The status tracking system is built inside your brain. There is not much you can do about that in your lifespan. If you consider feeling less anxious and looking competent desirable, you should use it in the manner indicated in the article I linked before. The same manner jordan indicates in the first chapter of 12 rules for life.
Humans are doing that right now. Using the planet as if its resources were unlimited. If we don't change that, billions will die.
As I said before, feeling less anxious and looking competent in the eyes of others is something desirable you can obtain by interacting with your status tracking system. Do you consider the status tracking system itself undesirable?
"status" naturally arises from the fact that we can perceive differences between corporeal forms or events and that we ascribe value - that alone will lead to different corporeal forms being valued differently
this does not mean that the idea of a "status" is inherently good or inherently bad - for example, it is a necessary enforcement mechanism of the social contract that we be able to point to harmful behavior and say "low status!" instead of having to always use force
but then we run into the problem of the fact that the idea of what "low status behavior" encompasses is something humans invented from inside their limited vantage point, and may in fact be neutral or desirable behavior
this is compounded by the fact that humans have lots of motivations beyond "surviving" and "reproducing" that society values preserving over maximizing "surviving" or "reproducing" a little more, and the fact that we theoretically understand the concept of preferring short-term choices that aren't maximal leading to long-term gain that far exceeds those short-term choices
presenting the "status hierarchy" as immutable and a natural consequence is misleading - the concept of status may always exist, but the values we ascribe to bind a particular status to an object or action is almost entirely subjective
for some, who the status hierarchy does not select against and who fit the roles prescribed by a society, it is good advice to say "hey, put your chin up, practice self-care like cleaning your room, and fake it til you make it", because the source of their suffering is mostly internal to themselves
for those who the status heirarchy selects against for stupid reasons that are an artifact from long ago, that advice will only help them a little bit, and they will always suffer until they take some form of mitigating action - which could be a simple as "leave a toxic environment" - because the source of their suffering is external to themselves