Ask again? You chatted about other stuff so I think it's perfectly fine to ask her again
It's a nerves issue, not an ability issue. I think I might actually be pretty good at it, but for some reason I have no confidence when it's in public. And it's not a stage fright issue either - I don't get stage fright at absolutely any other time. It's just with singing. Also it will be a weeknight, so I won't be drinking much.
I'm pretty sure if it comes up I'll just need to quit whining, suck it up and do it. No guts no glory.
Yeah, I'm probably gonna have to pull the trigger aren't I? I didn't mention it earlier cos I didn't wanna come across as pushy/needy etc given I'd only mentioned it half a day before basically. The thing is now I'm gonna have to initiate and it could be forced.
A date? No, it's understood that's a hookup. So if you mean "had it work" as in you get sex then yes.Have any of yall ever invited a girl for a first date directly to your house? Not immediately planning on doing it but curious if anyone ever had it work
Yeah, I'd just ask her. No reason to keep holding off on asking if you really want to see her again.
I've never known there was a distinction between the two terms, but sure that's what I meant. Alright then.A date? No, it's understood that's a hookup. So if you mean "had it work" as in you get sex then yes.
I've never known there was a distinction between the two terms, but sure that's what I meant. Alright then.
Another thing, I managed to somehow reset my account fully I think. I keep having "10+" on waiting matches but I'm not really matching that much on my own swipes. I've tried adjusting the age and distance sliders but not getting any.
I think the dating apps will boost you when you're brand new in order to sell you on the app. "Wow, look at all these people who like me!" And then once you've been there for a few weeks they bury you under all the new people and the people who are at the top due to the algorithms.
I did today, I got the kiss first and seeing how she kissed me I knew she wanted to go back to the house.Have any of yall ever invited a girl for a first date directly to your house? Not immediately planning on doing it but curious if anyone ever had it work
I don't think that was the question. I've had tons of dates end up back at my place, but I think the question was "have you ever invited someone over as the first date itself?"I did today, I got the kiss first and seeing how she kissed me I knew she wanted to go back to the house.
Oh word, me neither. I smoke too much weed I would be paranoid that its a set up.I don't think that was the question. I've had tons of dates end up back at my place, but I think the question was "have you ever invited someone over as the first date itself?"
If it's a hookup, sure. But there's no way I'd invite someone over for a first date — you gotta meet for a drink in public first to gauge each other's crazy and show that you understand dating norms.
I know this is a dating thread but I gotta vent I guess. Just broke up with my girl friday. It's been rough I guess, we were dating for about 8 months.. We both decided on it because she's been pushing me away - she's done this to all the guys she's dated in the past "pushing people away is what i do best" is what she said. It's something that she does to people in general. I told her we could only work if she wanted to try and she told me she wouldn't try which sucks. She has a lot of stuff in her past that haunts her but I guess I couldn't make enough of a difference. I just couldn't take it anymore - her not making time for me, her not hanging out with me or talking to me because she was trying to push me away. It hurts. But it's also life I guess.
Lol, made a post saying I was back from hiatus and then immediately went on hiatus for another week due to work and other commitments. I'm a special one...
Really sorry to hear that man, but it sounds like a situation which would've only gotten worse the longer you stayed. This seems like it's for the best, you'll find someone who wants to actually be with you and reciprocates your desire to be close. Hope you're feeling better soon and get back amongst the dating scene when you are :)
Have you met this person in real life yet?I was thinkin about starting datin soon cuz my mental image is stable now but then this happened, so yeah totally unexpected.
But here goes.....
Had a twitter follower suddenly out her feelings she had for me like a month ago and we are now together (already posted about it in the Splatoon OT thread a week or so ago), funny cuz i never expected to get a relationship through there and shes a big splatoon fan aswell, so you could say i met someone through something i really like.
And certainly did not expect a girl to reach out to me like that but it was nice must have took her some courage but i was flattered, i engaged with her in public convos and dmed a bit etc before that tho but still.
Altho sadly a good friend of mine suddenly is heartbroken cuz she also was into me wich i did not know, but i love my current gf so it's sad but hopefully she can get over it and stay friends. And besides if this does not last who knows.
Not that i mind it ofcourse it's mega fine.
Altho i found it funny how quick we talked about sex stuff but idm she awesome. And damn the roleplays (a sweatin gif would fit). It's like a miracle happened, not that i believe in such things but still its neat.
Also cool she is bisexual aswell + we have lots in common so far, truly awesome.
Sorry if this post does not fit here but just wanted to share the full story on era.
Yupz
All good then, carry on, and congrats on your good fortune!
Thx!!!!
Thank you man, that really means a lot to me. It hurts but I'm able to roll with the punches because this is my first break up. That's definitely what I gotta keep in mind - this one just wasn't meant to be. Even though it doesn't seem like it yet
There wasn't anything you could have done. She has to change, and it's not on you to do try and get her to do that. If she wants to find happiness with someone, she'll have to do that herself.I know this is a dating thread but I gotta vent I guess. Just broke up with my girl friday. It's been rough I guess, we were dating for about 8 months.. We both decided on it because she's been pushing me away lately - she's done this to all the guys she's dated in the past "pushing people away is what i do best" is what she said. It's something that she does to people in general. I told her we could only work if she wanted to try and she told me she wouldn't try which sucks. She has a lot of stuff in her past that haunts her but I guess I couldn't make enough of a difference. I just couldn't take it anymore because of the change: her not making time for me, her not hanging out with me or talking to me because she was trying to push me away. It hurts. But it's also life I guess.
Looool we already know how this would end.
I don't know what you're saying. Their profiles are literally "buy me lunch?"What is the appeal of meeting someone who just want have a lunch bought? I have seen a couple of profiles of women and I dont understand why someone would do this. Dont get me wrong, if the women want that, thats fine and even I would pay when I am on a date, but only under the circumstances to get used to each other and not only to buy someone a meal with nothing coming out of it.
Or is it some kind of code?
Yeah, I have seen this multiple times now and heard about it a long time ago.I don't know what you're saying. Their profiles are literally "buy me lunch?"
Then don't? It could be anything - my best guess is it's an attempt to be a little assertive and flirty. Like "Buy me a drink sometime?" but with less risk*.Yeah, I have seen this multiple times now and heard about it a long time ago.
I mean, fair game, but I really dont know why I should do this.
What is the appeal of meeting someone who just want have a lunch bought? I have seen a couple of profiles of women and I dont understand why someone would do this. Dont get me wrong, if the women want that, thats fine and even I would pay when I am on a date, but only under the circumstances to get used to each other and not only to buy someone a meal with nothing coming out of it.
Or is it some kind of code?
Anyone ever messed up and fallen for someone in a relationship you know has an expiration date?
I've known this girl for a couple years and we started dating in January. We are getting real close in spite of the fact that she is moving halfway across the country in June. We have a hard time staying away from each other and spend most days together but sometimes I get real fucking depressed that this will all come to an end soon. We don't really talk about it but I know we should. At first, we didn't want to sour the fun but now I'm getting serious feelings for her and it sucks to think about how much I like her or the future in general. I'm entertaining pointless thoughts of moving with her or maintaining a long distance relationship but I know that it's not realistic and that bums me out too.
I'm kinda trying to clear my head so I can bring this up and we can talk about it because this situation is wearing on me. So anyone deal with a similar situation? Any advice?
She is going to grad school.What's your guys situation and reason for her moving and you not?
You need to talk to each other & come to an understanding of what each wants/expects from thing. If you each decide you want to keep the relationship going once she moves, then you make plans from there. Don't commit to anything at this point without having a talk. Figure out if she wants to try a long-distance relationship or entertain the idea of you moving out with her (if not immediately, perhaps later in the summer), or if the fun ends the day she moves. You should probably attempt to be on the same page by early May.She is going to grad school.
As for our situation, we are in a new relationship and all of the passion that comes with it. Though we have known each other a long time I feel like it would be a giant risk to move hundreds of miles away to follow her for such a new relationship. And although we haven't really discussed it apart from a night she started crying and we just agreed to keep seeing each other for now, I feel like she wouldn't want the level of pressure that comes with someone moving to be with her when heading into grad school.
I guess if it was a more established relationship I wouldn't be so hesitant but I do plan on seeing what she thinks about the idea even if I'm quite reluctant.
I'd just agree to split and maybe later in life see if you want to start again. LDRs are hard and it's not something you really want to get into if you are young as you'l both miss out on other opportunities.She is going to grad school.
As for our situation, we are in a new relationship and all of the passion that comes with it. Though we have known each other a long time I feel like it would be a giant risk to move hundreds of miles away to follow her for such a new relationship. And although we haven't really discussed it apart from a night she started crying and we just agreed to keep seeing each other for now, I feel like she wouldn't want the level of pressure that comes with someone moving to be with her when heading into grad school.
I guess if it was a more established relationship I wouldn't be so hesitant but I do plan on seeing what she thinks about the idea even if I'm quite reluctant.
So this article is something that I've already been doing, and have been having a lot of success with.Useful guide her for using messaging on dating apps. Covers a lot of advice we give here in this topic in a one shot article.
https://lifehacker.com/dating-apps-are-for-scheduling-dates-people-1824294863