Dude I would've been your friend for sure. Bob Ross costume and actually doing art. That's a dope get up.
I was a racoon. I bought a racoon onsie and painted dark circles on my eyes. Much less cool lol
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Dude I would've been your friend for sure. Bob Ross costume and actually doing art. That's a dope get up.
I was a racoon. I bought a racoon onsie and painted dark circles on my eyes. Much less cool lol
You're in the friend zone, your chances to escape are slim. Your not a fresh fish to her and you sound over invested. Put your focus and energy into finding someone new.
That's adorable. I was a musketeer and the girl I'm dating was Marie Antoinette. I also ended up befriending a guy in a Bob Ross costume though!
I think there is a fine line between being charmingly self deprecating and insecure, which might not really be a great look if that comes off, but I think you should be having a think about how you think she perceives you, rather than deciding your chances come down to some shallow gamble as to whether she realises you're poor or not. It should be pretty easy to tell from the stuff you talk about and the way your conversation flows if there is a genuine spark between you and if there is the potential for something there. I obviously don't know the exact context of your dating talk with her, but there is a million miles away from 'haha we should just date each other, would be so much easier!' to her actively wanting to date you.
If you have genuine feelings for her and think she might reciprocate them, then just pick a natural moment if the night is going well and be honest with her and tell you how you feel - if you feel like your conversations have been swaying in that direction and there is a mutual interest, then you probably have a good chance. If this is more just that you're attracted to her and you're blindly hoping she might be into you too, I don't think its a particularly good move and it's actually potentially kinda disingenuous to invite somebody out for drinks as friends, when really you're really framing it as something else internally (unless I've completely misunderstood and it's an actual date)
I don't know man having a vita basically destroy all your chances.
31 years old, never dated a woman before (although I have dated men). Basic attire generally consists of plain t-shirts (sometimes flannel), cargo shorts, and sandals.
This is what I look like now. ResetEra Post Your Picture Thread!
I'd appreciate any feedback. Be as mean as you have to be, heheh.
This is what I look like now. ResetEra Post Your Picture Thread!
I'd appreciate any feedback. Be as mean as you have to be, heheh.
No.
I don't have glasses, or a fedora. And my shorts/shirts are not loose like that.
Out of curiosity, why are sandals considered unappealing?
Because they're literally not stylish with anything unless you are a woman.
Why is anything considered unappealing?
Personal preferences, style norms, society, etc.
If you're looking for someone who finds someone who lists sandals as part of their "Basic attire" to be a positive, or if you want someone who doesn't care, then keep doing it.
You said you wanted feedback though - and the feedback is you'll put off far more people by continuing to do that.
No complaints on my end. I asked for feedback, and I got it.
I was only curious because most of the popular guys in my high school and campus got away with wearing sandals all the time (especially in the summer). I'm guessing this is a recent thing?
I don't have anime tees.
I've got a bunch of old punk band tees though.
I mean, you said yourself: "got away with"
That is, it's a negative, which some people can "get away with" because of other factors.
Just because some people can "get away with" it, it's still a negative.
I'm 3 years older than you, so, no.
I didn't mean to sound condescending. My bad if it came off that way.
Thank you for your help, regardless. I'll try out what you suggested and return if I have more questions.
No worries. It's just that often people ask "What am I doing wrong?"/"What can I change to do better?" and then when people suggest stuff, are like "Well, what's wrong with that?"/"Why should I do that?"
It's like this:
Honestly, I'm not too much of a Style guru myself (just enough to know that sandals as everyday-wear aren't a good look), so for more detailed stuff, you'll have to wait for StyleEra.
I've probably got more to work on than just fashion anyway. I suffer from depression, autism, Asperger's, extreme OCD, and a myriad of other problems, so it will be an uphill battle for sure.
Nah. She's offered to come visit me and vents to me when she has issues with her husband and I always suggest how to try to work it out and stuff. I wasn't the one to take the friendship to a diff level. I
I mean, whether something is appropriate depends on the context it's being applied. I wear shorts durong the summer, I dont wear shorts to the bar or club though. I wear flip flops, but not to dinner at higher end restaurants.
Are you asking about clothing advice specifically for dates? For picture taking? Work?
I think he was kidding. If you're going on a date, dress nicely.
Even if you're just going out to meet them, dress somewhat business casual. Don't wear flip flops and a tank top. You can get away with this in college but if you're looking to impress older women, they don't want to date someone who looks like a bum. Just my 2 cents.
Meeting them where? The club? Community events? Walking down the street?
Not trying to come off as snarky but it's difficult to offer clothing advice if we dunno what you are aiming for. What I wear on dates and at the bar isn't the same as what I wear to a house party or a casual restaurant. But I've met girls at both.
Also what is the weather like where you live?
I'm going back to school soon.
I don't have any particular bias towards older or younger women, although I'd prefer someone who isn't *too* old.
College. I'm going back soon.
I live on the East Coast, but I'm moving somewhere warmer within the next year (hence the sandals).
OP
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Conveniently, the OP has an entire section on men's fashion!
Shorts are okay, if not very casual. Cargo shorts are out of the question. No one should wear cargo shorts. A white fashion sneaker is infinitely better than sandals. A simple, casual-but-nice outfit can be darkwash jeans, white sneakers, and tee. ALWAYS make sure they fit properly.
Well how old are you? Are you 18-26? If not, still dress nicely because this is your chance to separate yourself from the "immature" college kids and find a girl who values maturity. If you're 30 or older and you're trying to dress like other college kids in sandles and a t shirt and a cap or whatever and you're hitting on girls 10+ years younger than you, you're just gonna come off as creepy.
Nah that's not true. You just have to have good sandals and an outfit that goes with it
What about darkwash shorts? I can't stand long pants (for reasons that would be too hard to explain here).
As for the rest, gotcha.
What would you describe as dressing mature?
You're going to have to accept the need to wear full length pants. Like this is not optional.
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You just accidentally made me so unbelievably curious about this tbh
Pretty much.
Just wear a suit and a tie and you'll be good.
Depends on what you are doing and where. Depends on if you know the person. I wouldn't say never. I would say if you're trying to make a good first impression it's something to try amd shy away from though.
Hard to explain.
I was afraid of that.
You could probably get away with it if you moved to Hawaii or something.
I know her, I'm not a guy to just add people on Facebook or Social Media that I don't know just because they look nice.
Thanks for the advice. Will keep you updated, gonna shoot her a message after Halloween is over and then see where it goes.
You'll find a lot of women spend tons on hair and make up, wear heels, go through the whole 10 yards to look good and some of this shit is daily. The amount they spend on wardrobe and fashion puts what guys do to shame.
You really can't be out here complaining that you can't wear shorts all the time to look good. Like stop that. Actually.
Possibly.
I'm not as familiar with Israeli culture/preferences.
Or if its like a hot day and you're going on an outside date like to a park or just walking around a nice place. I used to wear cargo shorts during the summer, I've since moved onto flatfront shorts. They look much better in my opinion and are really simple so they go well with most casual outfits.
But again shorts really aren't date attire, pants are the way to go.