halcali

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my mum is casually racist.
She once saw a black dude driving in Medford, Oregon and exclaimed "That guy's as black as the ACE OF SPADES!!!"

I was 9...
 

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I like that it gets the hopelessness of it all

my mum is casually racist.
She once saw a black dude driving in Medford, Oregon and exclaimed "That guy's as black as the ACE OF SPADES!!!"

I was 9...
That is not causal racism, that is full on racism
 
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The part about being "mad-calm" is what hit me hardest. I'm not allowed to be upset because that either makes me look hostile and makes white people uncomfortable. Me even bringing up racism makes look like I'm too sensitive and pulling "the race" card. White folks dismiss it because they don't believe it, don't want to be bothered or don't want to be blamed. We would hope our white friends would jump in, but they don't have a personal stake in our issues, plus they don't want to be involved in something they see as being controversial and complicated.

Plus me saying "white people" makes my point fall on deaf ears because they immediately assume I'm saying that all white people are racist. Obviously that isn't true. However, I always have to preface every statement with "not all white people" in order to avoid any potential backlash. What this does is divert the conversation. It makes it about them instead of me. My initial point becomes meaningless because, for some reason, their feelings come first before anything else.
 
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halcali

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I like that it gets the hopelessness of it all


That is not causal racism, that is full on racism

too right! Well, in her mind, she was just commenting "casually" about the shade of the man's skin tone.
I mean, I was 9 years old and knew that was completely racist.

We actually had a chat about that moment, and she just flat out didn't deny being a racist and claimed it's because she's never had any black friends.
She's still my mum, so I can only continue to love and educate her old stubborn brain.
 

Slayven

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Perfect example



Now the conversation becomes about her and the minority has to calm her down and reassure her and forget the original reason for the conversation.
 

BigBWolf

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Lol you think they gonna confront his mom about something when he was 9? Would you

Or do you mean if she's done something else since then has the poster confronted her
Well, it obviously scarred her son to the point of always remembering it.

Very heinous. He might want to consider not talking to her again if this is a pattern.
 

Son Lamar

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Well, it obviously scarred her son to the point of always remembering it.

Very heinous. He might want to consider not talking to her again if this is a pattern.
That's not gonna happen people rarely alienate their family for racist views but it's good that it scarred him, it seems like that accident could have made the poster realize that he didn't want to be like that based on the fact he has such a strong memory of it but could he totally wrong
 

TopherDL

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Saw this a few days ago and found it pretty resonate too. I understand the awkward attempts at code switching are (sometimes) another way for people to ingratiate themselves to someone but it does get very tiring. Especially when you see how they converse with their other white peers. Being 6' 2", I'm also always subconsciously moderating my actions/voice (especially when agitated) so as to not come off as threatening or adhering to stereotypes. These things are just always constantly in the back of my mind. As I would expect it to be Black people in general when in white dominated spaces.


The part about getting alienated for either being too black or too white got to me.
This too.
 

Z-Beat

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The part about getting alienated for either being too black or too white got to me.
 

Auctopus

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I have never heard of that "baby" thing, especially so much for it to become a stereotype. That is a really weird thing to do.
 

Mahonay

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Being light skinned and growing up in an upper middle class, white area, I know that sensation of not feeling welcomed by either group. It sucks.
Yuuuup. My sister who's half black dealt with the same exact thing. We were definitely more middle class rather than upper middle class, and lived in areas that were pretty diverse, but she definitely still got the same treatment. It's super shitty.
 

EndlessNever

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I don't know if what other Irish people think, but me personally, I find that Ireland can be an extremely racist country at times. It's weird, I find that as a country we are forward thinking in many ways, like getting same-sex marriage approved and that was fantastic - a huge win for the country and of course, the people who want to marry the same sex. But then, there is so much casual racism and people think it is nothing.

For example, there is a talk show on the radio I listen to all the time, and they did a topic about that H&M debacle with the little boy wearing the "coolest monkey in the jungle" top, and I promise you that at least 8 out of every 10 people that called said it wasn't racist and that and I quote the presenter of the show here

"The people getting offended by this are nothing more than snowflakes, who want to be offended and overreact to everything that happens.
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And then they did a poll on the topic where they asked if it was racist and people texted in, and it was like 84% of people thought it was not racist.

I was sitting there like

"Am I the only fucking sane person in this country"
 

Daingurse

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This video resonated with me quite a bit. It really highlights some of the frustrations that I have as a black man in America.
 

Truly Gargantuan

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I have never heard of that "baby" thing, especially so much for it to become a stereotype. That is a really weird thing to do.
Living in the south you step into any diner in the world and. I can say with certainty that a waitress there is going to call you baby or sugah.
That part honestly sounded like a personal peeve the creator of the video has.
 

GrizzleBoy

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The constantly self policing your look/voice/tone/walk just so you don't look like "one of them" is too accurate.
 

BossAttack

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I like that it gets the hopelessness of it all


That is not causal racism, that is full on racism


Is it though? If she's just commenting on his skin tone I'm not sure that's really racist. I've thought things like, "that girl is as white as snow, god damn."

Video is on point though, especially the part about alienation.
 

FireSafetyBear

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I'm kind of embarrassed to even bring this up because I cringed so bad when my mom said it

But we were watching Broadchurch season 3 and my mom literally fucking said "Wouldn't they know if it was the black guy?"

I couldn't believe it. I had to walk away.
 

Neece

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I don't relate to all of the specific examples but the general theme resonates.
 

TerminusFox

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Lol The car ride is spot on.

Like I was training some white guy for work and we head in my car and The Doom 2016 soundtrack starts playing and he looks at me like I grew a second head

"You listen to rock music????"

Like nigga fuck outta here.

I honestly got more "Oreo" comments from white people than black people tbh. That shit was infuriating. Especially because I love comics and anime growing up
 

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I honestly got more "Oreo" comments from white people than black people tbh. That shit was infuriating. Especially because I love comics and anime growing up

Bruh, this was my life growing up, shout out to, "your the whitest black guy I know."

Fuck you.

Also, reminds me of this one funny, awkward moment I had in class during HS. I might post it later.
 

Daingurse

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The constantly self policing your look/voice/tone/walk just so you don't look like "one of them" is too accurate.

It's too damn accurate. It's also pretty much what my mom taught my brother and I growing up, because we were tall black males and she didn't want us to get shot. Constant eggshell walking and self-moderation can be very tiring, but I ain't trying to be perceived as more of a threat than I already am. I'm a 6'4" 240lbs black dude, so by default I'm inherently threatening to many people due to their own consciousness and unconscious racial biases.
 

tarantullama

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So the barista says "No, that man wasn't stealing that bike, he lives there." What's the next step? Directly telling the woman she's racist?
 

Truly Gargantuan

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Lol The car ride is spot on.

Like I was training some white guy for work and we head in my car and The Doom 2016 soundtrack starts playing and he looks at me like I grew a second head

"You listen to rock music????"

Like nigga fuck outta here.

I honestly got more "Oreo" comments from white people than black people tbh. That shit was infuriating. Especially because I love comics and anime growing up
"I'm more black than you are lol!"
 

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I thought this vid was gonna be about someone saying something racist and then when called out on it, they say that they can't be racist because they have a black friend.

Of course this arguably worse. I mean, you stand up and defend your friend from strangers? Some friend you are.
 
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Bruh, this was my life growing up, shout out to, "your the whitest black guy I know."

Fuck you.

Also, reminds me of this one funny, awkward moment I had in class during HS. I might post it later.

Hurt me a lot growing up.

And you laughed it off then because you thought you were being accepted, when in reality you were just a prop to not make the group seem racist as they held you as an example any time someone called them out on their bullshit, if at all.

I still get that shit and I'm damn near 30. It's insulting. As if "whiteness" is a state of being that is superior and something I aspire to be.

I keep my mouth shut because if I say anything, I get dog piled. I'm the bad guy and they're the victims :/
 

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Lots of truth there. If racism is going to end, white people are going to need to police each other. It continues to thrive because racists, whether hardcore or casual, feel comfortable being racist when around other whites.
 

TerminusFox

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OR When you literally just seen a white dude talk like he normally does to his friends and family but he sees YOU the token black guy and starts talking to you in Ebonics "Yo yo what it is bruh!" Trying to dap you up.

Like I see you.
 

Slayven

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Is it though? If she's just commenting on his skin tone I'm not sure that's really racist. I've thought things like, "that girl is as white as snow, god damn."

Video is on point though, especially the part about alienation.
Spade is an old school slur, but more commonly nowadays used to fetishize black men google "Queen of Spades tattoo". Not at work.
 

maxxpower

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Completely unrelated, but I just realized that I don't have any black friends. To be fair though, I don't have any friends besides my wife and son.
 

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And you laughed it off then because you thought you were being accepted, when in reality you were just a prop to not make the group seem racist as they held you as an example any time someone called them out on their bullshit, if at all.

I still get that shit and I'm damn near 30. It's insulting. As if "whiteness" is a state of being that is superior and something I aspire to be.

I keep my mouth shut because if I say anything, I get dog piled. I'm the bad guy and they're the victims :/

And the always present "You're so well spoken!" or just straight up "You don't sound like a black person/You talk white".

Yeah, I receive it from white and black people which leaves me feeling like I don't fit it sometimes. The latter is super weird because I have no (as far as I can tell) white blood in me, so it hurts when I don't appear "black enough" to my fellow race.