it's okay. How much easier was to have casual relationship, fuck everything that moves and don't give a fuck. But I am somewhat now adult and I love her and I do stupid shit which I have never done before, why the fuck emotions have such a impact on me. I don't want that. Since I am Slav, I have my bottle ready, but I wanted to write it sober. Hope the solution for this stupid shit is going to be at the bottom of the bottle.

FUCK ME, WHY?

Nevermind, I am going to be okay soon enough and then deal with it tomorrow. Relationship problems suck hard.

Messofanego · Dec 6, 2017

Alice said:
So...

How do you deal with someone who just isn't intellectually on your level?

I've been spending time with a woman for a while, and conversations are generally fun, but lately we've been getting into more complicated topics where I can and will make use of "big words", and we've gotten into a situation where she called me out on those words as if I were engaging into Star Trek level Technobabble with words that, to me, are common use.

I caught myself simply avoiding discussions about these subjects because they inherently lead into disappointment, but I do feel a vague sense of intellectual superiority now, and to be frank, I hate that feeling. It shouldn't be there.

This is the first time I've encountered something like that, relationship wise, how do you deal with that, or should I just let go of it and move on to someone else more "fitting"?

I've been with a few girls where that's been the case and I cut it off due to us not being compatible. If you can't have conversations that come naturally to you, then what's the point? You two are just not into or can't talk about the same things or on the same level. Just don't make it come across like an intellectual hierarchy.

Alwayscrazybacon · Dec 6, 2017

Sygma said:
It's not about the sex, but about intimacy. Cuddling, taking showers, sweet nothings, sex, sensation of actually being close to your partner overall

It is what defines a romantic relationship, otherwise it's a friendship. You re not with somebody to feel alone, so to speak. If the idea of being really close with your current partner is not enticing any longer then why bother?

Sure you can talk things out, and act on them but in the end of the day if one of the two isn't entirely honest it will not work.

Figuring out love language and compromising is one thing, but everyone will try to control the other on some extent, directly or indirectly.

My initial post was no more than : if who I am, the way I treat you and what we have together not enough for you, I will move on and find that someone else

Your no longer discussing but reading out one of your "life coach" scripts. Not arguing in good faith. Basically Sygma is being a multi level marketting recruter now.

Alice · Dec 6, 2017

Messofanego said:
I've been with a few girls where that's been the case and I cut it off due to us not being compatible. If you can't have conversations that come naturally to you, then what's the point? You two are just not into or can't talk about the same things or on the same level. Just don't make it come across like an intellectual hierarchy.

Yeah, no point in pursuing something that'll leave me unsatisfied in the long run.

Man, this year's full of dating oddities.

Subpar Scrub · Dec 6, 2017

M1chl said:
Hope the solution for this stupid shit is going to be at the bottom of the bottle.

It's not. As for the rest, if you're feeling jealous regarding an SO, then you need to assess why you're getting jealous (usually a trust issue) and get that sorted out, man. I can't really parse what happened based on the rest of your post, try explaining it a little when you sober up and we'll try to help, mate.

Sygma said:
It's not about the sex, but about intimacy. Cuddling, taking showers, sweet nothings, sex, sensation of actually being close to your partner overall

Damn, I must have missed Mega's post where he said none of this happens anymore, mind throwing me a link?

Sygma said:
Sure you can talk things out, and act on them but in the end of the day if one of the two isn't entirely honest it will not work.

Who's not being honest? What?

Sygma said:
but everyone will try to control the other on some extent, directly or indirectly.

I don't understand what you're trying to say here. Of course people don't just let their partners do whatever they want all the time. Asserting a level of control over another person, even if it's just as simple as setting boundaries and rules verbally, is something that will basically always happen. What's the problem with that?

Megalosaro said:
I absolutely refuse to play games with her. I'm not going to flirt with other women. I'll admit I should be more confident, but I have so many conflicting emotions on this subject that I don't even know how to unravel this. Like, I don't think I'm entitled to her pussy. If she doesn't want to give it up, that's her priority. But it's something that I want to share with her and is part of a healthy relationship. When she said that, alot of my own insecurities and anxieties started flaring. Like, before I never cared that she had past dudes. But now I do all of a sudden. I started to wonder how easier she was turned on by them. And that's not fair to her. But I can't help those thoughts pouring in. It's like a poison.

Hey dude, you had a good convo yet about what aspects she was finding attractive, if she has particular desires etc? Be sure to tell her how much you want to please her and work with her to achieve whatever is needed. Keep in touch dude.

Krauser Kat · Dec 6, 2017

M1chl said:
I done fucked up. Everything was fine, then I got jealous and she is angry on me and it crushes me. I hate this piece of shit jealous feeling. That's all I sort it out, but now I am total trainwreck, so I came here to vent, hope it's okay. How much easier was to have casual relationship, fuck everything that moves and don't give a fuck. But I am somewhat now adult and I love her and I do stupid shit which I have never done before, why the fuck emotions have such a impact on me. I don't want that. Since I am Slav, I have my bottle ready, but I wanted to write it sober. Hope the solution for this stupid shit is going to be at the bottom of the bottle.

FUCK ME, WHY?

Nevermind, I am going to be okay soon enough and then deal with it tomorrow. Relationship problems suck hard.

Sorry you are going through some shit.

Can you gives us a little more cliff notes on what you did?

Astral · Dec 6, 2017

What the fuck is a love language?

Krauser Kat · Dec 6, 2017

Astral said:
What the fuck is a love language?

HAHAHA. its a quiz thing. where it will tell you how you like to get affection.

mob21 · Dec 6, 2017

Chronospherics said:
Yeah I would just teach them if you're willing. However, there's a big distinction between lacking intelligence, and the absence of knowledge. An intelligent girl might not have been to university, yet she's intelligent, cognitively developed enough follow an explanation of a complex theory, or piece of research. In contrast, a girl that lacks intelligence likely lacks the tools to process that information quickly, she may find herself lost in conversation, and she won't appreciate the information you supply. She may seem enamoured at first, but she's likely to become bored of being dispensed information that she has little appreciation for, or deep understanding of.

In general though, I like talking about girls about things they don't understand, and I think they like it too. When I talk about philosophy and psychology, they always seem interested. The girl went out with last week remarked that I made her realise that she's never seen anyone particularly intelligent before - and noted that she liked it.

Did you tip your fedora and bid her adieu afterwards?

OGBombKush · Dec 6, 2017

mob21 said:
Did you tip your fedora and bid her adieu afterwards?

Is that what I've been forgetting all this time? No wonder I'm lonely.

Notaskwid · Dec 6, 2017

Alwayscrazybacon said:
This is just a disgusting attitude, threatten her until she gives up the sex.

I was actually being sarcastic there and was surprised on how he agreed with it. Though I will say that keeping a social life separated from her might be important (maybe or maybe not so in this case)

CrayToes · Dec 6, 2017

Chronospherics said:
Yeah I would just teach them if you're willing. However, there's a big distinction between lacking intelligence, and the absence of knowledge. An intelligent girl might not have been to university, yet she's intelligent, cognitively developed enough follow an explanation of a complex theory, or piece of research. In contrast, a girl that lacks intelligence likely lacks the tools to process that information quickly, she may find herself lost in conversation, and she won't appreciate the information you supply. She may seem enamoured at first, but she's likely to become bored of being dispensed information that she has little appreciation for, or deep understanding of.

In general though, I like talking about girls about things they don't understand, and I think they like it too. When I talk about philosophy and psychology, they always seem interested. The girl went out with last week remarked that I made her realise that she's never seen anyone particularly intelligent before - and noted that she liked it.

They're not.

Deleted member 33533 · Dec 6, 2017

Sygma said:
I'm sorry but, manipulative? Mega had issues with said intimacy to the point that he began rationalizing the fact that they might not be sexually compatible.

There s that thing called the five love languages, and If I was him I d begin by figuring that out, because he might very well be big on physical touch while she express love via actions (its one example, not a prediction)

After figuring that one out you contemplate what it means if one is at the opposite of the other. In that case it would mean a relationship built on compromises, with a firm sense of having half your needs met.

And at that point you weight it out. Is that person worth that much? Can't there be another person with whom I d have all my needs covered? Is all of this in a self elevating direction?

Sure, I didn't say he shouldn't figure that out. He can do all of that by evaluating his own needs and discussing them with his girlfriend to understand hers and going from there. He doesn't, however, need to say "You know, bars are still open at this hour" or flirt with other women to show her she's "expendable." That IS emotionally manipulative. How is a person supposed to respond to that?

Lulu · Dec 6, 2017

Alice said:
Yeah, no point in pursuing something that'll leave me unsatisfied in the long run.

Man, this year's full of dating oddities.

Ask her if she watches arrest development and then you'll know for sure.

Driggonny · Dec 6, 2017

Notaskwid said:
I was actually being sarcastic there and was surprised on how he agreed with it. Though I will say that keeping a social life separated from her might be important (maybe or maybe not so in this case)

you got me with that sarcasm that's for sure lol

Alice · Dec 6, 2017

Lulu said:
Ask her if she watches arrest development and then you'll know for sure.

She's the usual "Not a movie person". I highly doubt it.

M1chl · Dec 6, 2017

Subpar Scrub said:
It's not. As for the rest, if you're feeling jealous regarding an SO, then you need to assess why you're getting jealous (usually a trust issue) and get that sorted out, man. I can't really parse what happened based on the rest of your post, try explaining it a little when you sober up and we'll try to help, mate.

Krauser Kat said:
Sorry you are going through some shit.

Can you gives us a little more cliff notes on what you did?

This is hard to explain we all live "casual life", fucking everything, we were fuck buddies, but we know each other for 10 years and I love her since day 1, but I was ready for some relationship. We got close last year, since we told each other our secret problems like she had with her family a pretty tough stuff. Now, this year I am pretty much sick all the time, I am again in the hospital. We call each other like every day and yesterday I do some dumb shit, she is going to move from her boyfriend to apartment where she is going to be alone. And I went full retard a tell her, that I am scared that she is going to life like she used, I don't know, 5 years ago. And she went pretty pissed off, that she does not want that, that she matured and want to focus on other things and basically what hurts me the most "are you even trust me?" and was like, but fear a jealousy just blocked my brain. "So try to control that next time". I am waiting for today's calling so much is not even funny, I hypnotized phone and i probably going to call her in the time we usually talk. I think that I am in the hospital plays a part, since I am isolated, I can't see her, because I took some strong immunosuppressives, so I am getting crazy over that.

And yes we have a weird relationship, but I feel and she even told me that we are on path to be with each other.

Anyway in the span of those 10 years, she was always there for me, no matter what, we fucked, we share intimate things and I can't go back to just that, I need her.

Problem is, that I am mentally ill and I was on some experimental treatment and something screw with my hormones, so I ended my puberty at the age of 27 and these emotions, I never have them, so I don't know how to deal with them, they are new to me.

If this is a most bizarre post in here ever, I am sorry, but I don't want to die alone, we have so much in common and it takes me long years to begin love someone. But in her case it was different.

I feel that I am fucking loser, who can't have normal relationship, even though I want one now, so badly and I made so much fucking mistakes. It was so easy before and this shit is hard.

Megalosaro · Dec 6, 2017

Didn't talk to her last night. She had to work until 9. And then after we didn't have a to be alone

Messofanego · Dec 6, 2017

Astral said:
What the fuck is a love language?

There's four of them, apparently.

Lulu said:
Ask her if she watches arrest development and then you'll know for sure.

Or Rick and Morty. To be fair, you have to have a very high IQ to understand Rick and Morty. The humour is extremely subtle, and without a solid grasp of theoretical physics most of the jokes will go over a typical viewer's head. There's also Rick's nihilistic outlook, which is deftly woven into his characterisation- his personal philosophy draws heavily from Narodnaya Volya literature, for instance. The fans understand this stuff; they have the intellectual capacity to truly appreciate the depths of these jokes, to realise that they're not just funny- they say something deep about LIFE.

As a consequence people who dislike Rick & Morty truly ARE idiots- of course they wouldn't appreciate, for instance, the humour in Rick's existential catchphrase "Wubba Lubba Dub Dub," which itself is a cryptic reference to Turgenev's Russian epic Fathers and Sons. I'm smirking right now just imagining one of those addlepated simpletons scratching their heads in confusion as Dan Harmon's genius wit unfolds itself on their television screens. What fools.. how I pity them.

And yes, by the way, i DO have a Rick & Morty tattoo. And no, you cannot see it. It's for the ladies' eyes only- and even then they have to demonstrate that they're within 5 IQ points of my own (preferably lower) beforehand. Nothin personnel kid

Ernest · Dec 6, 2017

Messofanego said:
Or Rick and Morty. To be fair, you have to have a very high IQ to understand Rick and Morty. The humour is extremely subtle, and without a solid grasp of theoretical physics most of the jokes will go over a typical viewer's head. There's also Rick's nihilistic outlook, which is deftly woven into his characterisation- his personal philosophy draws heavily from Narodnaya Volya literature, for instance. The fans understand this stuff; they have the intellectual capacity to truly appreciate the depths of these jokes, to realise that they're not just funny- they say something deep about LIFE.

As a consequence people who dislike Rick & Morty truly ARE idiots- of course they wouldn't appreciate, for instance, the humour in Rick's existential catchphrase "Wubba Lubba Dub Dub," which itself is a cryptic reference to Turgenev's Russian epic Fathers and Sons. I'm smirking right now just imagining one of those addlepated simpletons scratching their heads in confusion as Dan Harmon's genius wit unfolds itself on their television screens. What fools.. how I pity them.

And yes, by the way, i DO have a Rick & Morty tattoo. And no, you cannot see it. It's for the ladies' eyes only- and even then they have to demonstrate that they're within 5 IQ points of my own (preferably lower) beforehand. Nothin personnel kid

M1chl · Dec 6, 2017

Guys pls : (

Lulu · Dec 6, 2017

Alice said:
She's the usual "Not a movie person". I highly doubt it.

Sorry, datinggaf joke.

Sygma · Dec 6, 2017

Alwayscrazybacon said:
Your no longer discussing but reading out one of your "life coach" scripts. Not arguing in good faith. Basically Sygma is being a multi level marketting recruter now.

You like to put everything in your direction while discussing heh?

Because its all you do to everyone man. at least i don't have a cult mentality going on, and what I said is out of my line of work. mbti / socionics / love languages and shit are basic stuff. At least if you wanna talk about dating and whatnot, have some weight

edit : http://www.5lovelanguages.com/

it helps a lot. the test is free

Messofanego · Dec 6, 2017

There's 5 now? Can't keep up.

Alek · Dec 6, 2017

CrayToes said:
They're not.

Why engage the conversation then? Two of the girls I've been dating are psych graduates. One is working for a stroke charity and passionate about the subject, another is trying to become a marriage counsellor.

One of which has even been sending me thoughts on neuroplasticity and stroke rehabilitation and remarking about how she was thinking about things I had said several days after. I'm unconvinced she's not interested in the subject.

The girl I was out with yesterday even mentioned nietzsche independent to anything I said to her.

I live in Brighton. I don't think you guys get that. You're lucky if you don't see someone cycling a penny farthing to work.

I also think you probably missed the part where my last date involved taking turns on Bloodborn - I suppose she wasn't interested in that either? Despite it being her suggestion.

Alice · Dec 6, 2017

Lulu said:
Sorry, datinggaf joke.

And I thought I was good at lurking all those past years... T_T

I'm a disappointment to myself, and my family!

Chopchop · Dec 6, 2017

Astral said:
What the fuck is a love language?

It's an idea that there are different ways to express affection. For example: physical touch, verbally expressing appreciation and affection, doing things for them, buying gifts, and so on.

The idea is that people tend to value some ways of expressing affection more than others, so doing things that are more meaningful in your partner's eyes is better for the relationship than doing things that aren't as meaningful to her. For example, your partner may appreciate you buying gifts for her, but she might prefer that you hug her more, or help out more around the house, or something.

It's completely unrelated to this other talk about flirting with other people, basically threatening to cheat, looking to manipulate your partner, and justifying it by calling it natural. That's fucking crazy talk. It's horrible advice, and I can't see doing that leading to anything but the destruction of any relationship.

OGBombKush · Dec 6, 2017

Chronospherics said:
Why engage the conversation then? Two of the girls I've been dating are psych graduates. One is working for a stroke charity and passionate about the subject, another is trying to become a marriage counsellor.

One of which has even been sending me thoughts on neuroplasticity and stroke rehabilitation and remarking about how she was thinking about things I had said several days after. I'm unconvinced she's not interested in the subject.

The girl I was out with yesterday even mentioned nietzsche independent to anything I said to her.

I live in Brighton. I don't think you guys get that. You're lucky if you don't see someone cycling a penny farthing to work.

I also think you probably missed the part where my last date involved taking turns on Bloodborn - I suppose she wasn't interested in that either? Despite it being her suggestion.

Don't report me but, you sound like a rape baby right now.

HammerFace · Dec 6, 2017

OGBombKush said:
Don't report me but, you sound like a rape baby right now.

The fuck does that even mean??

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