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Willing to share your pics for helpful critique?
What are you doing in your pics? Pics of you posing in your room won't excite anyone. The more the pics says about you or what you do, the better.
I'm going to a festival and I know the surefuck I gonna take photos hahaha
Hopefully helps a little to my dating luck
I personally find it extremely tricky to get pictures of "what I do". My daily routine, as is the case for most I would imagine, is boring shit. In my case grad school. When I'm actually out doing stuff with people and pictures get taken it's rare for me to be happy enough with the picture to put it on a dating profile. I can look decent enough but only if I spend like 20 minutes getting myself to look just right. I don't have pictures of me going hiking or whatever because I don't hike or do outdoorsy stuff, I wouldn't want to misrepresent myself anyway. I don't think I come across as a straight-up shut-in but my pics end up just being coming across generic? I don't know.
Another thing I'm uncomfortable with is sharing pictures with my friends/colleagues in them. I'd put pictures with their face on a dating site without their consent. I know tons of people do it and it makes me look social but I honestly don't feel comfortable doing that.
I can PM my profile pics to someone in here for feedback, since I've honestly never had feedback and I'm getting weirded out by the complete lack of matches. On apps like bumble, I literally have zero matches. I'm sure there's something minor I can change but I think it's someone else who needs to see it because I can't quite put my finger on what that would be.
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You're a lady though. Fortunately (or unfortunately) men are much easier to excite.
(I'll be in Disneyland this weekend. So hype!)
Feel free to PM me.
Regarding the friends/colleagues thing, plenty of peope anonymize them. They'll draw circles over their faces, swirl them, copy/paste celeb photos on top while making cheeky comment. You got options there.
I'll shoot you a pm soon (tomorrow most likely), thanks for the offer!
I've seen anonymized pics on girls' profiles and they look...odd? Don't know how to describe it. I'm probably making it a way bigger deal than it actually is lol
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Bad idea
You don't need group hangout pics - many here have gotten along fine without them. Showing you know how to be sociable though doesn't hurt.
Most don't care if their friends are in the pic. Anonymizing helps pinpoint which one they are though, so it's appreciated.
You don't need group hangout pics - many here have gotten along fine without them. Showing you know how to be sociable though doesn't hurt.
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Anybody here in their 30's still active in the dating scene?
It feels like I am out of touch with so many things, hahaha.
It feels like I am out of touch with so many things, hahaha.
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Plenty. We seem to have a better grasp on things than the young-ins. What're you questioning?
Well the hard part about participating in these kind of threads for me is the fact that I am a non US non European citizen, and in a place where most people would look at you puzzlingly if you ask them "Do you know Tinder?" Hahaha. I guess what I want to say is, GAF and I guess now ResetEra are truly only two Internet communities that I am actively participating in and it feels like 90% of practical advices I've seen thrown around are simply inapplicable where I live, which makes me kinda sad, hahaha.
Well, to be frank Internet dating is still a foreign concept for me, I am still trying to work my understanding around it.
A lot of countries have their own specific dating apps, the general rules of behavior between users between all of them are pretty similar. Would be useful if we knew what country you are living in for some perspective.
Pictures with friends in a friendly/interesting setting, picture with a dog/cat, picture of you enjoying a hobby/passion.
I always find too many pictures of someone on holiday intimidates me so I just swipe left most of the time and too many pictures of the person on their own that look professional screams bot to me so I also tend to swipe left.
Then again, I'm a dude so it could be totally different for women but I tend to do alright with likes and the odd match when I follow the above.
Don't use a business card to make a personal contact. Business cards are for business. You are representing your company.
After you sat on a flight next to each other and didn't talk, however short the flight, it would seem extra weird to come out of nowhere with a personal text.
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Ah, I live in Indonesia. TBH I have not yet investigated whether dating apps have become a known quantity yet here, I am just kinda assuming they don't, hahaha.
I thought so, thanks guys.
I hope that this is a joke. A tasteless one. Maybe you should look up what sexual harassment actually means before throwing it at people in this thread.
Yep, thanks.
hold on a sec:
1.there are women on the internet? on ERA?
2.people on ERA are getting together?
how?
did i miss something? i have a lot of trouble even talking to women who look nice or who are smart at least the ones appealing to me.
since no girl ever started talking ever to me, and all the talk i started, went down the gutter or ended up super weird, iam so terrified about the women.
how to handle this?
1.there are women on the internet? on ERA?
2.people on ERA are getting together?
how?
did i miss something? i have a lot of trouble even talking to women who look nice or who are smart at least the ones appealing to me.
since no girl ever started talking ever to me, and all the talk i started, went down the gutter or ended up super weird, iam so terrified about the women.
how to handle this?
I mean, what you said specifically isn't, but "guy meets cute girl in professional setting, gets number strictly for business purposes, and then tries to abuse that for flirting" is at least highly inappropriate.
I told you I didn't want to go public yet.
It would be more accurate to characterize it as a plan to sexually harass her in the future.
I rather not share my photos, but currently they are 3 selfies(one at home, one with a friend, one in nature with silly face and sunglasses)
Before that I had pictures of me with my dog, pictures while scuba diving, pictures lying next to a kangaroo, pictures on beautiful landscapes in New Zealand, didn't see any big difference while changing pics tbh.
Congrats Earthbound!
My girlfriend and I have gotten through Thor the Dark World and she still wants to continue seeing every MCU movie. Bless her. She loved Winter Soldier and was happy that Bucky is alive.
We're going to see Ragnarok either this weekend or next. Post Age of Ultron, is there anything besides Doctor Strange showing up for a few minutes that's related to the rest of the MCU? In terms of other characters showing up? I haven't seen it either, and I'm trying to stay relatively free of spoilers.
My girlfriend and I have gotten through Thor the Dark World and she still wants to continue seeing every MCU movie. Bless her. She loved Winter Soldier and was happy that Bucky is alive.
We're going to see Ragnarok either this weekend or next. Post Age of Ultron, is there anything besides Doctor Strange showing up for a few minutes that's related to the rest of the MCU? In terms of other characters showing up? I haven't seen it either, and I'm trying to stay relatively free of spoilers.
I had to do a double take to realize this wasn't an euphemism for relationship troubles
I'm okay, decent at best, with the party/club scene when talking to women and progressing from there. Yet I don't think it's going to get me what I want.
I haven't been in a serious relationship/had a girlfriend in 3 1/2 years now. I graduated college this past June so my "pool" of women has gotten smaller since I don't date co-workers.
So I'm thinking about trying out dating apps. For a dude in his mid-twenties, what apps other than Tinder, which I intend to use, would you recommend? I also need tips on photos for those profiles. My insta is just selfies and pics of social outings with me not in them.
I haven't been in a serious relationship/had a girlfriend in 3 1/2 years now. I graduated college this past June so my "pool" of women has gotten smaller since I don't date co-workers.
So I'm thinking about trying out dating apps. For a dude in his mid-twenties, what apps other than Tinder, which I intend to use, would you recommend? I also need tips on photos for those profiles. My insta is just selfies and pics of social outings with me not in them.
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Update on my stepson-depressed-in-another-city
He took the decision to come home for a week. And try the Local High school to see if it fits better. :) I am so satisfied now, he took the right call :)
He took the decision to come home for a week. And try the Local High school to see if it fits better. :) I am so satisfied now, he took the right call :)
Let the wine do the work and get her to talk about herself. If it ever gets quiet, just ask her about or anything or just talk about something that's happened to you recently. If she's interested, she won't really care what you guys talk about as long as it's happening. You got this.
Just out of curiosity, how many dates have y'all been on this year? Realized a couple weeks ago it's just one for me, which is pretty sad, this year has really flown by. Kinda doubt I'll get any more this year as I've been busy and haven't felt like using the apps. But then again there's a cute girl in orchestra with me I've been eyeing, maybe I'll work up the courage to talk to her sometime.
Date 1 of 5 coming up soon.
Mid 30s. Pretty funny and smart. She got into some personal stuff really quick. A hour in she mentioned how she diddled her self so hard for an hour that she couldnt touch it for a week. A good start to this era of my dating life.
Have you ever gotten to a bar and been completely unprepared. I got to the bar last night without my driver's license. No idea how i pulled that off.
Mid 30s. Pretty funny and smart. She got into some personal stuff really quick. A hour in she mentioned how she diddled her self so hard for an hour that she couldnt touch it for a week. A good start to this era of my dating life.
Have you ever gotten to a bar and been completely unprepared. I got to the bar last night without my driver's license. No idea how i pulled that off.
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Very hard to judge then. Those scenes are textbook examples of good ones - adventure and cue animals. Your lack of matches could be anything from something more subtly wrong with the pics (unintentionally creepy, ring looks like a wedding band) to apps not being popular in your area. Have you had friends look at your photos? Ones that have known you long enough that they'll be brutally honest if needbe?
Which apps depend a lot on location. In the US, Tinder, OKCupid, and Bumble are the big ones. Match and eHarmony are more "Serious" dating apps - more expensive, better to hone your game on the free options first.
For pics, three is a good minimum. A few more won't hurt though. You'll want a clear view of your face and an unobstructed view of your body. You've got some goods, show them off! One pic can be a selfie, and you better look damn good in it. The rest is a matter of stopping for two minutes to take pics whenever you're out enjoying life.
Bad idea wtf, although I want to see you call her and see the schadenfreude.
She'll already have a bunch of thirsty dudes calling her who she gave out her business card to saying similar things. Guy missed his golden chance not to make small talk during the flight. Would have been an amazing IN when he met her at the show and then he could follow up now without it being creepy.