I wonder what the gift was. In my experience, thoughtful gifts mean cheap as hell but like, you know, thoughtful.
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Did the gifts come with an obligation to stay imprisoned in a relationship with you?
If you are loaded, would you ask for them back in spite? I'm not sure why else you would...
Because he's trolling.
If he's wealthy, then why would he care?
If they were thoughtful gifts, why is he being so thoughtless about it?
The obvious answer being is that he's neither.
I'm willing to bet it was a meaningless $50 trinket that he could barely afford.
I don't doubt that he's "loaded." I do doubt that the gift was thoughtful since it seems the reason he wants the money back isn't out of need but pettiness and spite.
Yeah take it easy mang. Let her contact you instead !
Because you can ? what a weird question
But the "take back" stuff is actually gross. You should have let her space instead. A ton of it
Went on a date today, things seemed good and even the lady next to me in a break told me wow you two are so cute together. Ended the night with it going to nowhere's ville. Man can't get a single win when it comes to this shit. :/
Stupid dramatic xenoblade chronicles 2 music in the background
And whiskey
Stupid dramatic xenoblade chronicles 2 music in the background
And whiskey
what are you looking for, hooking up or actually getting tight with someone ?
If its the later, playing the "I'm not bothered by this because I like you" for a couple of weeks isn't exactly something to bash yourself down for. Its nice to get to know people before you bone them you know
just ended a 2.5 year relationship. Its gonna be tough to get through but I'm kind of looking forward to meeting new people around me. Gonna have to branch out to some local meetup places since I don't have too many friends in my city.
This is a vague post.
You asked her out again and she said no?
Or were you just looking for a hookup and that didn't work out?
Oh I wasn't looking for that! Could've written that better. Just, the date itself at the end of the night seemed to go nowhere when it started really well. Like all the energy got sapped out. Dunno how to describe it. lol but I agree on the getting to know someone!
To the above, she just said the I'll let you know. Just felt weird? Maybe I'm overthinking it?
It seems post Christmas breakup season has already begun. Who's next to join the dating era ranks?
That's the spirit man. When you say meeting new people, are you referring more to just friends or someone to date? Or both?
Well now you're just begging everyone to remember it.
Advc I know it can hurt, but you made a smart decision which will greatly improve your future. Chin up mate, you can do it.
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Eh, no. This guy actually has common sense.
She isn't your girlfriend. She warned you she isn't sure where both of you are going. She doesn't owe you anything.
You giving her $500 gifts isn't going to sway her decision to "let's be a couple!". In fact, can make it worse as she is pressured.
Take everyone's advice here and never do this again in early stages of dating. In fact, never gift someone while you're dating until both of you are exclusive.
Either one really. Don't think I'm ready to date anyone right now but I want to get involved in some stuff where I can meet new friends and then dates from there I guess.
I assumed it was the opposite, pricey as hell but not a thoughtful gift. I knew someone like that and he wouldn't try on a emotional level with the girl but would shower her with expensive gifts.
So ... my 7 years old relationship just ended 2 weeks ago. It hurts so much because I really thought she was the one, obviously she was not.
She gave me some warnings early 2017, but I overlooked them. I'm not even mad at her, I'm just sad.
I feel like shit. I know it take time to heal, but right now I don't see it ending well for me. I can not concentrate at work, I drink too much. I have one month to find another flat but it's so hard to focus on the research. I fucking hate myself !
She gave me some warnings early 2017, but I overlooked them. I'm not even mad at her, I'm just sad.
I feel like shit. I know it take time to heal, but right now I don't see it ending well for me. I can not concentrate at work, I drink too much. I have one month to find another flat but it's so hard to focus on the research. I fucking hate myself !
Last major breakup I had I turned into an alcoholic and caused serious issues for myself because of the substance abuse. I'm not saying you will, but just be wary of using tranquilizers to numb your pain, because it won't work. And you won't work, if you lose your job.
I know everyone hates to hear it after being dumped, but you've to go through the pain to come out the other side okay. It's perfectly fine to be upset, sad or depressed. That's normal man, you have to let your emotions out. Talking here to people can be good, but what you really need is a friend or family member to be there for you.
It's gonna take time, maybe quite a while, but trust me we all get over it at one point.
Somebody out there will love you back as much as you loved her.
People do. I remember with my ex I was with her for 2 weeks and she bought me an imported Soul Sacrifice Vita with a load of games, for more than £400 as a birthday gift.
It's relative to the amount of money that you have access to. For her the cost wasn't that big of a deal at the time and it was a very thoughtful gift as she knew I wanted the game and the custom Vita looked great.
With the girl I'm currently dating, I've probably spent about £500 on her over the last month between restaurants and Christmas gifts. I'm not super wealthy but I have a little excess per month so I usually put that into whatever I'm focusing on at the time - in this case, having a good time with a girl. I wouldn't get her super expensive gifts though, I'd rather focus on spending money on experiences that have potential to bring us closer together. Like day trips out, and things like that.
I wouldn't resent it if the girl and I didn't work out though. I have a good time at the restaurants I take her, etc.
I don't think it's appropriate to ask for them back, but he would care because even though he has money, the expense was relative to caring about the girl. Spending $400 on someone that doesn't care about you, that you're not going to speak to, is a waste of money, regardless of whether you're 'loaded' or not.
He's being 'thoughtless' as you put it, because at this stage he doesn't care about her happiness anymore. The gifts were thoughtful, because at the time, he did.
Also the last line of your post is kind of ignorant. If it was a $50 trinket that he could 'barely afford' then it wouldn't be meaningless because he would have obviously struggled to get together that gift. It's cliche but in general I think it's the thought that counts which is why when I gift I tend to buy small, thoughtful items that show a girl that I listen to them, that I care about how they think and feel. Gifts that show I think about them, and that cause them to think about me (things like books and video games are good for this, because as a girl plays / reads them she'll often come back and talk to me about them).
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I'm in your position.. mentally abused a girlfriend of mine in HS for about 4 years or so towards the end there cause she was leaving for college but yeah been technically single since 2013 and I've had one other kinda serious thing and multiple hooks ups/hangouts with various girls and yeah I also feel I don't deserve a relationship in combination of I have high standards if I wanna settle. I have accepted single but by no means have stopped pursuing woman.
OK, official poll y'all. Should I invite this girl I hooked up with yesterday over again today, or is it better to pace ourselves a little? She seems to be into it, and I like her a lot but I dunno if I'm really looking for a relationship yet. But I'm also horny and it felt like we had good chemistry. You only live once, right?
This is the first time I've really hooked up with anyone in years so I dunno if I'm overthinking it or what.
This is the first time I've really hooked up with anyone in years so I dunno if I'm overthinking it or what.
I'd personally say pace yourself and wait a day or few, then invite her around. You don't want to seem overeager, but hey if you want her bad, then sure just go for it.
Hi, any of you care to take a look at my Tinder/okcupid profiles? After changing up the pics from terrible selfies to better ones, I got a notable bump in tinder match rates from basically none to maybe one in 50-100 right-swipes. Still a lot less then I hoped for. I haven't really used okc since the switch, so no statistics there. Just send me a PM, I'm a bit uncomfortable with sharing that profile publicly. Thanks :)
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I agree with a lot of this. It can be a real issue. It is less of an issue in the suburbs, when you can just drive anywhere and get a nice quiet moment in the car at the end of the date.
In the city, I try improv shows or museums. It can still be awkward during very early phases of dating when it feels too early or not yet intimate enough to invite somebody up to your place, but can't get a nice quiet walk to get an intimate moment.
I have a date lined up next week for the first time in a year. Been completely focused on myself in that time but have been thinking it's probably time to get back out there. As luck would have it someone messaged me on okcupid a few days ago, so let's see how it goes!
Good luck dude, what are you planning on doing for the date? Let us know how it goes.
If is somebody you met through the internet, coffee/lunch & arriving on your own is perfectly fine and pretty normal. If you're fresh back to dating, something low-key and comfortable will probably suit you well. Also, it is a good opportunity to safely present to the other person that the profiles were an accurate representation of who the person is.
For people you've met through work/friends, some kind of activity is probably a better first date.
Birthday girl cancelled on me today, kinda pissed but we're planning on grabbing coffee tomorrow morning now. If she cancels again I think I'll ghost, not really into flakey people.
First date I had earlier this week ended up with a hookup, but I won't able to see her again because she was visiting from Buffalo New York. Her dad is a Minister for the West Baptist Church and they live in a nice church owned house. Pretty interesting woman but meh, what can you do.
First date I had earlier this week ended up with a hookup, but I won't able to see her again because she was visiting from Buffalo New York. Her dad is a Minister for the West Baptist Church and they live in a nice church owned house. Pretty interesting woman but meh, what can you do.
Trying to talk to this girl about Christmas on a bad phone line on the train. She was talking to me about Witcher 3, and asked what I got for Christmas. I tried to explain that I bought the Dishonored Collection with some of my Christmas money, but she some somehow she heard 'Sonic', rather than 'Dishonored'. All I heard was "You bought Sonic? Why?" before the phone cut off.
I'd ghost someone that bought Sonic Forces too, to be fair.
I'd ghost someone that bought Sonic Forces too, to be fair.
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Yeah it's definitely a first meeting "let's see if you're actually like your profile" type of thing. Maybe I'll find a coffee place to meet that has other activities nearby in case we do hit it off.
I prefer places that have alcohol as I think it helps to have a drink sometimes, so I don't usually take girls to coffee places on a first date, but that's just me personally. Otherwise, it sounds fine. At the end of the day you just want to meet and see if there's any connection there.
I wouldn't go anywhere that looks tacky / cheap either. So, that cuts out most chain coffee shops and restaurants. But, not every girl will care about that kind of thing.
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If you dont think youbare looking for a relationship why pace yourself? 100% go for it.
You know we can tell you're full of shit right? You expect us to believe every single girl you meet just loves to talk about and play video games? You just happen to be out in public and a random chick you talk up loves the Witcher, or Skyrim or whatever? And this consistently happens with every single girl you speak to?
You're either approaching emo 13 year olds at your local GAME or the munters at your nearest Spoons.
I would too. I think it sets a standard for any prospective relationship, that she can just jump into your life when she pleases, and you're expected to be there for her. People that don't respect your time, aren't worth your time.
Lots of girls play games. I was just talking to one who was telling me she spent all day yesterday playing Spyro the Dragon. They aren't hard to find especially if that's the type of girl you're looking for. That seems to be Chronospherics' type or at least something he looks for.
Maybe if you spent more time looking for women who like games instead of complaining on forums, then you could be like Chronospherics too.
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A virgin?
Does chrono get his ass eaten too? Bc if not I doubt my mans bum kush wants to be anything like him