Not much of a story atm. Its always been a fantasy of mine though lol
How did it work out for you?
I've been in that situation. It's usually very, very shit. I'd never do it again.
Not much of a story atm. Its always been a fantasy of mine though lol
How did it work out for you?
Look, he sent her Seven Emails. That's practically a relationship in the bag, or at least a handy.You've written a novella so far about a girl you've never met. Just ask her to meet up for coffee in the afternoon before your party. Then you can at least meet in person so you know if it's worth all this mental effort you're putting into it. Why are you complicating this so much?
Yes, but I didn't know it at the time - she ended up doing the same thing to me.Has anyone had a partner that left their relationship at the time to be with you?
Asking for a friend
Good that you're not waiting around for her and moving on with your life. Take however much time away from dating as you want until you feel comfortable being over the breakup.Well guys, my girlfriend and I ended up breaking up about a week ago. The stress of her job and medical issues finally got to be too much, and she decided she really needed to focus on fixing those aspects of her life, and that she didn't feel like it was fair to me to only be paying some attention to the relationship instead of the amount she would like. Honestly, I agree with her. The issues are very real and she really needs to fix them sooner rather than later (her doctor says as much too), and I could sense her kind of drifting away a bit even when we hung out together towards the end. I really didn't get the sense that it was a case of her losing interest - more like she felt that she had to look after herself right now, and it's just some bad timing. We left the door open for future possibilities and she implied that once she gets her stuff sorted she would want to try again, if we were both open to it. I told her that I wouldn't wait for her, but when she figures everything out, let me know. She cried a lot, we kissed a lot, and it was pretty dramatic.
We didn't communicate for a couple of days after that, but then she sent me texts asking about some stuff I was doing career-wise that she was already aware of, and we some pleasant conversations. She initiated conversations twice in two days, so on the third I initiated and basically just wished her well on a trip she was going to take that day. We haven't spoken since then and I don't want to right now anyways, but I feel like we've established that there's no real hurt feelings between us and we can reach out if we want to.
Over the weekend I went out with friends and got fucking wasted, cried a lot, and threw up. Felt great and was just what I needed. Had to get that out of my system.
I decided to wait until the new year to date again. I need a week or two anyways and I'm not going to try scheduling first dates over the holidays. Unless anyone's had any good luck doing that? It just seems like a waste of time since most people will be with family.
Anyways, guess I'm back to the single scene again.
Not much of a story atm. Its always been a fantasy of mine though lol
How did it work out for you?
Well guys, my girlfriend and I ended up breaking up about a week ago. The stress of her job and medical issues finally got to be too much, and she decided she really needed to focus on fixing those aspects of her life, and that she didn't feel like it was fair to me to only be paying some attention to the relationship instead of the amount she would like. Honestly, I agree with her. The issues are very real and she really needs to fix them sooner rather than later (her doctor says as much too), and I could sense her kind of drifting away a bit even when we hung out together towards the end. I really didn't get the sense that it was a case of her losing interest - more like she felt that she had to look after herself right now, and it's just some bad timing. We left the door open for future possibilities and she implied that once she gets her stuff sorted she would want to try again, if we were both open to it. I told her that I wouldn't wait for her, but when she figures everything out, let me know. She cried a lot, we kissed a lot, and it was pretty dramatic.
We didn't communicate for a couple of days after that, but then she sent me texts asking about some stuff I was doing career-wise that she was already aware of, and we some pleasant conversations. She initiated conversations twice in two days, so on the third I initiated and basically just wished her well on a trip she was going to take that day. We haven't spoken since then and I don't want to right now anyways, but I feel like we've established that there's no real hurt feelings between us and we can reach out if we want to.
Over the weekend I went out with friends and got fucking wasted, cried a lot, and threw up. Felt great and was just what I needed. Had to get that out of my system.
I decided to wait until the new year to date again. I need a week or two anyways and I'm not going to try scheduling first dates over the holidays. Unless anyone's had any good luck doing that? It just seems like a waste of time since most people will be with family.
Anyways, guess I'm back to the single scene again.
Well guys, my girlfriend and I ended up breaking up about a week ago. The stress of her job and medical issues finally got to be too much, and she decided she really needed to focus on fixing those aspects of her life, and that she didn't feel like it was fair to me to only be paying some attention to the relationship instead of the amount she would like. Honestly, I agree with her. The issues are very real and she really needs to fix them sooner rather than later (her doctor says as much too), and I could sense her kind of drifting away a bit even when we hung out together towards the end. I really didn't get the sense that it was a case of her losing interest - more like she felt that she had to look after herself right now, and it's just some bad timing. We left the door open for future possibilities and she implied that once she gets her stuff sorted she would want to try again, if we were both open to it. I told her that I wouldn't wait for her, but when she figures everything out, let me know. She cried a lot, we kissed a lot, and it was pretty dramatic.
We didn't communicate for a couple of days after that, but then she sent me texts asking about some stuff I was doing career-wise that she was already aware of, and we had some pleasant conversations. She initiated conversations twice in two days, so on the third I initiated and basically just wished her well on a trip she was going to take that day. We haven't spoken since then and I don't want to right now anyways, but I feel like we've established that there's no real hurt feelings between us and we can reach out if we want to.
Over the weekend I went out with friends and got fucking wasted, cried a lot, and threw up. Felt great and was just what I needed. Had to get that out of my system.
I decided to wait until the new year to date again. I need a week or two anyways and I'm not going to try scheduling first dates over the holidays. Unless anyone's had any good luck doing that? It just seems like a waste of time since most people will be with family.
Anyways, guess I'm back to the single scene again.
Yes, but I didn't know it at the time - she ended up doing the same thing to me.
It's not a fantasy - it's called being a shitty person who's too selfish and too much of a coward to break up with someone.
This is not someone you want to be with.
Also, I had to nuke my tinder because I super liked someone i went to highschool with by accident. Will they still see my profile or not. I want to reopen the account lol
Also, I had to nuke my tinder because I super liked someone i went to highschool with by accident. Will they still see my profile or not. I want to reopen the account lol
It's happened to me. Bumble trains you to accidentally super like people on Tinder. I think it's a conspiracy. If you use Bumble and Tinder, you embarrass yourself by Super Liking and delete Tinder, leaving only Bumble...I swear Bumble and Tinder are working together
What jerk changes the swiping direction. On bumble its up to go through pics. And out of everybody I see, I just had to swipe on her
Without getting too specific, what is your "local area", if you don't mind me asking?Signed up for a few dating websites to see what the situation is in my local area.
Without getting too specific, what is your "local area", if you don't mind me asking?
Probably wasn't about you. People disable their accounts all the time when they get overwhelmed, bored with it, found someone, or just want to take a break.*start chatting with someone who seems cool on okc for first time in a while*
*about to ask on date when I finish work*
*this user has disabled their account*
goddamn was I really that bad? :p
These sites were tempting. I know it's trial and error, but I can't take that kind of stuff happening that frequently. Shit was hurting my feelings.*start chatting with someone who seems cool on okc for first time in a while*
*about to ask on date when I finish work*
*this user has disabled their account*
goddamn was I really that bad? :p
Probably wasn't about you. People disable their accounts all the time when they get overwhelmed, bored with it, found someone, or just want to take a break.
Haha this happens to me all the time. Great conversation and then as soon as I ask for a date they vanish. Looking back, it probably has nothing to do with you. Sometimes people just want validation and have no intention of going out with someone. So they'll have a conversation and then bail the moment a meeting is suggested even if they enjoyed the conversation.*start chatting with someone who seems cool on okc for first time in a while*
*about to ask on date when I finish work*
*this user has disabled their account*
goddamn was I really that bad? :p
Yeah, I'm sorry man, that's gonna be slim pickins on dating sites. Good luck!Rural minnesota. I live about an hour more from any real city.
Flattering, but honest.So online dating profiles: what kind of photos and how many do I need? I'm still rocking the same crap photos from a couple years ago, and I probably need to do a complete overhaul of my profiles. I guess one activity shot (I'm gonna go snowboarding for the first time soon), one dressy shot (I bought a couple new suits), and one fun shot?
Yeah, I'm sorry man, that's gonna be slim pickins on dating sites. Good luck!
Do you know if there are things you can do and/or place you can go to meet single people other than dating sites?
Just seems like dating sites aren't the best options for your location.
Maybe try to just hang out at a bar, drink a non-alcoholic drink, and just hang and get to know the people there, if they're friendly enough.The town I live in has 6 bars, and I don't drink anymore. After that..... you have dating sites. Unless you meet someone through work (not an option for me) you're essentially shit out of luck.
Think of it this way, I took some great pictures of myself my last two years of college, but I've gained at 50 lbs since then, so I can't keep using those pictures for everything. Some people will leave if you don't look like your profile picture. So in my case, layers would be my friend in my pictures and I'd be sure to mention that I go to gym a few times a week on that first date and hope for the best.
Did you meet them through online dating? I don't see any issue in asking after a couple of days of chatting, especially since getting together is the ultimate point. If they don't want to meet that soon they'll let you know. I personally prefer to meet guys quickly rather than spend a lot of time chatting, but not everyone feels that way.Hey, not posted here before but I've lurked on occasion and could use some advice. Anyway, I've been talking to two girls pretty much non-stop for the last 3-4 days and I'm just wondering when people think the appropriate time to ask someone out on a first date would be? I normally give it at a least week or two but I'm tempted to just cut to the chase
Did you meet them through online dating? I don't see any issue in asking after a couple of days of chatting, especially since getting together is the ultimate point. If they don't want to meet that soon they'll let you know. I personally prefer to meet guys quickly rather than spend a lot of time chatting, but not everyone feels that way.
Like right now. Ask them out. If I had to guess, they're probably waiting for you to ask them out.Hey, not posted here before but I've lurked on occasion and could use some advice. Anyway, I've been talking to two girls pretty much non-stop for the last 3-4 days and I'm just wondering when people think the appropriate time to ask someone out on a first date would be? I normally give it at a least week or two but I'm tempted to just cut to the chase
Think of it this way, I took some great pictures of myself my last two years of college, but I've gained at 50 lbs since then, so I can't keep using those pictures for everything. Some people will leave if you don't look like your profile picture. So in my case, layers would be my friend in my pictures and I'd be sure to mention that I go to gym a few times a week on that first date and hope for the best.
The answer was yesterday. The world moves fast. I know you don't want to seem eager, but when the opportunity is right in front of you, take it.Hey, not posted here before but I've lurked on occasion and could use some advice. Anyway, I've been talking to two girls pretty much non-stop for the last 3-4 days and I'm just wondering when people think the appropriate time to ask someone out on a first date would be? I normally give it at a least week or two but I'm tempted to just cut to the chase
A movie that people can see as early as tomorrow night and she may have already made plans for, better get on that ASAP.I met one of them on Tinder and the other at a party last Saturday. It's the one that I met on Tinder that I'm thinking more about asking though tbh. She's really into Star Wars so I thought I'd ask her to go see it.
I'm just wondering when people think the appropriate time to ask someone out on a first date would be?
Todays, good. Go for it!Hey, not posted here before but I've lurked on occasion and could use some advice. Anyway, I've been talking to two girls pretty much non-stop for the last 3-4 days and I'm just wondering when people think the appropriate time to ask someone out on a first date would be? I normally give it at a least week or two but I'm tempted to just cut to the chase
There's always the second or third viewing. I mean, it's Star Wars.I was thinking maybe I shouldn't ask her out on a date the same day that she gave me her number, but now I'm a little shook that she might make plans (or already has) to go and watch the movie. Fuck it I'l ask her tonight. And If she's made plans to see it I'll just ask her if she's up for going for drinks instead.
Has anyone had a partner that left their relationship at the time to be with you?
Asking for a friend
. I'm definitely enjoying both of their company though to be honest, I don't want to do this for too long. Should I bring up expectations that we have between each other in these next two dates? I already briefly talked with the first girl who said she enjoyed being single and I said I wasn't looking for anything serious right away but was open to it
Yeah, you guys go ahead and ignore the fact he called me a butthurt guy (and that kind of ticked me off). I get that he's offering advice, but that was unneeded.
But this is Justice League, not Suicide Squad or Captain Underpants. Neutrals are going to see it regardless. And in the UK, JL's only competition is Paddington 2. Then again, I don't know why we are talking about this, this isn't the reason why she ghosted me.
Because I was on paid subscription, and she was not. In other words, she couldn't respond to me on the dating site unless she pays up. So I offered her my number or e-mail. She chose e-mail as she sent a hi e-mail message.
While yesterday I decided to ghost her in the end, this morning she sent another e-mail noticing my birthday past last week.
One last chance it is then...
But now I'm stuck. This weekend is Christmas parties weekend. One from work, one from church. Can't miss these, so I can't ask her out this weekend. If I ask her out and tell her I can't go this weekend, she'll mostly think it's because I have a date. :/
Sorry for I'm repeating myself but I think I got buried on the last page. I'm currently dating two people, I have a 4th and 3rd date set up respectively for them. Since I've never dated more than one person at a time, I'm a little uncertain how to handle it. The first person, I've been seeing for 3 weeks and the second, only a week. No talk of exclusivity has been made between either one but I feel like I need to talk about it before going on more and more dates with them. I just don't know how I should talk about it. Like, I don't think telling them I'm also dating someone else is the tactful thing to say. With the first person, she did briefly mention she was single and looking to date and I told her while I wasn't looking to get into something serious immediately, I was open to it. We didn't really specifically say we were dating other people though, since I figured that was assumed. But I don't think I should just assume? I mainly just want to avoid hurting anyone.
Haha this happens to me all the time. Great conversation and then as soon as I ask for a date they vanish. Looking back, it probably has nothing to do with you. Sometimes people just want validation and have no intention of going out with someone. So they'll have a conversation and then bail the moment a meeting is suggested even if they enjoyed the conversation.
I met one of them on Tinder and the other at a party last Saturday. It's the one that I met on Tinder that I'm thinking more about asking though tbh. She's really into Star Wars so I thought I'd ask her to go see it.
That's true.There's always the second or third viewing. I mean, it's Star Wars.
So online dating profiles: what kind of photos and how many do I need? I'm still rocking the same crap photos from a couple years ago, and I probably need to do a complete overhaul of my profiles. I guess one activity shot (I'm gonna go snowboarding for the first time soon), one dressy shot (I bought a couple new suits), and one fun shot?
Ask them out within like 10 messages, if you can.I was thinking maybe I shouldn't ask her out on a date the same day that she gave me her number, but now I'm a little shook that she might make plans (or already has) to go and watch the movie. Fuck it I'l ask her tonight. And If she's made plans to see it I'll just ask her if she's up for going for drinks instead.
Ask them out within like 10 messages, if you can.
Don't go to a movie for your first date. Terrible idea. Meet up for coffee or a drink, so you can chat in person casually, and can escape easily if you're not enjoying yourself. Maybe then you suggest grabbing something to eat, or a movie, if you two hit it off.
My bumble is painfully boring
Should I try to be funny with an arranged marriage joke or is that too corny
Also, I had to nuke my tinder because I super liked someone i went to highschool with by accident. Will they still see my profile or not. I want to reopen the account lol
Makes a lot of sense. Thanks! Yeah I'm just letting my mind get ahead of myself.No you don't. Let them bring that up, until then you have one goal : being your most authentic self while dating them. Have fun, have good times, be genuine - secure - charming - reliable - respectful. Be a good man.
You don't bring up the "so where are we at ?" question because that's a little bit pushy. Instead you let events disclose by themselves. Let them associate you in their mind and heart, to somebody they feel good, secure with. And at the moment the relationship question appear (if its ever going to), or the subtle hints for something more serious, you inquire in depth about what she means, how she feels etc. If you feel like your vision of the relationship is matching her desire of something deeper, then you simply walk the talk and become her boyfriend
Let time to time man. This stuff usually happens around the 6th - 8th week of doing everything right. Aka the above. Keep dating her / them too. Meanwhile don't forget to have your own world spinning
That's about right. Though I have 6 pictures on tinder. 3 isn't enough imo. I'd want at least one pic of you in a social setting with friends. You doing something you enjoy. Any travel pictures if you have them and any pictures with pets if you have them. One selfie is good but only one just for a clear shot of your face. Also make sure you're smiling in most of those pictures. You want to look like you're fun, that you're doing interesting things and that you're friendly and people want to be around you. Ask your friends to take pictures of you one night or something but not to stage it. Just take natural shots throughout.So online dating profiles: what kind of photos and how many do I need? I'm still rocking the same crap photos from a couple years ago, and I probably need to do a complete overhaul of my profiles. I guess one activity shot (I'm gonna go snowboarding for the first time soon), one dressy shot (I bought a couple new suits), and one fun shot?