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DatingEra - This isn't like one of your animes

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Krauser Kat said:
That would just lead to rich guys still abusing women with texts. At least you can only send one. but it would get mishandled very fast. OKC lets you comment on pictures now. I think they just implemented a like system that keeps you from messaging people you havent also liked.
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OKC is dead in my city, but good for them and their users. And yep, I get that a text system would be abused.. unless it's completely independent from the likes and super likes, the chance to comment a user is limited for a day, but unlike the super likes, it can't be purchased.

Actually my inquietude comes because I saw a woman wearing a cosplay from one of my favorite characters, and I am like, ok, I will send a super like and hope she likes me in return. If I could have the chance to comment a bit about her and her pics, maybe she would be interested. The cosplay it's about a anime, and my profile mentions it, so maybe I have a chance.

By the way, how works the super likes? They pop-up immediately to the user and they know is a super like or just have more priority to appear in the queue list?
 
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asagami_ said:
OKC is dead in my city, but good for them and their users. And yep, I get that a text system would be abused.. unless it's completely independent from the likes and super likes, the chance to comment a user is limited for a day, but unlike the super likes, it can't be purchased.

Actually my inquietude comes because I saw a woman wearing a cosplay from one of my favorite characters, and I am like, ok, I will send a super like and hope she likes me in return. If I could have the chance to comment a bit about her and her pics, maybe she would be interested. The cosplay it's about a anime, and my profile mentions it, so maybe I have a chance.

By the way, how works the super likes? They pop-up immediately to the user and they know is a super like or just have more priority to appear in the queue list?
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The app tells them they have been super liked. You pop up in the first 15 swipes when they start swiping. Then they just have to choose.
 
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asagami_ said:
Ah, so that's how works. It's not subtle at all lol
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Yeah, it's about as subtle as a brick to the face but it's meant to be like that, you'll also notice the super like button is greyed out on them because you can't super like them back.

Couple of girls I've spoken to in the past few weeks including one I'm still chatting with came from super likes so there will be the odd one that's accidental but not all are due to clumsiness.

Was chatting to a girl at work today, I pestered her to do it the other day so she signed up to Tinder last night and she's loving it so far. She came into work today with "99+ likes", she's also had a few super likes and she's already chatting to a couple of guys. She's very good looking and a really nice girl so it's no surprise to be honest.

She let her mum mess around with her profile last night and her mum swiped a like for a guy she thought looked nice for her daughter and got a match. The guy instantly messaged "Oh jesus, the things I'd do to you ;)" her mum was horrified hahaha.
 
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afroguy10 said:
She let her mum mess around with her profile last night and her mum swiped a like for a guy she thought looked nice for her daughter and got a match. The guy instantly messaged "Oh jesus, the things I'd do to you ;)" her mum was horrified hahaha.
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Oh noooo lol. that is amazing. I have never let my mom see my tinder. lol. i have swiped with her next to me but never texted.
 
obin_gam

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Being together with a woman who has previous kids is easy for the most time, but when it is hard, it's really hard. To know and feel you are secondary is not somethting for the weak spirited.

Her oldest is 16 and goes 500 km south from us in an Elite Handball High School. He has done well and is very clever and social so we have not seen any dangers with it being so far away.
Until today. He calls his mother (my SO) and is devastated. He's crying and is afraid he's gonna flunk the classes and feels no motivation to practice handball or study at all. He's hit the wall completely. His teacher tells us we should come and speak with him and take care of him and of course (I would have done the same) my SO flies in the car and travels down to him. If I could take a vacation from my work I too would have joined her in the car.
Thing is, she tells me on the phone he wants her there for a couple of days. This weekend is my birthday. And we are going to have guests on both Friday and Saturday. So what I am afraid of now is to take care of two days worth of guests by myself, and take care of her youngest (13 year old). I feel selfish feeling this way :/ I know she made the right decision to go down to him, but at the same time I hope she takes him up here for a week or so so he can get out of his depression, and so we can all meet the guests and relatives together as a family. It would be the first time my relatives meet her and her kids, and I was really looking forward to this weekend.

I knew before hand that I was always going to be secondary to the kids, and am OK with that, but to be reminded of the fact is not fun at all :(
 
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Krauser Kat said:
Oh noooo lol. that is amazing. I have never let my mom see my tinder. lol. i have swiped with her next to me but never texted.
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I think part of it was naivety on my friends part, she's only been out of a relationship she was in for 5 years for around 6 months now so she's never really used dating apps and didn't really expect to have the creeps roll out straight away haha.
 

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Yeah, kids will always come first. But it works out if you like those kids too! Good on you for taking care of the youngest.
 
HammerFace

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obin_gam said:
I knew before hand that I was always going to be secondary to the kids, and am OK with that, but to be reminded of the fact is not fun at all :(
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It's not selfish to feel that way. Its a lot you'll have to take on by yourself and it sucks. But the kids come first and you recognize that which is a good thing. Maybe you should ask them to come up, at least that way you can also help out her son. Its a little manipulative but if you're honestly worried about him at least this way you can make sure he is okay as well.

If that doesn't work out, well there's not much you can do but tough it out and take care of things so she can take of her son. Good luck man

Shal said:
I assume thats because of a mental illness (it is, right? :/)

Otherwise I dont get it either.
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Some people can be incredibly socially unaware. Like imagine if you just didn't have many friends during middle school to high school. Chances are you weren't picking up on the appropriate social norms to interact well with others. And then you were probably further excluded and isolated. Some people at this point might pick up on the fact that they are the problem and may need to change some things but others like to blame everyone else or situations or whatever. Then they find others like them online and keep spreading the blame around to others rather than looking at themselves.

Also porn probably doesn't help either. The ease and access of it probably helps set up certain ideas and thought processes such as "Only chads with big dicks get laid because women are superficial" or "Women are all just sluts and want sex because porn told me so."
 
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Llyranor said:
Nothing kills dating potential like negativity.
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Yea, I struggle with that daily and I've seen first hand in the last two weeks during dates that I suck at concealing my feelings. Their are alot of simple topics that get me down like school, family, and my past before 2016.

I've accepted alot of women don't want that in their life but suprisingly many women I've met want to help (while we're seeing each other).
 
Jokab

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Huh so this pretty damn hot girl matched me on Tinder and came out swinging with "<my name>, cute name. Wanna fuck?"
I was taken aback honestly so I started by asking if she's a real profile (might as well try it). She said yeah and kept messaging me a bit. Although she can be a fake profile still, I found her fb and instagram and it all checks out. Well what now
 
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Jokab said:
Huh so this pretty damn hot girl matched me on Tinder and came out swinging with "<my name>, cute name. Wanna fuck?"
I was taken aback honestly so I started by asking if she's a real profile (might as well try it). She said yeah and kept messaging me a bit. Although she can be a fake profile still, I found her fb and instagram and it all checks out. Well what now
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Look for clearer signs and keep your wits about you.
 
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Meet at a nearby bar first. Tip well to ensure the waitress/bartender remembers both of you. You know, in case you're murdered and a sketch is needed.
 
Kayla

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so... i haven't dated anyone in a long time. but I'm not exactly mentally stable. bad idea to try to date now? ;o
 
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Custódio said:
Yeah, but it's not meant to be subtle. My current girlfriend came from a super like on tinder. Coincidentally she had normal liked me first, though.
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Same. She super liked me (I talked about it in DatingGAF), then asked me out on a date too.
At least I got to kiss her first, then she said "I was wondering what was taking so long" (it was second date)
 
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kaylaz said:
so... i haven't dated anyone in a long time. but I'm not exactly mentally stable. bad idea to try to date now? ;o
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I think you should ask yourself if you're ready to handle rejection, ambiguity, and self-doubt with the way you're feeling. Those challenges will be present and if you feel like you're in a place where those elements will sink you, maybe this isn't the right time.
 
Messofanego

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Jokab said:
Huh so this pretty damn hot girl matched me on Tinder and came out swinging with "<my name>, cute name. Wanna fuck?"
I was taken aback honestly so I started by asking if she's a real profile (might as well try it). She said yeah and kept messaging me a bit. Although she can be a fake profile still, I found her fb and instagram and it all checks out. Well what now
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If you want to have sex too, meet in a public place first then if she checks out, go for it lol.
 

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Yeah I super liked my now gfs profile.

i was using tinder for bordom relief in work and honestly she was the only profile that really piqued my interest. I super liked her because fuck tinder and the game, I wanted to say directly, I; like you and wanna meet you. Worked out so far.


Re: Cringe Video. Dear Jesus Christ.

Shit like that is a prime example of why women often have to do the things they do. And also that even in the best counties in the world, there are straight up disadvantages to being a woman.

Honestly she's lucky he didn't shoot her or throw acid in the face.


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EarthBound64

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Woo - I'm dating someone! :)

And funnily enough, it didn't happen through any of the websites I was paying piles of money to.
It happened through
ResetEra
 
EarthBound64

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She wasn't on GAF either, due to the requirements for registration (paid email), although she lurked there (apparently I had a lurker fanbase. Who knew). So I only found out once ResetEra happened.
 
Galkinator

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So.. How the hell do you make these apps worth your while?
I've got bearly any matches, and I don't think I'm bad looking. Are there any specific photos ya'll think women are more into?
 
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