Yikes!
Yeah, that's fucked up. She's SO playing him. The way he handled it told her all she wanted to know.
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Yeah, that's fucked up. She's SO playing him. The way he handled it told her all she wanted to know.
Kinda anxious about Valentines day. What exactly is appropriate when you've been dating for six weeks? Thinking about getting her chocolate-covered strawberries (sounds way better to me than just chocolates) and maybe a card. And I think I'll see if she wants to cook dinner together that night.
Really resent these dumb manufactured holidays tbh.
Really resent these dumb manufactured holidays tbh.
Get her whatever you want, it depends on the relationship. I'm going into the fourth month with my girlfriend and i'm just getting her a single rose and a card (and a $65 valentines concert)
Been crushing on a coworker/good friend, been doing a pretty good job at keeping feelings put down and away. Thinking it'll be fine, nothing I haven't done before. Proceed to get drunk with a whole bunch (10+) coworkers. Spill crush on coworker to literally everyone after getting black-out drunk. Get called out on it next day. Tell them I want nothing to do with it. Assume everything will be cool - as long as she doesn't know. Lasts 4 days, before she sits next to me on lunch and we talk casually. She brings it up, and I just say simply, "it was never supposed to get out,". Essentially get shut down on something I never wanted, and now feel awkward around really cool friend and all my coworkers.
Cool. Now I hate my job a smidge more than I already did.
Cool. Now I hate my job a smidge more than I already did.
Alright well here goes looking for some advice.
I was in a bad relationship all through college with the exception of the last year when we broke up. I'm working full time now and basically have no chances to really meet women. I'm also 3 years out of the game as I took some time off to focus on improving myself. Which was good but my incredibly limited social skills when engaging with a member of the opposite sex ( at least ones that I'm interested in ) are 3 years worse off than they were when I was just slightly awkward.
I've tried tinder but It went nowhere with basically my only matches being bots or fizzling out before a conversation even really gets going and the whole online dating apps/sites thing in general feels way too reductive to me I really don't like it to the point frequently swing to being vehemently against it (nothing against people who it does go well for it's just not for me).
I've heard the "just get yourself out there" but there's not a lot in the area to get out to. The bar scene is mostly women almost 2x my age that I have no attraction to and the local events seem to only attract kids and parents. I'm also to be blunt shy and awkward so just chatting up someone I bump into that isn't a friend is really weird to me and the few times I've tried to start a conversation it turns awkward really fast. Finally the female friends I have who I would maybe consider dating are all in good relationships so going within my circle of friends is also a no go.
Finally, I'm a bit picky I've tried dating outside of my "standards" before and let's just say it was an insult to both me and her and I don't want to repeat it again. I at the very least want the person to be somewhat attractive and have some common interests like anime and gaming. I keep in shape and consider myself decent looking so I don't think that is unreasonable.
I was in a bad relationship all through college with the exception of the last year when we broke up. I'm working full time now and basically have no chances to really meet women. I'm also 3 years out of the game as I took some time off to focus on improving myself. Which was good but my incredibly limited social skills when engaging with a member of the opposite sex ( at least ones that I'm interested in ) are 3 years worse off than they were when I was just slightly awkward.
I've tried tinder but It went nowhere with basically my only matches being bots or fizzling out before a conversation even really gets going and the whole online dating apps/sites thing in general feels way too reductive to me I really don't like it to the point frequently swing to being vehemently against it (nothing against people who it does go well for it's just not for me).
I've heard the "just get yourself out there" but there's not a lot in the area to get out to. The bar scene is mostly women almost 2x my age that I have no attraction to and the local events seem to only attract kids and parents. I'm also to be blunt shy and awkward so just chatting up someone I bump into that isn't a friend is really weird to me and the few times I've tried to start a conversation it turns awkward really fast. Finally the female friends I have who I would maybe consider dating are all in good relationships so going within my circle of friends is also a no go.
Finally, I'm a bit picky I've tried dating outside of my "standards" before and let's just say it was an insult to both me and her and I don't want to repeat it again. I at the very least want the person to be somewhat attractive and have some common interests like anime and gaming. I keep in shape and consider myself decent looking so I don't think that is unreasonable.
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I'm not a regular to these threads so, whatever, just my two cents.
First off, practice having conversations with random people. Don't overthink it. Just chat a bit and stop when things aren't continuing or get awkward. You can do this with anyone. Also, for when you're genuinely interested in someone, there's an art to barreling through initial awkwardness; it might feel strange but just try to keep the conversation going until the other person has clearly lost interest or until everyone is comfortable.
Second, there's probably some events in your area that the women do go to, you may just not be aware of them. Unless there aren't very many women in your area. Try asking around, or stepping outside your circle of comfort.
Third, I am of the opinion that a requirement of shared interests is dramatically overrated. If they're interested in you, you can share that interest with them, perhaps (I've gotten a number of friends and dates into film as a serious artform, for example). But friendships and relationships are built on more than that. Sometimes it doesn't translate and that's ok.
If you are decent looking maybe you just need some new Tinder photos to get more matches. Don'et let conversation fizzle out, ask for a date / meetup / drink within the first 5 or so messages so you are moving past the online side of things asap.
Well so much for that. Fuck.
She messaged me today, and asked if it would be okay for us to go to the mall because she needed to get her phone fixed for work. I messaged her back hours later when I woke up, and said sure, and showered and got ready then picked her up. We went to one of the kiosks in the mall that her friend had recommended. They also have a store that I'd seen before, but I shop so little that I didn't remember the name of it and had mostly forgotten it until I saw it. It wasn't the one that came up with great reviews when I looked up the mall and phone repair, but it's what she wanted to go with and it's not my phone.
I tried to nudge her towards going to the other one or two cell repair places to see what they would offer, but she didn't. She told the guy she'd gotten a quote for $80, which was from a place an hour away, but she bent the truth a bit. He came back with $95 after talking to his boss, and said that's the professional rate and nobody else can do it for less. Then she threatened to go talk to another place (politely) and he asked how much she was looking to spend ($80), and would $85 be okay. I thought she'd accept it, but no, and that caused him to drop to $80 at which point she agreed and paid. It was pretty impressive. But I still felt that she should've gotten other opinions and quotes, because it was a mall kiosk and it felt a bit shady to me. He then turned around after we'd paid and said that it would be ready on Saturday after 2pm, which surprised both of us and made her wish she would've gone elsewhere, because she doesn't drive and had heard they fixed phones that day.
Then we walked around for a while until her boots made her feet hurt, sat down, she rested her head on my shoulders, and then after a bit we got up and went to the food court to get some food. She went and bought Greek, and I got Thai, then we met at a quiet area and ate at a booth. It went well. She asked if we could stop at the library, to get a book, and had mentioned Walmart to get Benadryl for she and her cat. So we did that and also got coffee, then went back to her place. This was 3.5 hours after I'd picked her up, I guess. We took a while at the library.
I had asked if I could come in and see her cat, and she said sure, also that she wouldn't mind cuddling. But she has to be up at 5am tomorrow to get ready and catch the bus for an appointment that's really only a 20 minute drive at 9am, so she said she couldn't stay up too late and would have to politely ask me to leave in half an hour or an hour. We cuddled and fooled around for a bit, and played with her cat and her roommate's, and I didn't leave until closer to 9. After we fooled around some however, she started getting slightly emotional and brought up how she really likes me and isn't leading me on, but always gets scared about labeling things because when she does the relationships tend to fail and she was trying not to screw this one up. I said it was okay, I was worried about screwing it up, and said it was okay. Then she told me she got in the habit of lying because her grandmother was hard on her and she had to because nothing was ever good enough, and that she has PTSD from that. Also that she sometimes lies without thinking about it then apologizes. And that she has a lot of baggage, and doesn't want to drag me down. I said it was okay -- I have issues too, also have baggage and am not perfect.
Then she brought up something that scared me. Something I guess I missed on her online dating profile. She's poly. Apparently she's tried monogamy, had thought she'd told me and doesn't want to hurt me/would never cheat on me but it's part of how she is. I guess it's hard for her to be with just one person, and it never works. Not only have I never been in a relationship, but I'd want that person to care about me and just me in that way and not have to share or worry or deal with any of that stuff. Let alone the constant anxiety. She asked if that was a problem, and I said yes that it unfortunately was, so we agreed to just stay friends.
It fucking sucks. As you guys had warned, I did get attached and get my hopes up, and had been close to asking her again about the relationship thing. She added me on social media yesterday and I almost changed my relationship status, and wanted to. But I'm glad she was honest with me and though it's really depressing (why does this type of thing always happen to me? I'm not a bad person) I'm not as torn up as I could be, because I guess I guarded myself a bit. Or steeled myself for the other shoe to drop. It was too good to be true.
I am mad that she didn't tell me until now, though. I spent quite a bit on dates and invested a lot. She had also asked if I would drive her to the mall on Saturday, when we were at the kiosk and before this happened, but I honestly don't want to and didn't then because it feels like I'm constantly driving places now and I'm just borrowing a vehicle. Hopefully she won't ask again and will get her roommate to do so. I was nice and paid $45 (it came to $90 after tax or whatever) for the repair and drove her to the mall.
She messaged me today, and asked if it would be okay for us to go to the mall because she needed to get her phone fixed for work. I messaged her back hours later when I woke up, and said sure, and showered and got ready then picked her up. We went to one of the kiosks in the mall that her friend had recommended. They also have a store that I'd seen before, but I shop so little that I didn't remember the name of it and had mostly forgotten it until I saw it. It wasn't the one that came up with great reviews when I looked up the mall and phone repair, but it's what she wanted to go with and it's not my phone.
I tried to nudge her towards going to the other one or two cell repair places to see what they would offer, but she didn't. She told the guy she'd gotten a quote for $80, which was from a place an hour away, but she bent the truth a bit. He came back with $95 after talking to his boss, and said that's the professional rate and nobody else can do it for less. Then she threatened to go talk to another place (politely) and he asked how much she was looking to spend ($80), and would $85 be okay. I thought she'd accept it, but no, and that caused him to drop to $80 at which point she agreed and paid. It was pretty impressive. But I still felt that she should've gotten other opinions and quotes, because it was a mall kiosk and it felt a bit shady to me. He then turned around after we'd paid and said that it would be ready on Saturday after 2pm, which surprised both of us and made her wish she would've gone elsewhere, because she doesn't drive and had heard they fixed phones that day.
Then we walked around for a while until her boots made her feet hurt, sat down, she rested her head on my shoulders, and then after a bit we got up and went to the food court to get some food. She went and bought Greek, and I got Thai, then we met at a quiet area and ate at a booth. It went well. She asked if we could stop at the library, to get a book, and had mentioned Walmart to get Benadryl for she and her cat. So we did that and also got coffee, then went back to her place. This was 3.5 hours after I'd picked her up, I guess. We took a while at the library.
I had asked if I could come in and see her cat, and she said sure, also that she wouldn't mind cuddling. But she has to be up at 5am tomorrow to get ready and catch the bus for an appointment that's really only a 20 minute drive at 9am, so she said she couldn't stay up too late and would have to politely ask me to leave in half an hour or an hour. We cuddled and fooled around for a bit, and played with her cat and her roommate's, and I didn't leave until closer to 9. After we fooled around some however, she started getting slightly emotional and brought up how she really likes me and isn't leading me on, but always gets scared about labeling things because when she does the relationships tend to fail and she was trying not to screw this one up. I said it was okay, I was worried about screwing it up, and said it was okay. Then she told me she got in the habit of lying because her grandmother was hard on her and she had to because nothing was ever good enough, and that she has PTSD from that. Also that she sometimes lies without thinking about it then apologizes. And that she has a lot of baggage, and doesn't want to drag me down. I said it was okay -- I have issues too, also have baggage and am not perfect.
Then she brought up something that scared me. Something I guess I missed on her online dating profile. She's poly. Apparently she's tried monogamy, had thought she'd told me and doesn't want to hurt me/would never cheat on me but it's part of how she is. I guess it's hard for her to be with just one person, and it never works. Not only have I never been in a relationship, but I'd want that person to care about me and just me in that way and not have to share or worry or deal with any of that stuff. Let alone the constant anxiety. She asked if that was a problem, and I said yes that it unfortunately was, so we agreed to just stay friends.
It fucking sucks. As you guys had warned, I did get attached and get my hopes up, and had been close to asking her again about the relationship thing. She added me on social media yesterday and I almost changed my relationship status, and wanted to. But I'm glad she was honest with me and though it's really depressing (why does this type of thing always happen to me? I'm not a bad person) I'm not as torn up as I could be, because I guess I guarded myself a bit. Or steeled myself for the other shoe to drop. It was too good to be true.
I am mad that she didn't tell me until now, though. I spent quite a bit on dates and invested a lot. She had also asked if I would drive her to the mall on Saturday, when we were at the kiosk and before this happened, but I honestly don't want to and didn't then because it feels like I'm constantly driving places now and I'm just borrowing a vehicle. Hopefully she won't ask again and will get her roommate to do so. I was nice and paid $45 (it came to $90 after tax or whatever) for the repair and drove her to the mall.
Ain't ever gettin drunk with coworkers again. That's some bullshit. I'm cool with the girl, but like, we were walking back from lunch and I saw the smuggest fucking look from my coworker, someone who's told me he's got my back when we got hired together. I ain't hurt about the girl, it's the absolute distrust I feel now around everyone in the entire workplace
1. Many people work full time and find time to date, me included, so don't use it as an excuse to not date or meet people. You should use it as a positive or "selling point", that you work enough to support yourself and can afford to date.
2. Where do you live and how old are you? Give us a guideline on your area's population and your age will give us a better idea as to why tinder and other apps may not be beneficial right now.
3. In regards to tinder specifically, have you assessed assessed/scrutinised your profile and pics as much as possible? Have you had a friend or impartial third party review it for you?
4. Everyone would like a partner that likes the same things they do, but don't use it as a strict guideline. By looking for a girlfriend who's also interested in anime and games, you're restricting yourself to a minority of people. Someone who tolerates or doesn't mind your hobbies? Sure, but you don't need someone who's also an active follower of those things.
TheBeardedOne that sucks to hear, but better now than later. If you don't want to continue driving her around, talking to her or any other number of things, remember that you are in no way obligated to do so. Hope it didn't knock you around too hard, on to the next one mate :)
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So what is it? it's in her profile or not? For someone that lists all the irrelevant minute about your interactions with this girl it would surprise me that you hadn't spent a long time poring every detail in her profile before messaging her. You've way over-invested running around after her being a nice guy but you haven't actually talked, as in getting to know her. You kept repeating your virtuous "I'm not sex driven" line even when she was giving clear signs she was interested in it. Again, you avoided that topic of conversation until today. Why does this type of thing always happen to you? Because you let it happen and ignore advice.
Here's what you do now;
Do not be friends with her. Forget all about her, block delete her number and remove from social media. It will make it easier for you both to move on.
Get right back onto the dating sites and try again, no delay and no dwelling on this one minor failure.
Stop being a nice guy. Go on dates and that's it until you are steady. No helping move house, fixing broken cars or buying cat food for the girl. That's relationship stuff, not dating stuff.
Best of luck, you can do this!
Honestly, your way too negative and close minded. What have you done to actually improve yourself if your end goal is to get someone just attractive enough that likes to watch anime and play games? You need to be a much more rounded person, liking the same things is great for making guy friends but for a relationship, it's not enough. Asking for a girl that just going to sit on a sofa with you and stare at a screen isn't a great proposition. The girls that DO like that stuff like more than just that and it's the other things that builds the attraction. Stop chasing the gamer girl unicorn.
Thanks
I don't know if it's in her profile or not. I deleted my accounts and don't feel like making a new one right now. I'll have to look later, I guess, when I do create another one sometime this week.
I'd love to just get back into the dating scene. Honestly. I wish I was more in it to begin with. However, though I send out a decent amount of messages when I'm on those sites, I rarely get replies and almost never get dates. Conversations fizzle out over text, but most of all I just don't get replies. I'm not super attractive, I'm not in shape, and I don't have a lot going for me, but I am a nice guy and a good listener and a good person. It's hard to show those qualities in online dating, however, and I don't have the cojones or outgoing personality to talk to girls in public.
I'm trying, I really am, but it's depressing.
Oh sorry, I misread and thought you were asking about Introvert's posts, my mistake!
I may sound harsh here, but that's not a selling point. It's the bare minimum to be a decent person. No one is going to date you just because you act nice or listen to stuff. Why aren't you getting in shape? If you think you're not attractive, why aren't you making changes where you can? New haircut, new clothes, new attitude. If you're not outgoing enough to ask random girls out in the street, look for other venues where you can meet people. Go volunteer at an animal shelter. Don't actually go there for the sole purpose of meeting girls, go there, meet other volunteers, play with dogs, have fun. You will naturally interact with other people, some of whom might be women, and they might actually see you having fun doing something you enjoy and that will already make you more attractive than you are now.
Sorry that happened dude. Yeah, poly ain't for everyone, and it's certainly daunting in a lot of ways, even for people who are old hat at the relationship game. I try to always make a point of being as open as possible about being poly on my dating profiles so there's no confusion at all.
Tell me how you put this in action and what makes you think that women will be attracted to you for it?
Had two dates in two days.
Yesterday was with a woman a good 10 years older than me. The age range I have set up definitely doesn't expand that far but she sought me out so I figured "why not." I was just really curious about why she wanted to see someone so much younger. The date ended up being mediocre and we just didn't have a lot of common interests or any enthusiasm. I asked about her interests and got the usual "work, Netflix, my pet" list. People need to get some hobbies.
My date today was the opposite of that and was just fantastic. 2 and a half hours and it just flew by. She was smart, had similar interests, had a terrific sense of humor and I felt like there might be that spark. It felt pretty energizing. I was going to wait until tomorrow to ask about a second date, but she messaged me about half an hour after we called it a night saying we should hang out again. So I said fuck it and just asked her for the second date and got the yes. We spitballed some plans but she has to wake up early for work and I felt that was enough interaction for the night. Obviously this could all end up as nothing, but it's a promising start.
Also I finally got the smell of fish out of my sweatshirt. Had to soak it in soap overnight and then soak it in some vinegar another night and then put it through the wash, but it's scent free again.
Yesterday was with a woman a good 10 years older than me. The age range I have set up definitely doesn't expand that far but she sought me out so I figured "why not." I was just really curious about why she wanted to see someone so much younger. The date ended up being mediocre and we just didn't have a lot of common interests or any enthusiasm. I asked about her interests and got the usual "work, Netflix, my pet" list. People need to get some hobbies.
My date today was the opposite of that and was just fantastic. 2 and a half hours and it just flew by. She was smart, had similar interests, had a terrific sense of humor and I felt like there might be that spark. It felt pretty energizing. I was going to wait until tomorrow to ask about a second date, but she messaged me about half an hour after we called it a night saying we should hang out again. So I said fuck it and just asked her for the second date and got the yes. We spitballed some plans but she has to wake up early for work and I felt that was enough interaction for the night. Obviously this could all end up as nothing, but it's a promising start.
Also I finally got the smell of fish out of my sweatshirt. Had to soak it in soap overnight and then soak it in some vinegar another night and then put it through the wash, but it's scent free again.
Follow this advice on point. Block, delete burn. I think you let yourself get used in way because you weren't assertive. How the fuck do you go in multiple 'dates' with someone and not know that they are poly? Learn from this and get right back into it because you can do this!
I have severe depression and anxiety and don't leave the house a lot, since I work from home. It's not easy for me to interact with other people or talk to strangers, or be social. I honestly don't enjoy much anymore due to the depression.
Been trying to get help for 3-4 years now, but it's not working.
I may have missed it on her profile, but she had lots of chances to tell me before now. That's the frustrating part.
I thought that was a good thing to be? I've always been a good listener. I don't really know how you expect me to respond to this.
She had multiple chances to tell me, but didn't.
That is super shitty on her end. She knew what was going on. Ensure you don't be friends, it will be better trust me.
I went on a date blitz, five dates in like a week. Due to that, I've been seeing one girl a bit more seriously. She was the second date on the same day, after the doctor girl. Wasn't expecting much based on text conversations being sparse, but she's a totally different personality face-to-face. Very lively, talkative, takes the initiative, and basically acts like me in terms of taking charge. She said let's head out and go somewhere, so we went to the Tate Modern and instead of checking out exhibits just chatted on the swings for ages. That was 5 hours. She even suggested to meet up again a few days later, she booked a table at Sushisamba which is probably fanciest place I've ever eaten at. Level 38 on this skyscraper in the evening, gorgeous view of London. She taught me how to use chopsticks finally! We just click, and honestly the first time a girl is funnier than me at times. She's a qualified solicitor, enjoys her work, and very tuned into my mental health work. We can talk about very deep topics and can be honest, don't have to put up a front to make ourselves look good for appearances. We have planned multiple dates. This Saturday she said she's going to her old workplace to fix some little things, I told her I'd probably be at the Museum Of London then she asked if she could hop along and I was like sure! I said I'll go see this Russian film at the cinema and told her she'd probably be bored, she said "try me" so she seems be down for anything. I asked her if there's any movie she wouldn't see with me, she said "porn" lol. I've never met someone who's this willing to spend so much time together in such a short timespan haha. I've booked tickets to the Backyard Cinema Snow Kingdom to see Princess Bride with her (we've never seen it lol). Then the parents are going to meet each other. Hope everything works out.
I've had to let down more than a handful of girls and unmatch, most seem happy I've found someone, but a couple are still hanging on that if it doesn't work out even though we've never met lol.
Anyone ever taken a date up to The Shard or Up At The O2?
I've had to let down more than a handful of girls and unmatch, most seem happy I've found someone, but a couple are still hanging on that if it doesn't work out even though we've never met lol.
Anyone ever taken a date up to The Shard or Up At The O2?
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Yeah, I think that would be best. I mean, she had the perfect opportunity to tell me when I brought up a relationship after moving, and she said, "Is this the start of a new conversation?" I said maybe, but it's probably too early, and all she said was that we should wait and sleep together first to make sure that goes well.
Is that it? For someone who writes whole novellas about the minutest details about interactions with this girl a non answer is all you can muster? I guess you've got a selective problem with writing too much.
How are you a good listener? What are you listening too and why do you think that makes it one of your attractive points to women? Do you read a lot of women's profiles that state "I'm looking for a man that can listen"? Because I think your listing an attribute you don't have because fundamentally you don't understand what women are looking for. Listening can also be reading and even here and at the other place there are women sharing what they are looking for in dating. You didn't listen when multiple people here told you not to over - invest for example. I'll also pose that for "Being a nice guy" as well.
What I'm seeing is a guy that not reassessed his approach to women since he was a teenager and is just repeating the same pattern of behavior unsuccessfully and putting the blame on luck/her/life situation instead of self reflecting and making changes. If what you are doing is not working for you do something else.
Let's not forget that she apparently pointed out on her profile that she's poly.Is that it? For someone who writes whole novellas about the minutest details about interactions with this girl a non answer is all you can muster? I guess you've got a selective problem with writing too much.
How are you a good listener? What are you listening too and why do you think that makes it one of your attractive points to women? Do you read a lot of women's profiles that state "I'm looking for a man that can listen"? Because I think your listing an attribute you don't have because fundamentally you don't understand what women are looking for. Listening can also be reading and even here and at the other place there are women sharing what they are looking for in dating. You didn't listen when multiple people here told you not to over - invest for example. I'll also pose that for "Being a nice guy" as well.
What I'm seeing is a guy that not reassessed his approach to women since he was a teenager and is just repeating the same pattern of behavior unsuccessfully and putting the blame on luck/her/life situation instead of self reflecting and making changes. If what you are doing is not working for you do something else.
It's probably best to move on or she wants to sleep with you, so maybe a hit and quit situation lol.
I have a question.
Girl at work. One of the assistants. We went skiing with work last weekend. Saturday night all the young adults went out to a club. Me and her end up dancing late into the night. We get a few drinks. Dance more. I walk her back to the hotel. She holds onto my arm sorta like a couple.
I text her today saying I have fun last weekend would you like to get dinner or drinks next week to get to know eachother better.
She says yeah sure why not!
Was it clear that I meant this as a date?
Girl at work. One of the assistants. We went skiing with work last weekend. Saturday night all the young adults went out to a club. Me and her end up dancing late into the night. We get a few drinks. Dance more. I walk her back to the hotel. She holds onto my arm sorta like a couple.
I text her today saying I have fun last weekend would you like to get dinner or drinks next week to get to know eachother better.
She says yeah sure why not!
Was it clear that I meant this as a date?
1. Don't date coworkers
2. No it was not clear, if you want a date specifically call it a date so there is no misunderstanding.
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Bye!
Seriously, it's a fancy term for pure selfishness and emotional instability. You love someone but you want to shag around? Get out of town.
yep, i wasted a few months in 2016 because of making this mistake
shit
so how do I fix this?
Oh and another thing I find a joke about the whole poly mindset, is that they insist on having their supposed freedom, "its just who I am" stuff. But then theyre strict as fuck about other things.
Oh and in case it wasnt super obvious by now, this person used thebeardedone as a ride and company to do her errands, move her into a new place, etc. Of course she doesn't drive, because why should she....just be polyamorous and have a suite of people to do it all for you.
Exit, hard.
Oh and in case it wasnt super obvious by now, this person used thebeardedone as a ride and company to do her errands, move her into a new place, etc. Of course she doesn't drive, because why should she....just be polyamorous and have a suite of people to do it all for you.
Exit, hard.
I think they were referring to someone else. Of course yours is a date, relax.
follow up text, "Just to be clear I was asking you on a date ;)"
First, consider whether you want to date this girl or not. Are you in a position of power over her at work? If so immediately hit the brake.
If that's all good and this is what you want, just make sure to gauge her interest during the meetup. If she seems to like you, make sure to explicitly make your intentions known in a non-creepy way. If you want to pursue this, make sure she knows what you want before the evening is over.
Actually, this is much better
Really? The follow up text seems a bit needy no?
No no she is not my assisstant, she's someone else's I'm not even sure who.
Position of power I dunno. I'm a lawyer at the firm, she's someone else's assistant, I never work with her I just see her walking around sometimes. I'd say no?
So I just ran into an ex, her new bf and her best friend. The best friend was the only one to acknowledge me, but to be fair it's been a long time since we dated.
I've become a lot more in shape since that relationship whereas she has gone opposite, I think that could be the reason. (as much as that makes me sound up myself)
Real reason I'm posting is because I've been seeing a girl, on our third date she says "I can't wait to see you angry". I thought this was really weird and said that I'm a bit like Ned Flanders in that I bottle it up. She looks at me with a wtf face and says "who's Ned Flanders?" Naturally I lose my shit and question her whole existence. Turns out her whole family never watched the simpsons growing up, meanwhile I can't imagine a life without the simpsons.
Anyway the point is that she seems to have no sense of humour and any mention of the simpsons is brushed off as some peasant drivel. My instinct is telling me to bail lol.
I've become a lot more in shape since that relationship whereas she has gone opposite, I think that could be the reason. (as much as that makes me sound up myself)
Real reason I'm posting is because I've been seeing a girl, on our third date she says "I can't wait to see you angry". I thought this was really weird and said that I'm a bit like Ned Flanders in that I bottle it up. She looks at me with a wtf face and says "who's Ned Flanders?" Naturally I lose my shit and question her whole existence. Turns out her whole family never watched the simpsons growing up, meanwhile I can't imagine a life without the simpsons.
Anyway the point is that she seems to have no sense of humour and any mention of the simpsons is brushed off as some peasant drivel. My instinct is telling me to bail lol.
Odd statement. If every adult party is happy with poly then why not? Not everyone has to fit into a the same box.