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I decided to back off with the girl I like and just leave her to contact me.
She did, said she wanted to see me. Explained that she could tell I liked her, and she likes me too, but described herself as 'more of a slow burner'.
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"You wanna' do something Monday maybe? x"
"I know you have your friends over and you're busy... I don't know, I want to see you xx"
That's fine, that's what I wanted to hear really.
We're going to see the Disaster Artist tomorrow (I'm not free on Monday - I'm out of town on business for 3 days).
She did, said she wanted to see me. Explained that she could tell I liked her, and she likes me too, but described herself as 'more of a slow burner'.
Vertabim
"You wanna' do something Monday maybe? x"
"I know you have your friends over and you're busy... I don't know, I want to see you xx"
That's fine, that's what I wanted to hear really.
We're going to see the Disaster Artist tomorrow (I'm not free on Monday - I'm out of town on business for 3 days).
Been friends with someone for years, and a few months ago, we hooked up and started dating a bit, after a few weeks of that, she said that this isn't what shes looking for right now. Cool, thanked her for being honest with me, was slightly depressed for a week, gave her some space, and then moved on with my life.
Fast forward a month later, and she hits me up to see how I'm doing, casual conversation ensues, and we meet up for drinks with some mutual friends. We end up leaving together for another bar. At that point she kind of breaks down on me, and says she super depressed, and has no idea what she wants. I spent a long time talking to her, got her to cheer up, and ended up going home with her. This is the first time I (attempted) to sleep in the same bed as her, and Holy Crap, this woman can SNORE. To the point I couldn't sleep. To the point that I bailed out of there forgetting my glasses in the process.
We're still talking, and supposed to hang out tonight, but I feel terrible about what I did, and about the fact that I can't stay the night with her because of something she has no control over. Other than having to deal with her depression and INSANE SNORING, I genuinely like her, we vibe on a lot of levels I don't normally get with other women. What should I do DatingEra? Tell her to get a Breath-rite strip? Attempt to exit this relationship, and salvage the friendship? Help.
Fast forward a month later, and she hits me up to see how I'm doing, casual conversation ensues, and we meet up for drinks with some mutual friends. We end up leaving together for another bar. At that point she kind of breaks down on me, and says she super depressed, and has no idea what she wants. I spent a long time talking to her, got her to cheer up, and ended up going home with her. This is the first time I (attempted) to sleep in the same bed as her, and Holy Crap, this woman can SNORE. To the point I couldn't sleep. To the point that I bailed out of there forgetting my glasses in the process.
We're still talking, and supposed to hang out tonight, but I feel terrible about what I did, and about the fact that I can't stay the night with her because of something she has no control over. Other than having to deal with her depression and INSANE SNORING, I genuinely like her, we vibe on a lot of levels I don't normally get with other women. What should I do DatingEra? Tell her to get a Breath-rite strip? Attempt to exit this relationship, and salvage the friendship? Help.
"I got you a christmas present bb"
Honestly though, you don't know how unbearable snoring is until you experience it yourself
"I got you a christmas present bb"
Honestly though, you don't know how unbearable snoring is until you experience it yourself
Do they actually work?
My ex used to snore. I though it was cute. It was the talking in her sleep that got me. Especially when it sounded like she was speaking in tongues.
Tonight is my 17 year anniversary of my first date with my wife. I showed up an hour late and with booze though she was on RA duty all night and couldn't drink.
In the end I was disappointed that she shut down another meetup so quickly given the circumstances. Anyway I'm not quite used to dating, trying to move on though.
Thanks for the response.
Ooph Frank didn't take the hint.My friend just foodzoned another coworker haha R.I.P
Heh no worries, as the above poster said you still had some sweet time :) Advice for the next ones, get in there with your gut feelings clear of doubts. From then its smooth sailing usually. Intuition almost is never wrong, learn trusting it
Last few days I've been thinking a lot about my ex, and I'm finding it very difficult to not only focus on the good parts of our relationship, and instead remember the things that annoyed me or didn't work. At times really questioning if I made the right decision to break up. Then a while later I remember those annoying things and I'm back to square one. This cycle continues. Mehh
the girl i'm sort of seeing snored a lot a night when she was hammered but the other two nights she stayed over she didn't
What is this girl going on about with read notifications on whatsapp and this is how guys are? I'm confused lol
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With that level of spelling I'd be out before I even gave the message enough thought to be confused.
It's one thing to be frustrated by it, but telling it to a date? Honestly that shit would not fly with me early in dating
She wanted immediate attention/replies and didn't get it, so is 'playfully' being needy. Don't play her game.
There are treatments for that. Outside of losing weight if need be, she should get checked out at a clinic (spending one night there which will be used to diagnose her problem)
Chronic heavy snorers possibly have sleep malfunctions such as sleep apnea and that shit is no joke, talk about it to her in a caring way
That's what I figured. Maybe it's a symptom of her depression or anxiety that she suffers from? If she brings it up again, I'll have to consider moving on. I've got other people to chat to where I don't have to worry about such a small thing.
Nothing out of the unordinary. Women want attention, simply answer "Oh I know you want me, but I only give all of myself in person ;)"
or "how much are you worked up about this, I think I can augment that level a bit if you'd like"
Yeah absolutely ;)
Tell me, how should I name persons of the opposite sex ? females is reductive, feminine persons pretty much remove the tomboy looking ones, girls also is reductive ... I don't know really
It's called sarcasm, maybe one day you ll get off my balls
for clarification : an interested person who feel safe with an individual (in that case ... a woman) will want attention, and can indeed be a little bit bitchy in whatever way if she doesn't get any. That's when you use humor / charm / sweetness to open her up and acknowledge her feelings, while making her understand your point of view
The day I get off your balls is when you stop posting mysoginistic shite that you've read in your "Life coach" training book.
I pity you
There's no life coach training book, its all about knowing material from Jung (self and shadow self), Maslow, and I won't go on because it will be too long. Knowing the big 5, and in a broader sense how a mind work.
I ll be honest, only few people are actually seeing the point of view I'm trying to express in most cases. English isn't my native language, and I absolutely cannot talk in a literal way, yet its how most people are judged. If it's bothering you too much there's the block button, as far as I'm concerned I'm tired of being the center of your bitterness / overbearing seriousness
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Had my third date with a girl I met off tinder 2 weeks ago. She prefers to not tell people we met on tinder. Too late I told all my friends haha.
Things have escalated pretty quickly and she has been crazy about me since our first date.
I've been pretty unlucky for a few years so this feels pretty good.
Things have escalated pretty quickly and she has been crazy about me since our first date.
I've been pretty unlucky for a few years so this feels pretty good.
Nice man, keep it slow and steady until she brings up that she wanna see you more and you'll be golden !
Sure pity me, I'll never achieve anything in love without knowing the big 5. I'm going to cry and watch anime now, it's all too much for me. I'll never have a woman, that much is true. But hey, I'm not going to take myself out of the game for your benefit by putting you on ignore. I'm here all day.
"I got you a christmas present bb"
Honestly though, you don't know how unbearable snoring is until you experience it yourself
Depends who you are I guess.
When I was young I used to listen to music while I slept (because I was a stupid kid) via headphones, so now I can sleep through an earthquake. This type of thing wouldn't bother me. At first it'd be a bit weird but I'd just get used to sleeping through it.
I still listen to music while I sleep. I have a hard time falling asleep sometimes when I'm not listening to something
Well, the reason I say it was stupid because I worry it damaged my hearing a bit. When I was 16 or so I used to put music on through my headphones, max volume, usually metal and other crap. It's not healthy to do that.
I get what you mean though, a lot of people listen to, like, relaxing music and whatnot.
I remember when I was young, I used to think it was really cool to fall asleep while listening to Metallica's Enter Sandman, played on a loop. haha.
It's impressive that you actually managed to fall asleep to that. Bravo lol
I cant fall asleep without a space documentary on. Embarassing the first time a girl sleeps over.
But then I turn and look at her in the eyes and say "did you know.... That they have discovered something that can actually escape from a black hole?.... Its my feelings for you"
Works every time.
But then I turn and look at her in the eyes and say "did you know.... That they have discovered something that can actually escape from a black hole?.... Its my feelings for you"
Works every time.
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Somewhat odd sequence of events today.
I wasn't due to meet this girl over the weekend, but then she asked if we could meet because she wanted to see me before I went away.
On the day I was due to meet up with her, I was in town and I sent her a photo of where my friends and I were (in a desert store, eating cake).
She replied to me, asking if I wanted to meet up, but I didn't see any of her messages or anything like that. Then just after I walked out of the store, I saw her.
She acted a bit annoyed, as if I had ignored her messages. And she was pretty off with me in conversation.
I didn't intend to ignore her, and I actually bought her a box of chocolates while I was in the store. I didn't mention that to her because she seemed a bit irritable and I didn't want to have that conversation in the street, in town.
I spoke to her via whatsap afterwards, asked her if we were meeting up later, she said she wanted to but she just wanted to stay home. Said she's on her period and she's feeling unwell.
I posted a sad face.
She started sending a series of photos, which ended up escalating to a couple of photos where she was topless. I did not prompt her to send those in any way. I just told her that her previous photos were cute.
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Not really sure where I stand with her generally. She knows that I like her, but I feel that it was a bit weird that she just abruptly appeared at the same place as me in town. Then she seemed offended that I was surprised to see her and missed her call (wasn't as though I kept her waiting long, it was like 15 minutes or whatever) which seems a little silly. I understand if she was unwell, but can't help but shake the feeling that she cancelled our meetup because she was annoyed at me.
I wasn't due to meet this girl over the weekend, but then she asked if we could meet because she wanted to see me before I went away.
On the day I was due to meet up with her, I was in town and I sent her a photo of where my friends and I were (in a desert store, eating cake).
She replied to me, asking if I wanted to meet up, but I didn't see any of her messages or anything like that. Then just after I walked out of the store, I saw her.
She acted a bit annoyed, as if I had ignored her messages. And she was pretty off with me in conversation.
I didn't intend to ignore her, and I actually bought her a box of chocolates while I was in the store. I didn't mention that to her because she seemed a bit irritable and I didn't want to have that conversation in the street, in town.
I spoke to her via whatsap afterwards, asked her if we were meeting up later, she said she wanted to but she just wanted to stay home. Said she's on her period and she's feeling unwell.
I posted a sad face.
She started sending a series of photos, which ended up escalating to a couple of photos where she was topless. I did not prompt her to send those in any way. I just told her that her previous photos were cute.
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Not really sure where I stand with her generally. She knows that I like her, but I feel that it was a bit weird that she just abruptly appeared at the same place as me in town. Then she seemed offended that I was surprised to see her and missed her call (wasn't as though I kept her waiting long, it was like 15 minutes or whatever) which seems a little silly. I understand if she was unwell, but can't help but shake the feeling that she cancelled our meetup because she was annoyed at me.
I had the best bumble date in LA so far! Met for coffee at 6 at night. She chose the place. She didn't get any coffee so I did. We quickly went through our careers, passions, vices in about 30 minutes. Just totally not compatible. Walked her to her car and I said I'll call ya. I won't ever call her.... I only spent 4 bucks and used up 30 minutes of time. I guess this is what speed dating would be like. I was just happy about that and there was a bar next door so I went there to catch the rest of the UFC fights.
Feel like I made a personal breakthrough in my dating efforts this weekend. I had 2 dates back to back which was new for me since I've only ever dated one person at a time before. Not to mention this being after a long period of failures in dating and low confidence on my end.
First was a 3rd date on Friday night with the friend of a friend I mentioned dating earlier. We met for drinks; she had already been drinking before arriving which I guess was kind of an iffy thing to do but at the same time it made her super easy to talk to and entertain which eased my anxiety a deal. She was pretty forward too, it wasn't even that long into the date that she invited me over and we had a long night of fun. Next time we meet, her birthday would have passed, I mentioned to her I wanted to make her dinner for her then to celebrate.
Had breakfast with her late morning and headed home for only a few hours before I had to get in my car to pick up the tinder date I had coffee with on Wednesday for our second date. Took her to a local bar for drinks and dinner and had a really great conversation. Really didn't have my usual stress of not knowing what to say we had great chemistry. Invited her back to my place to watch some Netflix and made a cool hot chocolate/vanilla vodka cocktail. I didn't expect to do more than make out a bit but we ended up sleeping together that night and spending a lot of time just cuddling and talking. In the morning we showered together, I made her breakfast and then drove her home. She wants to go out again so I said I'd text her soon.
Anyway, sorry for the long post that doesn't really ask much for advice at all. Just wanted to update my improvement based on my earlier posts in this thread. I've been actively "trying" to date for a long while now with mediocre results but I do feel like my recent success just started after posting in this thread for the first time.
Last thing, laughing at myself for saying this:
I feel completely exhausted right now. Could not handle 4 in a row hahaha
First was a 3rd date on Friday night with the friend of a friend I mentioned dating earlier. We met for drinks; she had already been drinking before arriving which I guess was kind of an iffy thing to do but at the same time it made her super easy to talk to and entertain which eased my anxiety a deal. She was pretty forward too, it wasn't even that long into the date that she invited me over and we had a long night of fun. Next time we meet, her birthday would have passed, I mentioned to her I wanted to make her dinner for her then to celebrate.
Had breakfast with her late morning and headed home for only a few hours before I had to get in my car to pick up the tinder date I had coffee with on Wednesday for our second date. Took her to a local bar for drinks and dinner and had a really great conversation. Really didn't have my usual stress of not knowing what to say we had great chemistry. Invited her back to my place to watch some Netflix and made a cool hot chocolate/vanilla vodka cocktail. I didn't expect to do more than make out a bit but we ended up sleeping together that night and spending a lot of time just cuddling and talking. In the morning we showered together, I made her breakfast and then drove her home. She wants to go out again so I said I'd text her soon.
Anyway, sorry for the long post that doesn't really ask much for advice at all. Just wanted to update my improvement based on my earlier posts in this thread. I've been actively "trying" to date for a long while now with mediocre results but I do feel like my recent success just started after posting in this thread for the first time.
Last thing, laughing at myself for saying this:
I feel completely exhausted right now. Could not handle 4 in a row hahaha