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REgals [Women of Era] |OT| Episode I: The Female Menace
- Thread starter weemadarthur
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I should be productive today but I think I'll chill and play games hehe
My mom just sent me a text remarking about how old I'm getting with like five different emojis lol she's adorable
My mom just sent me a text remarking about how old I'm getting with like five different emojis lol she's adorable
Parents can be so funny with how they text. My dad ends every other sentence with a smiley face, and he always has to get the last word in even if that last word is just another smiley.
Are you doing anything fun for your birthday?
Going out to a Japanese grill tonight and getting some sushi and tempura. :D Other than that I'm gonna relax at home and be sad over the fact that my new computer desk which was supposed to arrive yesterday has been pushed back to Monday.
Damn, sorry about the desk. Japanese grill sounds delicious though. I hope you have a good day :)
This song from the m8 march in Bilbao is beautiful, I wanted to share it:
This is a close translation:
To the strike
To strike companion, do not go to work
Leave the saucepan, the tool, the keyboard and the ipad
To strike ten, to strike a hundred, to strike mother see you too
To strike a hundred, to strike a thousand, I for them mother and them for me.
Against the macho state we are going to rise up,
Let all women go on general strike
To strike ten, to strike one hundred, the postwoman says its coming too.
To strike a hundred, to strike a thousand, all to strike will go.
They have taken my neighbor, in one more roundup,
And for not having papers there they want to deport her.
To strike ten, to strike one hundred, This time we want all the cake
To strike a hundred, to strike a thousand, all to strike will go.
We work precariously without contract and healthcare
And the work in the house is never shared.
To strike ten, to strike a hundred, this time dinner I will not do.
To strike a hundred, to strike a thousand, all to strike will go.
They privatize teaching, we can not pay
But we never appeared in the subjects to be studied.
To strike ten, to strike one hundred, in history we will appear.
To strike a hundred, to strike a thousand, all to strike will go.
To strike ten, strike one hundred, to strike mother see you too.
To strike a hundred, to strike a thousand, I for them mother and them for me.
I for them mother and them for me.
I for them mother and they for
I for them mother and they for
I for them mother and them for me.
This is a close translation:
To the strike
To strike companion, do not go to work
Leave the saucepan, the tool, the keyboard and the ipad
To strike ten, to strike a hundred, to strike mother see you too
To strike a hundred, to strike a thousand, I for them mother and them for me.
Against the macho state we are going to rise up,
Let all women go on general strike
To strike ten, to strike one hundred, the postwoman says its coming too.
To strike a hundred, to strike a thousand, all to strike will go.
They have taken my neighbor, in one more roundup,
And for not having papers there they want to deport her.
To strike ten, to strike one hundred, This time we want all the cake
To strike a hundred, to strike a thousand, all to strike will go.
We work precariously without contract and healthcare
And the work in the house is never shared.
To strike ten, to strike a hundred, this time dinner I will not do.
To strike a hundred, to strike a thousand, all to strike will go.
They privatize teaching, we can not pay
But we never appeared in the subjects to be studied.
To strike ten, to strike one hundred, in history we will appear.
To strike a hundred, to strike a thousand, all to strike will go.
To strike ten, strike one hundred, to strike mother see you too.
To strike a hundred, to strike a thousand, I for them mother and them for me.
I for them mother and them for me.
I for them mother and they for
I for them mother and they for
I for them mother and them for me.
Thank you for sharing :)
This was very beautiful and emotional to watch.
My mom is so frustrating to talk to sometimes. She doesn't realize the sexist/ "traditional" views she hold was/is based on social constructs with men as the dominant group.
"We are all equal, we just have different roles!!!"
I'm just going to avoid talking with her about such subjects.
"We are all equal, we just have different roles!!!"
I'm just going to avoid talking with her about such subjects.
Sometimes, I run into this too, but I don't become upset with my mom.
That's the way she grew up. She's come to terms with it and allowed her daughters, me included, to think differently.
If my mom really believed in a fully male dominated society, I probably would be raised in an entirely different way.
Since you're able to ask questions and recognize what's "traditional," I'm sure your mom did the best she could with what she was given as well.
You're absolutely right. Though unlike you, sometimes I do get upset with my mother even if I do realize her views are based on her upbringing. That's something I need and want to work on.
My only wish that she would view my differences as acceptable or even just respect them, even if my decisions doesn't turn out ideal; instead of always turning into "I told you so's."
I think it's okay to become upset with your mom.
- I know there's been times where I was absolutely furious with mine. I know she's been pretty upset with me too.
But, when it boils down, love and respect remain.
Respect is both ways. I'd advise to listen to your mom. Have a heart-to-heart. Let her say somethings she's been bottling up.
Try to see her side and, hopefully, she'll pay the same respect to you.
- I know there's been times where I was absolutely furious with mine. I know she's been pretty upset with me too.
But, when it boils down, love and respect remain.
Respect is both ways. I'd advise to listen to your mom. Have a heart-to-heart. Let her say somethings she's been bottling up.
Try to see her side and, hopefully, she'll pay the same respect to you.
My mother can say some odd sexist things now and again, I remember one time she said that women shouldn't play football (soccer) and I just had to laugh. She definitely grew up in a very different time.
Browsing hangouts and found this and that OT... is this eShakti site for real? Holy shit. Holy shit. Total game changer for me if the customizations are well done. I'll probably just go ahead and order one skirt for a trial run, but anyone else have more info/reviews of their work? Quality/sizing tips?
Wait, if you playing (what I'm assuming is) Final Fantasy means you're hardcore, would that make him NOT hardcore since he admitted he's never played one?
Looks like he flopped his own test!
Looks like he flopped his own test!
If I'd known it was a test, I probably would've haha. I was trying to answer with some more well-known series to be friendly/find some possible common ground, so I was kind of like "......ok."
I've had too many otherwise nice-seeming guys say this to me... Even guys I've known for a while in real life. Most of the time it's some serious foot in mouth, but it's so OBNOXIOUS.
What's probably the worst for me is when I'm playing a game and one of my guy friends loves to "play through" me. Judging everything I do, if I don't do something he would do it's "Why did/didn't you do that?" "Go over there!" it's like my gosh just let me play the freaking game... haha At least he's not the toxic snobby type that scoffs as easier difficulties and stuff.
Sharing with my friends that I play videogames I something that I usually never do. Every time I share that, it feels they asked me to prove it.
That's why outside that internet I only talk about it with my nephews or brother.
That's why outside that internet I only talk about it with my nephews or brother.
A lot of customers ask if I play games and I always answer with Dwarf Fortress because it's true and nobody ever knows what it is.
I was hanging out with people one night in college and of course someone had an N64. So one of my friends was playing Ocarina of Time and our male friend kept telling her what to do. She eventually put the controller down and told him she'd been playing the game since she was a kid and he needed to quit it. She doesn't usually put her foot down like that, so I was proud of her.
Be the real gatekeeper! But really, usually I'm more "hardcore" in a lot of ways, which only annoys me more when I'm tested... Like I'm not judging how much of a ~real gamer~ you are when you only play Smash with your friends on the weekend, so please don't do it to me.
Be the real gatekeeper! But really, usually I'm more "hardcore" in a lot of ways, which only annoys me more when I'm tested... Like I'm not judging how much of a ~real gamer~ you are when you only play Smash with your friends on the weekend, so please don't do it to me.
Heh, it really stops the conversation when the customer is one of the frat boys from the nearby college who only plays Overwatch or PUBG or whatever.
Only one time did someone ask me to explain what the game was and all the other times they just kinda... don't know how to process it. I guess they are trying to think if they heard of it ever because they usually stop talking. :P
One day I will find someone in the wild who has played it and then we can swap stories :D
I thought I knew what you were talking about and quickly checked my steam wish list but nope I was thinking of DwarfCorp.
My SO will sometimes"guide" me through games I generally start by giving him a glare, sometimes he can't take a hint, and I will then lose it and tell him to stfu. He loves when I game but sometimes he can be annoying with that. At least he never does it with Splatoon, but then I'm probably better than him at it, we're at least evenly matched.
My SO will sometimes"guide" me through games I generally start by giving him a glare, sometimes he can't take a hint, and I will then lose it and tell him to stfu. He loves when I game but sometimes he can be annoying with that. At least he never does it with Splatoon, but then I'm probably better than him at it, we're at least evenly matched.
When I was in college there were some boys I tutored every now and again because the professor was a bit esoteric. The first time they stopped by my dorm room I was playing Spyro on PSN. They were so impressed that I was playing video games, let alone a classic one, and I'm like you assholes! I'm literally doing your computer science homework for you. Give me some credit.
Sorry I'm coming here to vent, there aren't many places I can do that, so...
You ever work on a team with a guy who not only dismisses every single one of your opinions and ideas, but completely ignores all of your contributions? I work in tech so guys being dismissive of me before I've even said a word is nothing new, but this is a whole new level of nonsense. I don't even know what to say or do at this point because it's gotten so ridiculous. At one point at the start he told the other guy on the team it was just the two of them in this together. I should have taken that as a sign.
You ever work on a team with a guy who not only dismisses every single one of your opinions and ideas, but completely ignores all of your contributions? I work in tech so guys being dismissive of me before I've even said a word is nothing new, but this is a whole new level of nonsense. I don't even know what to say or do at this point because it's gotten so ridiculous. At one point at the start he told the other guy on the team it was just the two of them in this together. I should have taken that as a sign.
Some guys are just raised stupid. =)
Could you tell us a bit more about this guy?
Does he just ignore you or does he have the habit of ignoring all women?
When you look at his desk, does he have decorations that could be considered demeaning?
(Trying to establish a history of narrow-mindedness.)
What about the other team member?
How does he react to you?
Could you tell us a bit more about this guy?
Does he just ignore you or does he have the habit of ignoring all women?
When you look at his desk, does he have decorations that could be considered demeaning?
(Trying to establish a history of narrow-mindedness.)
What about the other team member?
How does he react to you?
Ugh, sorry you're dealing with this. I've definitely had to deal with men like this. I think the worst part is you can't really do much of anything, because he's just a sexist ass and won't take you seriously. If I were you, I'd try to be as assertive as possible and stop caring what he thinks of you. Don't be afraid to talk over him if he interrupts.
I had honestly never even met him before being assigned to this team, so I don't know about his history. Have never seen him talk with other women, and I don't see him much outside of meetings (that he rarely attends) and Slack. He at least treats the other team members as part of the team (all guys, we have more on the team now, it was just 3 total in the beginning) and accepts their contributions, even though he is extremely bad with communication. He's point of contact with the client, but tends to keep much of the information to himself making it difficult to do ANYTHING without him present. The other team members and I have talked about it and we know he's completely full of it, but I don't think they're willing to do anything.
Thank you. Yeah it's tough because I also deal with fairly severe anxiety and have never been confronted with something THIS bad. The team I regularly work with is about half men and half women and they are SO nice and really great to work with. We get a lot of good stuff done.
I am seeing someone though unfortunately meetings are not all that frequent with the next one being in May. I suppose I could ask to see her sooner because of this issue.
And I've already contacted someone and now I'm just waiting on their reply. I'm really hoping something can be done because this is ridiculous, but I'm worried about it coming back on me.
Wish I could say it'll definitely work out, but I know sometimes it backfires :( It sounds like you work with a lot of good people, though, and that's a good sign. I think if you can keep the focus on him making it harder for you to do your job well, people are more likely to take it seriously. (They should anyway, but...) When I'm stressed about work I always read a ton of Ask a Manager, so that's my recommendation haha
I missed out on the Starbucks Unicorn Frappuccino (T_T) Zombie Frap and Christmas Tree Frap last year as the Starbucks in my city was being built but I finally got my first limited edition one in the Crystal Ball frap! It has a pretty interesting but yummy peach flavor to it (never had a fruit flavored frozen drink before) also got best sprinkles the purple ones as there seems to be 3 randomly chosen options for them.
Whipped Cream kinda melted a little by the time I got it home but it still looks pretty.
Whipped Cream kinda melted a little by the time I got it home but it still looks pretty.
Oh shit, I haven't popped in here for a while? Are we talking about sexist things our mothers believe? Because my mom has been pestering me to get married be a mother pretty much since I graduated university. I feel like she would have done it sooner but I was going to school and she knew I wasn't having any of that. Now that I'm engaged she won't shut the fuck up about me being a good wife and having babies.
My mum wouldn't shut the fuck up about having grandbabies once I got married (I got married right out of college basically so she didn't have time to bitch about me not being married). It took a few years of telling her in no uncertain terms we wouldn't be having any bio children for her to shut up and realize that it wasn't happening.
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My mom passed away when I was in college, so I don't get any grief from her obviously, but I do from my grandmother. Her primary goal in life at this point is to live long enough to see her great grandchildren, so she didn't take it well when I told her I'm gay. I thought my brother and two of my cousins being married and trying to have kids would lighten the perceived responsibility, but nope. She's a selfish old bastard.
My mom is still bothering me about getting a partner and having kids but I always get hit with "you'll change your mind someday" when I tell her I don't want kids.
I would prefer my brother having grandkid duty instead.
I would prefer my brother having grandkid duty instead.
Is she speaking from experience or is she just delusional? Either way she's projecting but I'm curious if that comes from a place of having changed on the subject herself or anything like that.
The world's already overpopulated. You don't owe the world children, and the people who choose to remain childless can help future generations in so many other ways.
I think my dad pressured her in a way. My dad was the last of his "line" to have his family name so he convinced my mom to have a son so the name could pass on. I was their firstborn, and my mom has joked that I would have been an only child if I was born male. Though she never alright said it, I think she would have aborted me if she believed in it but she is firmly anti-abortion.
Between my brother and I she had multiple miscarriages, and after my dad left her I wonder if she has regrets about the whole thing. I'm sure she doesn't regret her kids now as we were her emotional support after that bad divorce and she has proven how much she cares about us.
Perhaps she would just love to have grandkids to experience the growing up part again with less pressure. I'm just not keen on the idea of having kids for her sake, she is free to adopt.
My grandma gave me grief about hurrying up and finding someone to have kids with, it was weird. My mom already knew I didn't like kids so I never heard anything from her, thank goodness.
Sadly I'm the only one out of the four of us to have kids. My brother adopted one, and I had three. The other two will never have kids. I'm fine with that but that mean 90% of maternal ire is on me. Share the load siblings!