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It's more than that. It's part of the financial domination fetish. Basically some rich guys get off on the humiliation in spending the lion's share of their excess income on their online goddess. Some even go as far as to give them complete control over their credit cards and accounts, forcing the pay pig to cut down most of their expenses so they can spend more on their mistress. Unlike the typical sugar daddy/babe setup, most of the time the pay pig don't even get dates or sex from the relationship. Instead they may get personalized videos where they are humiliated for being a pathetic pay pig with a small flaccid penis, possibly with some other typical online dominatrix stuff, such as instructions denying them to orgasm for weeks or with cum-eating instructions.
I think she wants to murder him and convert his corpse into an actual bank for her money.
Yeah.
Though, it's also about getting through that process very quickly. Some were suggesting within just a handful of messages. Which isn't intuitive for some.
I have never been the person where no one likes my partner but I have been a friend (one of many) who didn't like a friend's gf or bf. But ultimately I just shut the fuck up about it because it's really none of my concern and I dont particularly care to be in my friends' business.
If your friends are all commenting I can only assume they are either being nosey or they see something obvious that you are missing. So just keep an eye out for warning signs but otherwise do your own thing. You're dating them in the end.
Not to be an ass but this is also dependent on the quality of your friends. Are your friends the type of people to boost their mans or are they not really down like that? Some will tell you things for your own good but some are just looking to take you down. Gotta know who is who.
Yea, I just sent her a text asking if she's willing to come to me. She initially offered to come over but I tried to play it cool for some reason to go over to her place. I just told her that I live under a couple who has a kid, so she has nothing to worry about. And that there's a coffee shop in walking distance from my place if she wants to talk first.
Never done the whole meet to just hookup thing, so this feels pretty weird.
Alright so I don't know if anyone remembers my story but I have an update with her. I tried to be friends with her even though she met someone else. We met up a few times and continued to text all the time. But i still have feelings for her and it was killing me that I couldn't be with her the way I wanted. I told her how I felt and even though she said she still had feelings for me, her friendship feelings were stronger and that she really likes this other guy. So I had to end our friendship and it just kills me because I really didn't want to but I know I had to.
I told her I felt like I was in limbo. Do I move on and miss out on her? Or do I be her friend and keep holding out hope but possibly miss out on someone else? Anyways I ended our friendship but I don't think she took it well. She feels I didn't value her friendship enough. So I feel things ended badly between us and it just sucks because I really do care about her and she means a lot to me. Oh well I guess I shouldn't be surprised things ended this way. This is how my life always goes. The things I really want just never work out for me.
I told her I felt like I was in limbo. Do I move on and miss out on her? Or do I be her friend and keep holding out hope but possibly miss out on someone else? Anyways I ended our friendship but I don't think she took it well. She feels I didn't value her friendship enough. So I feel things ended badly between us and it just sucks because I really do care about her and she means a lot to me. Oh well I guess I shouldn't be surprised things ended this way. This is how my life always goes. The things I really want just never work out for me.
You did tell right thing. You have no reason to feel guilty. If she is upset because you didn't "value your friendship enough" then she wanted you to stick around even if it meant hurting you constantly. That's pretty selfish but honestly you should be selfish too. Moving on and taking care of yourself by removing yourself from a painful situation is good.
Also I know it feels like nothing ever goes the way you want but for your own sake don't think like that. Try to be positive because that negative mindset is going to do nothing but hinder you in the future.
Yes. Move on, and stop with the self-pity too.
Things don't always work out. That's life. It doesn't mean next time will be the same.
It's not really a rule. It's just the basic concept of if you're on a dating app, stop wasting time and go for the number and date relatively quickly instead of dragging your feet messaging them for days or weeks. We were talking about it before someone brought up the REL anagram.
Friendship requires both people to actually get something they value out of it. If the friendship doesn't make you happy why should you stay? She dumped you, I'm sorry if this sounds harsh but who honestly gives a fuck how she feels about this?
The reality is you dont value her friendship. And that's perfectly okay because you don't want friendship.
People need to abandon this idea of being a hero or kind or however you wanna classify it after a breakup. If you don't want to see this person just say no you're not down. Don't frame it like a "I'll try" type thing. Why you trying? For the sake of the person who dumped you? The fuck kind of logic is that? Live ya life people.
Just move on. With her hooking up with somebody else and your previous friendship with her sullied you'd probably only be able to get back into the friend zone and trying to get back with her as a friend would most likely end up being awkward as fuck considering how strongly you've told her you feel about her. I tried staying friends with a dude who I dated a few times who wanted to remain friends after I hooked up with another guy and it didn't last too long.
Eyes forward, zipper up, back straight and one foot in front of the other amigo!
BRB finding a rich guy that likes to pay my bills while all I gotta do is be a bitch to him
I'd go gay for pay if Richard Branson did this for me. And since this fetish doesn't require dates or sex, perfect lol.
So I've been doing some non monogomous dating lately, and it's relatively new for me, would this be a good place to ask for advice? Some of my challenges are monogagnostic, like... I need to grow some balls and be more forward with women, but others are less traditional - like me and my partner are dating someone together, and I would like all the tips. It's going real well so far, but I wanna make sure I don't fall into any obvious traps.
Hey ERA,
thanks for all the replies it means a lot <3
They're school friends and they actually been a little nosey in the past with my past relationships. Honestly, while I do enjoy their company, they are very dramatic and like to gossip and start shit.
I actually talked two of my friends who I have known substantially longer, and I told them the situation and they both told me basically, " Just do you, and don't worry about what these other people think"
So I think I might have a friends problem rather than a dating problem.
Again, thanks for all the replies <3
thanks for all the replies it means a lot <3
They're school friends and they actually been a little nosey in the past with my past relationships. Honestly, while I do enjoy their company, they are very dramatic and like to gossip and start shit.
I actually talked two of my friends who I have known substantially longer, and I told them the situation and they both told me basically, " Just do you, and don't worry about what these other people think"
So I think I might have a friends problem rather than a dating problem.
Again, thanks for all the replies <3
Just me personally, but after being attached to a girl like that I would want to distance myself from her, but I'd never turn down friendship.
Why not just leave her alone for a few weeks / months, date someone else. Your romantic feelings will likely disappear, and you can be friends, if you want that.
Adan, I seriously hope you learn from this and never let anyone treat you like trash anymore, even if it is a girl who gives you attention once in a while.
I know this first hand. It takes a lot to say no to this behavior and stand up for yourself.
Yeah, here's hoping. It's unbelievable some of the things I've witnessed my friends have let their girlfriends (Well mostly ex-girlfriends) get away with and some of the shit they've put up with because they fear rejection or loss of a partner. I've noticed it's becoming more and more common among men in today's modern society and it's disheartening to see first hand. A man with the confidence to stand up for himself is way more attractive than a whipped dude.
It's a learning process, ability to recognize certain relationship behavior and how to deal with it has improved with experience. I had low tolerance for bullshit early doors in relationships in the end.
Definitely. For myself, I'm too drawn to emotionally unavailable or damaged people, instead of investing in emotionally healthy relationships.
The problem is that I still fall into that habit.
What's the attraction to them? You think you can fix them or are they easier to get into relationships with? You can see the pattern but self reflect as to the root cause.
To be honest? Neither.
I think they just have an intensity that draws me in.
Really enthusiastic, interested, drawn in to me. Then they disappear. And reappear. Amongst other things.
A common theme is that many of them are fresh out of troubled relationships, or that they have busy careers (like I do, pulling long hours) that make emotional entanglements quite difficult. The latter is something that I've been working on myself, as I kind of realized that I'll be forever alone if I keep spending too much time at the office.
My girl is like that. She doesn't care about any physical activity outside running and some collective sports. And that's just because it gets her active, otherwise she's 100% happy reading / doing nothing / watching movies at home all cozy - mainly sharing insane ideas for the sake of it. She has zero interest in whats happening in the world, or any hobbie at all outside being a tech nerd / solving problems / playing online games
She's a pretty good programmer and enjoy anything tied to computer science
Unless you re ending up on depressed people, you most likely are encountering introverts. Most of them aren't too keen at talking about themselves so just go wild with ideas / your inner world instead
The couple lately have definitely been introverts, but even in your example you still have a couple things (tech nerd, solving problems, playing online games) where as must of the people I've met don't even have that. They seem to just sit at home (no real specifics of what they do) or they do whatever their friends are doing. It's fine if you don't want to be active in what is happening in the world but you would think there would be at least 1 or 2 things that you enjoy and are your go to for things to do but it's hard to even get one of those things during conversations. It seems like your girlfriend at least has somethings even if she is pretty introverted, the last person I talked to I think realized it seemed crazy when they started saying some of it out loud and actually cut themselves off to try and restate what they were saying because it made it sound like they care about nothing and watch paint dry while not at work.
I get what you guys are saying. I've been on my fair share of dates which have been:
"So, what do you like doing when you're off work?"
"Uhhmmm I like watching Netflix shows."
"Cool cool, what else?"
"...that's it. I don't really like music or sports or camping (etc) or anything else, just Netflix..."
"...riiiiight..."
It's a bit of a buzzkill haha, especially when I say that I like Motorbike trips into the mountains, jet skiing, camping on the beach etc and they respond with "Wow, that's all stuff I'd never do, sounds too hard/boring."
"So, what do you like doing when you're off work?"
"Uhhmmm I like watching Netflix shows."
"Cool cool, what else?"
"...that's it. I don't really like music or sports or camping (etc) or anything else, just Netflix..."
"...riiiiight..."
It's a bit of a buzzkill haha, especially when I say that I like Motorbike trips into the mountains, jet skiing, camping on the beach etc and they respond with "Wow, that's all stuff I'd never do, sounds too hard/boring."
I went out with girls who didn't even have a Netflix account. Some people just have no interest outside of work.
Hello guys, I'm back with an update.
So you know the girl that went on a 9 day ghost? We planned to meet last Sunday, but unfortunately she had no sleep working overnight and had to go straight to church. We planned to meet at 5, but she had work again on 6:30pm so I decided it wasn't okay to pile more stress on her. We had a call, rescheduled to meet tonight.
But I'm in a pickle though. Last Friday, a girl messaged me and we started to communicate on Instagram. Out of all the girls in the past, me and this girl have huge flow between each other. It feels that we are in sync. We are laughing, having some poke against each other... and we couldn't wait to meet each other this Saturday! And I know this girl is a real deal (not a bot) because I know her cousin.
I'm more excited to meet this girl on Saturday, then the one I'm meeting tonight. I guess the smartest thing to do is go on the date tonight anyway (if she cancels again, I'm out), and go on the other on Saturday. The thing I'm worried about is what if I like both girls? I don't want to be an ass stringing one of them along. Maybe I should worry about this when I cross that bridge.
So you know the girl that went on a 9 day ghost? We planned to meet last Sunday, but unfortunately she had no sleep working overnight and had to go straight to church. We planned to meet at 5, but she had work again on 6:30pm so I decided it wasn't okay to pile more stress on her. We had a call, rescheduled to meet tonight.
But I'm in a pickle though. Last Friday, a girl messaged me and we started to communicate on Instagram. Out of all the girls in the past, me and this girl have huge flow between each other. It feels that we are in sync. We are laughing, having some poke against each other... and we couldn't wait to meet each other this Saturday! And I know this girl is a real deal (not a bot) because I know her cousin.
I'm more excited to meet this girl on Saturday, then the one I'm meeting tonight. I guess the smartest thing to do is go on the date tonight anyway (if she cancels again, I'm out), and go on the other on Saturday. The thing I'm worried about is what if I like both girls? I don't want to be an ass stringing one of them along. Maybe I should worry about this when I cross that bridge.
I wonder where you find these people? I feel like everyone has some sort of interest. I really think it's more a manner of opening them up to talk about it. Some people will list off their interests and others keep them close to their chest. And yeah I guess some interests aren't as "interesting" as others, not everyone is into some sporty, outdoorsy, adventurous thing or some creative, technical thing but honestly I think interests are like the surface layer of a person. I need to be far more interested in someone's personality than what they like to do, that comes later for me. I wouldn't think someone was boring unless they had a boring personality or were a boring conversationalist.
Just go on both dates and then make a choice. Regardless of whether you like both that's a choice you'll have to make. I'm sure the other person will understand if you turn them down for any other further dates and you're polite enough about it, not like you owe either person more than the initial date.
Any woman who says riding motorbikes and Jet Ski's is boring must come from another planet, that shit's rad as fuck!
That problem doesn't come until much, much later in the dating process. Date them both and see how compatible you are with them. You can date both girls several times before making up your mind.
Forget girl one, focus on girl two. Girl one is unreliable and that will be the whole pattern with her if you seriously date.
I just came out of a six year long relationship and even though I'm sad, it feels so weird to be single again.
I've never even been on Tinder, is that still a popular thing? Lol
I've never even been on Tinder, is that still a popular thing? Lol
Depends on your age and location, but yes it's still very popular.