DatingEra - This isn't like one of your animes

Gotdatmoney · Feb 10, 2018

SuperiorTrashTalk said:
I mean, at the end of the day you have your own set of standards. Even people who are upset about not having opportunities don't mean they would literally go for any person who would approach them. Really the crux of my point here is just that you can make that choice. No reason to force it and you aren't a weirdo for not doing it.

I think you're taking Bacon's statement a little too literally. All he is saying and by extension all I am saying is "its not a big deal fuck it, just roll with it sometimes broskis". I don't think anyone really cares deeply if people do otherwise.

I don't really think it's overblowing anything. It's kind of just the nature of a debate on the internet that we have these long back and forth posts but in practice this sort of thing wouldn't even be on your mind for the rest of the night.

Fam, I hope its understood its just discussion haha. I dont think anyone is actually heated :P

At least it shouldn't be. There's plenty of people out there that it's not a big deal whether you spend the $5 or keep it. Again my only issue was the insistence that you had to do things one way or you were wrong.

I've turned down girls wanting drinks before. It was less the idea you shouldnt and more the idea that the money and the precedent are bad.

Mr Swine · Feb 10, 2018

Well I tried to do a rateme on reddit but I somewhat failed on one of the rules and some of the pics I put up on imgur got a whooping 300 downvotes and I got called ugly, retard and whatnot. Yeah that makes my self esteem crash and burn...

Yeah I get it, i'm ugly but people around me say otherwise

TheBeardedOne · Feb 10, 2018

Mr Swine said:
Well I tried to do a rateme on reddit but I somewhat failed on one of the rules and some of the pics I put up on imgur got a whooping 300 downvotes and I got called ugly, retard and whatnot. Yeah that makes my self esteem crash and burn...

Yeah I get it, i'm ugly but people around me say otherwise

Sorry to hear. At least you had the courage to do so.

Solid Shake · Feb 10, 2018

Mr Swine said:
Well I tried to do a rateme on reddit but I somewhat failed on one of the rules and some of the pics I put up on imgur got a whooping 300 downvotes and I got called ugly, retard and whatnot. Yeah that makes my self esteem crash and burn...

Yeah I get it, i'm ugly but people around me say otherwise

Dude don't feel bad imgur is filled with assholes that do that. The same happened to me, but it didn't get to 300 but I know exactly what you mean. Don't think anything of it, it's imgur, the only thing they care about is memes.

Deleted member 33533 · Feb 10, 2018

Gotdatmoney said:
Fam, I hope its understood its just discussion haha. I dont think anyone is actually heated :P

Yeah I didn't mean to say it was heated by saying "debate" haha. I just meant that I wrote a lot but in practice it's not as drawn out haha

I guess I could have taken Bacon's post too literally. Maybe he was being sarcastic.

Deleted member 198 · Feb 10, 2018

Oh cool completely disappearing after meeting is always awesome. 10/10 feeling. Ugh.

Alwayscrazybacon · Feb 10, 2018

SuperiorTrashTalk said:
I guess I could have taken Bacon's post too literally. Maybe he was being sarcastic.

I wasnt.

Alwayscrazybacon · Feb 10, 2018

Magwik said:
Oh cool completely disappearing after meeting is always awesome. 10/10 feeling. Ugh.

You got ghosted, its common now so dont dwell on it too much. Onto the next!

ryutaro's mama · Feb 10, 2018

Alwayscrazybacon said:
Cost of a drink is a small price to pay if a girl is interested in you. Why can't any of you fuckers just be normal?

Usually you have solid advice for people here but this is a rare miss.

Alwayscrazybacon · Feb 10, 2018

Gotdatmoney said:
I kind of agree with Bacon here. Like, a ~$5 drink isnt gonna make or break you bros. Is it a lil obnoxious to ask a random to buy you a drink? Yes. Can you transform it into a positive? Yes.

Be a little witty and playful and you have a conversation out of it. You can tell when you're being used pretty easy.

For example I went to a bar and was talking to a girl and it was going fine. Her super drunk friend comes and goes

"Its my birthday. You should buy me a drink."
I reply: "I dunno, if it was your birthday where is your birthday girl ribbon? How can I be sure?"
Her: "They ran out!! I swear its my bday!!"
Her friend: "Its true!!!"
Me: "You sound convincing and yall seem pretty nice but I dunno. Do you have a name to go along with this so called birthday"
"Oh I'm ________!!!"

From there the conversation had already become friendly enough to where I didn't even really need to buy the drink. But I did because it was not a big deal. And I got that girls number in the end.

If I had waved her off I would have got no where.

That's like 1 of 3 times I bought a girl a drink based on her asking. Other times I pull something like, "you know what would be hot? If you bought me a drink instead. So I know its real"

And I've gotten a few drinks outta that as well.

Like sometimes you gotta roll the dice fellas. Its 5 bucks. You dont just "give" it away. You make em work for it because it shows you arent a push over but you also arent so uptight when the goal is a night out.

Obviously this is what I mean put in as much detail as could be.

ryutaro's mama · Feb 10, 2018

I have no idea where drinks in a club are $5. Usually it's upwards from around $9, depending on what is ordered.

Alwayscrazybacon · Feb 10, 2018

ryutaro's mama said:
I have no idea where drinks in a club are $5. Usually it's upwards from around $9, depending on what is ordered.

Yeah, I get what you are saying if they are ordering the most expensive drinks on the menu. But is the whole discussion undermined by an additional $4?

HammerFace · Feb 10, 2018

Big_Blue said:
Really dude?? You're a sucker if you think she's really interested in you after asking that.

Why do you have to be a sucker? Not everyone is out to get you man. Turn it into a conversation and meet someone. Obviously whether you buy one or not is up to your discretion but he's not wrong, its a way to start up something with someone that has an interest in you.

ryutaro's mama · Feb 10, 2018

Alwayscrazybacon said:
Yeah, I get what you are saying if they are ordering the most expensive drinks on the menu. But is the whole discussion undermined by an additional $4?

That shit can add up over a night. I think I follow what you are saying but I also agree that there are other ways to spark a conversation and get a number that doesn't involve buying a drink when asked.

I have bought drinks in the process of talking to someone but someone asking me to by them a drink cause...tee hee?

Chemistry has and does flow without that.

Naw. I have sisters and female friends. I know the game.

Krauser Kat · Feb 10, 2018

Magwik said:
Oh cool completely disappearing after meeting is always awesome. 10/10 feeling. Ugh.

Would you like this answer? or if she told you she didnt like your nose, or doenst think you are compatible.
rule number 1 of dating to me at least. dont take 1st dates personally.
enjoy learning about another person and have fun. dating and hanging with people should always be fun.
you are literally trying to make a new friend that after consent will let you put your penis inside them or let them inside you. at the worst you get to hone your ability to tell that one story you love to tell or how you expose your love for this one movie or this social issue. Its totally cool to have feelings from the first date. Its not love its infatuation but its good, and also good to let it go.

unless someone literally is like "your a dick and fat slob" if they dont choose you its cool, you are two people that didnt work out. You are still awesome. They are less cool for not picking you but also still good people.

Congrats on the date though. You got this. Keep going.

Gotdatmoney · Feb 10, 2018

Alwayscrazybacon said:
Obviously this is what I mean put in as much detail as could be.

I gotchu fam :)

ryutaro's mama said:
I have no idea where drinks in a club are $5. Usually it's upwards from around $9, depending on what is ordered.

I mean depends on location. I'm Canadian. In Toronto, drinks will run you $9-$11 but where I live (bout an hour and a bit outside of Toronto) its like $5-$6. Canada and America are roughly the same in that regard where the big cities cost more (iee double) than the suburbs.

Alwayscrazybacon said:
Yeah, I get what you are saying if they are ordering the most expensive drinks on the menu. But is the whole discussion undermined by an additional $4?

Pretty much, it's not like its gonna break the bank.

ryutaro's mama said:
That shit can add up over a night. I think I follow what you are saying but I also agree that there are other ways to spark a conversation and get a number that doesn't involve buying a drink when asked.

No one was saying otherwise.

I have bought drinks in the process of talking to someone but someone asking me to by them a drink cause...tee hee?

Chemistry has and does flow without that.

Naw. I have sisters and female friends. I know the game.

I had a friend who always use to be like "Gotdatmoney, buy me a drink". And the first couple times I did cause it was my friend. One night though I was like "yo, you always ask me to buy you a drink. How bout you buy me a fucking drink for once?". And she did. . . the next 4 times we went out in fact. The key is not to be a push over. People take advantage of that.

SuperiorTrashTalk said:
Yeah I didn't mean to say it was heated by saying "debate" haha. I just meant that I wrote a lot but in practice it's not as drawn out haha

I guess I could have taken Bacon's post too literally. Maybe he was being sarcastic.

I gotchu. Though he def was not being sarcastic. He just saying its not like, worthy of deep analysis.

Avixph · Feb 10, 2018

Beren said:
I think I have gotten the most dates out of Coffee Meets Bagel.

I've tried that one, but had little luck getting a date.
Anymore dating app suggestions? Or am I better off dating a co-worker?

Deleted member 198 · Feb 10, 2018

Krauser Kat said:
Would you like this answer? or if she told you she didnt like your nose, or doenst think you are compatible.
rule number 1 of dating to me at least. dont take 1st dates personally.
enjoy learning about another person and have fun. dating and hanging with people should always be fun.
you are literally trying to make a new friend that after consent will let you put your penis inside them or let them inside you. at the worst you get to hone your ability to tell that one story you love to tell or how you expose your love for this one movie or this social issue. Its totally cool to have feelings from the first date. Its not love its infatuation but its good, and also good to let it go.

unless someone literally is like "your a dick and fat slob" if they dont choose you its cool, you are two people that didnt work out. You are still awesome. They are less cool for not picking you but also still good people.

Congrats on the date though. You got this. Keep going.

Oh no I definitely understand. But when you spend two weeks of non stop flirting, do it in person, make future plans, then disappear, is when it gets personal to me.

Addie · Feb 10, 2018

Magwik said:
Oh no I definitely understand. But when you spend two weeks of non stop flirting, do it in person, make future plans, then disappear, is when it gets personal to me.

This is why you shouldn't waste two weeks of time non-stop flirting with someone you haven't met yet.

The first date in online dating isn't a first date. It's simply a chemistry test. Of course, it can morph into a first "date" during the outing.

Also, don't take it personally. You guys didn't click as well as you thought you did, there was someone else, or -- who knows; it could be any reason whatsoever. Onto the next.

Addie · Feb 10, 2018

CreepingFear said:
I just want to state that despite a lot of people stating that OKC and Tinder premium services weren't worth it, I tried it out this month for the hell out of it. They were right, it isn't really worth it. It was fun though to have the option for setting different locations. I set mine to Chicago for when I move back in a few years.

Nah, OKC premium service is absolutely worth it. Being able to see who likes you means you've got a curated list of people you can like back. Granted, of the thousand girls that liked me, I was interested in perhaps a dozen or so; but in my case, it was a guaranteed date if I wanted. But that's because I don't "like" other profiles. In my mind, the $15-20/month is perfectly worth saving me time, because I don't want to spend hours on dating apps.

I just wanna look at a curated list that I know I can, with near-100% certainty, turn into meetups.

Subpar Scrub · Feb 10, 2018

Alwayscrazybacon said:
You don't realise that your whole position on being "used" is worryingly nice guy that feels he's owed something.

I didn't get this impression at all, tbh.

Avixph said:
I've tried that one, but had little luck getting a date.
Anymore dating app suggestions? Or am I better off dating a co-worker?

Try not to date co-workers unless you have no power over them and they work in a totally different environment to you, so that you won't have issues if it doesn't end amicably.

OKC, Tinder, Bumble, POF and CMB are the bigger ones, but each one has a differing level of activity depending on your age and location.

Avixph · Feb 10, 2018

Subpar Scrub said:
Try not to date co-workers unless you have no power over them and they work in a totally different environment to you, so that you won't have issues if it doesn't end amicably.

What if I'm only an associate and work at a large place?

Subpar Scrub said:
OKC, Tinder, Bumble, POF and CMB are the bigger ones, but each one has a differing level of activity depending on your age and location.

Thanks.

Messofanego · Feb 10, 2018

Avixph said:
I've tried that one, but had little luck getting a date.
Anymore dating app suggestions? Or am I better off dating a co-worker?

Maybe your profile needs sprucing up? Better pictures?

Avixph · Feb 10, 2018

Messofanego said:
Maybe your profile needs sprucing up? Better pictures?

Oh that could be it since I dont take a lot of photos.

Subpar Scrub · Feb 10, 2018

Avixph said:
What if I'm only an associate and work at a large place?

As I mentioned, if you don't directly work with them daily and you don't work in a position of direct power over them, I don't see the issue at all. Even if you do, you can still ask them out, there's just a bigger risk of issues in the future.

Magwik said:
Oh no I definitely understand. But when you spend two weeks of non stop flirting, do it in person, make future plans, then disappear, is when it gets personal to me.

Don't take it personally. Could be dozens of different reasons why they ghost, one of the main ones being that guys sometimes react with vitriolic attacks or threats when they're rejected, so it's easier and safer to just hope they get the message by ghosting.

Avixph said:
Oh that could be it since I dont take a lot of photos.

Yeah, this is a big one for many of us (myself included!) when I get new photos for my dating profile, I like the idea of making a day/weekend of it. Head out to your favourite spots and take some pics, changing into some different clothes each time. Dress up in some nice clothes and head out for a drink or dinner with friends. Take one of you doing a hobby. Hang out with friends, get some photos with them to show you're social and also have them take some of you. If you feel comfortable, specify that it's for a dating profile, then they can grab your best angles, look for good lighting etc.

hardcastlemccormick · Feb 10, 2018

Subpar Scrub said:
Yeah, this is a big one for many of us (myself included!) when I get new photos for my dating profile, I like the idea of making a day/weekend of it. Head out to your favourite spots and take some pics, changing into some different clothes each time. Dress up in some nice clothes and head out for a drink or dinner with friends. Take one of you doing a hobby. Hang out with friends, get some photos with them to show you're social and also have them take some of you. If you feel comfortable, specify that it's for a dating profile, then they can grab your best angles, look for good lighting etc.

Great advice. I lost a bunch of pictures so I'll need to start taking some more again.

Alwayscrazybacon · Feb 10, 2018

Subpar Scrub said:
changing into some different clothes each time.

This is so important, I've seen so many women's profiles where they have lots of pictures all taken in the same place at the same time and the only difference is the pose or angle. Nothing wrong with a days photoshoot, just make sure you mix it up.

Avixph · Feb 10, 2018

Subpar Scrub said:
As I mentioned, if you don't directly work with them daily and you don't work in a position of direct power over them, I don't see the issue at all. Even if you do, you can still ask them out, there's just a bigger risk of issues in the future.
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Yeah, this is a big one for many of us (myself included!) when I get new photos for my dating profile, I like the idea of making a day/weekend of it. Head out to your favourite spots and take some pics, changing into some different clothes each time. Dress up in some nice clothes and head out for a drink or dinner with friends. Take one of you doing a hobby. Hang out with friends, get some photos with them to show you're social and also have them take some of you. If you feel comfortable, specify that it's for a dating profile, then they can grab your best angles, look for good lighting etc.

Thanks for the advice.

Quantum Leap · Feb 10, 2018

I think I'm probably going to split with my girlfriend tomorrow (she wants to talk). She keeps bringing up the fact that I'm too introverted and "we don't really talk". This is the last time I date an extreme extrovert hahaha. It's a shame because we have great sexual chemistry.

Subpar Scrub · Feb 10, 2018

Sorry to hear that Jzeero, how long were you guys together?

Quantum Leap · Feb 10, 2018

Only 4 months so it's no biggie.

Pet · Feb 10, 2018

Stop posting in rateme. It's fucking toxic.

Also, knowing your score doesn't do anything at all to help you, and is perhaps one of the most unattractive things a person can do imho.

Sorry, just popped in because seriously it SCREAMS insecurity and no one like that except predators.

Subpar Scrub · Feb 11, 2018

Yeesh, just googled rateme and the second I saw it was a reddit thing, I instantly knew it was going to be garbage. You have people on there like "Constructive criticism please!" and the responses aren't fashion advice, but rather "ew you have a huge forehead" and "your facial proportions are 3/10."

Like, they can't reasonably fix that you dickheads. Entire thing is a cesspool of "perfect proportions, skin tone and features". eww.

Messofanego · Feb 11, 2018

You know exactly what rateme is all about when one of our posters here is called a "retard" after doing it.

kristoffer · Feb 11, 2018

Did OKC fall off a fucking cliff in the past two years? Holy shit.

Quantum Leap · Feb 11, 2018

kristoffer said:
Did OKC fall off a fucking cliff in the past two years? Holy shit.

Yep. Especially the past few months. I'm really not excited to go back.

zon · Feb 11, 2018

I got a message on tinder while I was asleep. When I tried to open it the app just kept loading and nothing happened, I shut it down and start it up again but now there's no message at all in the 'matches' section. Can people delete messages they send or is tinder really buggy?

kristoffer · Feb 11, 2018

zon said:
I got a message on tinder while I was asleep. When I tried to open it the app just kept loading and nothing happened, I shut it down and start it up again but now there's no message at all in the 'matches' section. Can people delete messages they send or is tinder really buggy?

They decided to unmatch you.

hydrophilic attack · Feb 11, 2018

zon said:
I got a message on tinder while I was asleep. When I tried to open it the app just kept loading and nothing happened, I shut it down and start it up again but now there's no message at all in the 'matches' section. Can people delete messages they send or is tinder really buggy?

sounds like you caught the attention of a bot

zon · Feb 11, 2018

kristoffer said:
They decided to unmatch you.

hydrophilic attack said:
sounds like you caught the attention of a bot

Or it's possible she deleted her profile. Heh, this was why I asked here, I couldn't find a definite answer when I searched. Thanks for the replies though.

SuperBanana · Feb 11, 2018

So I've been in a pretty big rut dating wise for the past year. I've been using tinder and had 3 matches that seemed to go really well, we connected, had a nice first date, but after the first or second date it failed. I felt like I was doing something I wasn't aware of that scared them off by the sudden disinterest and it was really getting me down. I was kinda feeling ugly and undatable. I've been pretty depressed the last year too. So, I matched with a girl a few weeks ago who's a fair bit younger than me but she was cute and seemed nice. We couldn't meet because both her and I were away but both of us were back home this week. I was actually going to give up and stop messaging because she didn't seem overly interested and my own dumb brain telling me it'll screw it up anyway. I decided fuck it and I invited her for a drink last night and she said yes. I went with zero expectations and kinda felt moody and anxious going there.

She shows up in a short skirt and a low cut top so that seemed pretty good to start with and she looks even better in person. We go to a cocktail bar that I picked(which ended up costing me over $100 for 4 drinks rip my wallet) and chat for a couple hours, she seems really easy to talk to and we trade travel stories and just anything we randomly think of. Even a few more serious topics which can be dangerous on a date but it went fine. Suddenly she asks if I want to go back to her place. Of course I say yes. We ended up having sex all night and she...well, lets say she has some skills. Jesus christ. I have no idea how she learned some of those techniques but my fucking god. I ended up going to work in the morning with no sleep but it was definitely worth it. It was a successful date and she's even up for going out again! I hope my brain doesn't fuck this one up.

zon said:
I got a message on tinder while I was asleep. When I tried to open it the app just kept loading and nothing happened, I shut it down and start it up again but now there's no message at all in the 'matches' section. Can people delete messages they send or is tinder really buggy?

Log out and log back in. It fixed it for me. Otherwise, it could be a bot who unmatches after a short time.

Gekkouga · Feb 11, 2018

Hey guys It's me again, I'm still planning this date with the girl I'm interested in (friday) but still don't know where I should take her to, I was thinking about going to the movies, good idea ?

Messofanego · Feb 11, 2018

Gekkouga said:
Hey guys It's me again, I'm still planning this date with the girl I'm interested in (friday) but still don't know where I should take her to, I was thinking about going to the movies, good idea ?

The cinema is a bad place for a first date, spending 2 hours in the dark where you're not allowed to chat and not pay attention to each other. What about a walk in the park or the city, chat in a cafe, do some activity?

Gekkouga · Feb 11, 2018

Messofanego said:
The cinema is a bad place for a first date, spending 2 hours in the dark where you're not allowed to chat and not pay attention to each other. What about a walk in the park or the city, chat in a cafe, do some activity?

True, but I think a walk in the park at this time of the year is a little bit too chilly but a cafe might be a better idea, thanks !

CreepingFear · Feb 11, 2018

Addie said:
Nah, OKC premium service is absolutely worth it. Being able to see who likes you means you've got a curated list of people you can like back. Granted, of the thousand girls that liked me, I was interested in perhaps a dozen or so; but in my case, it was a guaranteed date if I wanted. But that's because I don't "like" other profiles. In my mind, the $15-20/month is perfectly worth saving me time, because I don't want to spend hours on dating apps.

I just wanna look at a curated list that I know I can, with near-100% certainty, turn into meetups.

I discovered a lot of spiritual/religious women like me. I don't know why. I guess I have a conservative look to me, even though politically I am a fucking bleeding heart liberal commie.

Solid Shake · Feb 11, 2018

SuperBanana said:
So I've been in a pretty big rut dating wise for the past year. I've been using tinder and had 3 matches that seemed to go really well, we connected, had a nice first date, but after the first or second date it failed. I felt like I was doing something I wasn't aware of that scared them off by the sudden disinterest and it was really getting me down. I was kinda feeling ugly and undatable. I've been pretty depressed the last year too. So, I matched with a girl a few weeks ago who's a fair bit younger than me but she was cute and seemed nice. We couldn't meet because both her and I were away but both of us were back home this week. I was actually going to give up and stop messaging because she didn't seem overly interested and my own dumb brain telling me it'll screw it up anyway. I decided fuck it and I invited her for a drink last night and she said yes. I went with zero expectations and kinda felt moody and anxious going there.

She shows up in a short skirt and a low cut top so that seemed pretty good to start with and she looks even better in person. We go to a cocktail bar that I picked(which ended up costing me over $100 for 4 drinks rip my wallet) and chat for a couple hours, she seems really easy to talk to and we trade travel stories and just anything we randomly think of. Even a few more serious topics which can be dangerous on a date but it went fine. Suddenly she asks if I want to go back to her place. Of course I say yes. We ended up having sex all night and she...well, lets say she has some skills. Jesus christ. I have no idea how she learned some of those techniques but my fucking god. I ended up going to work in the morning with no sleep but it was definitely worth it. It was a successful date and she's even up for going out again! I hope my brain doesn't fuck this one up.

Log out and log back in. It fixed it for me. Otherwise, it could be a bot who unmatches after a short time.

High. Five. Dude. Sorry your wallet had to suffer, but I hope it was worth it :)

Pet said:
Stop posting in rateme. It's fucking toxic.

Also, knowing your score doesn't do anything at all to help you, and is perhaps one of the most unattractive things a person can do imho.

Sorry, just popped in because seriously it SCREAMS insecurity and no one like that except predators.

It's not all to do with scores, for example I did it because 1 (no one really ever compliments me so I have no idea if I'm attractive or not in other peoples eyes)

2, advice, haircut, working out, grow facial hair, etc.

I didn't do it for a rating, I did it for advice. It's why I also posted it here too, I could care less about a number but always appreciate advice.

Messofanego said:
You know exactly what rateme is all about when one of our posters here is called a "retard" after doing it.

I don't think someone on r/rateme called him a retard, I think he uploaded the pictures on Imgur to be able to share them with the people on r/rateme and accidently kept the uploaded images as public on Imgur and they insulted him. That's an Imgur problem of assholes, not a Reddit problem.

Shal · Feb 11, 2018

Jzeero said:
I think I'm probably going to split with my girlfriend tomorrow (she wants to talk). She keeps bringing up the fact that I'm too introverted and "we don't really talk". This is the last time I date an extreme extrovert hahaha. It's a shame because we have great sexual chemistry.

One of the problems that led to my past break up was the same as yours, I get you man ><, we had great chemistry as well besides that and a few other things.

SuperBanana said:
So I've been in a pretty big rut dating wise for the past year. I've been using tinder and had 3 matches that seemed to go really well, we connected, had a nice first date, but after the first or second date it failed. I felt like I was doing something I wasn't aware of that scared them off by the sudden disinterest and it was really getting me down. I was kinda feeling ugly and undatable. I've been pretty depressed the last year too. So, I matched with a girl a few weeks ago who's a fair bit younger than me but she was cute and seemed nice. We couldn't meet because both her and I were away but both of us were back home this week. I was actually going to give up and stop messaging because she didn't seem overly interested and my own dumb brain telling me it'll screw it up anyway. I decided fuck it and I invited her for a drink last night and she said yes. I went with zero expectations and kinda felt moody and anxious going there.

She shows up in a short skirt and a low cut top so that seemed pretty good to start with and she looks even better in person. We go to a cocktail bar that I picked(which ended up costing me over $100 for 4 drinks rip my wallet) and chat for a couple hours, she seems really easy to talk to and we trade travel stories and just anything we randomly think of. Even a few more serious topics which can be dangerous on a date but it went fine. Suddenly she asks if I want to go back to her place. Of course I say yes. We ended up having sex all night and she...well, lets say she has some skills. Jesus christ. I have no idea how she learned some of those techniques but my fucking god. I ended up going to work in the morning with no sleep but it was definitely worth it. It was a successful date and she's even up for going out again! I hope my brain doesn't fuck this one up.

Congrats :)

Solid Shake · Feb 11, 2018

Jzeero said:
I think I'm probably going to split with my girlfriend tomorrow (she wants to talk). She keeps bringing up the fact that I'm too introverted and "we don't really talk". This is the last time I date an extreme extrovert hahaha. It's a shame because we have great sexual chemistry.

That sucks man. I was pretty much in the same position but after we broke up it kind of reversed and I was wanting to go out way more afterwards. I regret being so introverted when I was with my ex, best of luck man.

Mezentine · Feb 11, 2018

I have the most maddening problem of being able to get a lot of first dates that seemingly go very well, including ending up in bed together (although not having sex usually) maybe 30% of the time, and then having things go absolutely nowhere with no followup. I try to be social, text them, ask about things and suggest possible things we could do again without being too pushy, but inevitably within 3-5 days before we have a chance to do something again I can tell they're not interested and I just stop following up.

Pet · Feb 11, 2018

foxxsoxx said:
It's not all to do with scores, for example I did it because 1 (no one really ever compliments me so I have no idea if I'm attractive or not in other peoples eyes)

2, advice, haircut, working out, grow facial hair, etc.

I didn't do it for a rating, I did it for advice. It's why I also posted it here too, I could care less about a number but always appreciate advice.

rateme is a bunch of guys rating other guys. #2 is purely subjective or common sense. Some chicks dig long hair. Some chicks dig beards. Working out makes literally everyone more attractive. Grooming yourself so you look like you know what personal hygiene is, should not come as a surprise to anyone over 16.

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