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Hello everyone! Finally made it to the new thread :) Didn't post much in the old ones but maybe that will change!
Your gender? Your sexual identity? (Preferred pronouns?) Male
Your sexual orientation? Gay
Where Are You From? Germany
Where Do You Live? Münster, Germany
How Old Are you? 28 (nearing the 'gay death' aka 30)
Favorite Type of Music? Pop, R'n'B, I'm also a huge Eurovision fan
Profession or Career interest? Web developer
Favorite video game(s)? I grew up with Sonic, I'm a huge fan of the classics (loooove Sonic Mania), pretty much everything Nintendo, Rayman, Final Fantasy, Ace Attorney, Uncharted Series
What are your hobbies (other than gaming)? My latest hobby is to learn the ukulele, Other than that: working out at the gym, going to the movies and going out with friends.
Your gender? Your sexual identity? (Preferred pronouns?) Male
Your sexual orientation? Gay
Where Are You From? Germany
Where Do You Live? Münster, Germany
How Old Are you? 28 (nearing the 'gay death' aka 30)
Favorite Type of Music? Pop, R'n'B, I'm also a huge Eurovision fan
Profession or Career interest? Web developer
Favorite video game(s)? I grew up with Sonic, I'm a huge fan of the classics (loooove Sonic Mania), pretty much everything Nintendo, Rayman, Final Fantasy, Ace Attorney, Uncharted Series
What are your hobbies (other than gaming)? My latest hobby is to learn the ukulele, Other than that: working out at the gym, going to the movies and going out with friends.
Welcome! Same story as me really.
Your gender? Male
Your sexual orientation? Gay
Where Are You From? Cambridge-ish, UK
Where Do You Live? London
How Old Are you? 20
Favorite Types of Music? Impressionist stuff, most 20th century orchestration, love my prog & death metal and of course game music - massive fan of Austin Wintory!
Profession or Career interest? Composition student, moving towards game audio
Favorite video game(s)? I'm pretty sure I just post abut games on forums.
What are your hobbies (other than gaming)? Making music, piano improv, trombone and baking.
For me being informed, what's the difference between sexual identity and sexual orientation - obviously I know the difference between gender identity and sexual orientation?
Hiya, Gayera! I used to post in the old thread around 2015 under the same name, but I lost all of my account details. Like, all of them, gone. Good to see lots of familiar faces here!
Gender: Male
Sexual Orientation: Bisexual
Where are you from: Northern Ireland
Where do you live: Northern Ireland (ick)
How old are you: 20
Favourite type of music: Rap, Rock, Classical, 1980s power ballads, Ragtime, pretty much most music is good to me, really!
Profession or Career Interest: Pro Wrestler, Call Centre Working (not gonna specify which is which ;) )
Favourite Videogames: So many! Bloodborne, Soul Calibur 3, Tekken 5, Cuphead, KOTOR 2, Oblivion, Bioshock, Patapon, Dark Souls 1, and probably a few others I have forgotten about.
Hobbies: Working out at the gym, playing piano, making terrible drawings/music pieces, etc.
Gender: Male
Sexual Orientation: Bisexual
Where are you from: Northern Ireland
Where do you live: Northern Ireland (ick)
How old are you: 20
Favourite type of music: Rap, Rock, Classical, 1980s power ballads, Ragtime, pretty much most music is good to me, really!
Profession or Career Interest: Pro Wrestler, Call Centre Working (not gonna specify which is which ;) )
Favourite Videogames: So many! Bloodborne, Soul Calibur 3, Tekken 5, Cuphead, KOTOR 2, Oblivion, Bioshock, Patapon, Dark Souls 1, and probably a few others I have forgotten about.
Hobbies: Working out at the gym, playing piano, making terrible drawings/music pieces, etc.
haha I'm ashamed to say that I used some Uber on the last days of my trip because I couldn't do it anymore. I guess I'm in poor shape, but I was also smoking quite a bit at that time.
Do you know the Lux nightclub? I went there, that was fun.
Thanks to Captain Picard I'm an Earl Grey fan. :)Speaking of tea, it's better strong (and dark).
I don't blame you, it's actually called the city of the seven hills because of all the highs and lows.
Yes, I've been there, but if I'm not in an extremely delicate drunk place, I don't really have fun in nightclubs (but if I'm in that perfect drunk spot, I have a blast :D)
But funny you mention that, we are in crisis mode in regards nightclubs because the government decided to close a major one due to violence from the securities.
Edit: Also, yes, the dark theme is superior. Doesn't blind me and has that naughty incognito vibe.
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I'm not sure. If I had to pick something I would probably say my thirst for dick. Other than that I feel pretty...I don't know? Average? I'm not super feminine, and I'm not super masculine. To most people my sexuality tends to be ambiguous until they get to know me as a friend.
Even though I'm not a huge pop music fan, I can't help but love Britney.
A few weeks ago I went to Lush for the first time to buy a bath bomb. It's great. The one that I bought was names intergalactic someting, smelled wonderful and turned the water into a deep blue color. It also had glitter in there, so I had glitter all over my body for the next days :P
Intercourse with men? ...
I love musicals and eurovision.
Oh yeah!!
Next year I want to go to Lisbon to the live shows. The past years I hosted Eurovision viewing-parties at my home, all with invitation cards, food and score cards for everyone.
Friends, this is my first time posting in a queer community thread, and I have a question. I need some opinions.
I am bisexual. This is something I know to be true. I'm sure this much I don't need to prove here.
But I have never been with a man. I just never met one. I sort of dated a guy for a few months but it wasn't sexual and we stopped seeing each other when it got "too weird." I have only had sex with women my whole life and now I am engaged to a woman (whom I love very much - there is no dissatisfaction there.) Most people know me as a straight man. I present as a straight man and generally have no reason to tell anyone I am bisexual. It's just not a topic of conversation and will not be really ever again because I'm getting married.
Being bisexual is still part of my identity, however, because it motivates me politically. I like being part of the LGBT+ community. I like queer fiction and activism and history and want to take ownership of it as "my culture." But I feel an immensely guilty in doing so because I feel like I'm not... queer enough. Because the queer aspect of my sexuality has never been exercised, I feel like it's unproven. Because I can masquerade indefinitely as a straight man, I am immune to the hardship that my brothers and sisters endure.
I feel like any effort to be part of the queer community will be met with skepticism. And I can't even blame people. For all intents and purposes I am a straight man with some queer tastes and a hidden infatuation with dick. As a result, I just don't talk about it. I don't come to these community threads and I don't tell other queer folk I am queer because I don't want to seem disingenuous. People always treat me like I'm pretending. The only kinship I've ever been assured of is that this is how most bisexuals feel. But I never meet them. I never get to talk to them. I just see their Tweets and Tumblr posts.
I am having trouble mitigating the guilt I have that I am queer with none of the baggage. I don't know if I should just stay out of it and be an ally or if there is a legitimate place for me in the community. I don't think I can figure this out on my own anymore, I really need to hear what other queer people think. I am fine with whatever people say but I really need input.
What am I? Am I queer or am I just an ally?
I am bisexual. This is something I know to be true. I'm sure this much I don't need to prove here.
But I have never been with a man. I just never met one. I sort of dated a guy for a few months but it wasn't sexual and we stopped seeing each other when it got "too weird." I have only had sex with women my whole life and now I am engaged to a woman (whom I love very much - there is no dissatisfaction there.) Most people know me as a straight man. I present as a straight man and generally have no reason to tell anyone I am bisexual. It's just not a topic of conversation and will not be really ever again because I'm getting married.
Being bisexual is still part of my identity, however, because it motivates me politically. I like being part of the LGBT+ community. I like queer fiction and activism and history and want to take ownership of it as "my culture." But I feel an immensely guilty in doing so because I feel like I'm not... queer enough. Because the queer aspect of my sexuality has never been exercised, I feel like it's unproven. Because I can masquerade indefinitely as a straight man, I am immune to the hardship that my brothers and sisters endure.
I feel like any effort to be part of the queer community will be met with skepticism. And I can't even blame people. For all intents and purposes I am a straight man with some queer tastes and a hidden infatuation with dick. As a result, I just don't talk about it. I don't come to these community threads and I don't tell other queer folk I am queer because I don't want to seem disingenuous. People always treat me like I'm pretending. The only kinship I've ever been assured of is that this is how most bisexuals feel. But I never meet them. I never get to talk to them. I just see their Tweets and Tumblr posts.
I am having trouble mitigating the guilt I have that I am queer with none of the baggage. I don't know if I should just stay out of it and be an ally or if there is a legitimate place for me in the community. I don't think I can figure this out on my own anymore, I really need to hear what other queer people think. I am fine with whatever people say but I really need input.
What am I? Am I queer or am I just an ally?
Oh wow that sounds awesome. I usually watch it with 1-3 friends but I can't really call that a party.
You're overthinking this. The B in LGBT+ stands for bisexual. Simple as that. You don't have to prove anything.
Hmm. My straight friends would say my cross-dressing and makeup but I know straight folks that do it, so nah.
Me, I'd say the way I carry myself—the way I walk, talk; or hell, even stand still.
But then I'm queer, not gay, so what do I know? :P
i'm in a long term relationship right now with a woman who i will probably end up marrying some time in the next few years, finale.
i think the only difference between you and i, is that i've been with guys before. for awhile, i carried something like the opposite of the guilt you have. because i had never slept with a woman before, i felt like it would be assumed that i was gay (and many people did assume that, unfortunately). now that i'm dating a woman, i think that even though i read as pretty queer, i could be seen as straight 'passing'. it's important for me to be able to talk about my past and my interests though, so if it's a safe space, i try not to shy away from talking about guys i've seen in the past, or guys that i think are hot, or other things that make it kind of clear that i'm not straight and i'm not gay.
sorry, i feel like that was just stream of consciousness typing lmao.
are you able to come out, finale? being out to my girlfriend and her being so accepting and encouraging of my identity really helped alleviate a lot of the weird 'guilt'. also, it's important to remember that sexuality is not just who we fuck.
i think the only difference between you and i, is that i've been with guys before. for awhile, i carried something like the opposite of the guilt you have. because i had never slept with a woman before, i felt like it would be assumed that i was gay (and many people did assume that, unfortunately). now that i'm dating a woman, i think that even though i read as pretty queer, i could be seen as straight 'passing'. it's important for me to be able to talk about my past and my interests though, so if it's a safe space, i try not to shy away from talking about guys i've seen in the past, or guys that i think are hot, or other things that make it kind of clear that i'm not straight and i'm not gay.
sorry, i feel like that was just stream of consciousness typing lmao.
are you able to come out, finale? being out to my girlfriend and her being so accepting and encouraging of my identity really helped alleviate a lot of the weird 'guilt'. also, it's important to remember that sexuality is not just who we fuck.
I know this logically, it's just been hard to join conversations and communities because I wasn't sure how I would be received. Which leads me to...
...this here. Ultimately, I know what I am and who I am. I define me - but I am also defined by my relationships. I do have some gay friends they're great for perspective but being queer among predominantly straight people who treat me like I'm straight means there is a part of my personality I'm never really nourishing. But before I can connect with people over this, I want to know other people will see me the way I see me.
Thankfully, my fiancée knows. It was something she immediately accepted because she always believed in the fluidity of sexuality anyway. I am grateful I do not need to hide it from her. We probably wouldn't be getting married if I had to.
But I gotta say, I'm just so glad to finally talk to somebody else about passing privilege and coming to terms with bisexuality once you've chosen a life partner. Even just your one paragraph is more than I've ever been able to talk to someone about this and I appreciate it immensely.
If you ever want to chat about it, don't hesitate to PM or just @ me here, Finale Fireworker . I totally understand how validating talking with other queer folks in similar situations can be, so if you need a pal, I can be one :)
;)
Jk, my friends joke that people know I'm gay as soon as I open my mouth... not because of my voice (which is pretty ambiguous) but in terms of the topics I choose to talk about. Like boys, Drag Race, fashion, etc.
Edit: Speaking of Drag Race - was there a Drag Race |OT|? I'm really excited at how "mainstream" it's becoming and I'm going to try to introduce my family to it.
Here it is. I just got into Drag Race this year and I'm looking forward to All Stars 3 since it'll be the first season I'm watching as it airs. (#TeamDela)
Edit: Oop, someone else got there first.
I've been reading a good deal of M/M romance books these last few months. Now, most books in that genre are utter trash but some of Josh Lanyon's books/series are quite entertaining (they're not perfect but I quite like them):
- The Adrien English Series (The protagonist is a gay crime author/bookseller/amateur sleuth who constantly sticks his nose into things that are none of his business. Plus there's lots of drama in his personal life.)
- The All's Fair Series (The protagonist is an ex-FBI agent turned college teacher who can't quite let go of his former job.)
- The Curse of the Blue Scarab (This one's a mash-up set in London in the early 1900s (I think). It's based on a genuine crime/mystery novel from the time but rewritten in parts and with a gay romance injected into it.)
Well, technically, gay is a label that you can choose to apply or not apply to yourself. It certainly is homosexual behaviour, though. (Although engaging in homosexual behaviour also doesn't necessarily mean that one is homosexual, of course.)
Nearly all of the queer fiction I read is in the Everything is Emotionally Devastating All the Time Always genre which is understandably not everyone's cup of tea, and while most of them aren't tragic per se, they might be heavier than you're looking for . If you're interested though, I'd be happy to recommend a few. Something that's not that and is very good is Armistead Maupin's Tales of the City series. Maupin began writing Tales of the City as a newspaper serial in 1978, and as such, it's very fast and punchy, and they still hold up fantastically well even if the San Francisco of 1978 is of course markedly different than today's. The fourth novel is concurrent with the beginning of the AIDS epidemic and is a fairly difficult read, but the first three are fun romps with cults and affairs and mysterious suitors and all that. In that same vein, Scott Sherman's mystery novel First You Fall is a lot of fun, and very cheap on Kindle.
Whoa, I must have had the plus sign checked from days ago. Deleting now - that's kind of impressive they stay in that queue for so long.
Ooh, these look good. I'll have to check them out. Particularly that last one, I love stuff set in that era. And it's on iBooks! I know what I'm reading during my next meeting XP
- Your gender? Your sexual identity? (Preferred pronouns?) trans woman + non-binary (she/her or they/them pronouns)
- Your sexual orientation? idk asexual bisexual? with a preference for women I guess
- Where Are You From? Germany, Black Forest
- Where Do You Live? Germany, Black Forest
- How Old Are you? 20
- Favorite Type of Music? honestly everything
- Profession or Career interest? still working on my high school graduation thanks to depressions... but otherwise I'd like to do something artistic
- Favorite video game(s)? currently I'd have to say
NieR:Automata, because I was already huge fan of Yoko Taro and the end of this one had a very important impact on my life
Overwatch, I just love playing it and seeing the diversity of it
Dark Souls, the world building and storytelling are just so unique and awesome
Duet, one of my fave games that just put you into some sort of trance
Dustforce, never finished it because I suck but its such an perfect flow based platformer - What are your hobbies (other than gaming)?
I like to write and think about art, sound very pretentious I know, its just what I do, figuring out why art has the effect on me that it has.
I should warn you that the gay romance aspect in that particular book isn't that big. The main character is gay (from a modern perspective - people at the time probably wouldn't have used any such label to describe themselves) and there is a love interest but the main focus of the story is on the crime solving.
That's fine, this looks like the sort of book I'd enjoy regardless, the MC being gay is icing on the cake.
The number of jockstraps I owe that are decidedly not for sports. XD
I just can't stop staring at guys, they're just so damn beautiful
Earl Grey is good, and so is its London Fog offspring.
Bonsoir!
Gender: Does it matter?
Sexual Orientation: Straight (for dick)
Where are you from: Puerto Rico
Where do you live: Arizona
How old are you: 28
Favourite type of music: Pop & Indie
Profession or Career Interest: Something that makes enough to pay the bills and have some cash left on the side
Favourite Videogames: Bayonetta 1&2 , Tales of Symphonia, Dead by Daylight, Dead or Alive 5 : Last Round, Phantasy Star Online 1 & 2, Dark Souls, Lost Kingdoms, Otogi and the list goes on.
Hobbies: Reading, videogames and cooking
Sexual Orientation: Straight (for dick)
Where are you from: Puerto Rico
Where do you live: Arizona
How old are you: 28
Favourite type of music: Pop & Indie
Profession or Career Interest: Something that makes enough to pay the bills and have some cash left on the side
Favourite Videogames: Bayonetta 1&2 , Tales of Symphonia, Dead by Daylight, Dead or Alive 5 : Last Round, Phantasy Star Online 1 & 2, Dark Souls, Lost Kingdoms, Otogi and the list goes on.
Hobbies: Reading, videogames and cooking