When me and my wife got married we wanted a small thing with perhaps just ourselves there. But too many people wanted to show up so we ended up inviting 50+ people, which cost a ton for us. On our part is was hectic and we had to fix everything from catering to clothes. And we were already expecting our first daughter. In the end, it was worth it. Everyone was happy, we had a great time and my big takeaway is that we should have more grand parties and it shouldn't have to take marriage to get all these wonderful people together.