Wait at least 2 years until you're fully hench or you have no chance.I really miss having someone to share my life with. What do you guys think? Im almost fully back in shape again, shall I wait till Im done with that or is that just a way to procrastinate?
Understand that dating is an iterative process. Your first profiles will suck - you need to try new approaches and use new pictures until you find the methods that work best for you.Ok, I've downloaded some apps (Tinder, Bumble, OKCupid, and Coffee meets Bagel). Not sure which ones I'm going to focus on.
Anyone have advice/resources to look at when creating a dating profile for the first time?
Wait at least 2 years until you're fully hench or you have no chance.
J/k have you got a dating profile? When was the last date? You can keep on getting better in shape while you try your luck at dating.
I mean, you say she does not know but the only reasonable explanation is that he looked her up somehow. There are so many names one could guess that it would be virtually impossible to get it on the first try without any prior knowledge. Assuming he somehow did guess it is going against all logic.In your scenario what would have happened if in the extreme long shot he'd have guessed correctly? Remember, she does not know what we know.
I used to have a bio that was a joke about how my name was hard to pronounce and then a challenge to people to guess how to say it. I just saw it as a fun way to initiate an interaction with someone on Tinder. People will either ask directly, genuinely guess or joke which is great to start off something. At the end of the day, you expect them to get it wrong. I think that's probably why she wrote that.I'll agree that it's a bit over the line when she didn't ask for the real middle name but the dude here won't be the first for this to happen so she either using this as a way to unmatch creepers or maybe drop the little personal game.
I would just pick one. Though honestly, when people say "I'm barely on Tinder, add me on Snapchat/Insta/whatever" - and there are a lot - I feel like they just want followers and aren't really serious about dating people from the app.Guy on Tinder I matched with says that they're rarely on Tinder and people should hit him up on Snapchat. Should I really send the first message on Snapchat? Send the message on both Tinder and Snap?
Yes, agree. It's a topic we discussed here recently.I would just pick one. Though honestly, when people say "I'm barely on Tinder, add me on Snapchat/Insta/whatever" - and there are a lot - I feel like they just want followers and aren't really serious about dating people from the app.
If you can't be yourself, then I don't see a reason to pursue. You can be introverted and still bring plenty to the table if you really like the other person but if you're not getting that from her then seems like a waste of effort.So, there's this girl at work that caught my interest.
My kind of work is very dynamic and staff change every shift, so although dating co-workers is usually bad, in this case it's not really.
(Basically I'm a medic that joins groups of people on their trips ranging from single day trips to sometimes 3-4 days, like school trips. We get different people on different trips depending on availability and such)
We had a 3 day trip together and in the last day it was only us, we talked a lot and our musical taste is really similar which is always a big plus for me.
Now comes the but:
- She's very shy and kind of introverted. I mean, I myself ain't the shining example of extrovert but being near her feels like I kind of have to restrain myself and become a little bit more quiet, less open and ultimately less myself.
- One of my best friends hooked up with her a few times about a year ago. I know it's kind of petty, but I do seek a relationship and not something casual/ONS, so it will be kind of weird no matter how I look at it.
I could've easily made a move while it was just the two of us at the last day of the trip, but I got cold feet and went into classic overthinking mode.
How would you guys approach this scenario?
So, there's this girl at work that caught my interest.
My kind of work is very dynamic and staff change every shift, so although dating co-workers is usually bad, in this case it's not really.
(Basically I'm a medic that joins groups of people on their trips ranging from single day trips to sometimes 3-4 days, like school trips. We get different people on different trips depending on availability and such)
We had a 3 day trip together and in the last day it was only us, we talked a lot and our musical taste is really similar which is always a big plus for me.
Now comes the but:
- She's very shy and kind of introverted. I mean, I myself ain't the shining example of extrovert but being near her feels like I kind of have to restrain myself and become a little bit more quiet, less open and ultimately less myself.
- One of my best friends hooked up with her a few times about a year ago. I know it's kind of petty, but I do seek a relationship and not something casual/ONS, so it will be kind of weird no matter how I look at it.
I could've easily made a move while it was just the two of us at the last day of the trip, but I got cold feet and went into classic overthinking mode.
How would you guys approach this scenario?
You're insecure and sabotaging yourself with those insecurities. There are no leagues and thinking so is just your insecurity. So be confident, things are going well and push those negative thoughts out of your head.
Sarek how many dates has it been? If these are early days the advice I would give is to not worry about it working or not. If she's into you and you into her then it's going to be fine, and if not then that's how it goes. I've dated girls where I've been unsure if they are into me, and normally that's because they aren't so into me, but worrying about it isn't going to change an outcome and preoccupying yourself with it is only going to have a negative effect, both on your mood and any potential.
Still the fact that she seems out of my league, kind of puts my insecurities on high alert. Weirdly enough when I'm actually with her I don't feel that insecure. Maybe someone here has had similar experiences, or has some advice to offer?
So I've been seeing this girl. She is beautiful, smart, funny, and our dates have been great. We've also already made plans for the near future together. I think at this point we are both hoping this will turn into something more serious. Still I find myself occasionally thinking that this is pointless.
I'm pretty insecure about myself in many ways, and also was huge nerd who didn't start dating until way later than most people. My longest relationship only lasted four months, and even though I'm now over 30, I've never lived together with my girlfriend. I've been open about my dating history with her, and it doesn't bother her. Still the fact that she seems out of my league, kind of puts my insecurities on high alert. Weirdly enough when I'm actually with her I don't feel that insecure. Maybe someone here has had similar experiences, or has some advice to offer?
I feel like I'm going through something similar, though we haven't actually even dated yet. :D
I've seen this woman for literally years (she comes into my work regularly). She is strikingly beautiful. A few months back, a co-worker tried to set me up with her, saying she was going through a divorce. I asked her out, she was open about going through a divorce, said she wanted to close this chapter before starting a new one, but said if I was willing to wait a couple of months until it was finalized, she would really like that. I was excited just that she said she would like to have dinner with me, and though I already knew she was a classy lady, her spelling out that she wanted to wait until her divorce was final before starting a new potential relationship just drove that fact home.
But in two months, a lot of thoughts can creep into the mind of someone with low self esteem. I just keep trying to remind myself that, hey, even if we never actually go out, she's a nice person and she engaged me in a genuine and heart-felt way. My own mind and insecurities get in the way so much throughout every one of my days. I really wish I could shut them off sometimes, take a break, and fly on autopilot. :P
Thanks for the advice. I recognize that I'm sabotaging myself, but being confident doesn't just happen with a press of a button. I am working on it, and I'm more confident than I was couple years year ago for example. And, yes, I understand that that leagues talk comes from my own insecurities. I don't know, fake till I make it?
Dumb question, but how many potential Tinder-dates do you handle at the same time?
So, this real life picking up stuff. We head in late to a club, a lot of people already leaving. A girl in the exit line eyes me sort of intensely as I pass. I produce a smile, walk past, stop, turn around and see that she's also turned around, still looking at me like that. But our eyes meet only for like a second, and then she abruptly looks away and turns back around.
Ugh, I don't know how to handle situations like that. Certainly took my confidence in approaching her away with that turn, and they were all leaving so no time to regroup.
I've been out four weekends in a row, and that's the furthest I've gotten with a girl. But at least it's progress.
Depends. Window of car? Fixable. Window of house? You're screwed.So I peed on a girl's window (drunk/high) who I was seeing. We broke up shortly after. Any hope of fixing it someday?
Depends. Window of car? Fixable. Window of house? You're screwed.
So I peed on a girl's window (drunk/high) who I was seeing. We broke up shortly after. Any hope of fixing it someday?
Sorry dude, it's over. Time to move on! But for real, she broke up over that or that this isn't the first drunk incident?
Depends on the reason she broke up with you. Of course it wasnt the window incident.
Sorry dude, it's over. Time to move on! But for real, she broke up over that or that this isn't the first drunk incident?
So I've been seeing this girl. She is beautiful, smart, funny, and our dates have been great. We've also already made plans for the near future together. I think at this point we are both hoping this will turn into something more serious. Still I find myself occasionally thinking that this is pointless.
I'm pretty insecure about myself in many ways, and also was huge nerd who didn't start dating until way later than most people. My longest relationship only lasted four months, and even though I'm now over 30, I've never lived together with my girlfriend. I've been open about my dating history with her, and it doesn't bother her. Still the fact that she seems out of my league, kind of puts my insecurities on high alert. Weirdly enough when I'm actually with her I don't feel that insecure. Maybe someone here has had similar experiences, or has some advice to offer?
Never know what to do in situations like this: Mutual match on Tinder. Add him as a friend on Snapchat (his preference per profile info) & Send the first message on Friday, the day after the match. Nothing on Friday but added as a friend by him on Saturday with still no reply. Now I'm stuck wondering if I was just used to bolster someone's Snapchat follower size, or if I should still expect a reply, or if I should send a second message. This was much easier when I could write someone off if I didn't hear a reply after 2 days.
Never know what to do in situations like this: Mutual match on Tinder. Add him as a friend on Snapchat (his preference per profile info) & Send the first message on Friday, the day after the match. Nothing on Friday but added as a friend by him on Saturday with still no reply. Now I'm stuck wondering if I was just used to bolster someone's Snapchat follower size, or if I should still expect a reply, or if I should send a second message. This was much easier when I could write someone off if I didn't hear a reply after 2 days.
I would just pick one. Though honestly, when people say "I'm barely on Tinder, add me on Snapchat/Insta/whatever" - and there are a lot - I feel like they just want followers and aren't really serious about dating people from the app.
Started talking to an old school aquaintence over text, asked her to dinner to catch up. Didn't call it a date or anything. She follows up with wanting to do more, like a local activity, and later suggests a zoo as well, so it's become like an all day thing. I may be overthinking it because I used to have a big crush on her but...sign? Or just friendly?
Started talking to an old school aquaintence over text, asked her to dinner to catch up. Didn't call it a date or anything. She follows up with wanting to do more, like a local activity, and later suggests a zoo as well, so it's become like an all day thing. I may be overthinking it because I used to have a big crush on her but...sign? Or just friendly?
Then what did you say?The conversation with this girl was a bit dry in the first two responses so I just asked her "Tell me a joke" and she replies "You're a joke". Wtf why you gotta be like that
I just said "Oooookay"Then what did you say?
btw I hate when people ask you to tell you a joke. Either they want you to come up with a joke on the spot with no context or material, or they want you to regurgitate a joke from some joke book or other hundreds of outdated jokes and I'm just guessing it's a joke they haven't already heard. I'm not a court jester here to create entertainment for you on demand. I'm not even a comedian who has a cache of jokes at hand from being experienced in stand-up.
I would have just said "looks like this isn't going anywhere, bye" lol, delete the contact number and move on.I just said "Oooookay"
I get what you mean, I just said it because it was pretty clear she wasn't interested so I thought I would challenge her