Mannnnn ERA I need some serious advice.
I've been "dating?" this girl for a while now. We hang out, maybe watch a movie and get food, that's all. I assumed after a while we were just friends and left it at that. For my own honesty she never actually did it for me. Shes not ugly or anything like that and quite a catch but physically not my type. I accepted that and figured "ok let's keep hanging out maybe she will become more appealing with personality." and well... nope not that either. Shes not particularly quirky, funny, interesting, outgoing, ect. ect. when shes near me. Like... I don't get to see her personality at all. We had dinner with her friends about two weeks ago, and they were all awesome fun people, I got to see a TINY bit of her personality then but still mostly nothing, in contrast I talked to everyone else more than her, which she said she liked since I got to know her friends.
Fast forward to last night, she sent me a small message saying "how do you feel about me" and what not... after avoiding it for a solid day I finally tried to tell her gently... I like her, shes nice, kind... and thats about all I really get from her. She wanted to meet up and talk more in person so we did. But it was the same as usual. Me doing all the talking, her not showing any personality or anything. Near the end of the night I wanted to go home and she finally asked what I meant by all that. Basically I told her it was two big things. 1. I will be more than likely leaving the city, if not the dang country in Summer at worst, and I refuse to be one of those guys who starts shit and runs away. and 2. She has not really "appealed" to me, in that not showing me any interesting personality and what not.
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She followed this with a if you go to a different city I can follow you... which blew my fucking mind because I'm just wondering what have we possibly done to make you so freaking willing to do such a huge thing or even remotely think this way. Like we have not kissed, had sex, some random romantic encounter, like LITERALLY NOTHING. The most we have done is me walking her home when she was drunk after a wedding party.
Anyway she followed me home wanting me to tell her straight up, yes I want to be with you seriously and what not. But its like... how can I say that, you have given me no hook to want to be with you beyond friends! She walked with me home and waited for my answer but I just told her I'll think about it more and message her tomorrow.
I don't know if shes just this desperate for a boyfriend, or shes seeing something way more in me than I've seen in her or what, but my current thinking is unless she starts doing something interesting to catch my actual attention why would I want there to be a "next step" so to speak. As far as I can tell we never started. Everyone has to go at the pace they are comfortable with but I'm just so damn confused now.