This is more of a rant than a specific question, just getting this off my system.
I'm the definition of a "romantic loser". Soon to be 28, never had a girlfriend. 10< dates entire life, all either set up by my one RL friend or on dating sites. I'll just say if prostitution weren't legal(ish) in my country I would be a virgin. I "need" to go there every couple months for release. I hate pretty much every kind of social gathering, avoid parties at all costs (being the token appearance to be polite on occasions like some office parties). If I could just stay holed up in my room playing games, reading and watching anime all day you can be damn sure I would. Ok, sure, I'd still go out to the gym or certain classes, but that's it. That's already my year round routine actually, just add work.
I've tried online dating seriously a couple years ago. Got a couple dates on okCupid, 1 on bumble, 1 on happn. Only got one second date. AS for my looks, I'll just say the one app I tried I didn't get a single date is Tinder, so yeah. I know my overall problem on online dating, is that I don't know anything about dating. What people talk about, how to flirt, etc, etc. I mean I know the basics reading about but you'd need to pay me a million dollars to attempt to touch a girl during a date or something like that, so heh. I'll go ahead and say I can make people laugh easily, but on very controlled environments like say my workplace. In fact most of my date is just drinking some coffee (yeah, coffee heh) and joking around for a couple hours then going home and never hearing about that girl again. Or in the cases of the ones set up by that friend, just staying around awkwardly saying nothing.
Since that period I completely stopped trying. It's been at least a year since I had any online date and 2-3 years that I don't do anything beyond maybe swipping on tinder (actually uninstalled for a couple months now) or taking a look at ok cupid and doing nothing, maybe send one message. Gave up, pretty much. Every once in a while I might try something I'm not that interested into with the hopes of meeting new people (not even necessarily women) but that never worked out either. Doesn't help most stuff I do kinda wanna get into is just nerdy stuff (Lately I've been thinking to try to get into board gaming but sounds like a pain without friends to start with. Lack motivation to go out and get into random groups). I also seem to have bad luck when I do meet people, specially women. (Spent entire first japanese class talking with a girl then never see her again ever, for example. I even stuck on a basic japanese class when I should be on an intermediary course but ehh, whatever, I could use the conversation practice with strangers and helping people out without the pressure of having to learn, I'll skip ahead next semester.)
And so I'm here. Tbh I don't really want to put any effort into this anymore. It's a pain, I waste a lot of time and never get anything and if I'm being honest here, beyond the eventual depression episodes (been a while since I last need medication, thankfully) and overall loneliness I'm pretty satisfied with where I am at on other things. Hell, during the weekends I barely have time to few bad with all these games. Having a relationship even sounds like it would be a huge blow to my free time, so idk. I do have that generic fear of "dying alone", or more precisely growing old alone, not being able to take care of pets or myself because there's no one in the house, and so on. I'm glad I have low testosterone, can't imagine how would it be to actually have a libido, or maybe that's actually the problem. I'm on medication to lower my prolactine right now which might incrase testosterone but so far I don't feel any difference
Having said all that, no idea what I'm looking for other than just venting, to be honest, not necessarily dating tips or anything for now. Maybe some help on how to cope with being alone, because I'm not really currently interested in trying anything dating related. If that's not acceptable for the thread, I can just delete this.