Didn't realise that memes were platform exclusive. OK, just ask her then.
Didn't realise that memes were platform exclusive. OK, just ask her then.
What do you mean memes? It's next to her name in Tinder like if we matched via superlike or boost, but now it's a yellow heart.Didn't realise that memes were platform exclusive. OK, just ask her then.
You are being taken for a ride. She seems to have all the control in this situation although it's good you have talked to her about not wanting to be in a gray area. DO NOT tell her about other girls if you're casual. I think you're desperate (got a boring life compared to hers and don't have other girls) so you're clinging to her even when that betrays the casual relationship. It's confusing that she needs more time to think about going exclusive with you but then she says she likes you too much for a casual relationship. Get her to clear that up. You need to show a bit more independence rather than getting clingy. Don't have to text or call her for at least a week if you both are casual. Let her make some moves. The good thing is you've both put in the work to travel to see each other rather than being one-sided. You just do your own thing for now and let her put in the work, to commit. You focus on work and life rather than just her all the time.
Good to know she at least loves your dick lol
You think she is telling you to see other people and not mention it for fun?
Been through it 100 times in this thread but peeps don't handle the truth well. She has a good thing going on, she aint gonna say shit to jeopardize that.
Naw, she is hitting you up with "I need more time to think and shit" in combination with "I think you should see other people", that aint compatible with not trying to scare you off.
Honestly, who care about figuring out her game? YOU take control and make her understand exactly what YOU want. Then if she can't offer you what you need, peace the fuck out. Instead of figuring out what is going on in her mind, just make it clear "this is what I need, if you can't offer that that's fine but I'm out". You'll get an answer real quick if you stop fucking around.
Sounds like Tinder Gold. Do you have it? If you matched someone through Tinder Gold, it will put a symbol next to it.What do you mean memes? It's next to her name in Tinder like if we matched via superlike or boost, but now it's a yellow heart.
Haha, I'm not sure you're right about everything but still, I needed to read something like that so thank you!
The fact is I already have several train tickets to go see her and she already has tickets for a big festival we want to do together at the start of June. And I really want to do all those things we planned together.
I just need to be less attached and care less. Only good can come from caring less. If she loves me (which I suspect) it'll eventually come out, and if she's playing me (which is possible) ,well that's life...
I don't have it. I suspect it might be that she matched me through Gold, but it's a bit weird that I get to see that's how it happened.Sounds like Tinder Gold. Do you have it? If you matched someone through Tinder Gold, it will put a symbol next to it.
A little bit more than 2 months I think.
Anyone here cold approach women during the daytime? How has it worked for you?
Like without any context, just on the street like a PUA? It's easier if you're already doing something at a shop or whatever you're enjoying and then just get to chatting about easy things like you would do with any other stranger and then maybe ask them if they're single.Anyone here cold approach women during the daytime? How has it worked for you?
Oh no...If you tell them how much you hit the gym and then regale then with stories of how you paid $100 dollars a time to look at 3 Russian strippers assholes while they told you that you were such a gentlemen and then follow that up by telling them that as an EFL teacher you successfully creeped on your students it works 100% of the time!
This guy literally believes his own hype and thinks he can PUA his way into harassing women in public now. SMH
*Widdle Puppy has me on ignore for calling out his LBH sexpat bullshit so he wont see this post anyway. :D
Anyone here cold approach women during the daytime? How has it worked for you?
It's easier if you're already doing something at a shop or whatever you're enjoying and then just get to chatting about easy things like you would do with any other stranger and then maybe ask them if they're single.
Yeah this is what I mean. I don't mean taking time out of the day just to go out to a park or anything and walking around in the square just to get numbers lol. I don't have the time or interest to do that. I'm thinking of making it a challenge of mine though to try and talk to people outside more and when I'm out and about making small talk. Like maybe once or twice a day at the cafe, grocery store, etc. seems like a pretty good way to add options to my dating life. like a 10-20% increase and really just from chatting it up.Like without any context, just on the street like a PUA? It's easier if you're already doing something at a shop or whatever you're enjoying and then just get to chatting about easy things like you would do with any other stranger and then maybe ask them if they're single.
Oh no...
This behaviour has come up before, don't try to understand it just realise it's just one of those things with online dating. Block, delete and move on she just saved you time to find out she is a shitty person.
If you need a likely reason;
You were only the backup date and the other guy actually confirmed with her
Or (This is weird) it seems there are people that like the idea of dates and will go through the whole process right up to the end for maximum attention/ validation and then bail. Repeating the process again with the next guy.
Thanks for this, and like I said before, was just sharing an experience about having my time wasted/being stood up. No intentions of taking someone seriously after that experience.She is not interested, deleted her number and move on to the next one.
She gave you one wordings and didn't respect your time (told you at last minute to cancel without even a rearrange), she isn't worth your attention.
You said you didn't understand at the end of your post but didn't elaborate before whether you were going to continue until just now so being told that it's over is fine because now you don't have to invest any more energy into her. Just making your life easier instead of having to wonder.Azraes I was venting and had no intentions of continuing with her. I don't need to be told "move on it's over". That's not helpful or necessary.
My guy I appreciate the reply but I gotta disagree with your refinement of this information/advice. There is a lot of truth to what you said and sure I think being friendly with everyone in all situations in public is fine if it arises but I need to be guided and focus my energy specifically on talking to women when out. I wouldn't go out soley to do this but it seems like it could be a good habit to build by just getting my head into the right zen/vulnerable space and when the opportunity arises when I'm walking through the park, in the line at a cafe, etc going for it. I could see being liberal with my openness as a good thing to do throughout the day just to stay warmed up but ultimately I think I need to stay focused and be honest why I'm doing it and what I hope to achieve from it. I wanna expand my dating pool a little more and I wanna meet women during the day at interesting places like the park, gym, stores and cafe. What makes it weird is mindsets and beliefs. I think if I'm nerveous or even if I'm kind of indirect (nerveous and dishonest) with my mindset holding something like "I'm just doing this to talk to everyone" then it's not the most wisest effort. I'm doing this to talk to girls I'm attracted to and to get their number to set up a date... plain and simple. Not everyone will give me their number or even if they do end up meeting me for a date but that's life. Not everyone will like me, but that's not the point. It's to screen for those that will :)Widdle Puppy Or you could just talk to people without considering a cold open. Be friendly/genuine. Generally when you find people who look like they want to talk (body language) go up to them and talk and do it regardless of gender so long as they look interesting and you'll find it opening up possibilities. If you primarily think women it's going to appear weird in public. Your chances are better if you talk to everyone who seems like they want to talk. Or be that guy who stands there giving free hugs people usually like that person unless they come off as creepy.
Era,
How do you move from fingering a co-workers friend, infront of her. To asking the girl, co-workers friend, out on a date.
I'm pretty sure we didn't do well in hiding it, when it was only the 3 of us in the room.
Ah... Monday will be awkward.
Era,
How do you move from fingering a co-workers friend, infront of her. To asking the girl, co-workers friend, out on a date.
I'm pretty sure we didn't do well in hiding it, when it was only the 3 of us in the room.
Ah... Monday will be awkward.
Wow, that's something. The friends probably already told her what happened. Dont ask her out.
It's like watching a movie with the commentary track onYup, predicably he does want to try PUA techniques. Don't harrass women in public.
Just tell her straight, I'm not feeling anything romantic with you but I think we could be good friends. She'll either accept or reject that, but it's better to let her know where she stands.Had a first date recently and while the person seemed cool and nice, I'm not sure if I'm ultimately romantically attracted to her. But at the same time, she might be a cool person to hang out with as a friend? But not sure how to even approach that really or if it's even worth that effort, don't know if others have had similar experiences.
even though this started on tinder. Throwing in relationship drama into a group of friends probably wont end well. Lots of things could happen but it would be better to just be honest with the one chick about how you feel and the pursue the other girl.I need a bit of advice. So I met this girl on tinder that I wasn't really interested in sexually/romantically but she is pretty cool just as a person and I wanted to be her friend since our values seem to align quite a bit. So anyways she introduces me to her friends/squad and I'm part of it now and have went out many times. Mutually follow each other on IG and I have thwir contacts. So one of her friends I like and has signaled liking me as well. I have a crush on her friend. Thing is tinder friend seems to like me and it's just a bit of a weird feeling for me. She seems to act kinda needy or weitd when her freind and I flirt. Tinder friend asked me to give her a ride on my motorcycle which is something I only do with girls Iike in a sexual/romantic way. How can I make it clear I'm not interested in her? Is it ethically kinda mean to pursue her friend? I flipped the roles and realized I would be kinda hurt if I brought a girl around my friends and she wanted to go after on of my friends. Thing is we have hung out a bunch and I know people would be saying that I should of made my intentions more clear and pursued her bettet if the roles were reversed. So what should I do? I'm leaning towards smoothly pursuing her friend and just risking whatever happens. Please give me some councel. Thank you
Meets a girl on TINDER and friend zones her because he likes the shiney new friend of hers her was introduced too. Then confused as to why a girl he met on TINDER likes him. I am enjoying Piddle Puppys faux intellectual style of posting he uses in the topic to mask the fact he's acting like a fuckboi.I need a bit of advice. So I met this girl (tinder friend) on tinder that I wasn't really interested in sexually/romantically but she is pretty cool just as a person and I wanted to be her friend since our values seem to align quite a bit. So anyways she introduces me to her friends/squad and I'm part of it now and have went out many times with them. We mutually follow each other on IG and I have their contacts. So one of her friends I like and has signaled liking me as well. I have a crush on her friend. Thing is tinder friend seems to like me and it's just a bit of a weird feeling for me. I haven't ever hit on tinder girl or signalled that I was interested in her romantically. She seems to act kinda needy or weird when her freind flirts with me. Tinder friend asked me to give her a ride on my motorcycle which is something I only do with girls I Iike in a sexual/romantic way. How can I make it clear I'm not interested in her? Is it ethically kinda mean to pursue her friend? I flipped the roles in my head and realized I would be kinda hurt if I brought a girl around my friends and she wanted to go after one of them. Thing is we have hung out a bunch and it is long past me trying to get with her. I know people would be saying that I should of made my intentions more clear and pursued her better to avoid friend zone if the roles were reversed. So what should I do? I'm leaning towards smoothly pursuing her friend and just risking whatever happens. Please give me some councel. Thank you
Yea.(mostly compatible; emotionally, intellectually, physically, logistically),
but... 13 year age difference (me 45, her 32); yay or nay?
About the same as my wife and I. You're good to go buddy.(mostly compatible; emotionally, intellectually, physically, logistically),
but... 13 year age difference (me 45, her 32); yay or nay?
Umm you met her on Tinder. A dating app. Not a friend app. Of course she's gonna act like that when she's into you but you're into her friend. Just be honest, that you see her as a friend. If you don't tell her, she's gonna see you as a fuckboi if you decide to start dating her friend right after she met you. Just tell her before you start going for the other girl.I need a bit of advice. So I met this girl (tinder friend) on tinder that I wasn't really interested in sexually/romantically but she is pretty cool just as a person and I wanted to be her friend since our values seem to align quite a bit. So anyways she introduces me to her friends/squad and I'm part of it now and have went out many times with them. We mutually follow each other on IG and I have their contacts. So one of her friends I like and has signaled liking me as well. I have a crush on her friend. Thing is tinder friend seems to like me and it's just a bit of a weird feeling for me. I haven't ever hit on tinder girl or signalled that I was interested in her romantically. She seems to act kinda needy or weird when her freind flirts with me. Tinder friend asked me to give her a ride on my motorcycle which is something I only do with girls I Iike in a sexual/romantic way. How can I make it clear I'm not interested in her? Is it ethically kinda mean to pursue her friend? I flipped the roles in my head and realized I would be kinda hurt if I brought a girl around my friends and she wanted to go after one of them. Thing is we have hung out a bunch and it is long past me trying to get with her. I know people would be saying that I should of made my intentions more clear and pursued her better to avoid friend zone if the roles were reversed. So what should I do? I'm leaning towards smoothly pursuing her friend and just risking whatever happens. Please give me some councel. Thank you
I need a bit of advice. So I met this girl (tinder friend) on tinder that I wasn't really interested in sexually/romantically but she is pretty cool just as a person and I wanted to be her friend since our values seem to align quite a bit. So anyways she introduces me to her friends/squad and I'm part of it now and have went out many times with them. We mutually follow each other on IG and I have their contacts. So one of her friends I like and has signaled liking me as well. I have a crush on her friend. Thing is tinder friend seems to like me and it's just a bit of a weird feeling for me. I haven't ever hit on tinder girl or signalled that I was interested in her romantically. She seems to act kinda needy or weird when her freind flirts with me. Tinder friend asked me to give her a ride on my motorcycle which is something I only do with girls I Iike in a sexual/romantic way. How can I make it clear I'm not interested in her? Is it ethically kinda mean to pursue her friend? I flipped the roles in my head and realized I would be kinda hurt if I brought a girl around my friends and she wanted to go after one of them. Thing is we have hung out a bunch and it is long past me trying to get with her. I know people would be saying that I should of made my intentions more clear and pursued her better to avoid friend zone if the roles were reversed. So what should I do? I'm leaning towards smoothly pursuing her friend and just risking whatever happens. Please give me some councel. Thank you
Went on three dates over the weekend, which is rare since I hardly date.
The first one was a coffee date. I thought it was going well and she agreed during the date to go out again. But then I got a text saying she changed her mind and a "It's not you, it's me, I have to figure myself out". Which I took seriously cause she's still finishing school and doesn't have a steady job yet. Okay alright, moving on.
The second one was also a coffee date I got the "We don't really have any chemistry", which I didn't really feel that was the case, but okay, that's fair.
The third one was a second date, a dinner date last night, I thought it went well, and she seemed happy at the end of it. She mentioned she has a birthday party next weekend but was willing to go out again. But she hasn't responded to me back yet, so I'm assuming I blew that one too. Should I text her again? Should I assume she's ignoring? Did I leave that little of an impression? To be fair to her, we don't text each other like a crazy bunch so maybe that's it.
I just needed to tell someone or vent a little. Maybe it's cause I'm keeping my distance too much? Or not being flirty enough? Im not a super affectionate person so maybe that's it.
I took the plunge and that girl I've been seeing and I are now exclusive!
I was going to wait because she just left the country for a couple of weeks on vacation, and was going to ask her when she got back. But on Friday we were hanging out as it was our last time before she left and we were just chilling out in the park. This guy with a camera walks up to us and goes "Awww you guys are cute. Are you a couple?" She and I weren't sure how to respond (later we talked and we both thought he was going to ask to take our picture or something) and we both went "...er...yes" at the same time. He was like "Oh great! Sorry to interrupt your date but would you mind taking a couple pictures of me and my girl here?" So we were instantly relieved and happy to help. They were a cute couple. We sat back down and chatted but I decided that since that random guy brought it up I should address it. I told her I was planning on doing this after she got back but since it was brought up would she like to be exclusive. She said yes and also said she was glad I brought it up because she would have been wondering about it while she was on vacation. So that was decided. Then we watched Spider-man Homecoming and ate cheeseburgers and roast potatoes (her choices - we cooked together though). It was a really great day and we were sad to say goodbye to each other for a couple of weeks. We've already made some plans for when she gets back, and in retrospect I'm glad I didn't wait to bring it up because I'm more at ease now than I think I would have been otherwise, knowing that we're both getting serious about each other. I think she's pretty special and I know I brought this up before but I could see this going somewhere great.
She and I have messaged each other a bit today, as she just got to wherever she's staying and is about to go to bed. Feels good.
In the meantime I have a couple of weeks solo so I'm going to spend time with friends, probably catch Avengers, and watch the entire extended Lord of the Rings trilogy.
(mostly compatible; emotionally, intellectually, physically, logistically),
but... 13 year age difference (me 45, her 32); yay or nay?
You meet a girl on Tinder, she introduces you to her friends and you think its weird she is signaling she likes you?
I dont know if this is serious.
This is Widdle Puppy, so it's more serious than we all would like.
Okay, wait and see it is. Was really close to texting her earlier to see what happened. I'll try to be less serious. Thanks.Third one might get back to you, she might be weighing up options before she commits to next weeks date. I'd check n with her on the Friday if she has not responded by then and if no answer then she's moved on. Chances are from your self description you might come across as a little too serious. You're getting dates, so that's a good thing, just lighten up when your on the dates I guess.
There is about no way I wouldn't think dude was an asshole if he went after her friend.
Not that I think there is really any honor or anything in any of this but still. How the fuck does this go over well?
"I know we met on Tinder but honestly I only see you as a friend. I am more into the friend you introduced me too. I'm gonna go for her"
:/
I still hope dude is not serious.
Okay, wait and see it is. Was really close to texting her earlier to see what happened. I'll try to be less serious. Thanks.
You know how it would play out if it was him introducing her to one of his male friends and then she friendzoned him just to get with that guy. "girl done me wrong, bro stole my girl".
They're fiction. Usually bad fiction. Look at actual data instead, please.
(Yes, you're being naïf.)
Is it naïve of me to assume that I'll find the love of my life in highschool?
This has been clouding my thoughts lately as I've read (and also seen) a good amount of highschool sweetheart stories, thus altering my mind about seeking and maintaining relationship.
College is right around the corner and I acknowledge that the current pool of people is a pond in comparison to the massive ocean that's nearby.