Crush, bacon, hand written notes in class? Not sure what to do after 6 hours? Better ask Era.
Ladies and gentlemen, I present to you ERA Man!
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Ladies and gentlemen, I present to you ERA Man!
OP
OP
How old are you? Seriously. You went fishing and had a marlin just jump into your boat. You don't need advice, you need action.
Yeah... i'm a giant idiot. Anyways, finally read her letter, and it's short but sweet. I don't deserve a friend like her. I want to text her, but I don't know how to end it. What's a good thing to say since she's still at work? "Don't work too hard" doesn't seem that we'll thought out.
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Literally always crazy + bacon.
You literally have no idea what you're doing. That's fine! It seems like you're in high school, and now's the time to learn. It's why you're posting here.
First off, do you want to be her friend or do you want to date her? I'm going to assume the latter, given the title of this thread. What you say doesn't matter, considering you've already got a preexisting relationship and she clearly already likes you.
Just text her. Acknowledge reading the letter. Send a cute .gif of a tired-looking animal or something. And then ask her out already. Seriously: what the fuck are you waiting for? If you want to date her, ask her out on a date. Based on what you've said, she's clearly into you.
Want to eat a mountain of bacon for brunch on Saturday?
I married my high school sweetheart.
Then she divorced me at 34 and I'm not gonna pretend it hasn't been a really rough go. I have no dating skills at all and losing the only person I've ever been with has been an extremely rough experience and not one I handled well at all.
I'm unconvinced you even like her if after 3 repeated attempts by her to chill with you you're still unaware of what you need to do.
the fuck
the fuck
ok clearly you're the girl you're talking about and you're just trying to gauge if the guy you're crushing over is into you or not
he clearly isn't stop wasting your time
Xavillin Just text her "bacon?"
She: "Always."
You: "That's crazy! Me too! Let's go to this restaurant."
Boom. Make daddy Alwayscrazybacon proud.
She: "Always."
You: "That's crazy! Me too! Let's go to this restaurant."
Boom. Make daddy Alwayscrazybacon proud.
Don't hold out hope. Keep in mind that whatever people say doesn't actually mean a lot. She can say she has those feelings for you, but it doesn't mean she does. Her actions, in this case saying no, tell you what you need to know. Realize that you can't control how she feels and let it go, search for other options. You're only 24, so there will be plenty. Also she's 19, basically still a child mentally when it comes to romance and dating. Don't expect her to be mature about this.
Scared of what? He asked her to hang out. She said yes but now he wont hangout with her. Do you like her? Yes? Then just follow through with what you already asked 3 times.
It's just a damn girl, a regular human. She's been reaching out to you to spend time with you and you're afraid to even acknowledge that she's trying.
Stop thinking so much. Just talk to her. She likes you, and if you like her then you're already on the same page.
quit bein a lil bish
unless, of course, you know, you're lying, and you're actually the chick in question. In which case save your affection boo boo this one is just not that into you
This sounds like one of the cases of your inaction is causing the other person's interest in you to rise.
Tinder is just a giant bingo tumbler, pretty much. The problem is not that there are no winners, it's that you don't have the tools to separate winners from losers, so you just have to keep playing until you get lucky. And, of course that tends to wear one out after a while.
She hasn't responded to my text yesterday. But I guess there's not much to respond to since I just wrote that her letter made my day even better.
I think I disappointed her yesterday, but I know what the problem was. Gonna try to fix it when I see her again on Monday.
I think I disappointed her yesterday, but I know what the problem was. Gonna try to fix it when I see her again on Monday.
nice! Congrats. Dates, especially first dates, where you can just sit and talk for hours is a sign of great compatibility.
I did read everybody's comment. There's only like 2 weeks left before summer break. I'll finally try to find time after finals.
So there is a striper work going on on my SO's house (she lives with her parents), I dont know the details besides that a worker at her house is getting married (they have a hair saloon there), she turned off the phone for long and just now she is telling me.
Is it ok for me to get a little mad about that?
Is it ok for me to get a little mad about that?
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I mean there is a lot of ways to enjoy yourself that aren't exactly cool for a partner.
Extreme example (I know.it doesn't apply here I just want to get my point across): I could enjoy myself having a orgy with strangers, doesn't mean my couple should be happy about it.
In this case, we usually talk in the afternoon, yesterday she was acting weird all day (that was my gut feeling at least) and I was expecting to talk to her in the afternoon to find out what was going on but well she turned off her phone and then in the night she told me about the stripper thing going on.
Also I was kind of sad because I was sick all day yesterday (flu) and she never asked me how I was nor showed any care to ask me how my day was going (which we have done all days before), so since we had that habit and yesterday it didn't happen it bugged me a bit. I asked her how her day was going and if she was ok but that's when she had her phone turned off, and then when she answered back hours later she ignored my question and told.me about the stripper work going on in her house.
In that context I got a little upset about that, but well whatever, I know that it is my problem that I had the expectation that we were gonna talk yesterday and it was my feeling that she was acting weird.
Also first time that I hear that my partner is on a stripper show so that threw me off as well but I think that a big factor for my state of feeling upset at that moment was that she ignored my question for the stripper, never getting back to it, and that I felt that she wasn't interested in knowing how I was yesterday even though she knew that I had been starting to feel sick days before (dismissing my question and never asking anything related).
All of this threw me off but well I just have to remind myself that it's not a big deal.
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Word of the wise to OKC users: Bookmark those who shoot you replies before you can get them your number. At first I thought this one girl unmatched me, but it turned out the server is just jacking up because she'll reappear in my messages/matches randomly. And I haven't gotten to message her my # yet, so now I'm just hoping the server phases her in again. XD
Of course. And if that makes you uncomfortable, it's good to let your partner know. So that you both know each other's boundaries. It's a shame she didn't wonder how you were doing since you're not feeling well, maybe also be honest about that making it feel weird. She should let you know next time when her phone will be turned off and for what reason so that you know when you can contact her.
Yeah I'm mostly sad that she didn't wonder how I was doing, in my mind she had better things to do (like watch the stripper show) and that brings me down and makes me feel a bit dissapointed of her, I thought she cared more.
But well whatever, I will tell her about it when the time seems fit but for now I will just suck it up.
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Why do you have to suck it up? If she truly cares about you, you should be able to be honest about your concerns. Better to communicate about it now instead of bottling it up and she starts noticing something is wrong through your tone, body language, or language.
Because while im feeling like this I tend to say things that I dont really mean to say, so I try to avoid that through waiting so I can cool off.
Like if I talked to her about it now I would probably say that im a bit dissapointed of her, that she ignored my questions and didnt even bother going back to them (basically talking about how we both were feeling yesterday since she seemed weird) that she was too busy watching a stripper to get back to me and wonder how I was doing (even after he left).
Dissapointment for me is a big word so Im not sure if I really want to say that to her, so thats why im waiting a bit to think more in cool, but well problem with waiting is that I can start overanalyzing stuff which isnt good either, im kind of in the limbo.
What do you think about my point of view?
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Well I expressed my feelings to her and she understood where I was coming from, she didnt have much to tell me back besides sorry but I understand that theres not much to be said in response to that.
After that she said shes sorry that our level of interest is not the same, she said she thought she was very interested but her actions made her doubt that now.
Well it seems this might be the end of it all but lets see, im not sure I want to date someone who isnt much interested in me.
Good thing I didnt rush the exclusive talk but how do you guys deal with different level of interest (on each other) between you and your partner? Im kind of thinking that her interest in me is quite lower than my interest in her, should I keep pursuing something with her anyway or is just better to try somewhere else?
I think trying somewhere else might be better for me but im kind of tired of looking for partners, is such an emotional drag for me to eat my feelings with Chick B and try somewhere else even though I really like her.
What do you guys/gals recommend based on your experience?
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Hey, at least you found out sooner than later than she's not that interested in you. She doesn't seem interested in salvaging this either, so it's best to move on. I know it can be a drag but it just takes time. Took me 1.5 years to find my now fiance. If you don't have the energy for it, get into other hobbies that aren't dating. Maybe you need a break cause it's using up a lot of emotional energy. Just keep your options open, maybe look for a date once a month instead.
Yes this might be for the better indeed, it sucks for me though because Im already emotionally invested with her and it saddens me to leave everything behind.
I will still wait and see what she finally says about all of it after thinking it, right now she says that shes unclear about everything but im already feeling like its best to move on even though I want to believe that it isnt. I will see if she tries anything to salvage this and see.
Now, I will have to talk with my therapist about my levels of interest, they might be unhealthy high and maybe I expect too much from others.
Im really bummed that I cant find someone with my level of interest, someone that really cares and pays attention to me like I do with them, all I want is genuine affection and all of this makes me doubt my self worth :/
Also it doesnt help that im still with a bit of the flu, a nights out could work improving my mood today but I doubt I get better for that today.
Thanks for answering man, I appreciate it, have a nice day.
Have fun.
Meh the more I think about chick B the more I get sad that its not going to work. Such a shame that I dont have anything to distract myself with at the moment lol, welp
I might possibly have a shot at this girl I'm crazy about at work(small workplace <10 people). Talk me out of it ERA. Bear in mind that I'm a 25 year old virgin.
After my marriage ended I went to an online dating website. Managed to get chatting to a bunch of women. In about a week since joining the website I'd arranged some dates with 3 women I wasn't exactly interested in a serious relationship with, was about to go jump into bed with anybody when luckily got a date first with another women id been chatting to that I actually wanted, and now we're getting married. Sooo lucky it's unbelievable.
Whoah, how long did that take from firstt meeting this woman and getting married?! Can't be just a week, that would be a record. Details, dude heh. Congrats, man! Best wishes.
Friends, family, anyone else to see a movie with? Tbh I prefer seeing movies just by myself.
Nope, well I started watching some videos in youtube I guess that helps for now lel
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Well we talked again with chick B and we fixed things, we are fine now so im happy, lets see how it goes :)
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I always dread breaking up with someone, even if the relationship isn't that old (just a couple months). She's super into me and the relationship and as time has gone on I'm just.. not, so I expect this to go very poorly. The only saving grace is we haven't been together very long, so we're entangled but not super entangled.
Haha thanks, that was over 2 years ago we met and we just got engaged last week!
So, this is weird. At least for me. Each girl I've been with have basically taken the first step. So the situation now is that I would like to let this girl now that I'm interested in her, but I have no idea how to. I mean, I could tell her that I'm interested of course, but I'm too fucking scared to do that - since I've never been the first in a relationship to do that. I have no clue how I would react to rejection. The idea I have is to give small hints that I do have interest in her, but what is a small hint? Maybe there needs to be more context to this in order to get some suggestions?
