maybe she's on there checking to see if you're on there..
which you are...
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maybe she's on there checking to see if you're on there..
which you are...
Yes, it's ridiculous that you're jealous.
No, it doesn't mean she's not into you: you've got a fourth date planned, don't you?
Until you're exclusive, you're not. Date other people. She probably is.
Or, if you want to be exclusive with her (and you probably shouldn't after just three dates), ask.
Asked a co-worker out today.
"Not now, maybe later."
Is what she said after I asked if she'd like to go out sometime.
Felt like a gut punch since I was almost sure there was mutual interest.
"Not now, maybe later."
Is what she said after I asked if she'd like to go out sometime.
Felt like a gut punch since I was almost sure there was mutual interest.
Just to make sure you know that there isn't a "maybe later" that was a no. Move onto the next.
Pretty shitty situation but long story (kinda) short:
I met a girl at work. (My mom also works there and knows her, just for later clarification). We started to get to know each other, we have a lot in common. She started giving me signals like grabbing me from behind, starting texting, waiting for me and talking for hours after work (she is very introverted) and a LOT other stuff. We even went on a work dinner as a couple but I didn't make a move. After that I found out that she has a BF in a different country. And he actually has a degree from my Uni. And she never mentioned him whatsoever. So I backed off as that's pretty fucked up. But we kept chatting ocasionaly, mostly about work.
Some weeks later she had a conversation with my mom about my ex. She even asked if I was over her. She also said that her relationship with her BF was very shaky because they didn't have anything in common and that she would go out with me whenever I wanted and if he said something about it she would dump him.
What the hell is her problem? Monkey branching?
I met a girl at work. (My mom also works there and knows her, just for later clarification). We started to get to know each other, we have a lot in common. She started giving me signals like grabbing me from behind, starting texting, waiting for me and talking for hours after work (she is very introverted) and a LOT other stuff. We even went on a work dinner as a couple but I didn't make a move. After that I found out that she has a BF in a different country. And he actually has a degree from my Uni. And she never mentioned him whatsoever. So I backed off as that's pretty fucked up. But we kept chatting ocasionaly, mostly about work.
Some weeks later she had a conversation with my mom about my ex. She even asked if I was over her. She also said that her relationship with her BF was very shaky because they didn't have anything in common and that she would go out with me whenever I wanted and if he said something about it she would dump him.
What the hell is her problem? Monkey branching?
Hi all,
Does anyone in this thread have experience dealing with their okcupid account being suspended?
Having re-read the terms, I am not in violation of anything so this looks like it was either an error or a case of someone else hacking into my account.
I've contacted customer support but it seems like they don't usually respond and reading other users' testimonies creating a new account with the same or similar pictures/text is a good way to get suspended again.
Okc is by far the most popular dating site in my area so being kicked out could have a noticeable effect on my dating prospects.
I've had this account for over 6 years with zero issues so it's pretty strange being suspended out of the blue like this.
Does anyone in this thread have experience dealing with their okcupid account being suspended?
Having re-read the terms, I am not in violation of anything so this looks like it was either an error or a case of someone else hacking into my account.
I've contacted customer support but it seems like they don't usually respond and reading other users' testimonies creating a new account with the same or similar pictures/text is a good way to get suspended again.
Okc is by far the most popular dating site in my area so being kicked out could have a noticeable effect on my dating prospects.
I've had this account for over 6 years with zero issues so it's pretty strange being suspended out of the blue like this.
Her boyfriend's in another country so she's lonely and needs the attention she should be getting from him. Unless he's moving back, they'll be done soon. But I certainly wouldn't get with her before she definitely ends things with him. But then, if she's willing to be secretive, flirt with other guys and stuff while still "dating" this other dude, regardless of distance, she might do the same to you. Just talk to her yourself, don't rely on 2nd hand info from your mom. Clear things up, as her what she wants, tell her what you want and move on from there. But as usual, you probably shouldn't date a co-worker, especially one who's flirting while dating someone else.
Yeah. I'm not going to get involved with someone who does that kind of crap. She just quit the job actually, and she doesn't have a new one. She's just a fucking mess.
Thanks for your reply!
Just don't use the same photos. I doubt they are using facial recognition software to link two photos together.
Define ghosting, as it can mean a lot of things. Like, not responding to messages after you meet? Happens constantly in the city.
Conversations themselves just die, as they should. It is 100% okay to just stop texting somebody you haven't made any plans with yet.
The distances involved in suburban/rural dating can be a big barrier. Not only are there more women around me in Chicago than out in the suburbs, but it is generally super easy to grab tea/coffee after work or on a weekend AM, or drinks barring that. I've dated substantially more women in the last two years than I had in the previous fifteen. Still haven't found much serious, but that's on me and not on the odds. Being in the city has been tremendously better for my dating life, and my confidence.
Don't invest emotionally in any type of situation that has a structural barrier. Falling for that kind of trap will erode your confidence over time.
IMO, avoid for like 4 different reasons.
I've never heard the term Monkey Branching before, but, uh, yeah, totally sucks to fall for that kind of situation. It is very unlikely to work out for you, and is very likely to just ended up hurting you and wasting your time.
As much as it wounds me to acknowledge this, I actually kind of empathize with Widdle Puppy here.
It isn't just about giving signals and reading signals, but also being on the same page as the other person with regards to what constitute signals, and what the "appropriate" rate of progression is. You're probably closer to making things happen than you think. There's been women I've gone on three dates that were totally non-receptive to touching, but still wanted to go on more dates with me, which a few years ago I would have said is extremely odd but I guess is more common than I had expected.
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If it comes to that, that's what I'll do.
Still sucks having to use a different email just for okc (I'm not about to use a work email so have to setup a new personal email), rewrite my profile and re answer hundreds of questions for no apparent reason.
Was hoping perhaps someone here knew of a more effective way of getting in contact with their support.
Well done on asking, at least you now have a confirmation of how she feels about you instead of having to guess in your head for ages.
Hey duders,
I've been on two dates with this girl but I have decided I'm really not interested for a number of reasons. She's a great girl, I just don't think it's a good fit. Is two dates enough that I owe her a "sorry this isn't going to work for me" message? Or should I just stop communicating? I suspect she might know it's not going to continue given that our last date ended with no attempts to make any further plans but I also feel kind of bad about saying nothing.
I've been on two dates with this girl but I have decided I'm really not interested for a number of reasons. She's a great girl, I just don't think it's a good fit. Is two dates enough that I owe her a "sorry this isn't going to work for me" message? Or should I just stop communicating? I suspect she might know it's not going to continue given that our last date ended with no attempts to make any further plans but I also feel kind of bad about saying nothing.
Don't ghost, just send the message and then block/delete her number.
Are you both actually still texting? If so, I agree with Bacon. If she's hitting you up for plans or trying to stay engaged, that's a different story, and you've got to send a message to end it.
On the other hand, it communication has completely halted after two lackluster dates, then I'd just move on. You don't need to send the "I really wasn't that into you, sorry" message: the silence is enough evidence of that.
So I feel like venting a bit, i few months ago I did this;
So first and foremost what I did definitely wasn't a mistake at the time and the was the right thing to do. Now that said, I feel fucking awful about it these days. All the dating around since has felt really empty and hollow, I'm realizing how hard it is to find someone I'm genuinely into, especially after her. Shit sucks.
So first and foremost what I did definitely wasn't a mistake at the time and the was the right thing to do. Now that said, I feel fucking awful about it these days. All the dating around since has felt really empty and hollow, I'm realizing how hard it is to find someone I'm genuinely into, especially after her. Shit sucks.
I have a friend who broke up with a girl because he was going to uni and he didn't feel like he cared about her enough. He felt it was the right thing to do at the time. Now he feels like an ass for doing it because he realized that he *really* likes her.
He tried to get her back but she has a new boyfriend. I'd say for you to do the same but I'm guessing it's also too late? Good luck anyway man
Hey guys. I don't know if you remember me from my "novels" (check my post history). That single mom I asked out on Valentine's Day, the one who said she'd let me know, but never got back to me? Last night, we were the only people to show up for work. Long story short, at the end of the night, she showed me her breasts and let me fondle them. It's weird because I never asked her out again (for my ego's sake, I didn't want to seem like a beggar), but then this happens out of the blue.
Any ideas what might be up with this girl?
Any ideas what might be up with this girl?
Indeed, she has and good for her. I did the right thing at the time because I'm sure I would have ended up cheating on her. It's just a frustrating life lesson to learn.
How did that situation start?
"Hey wanna look at my tits?"
"Can I cop a feel?'
"Sure"
"Thanks!"
What details have you left out of this story? She's still probably just teasing you.
Edit: Bringing everyone up to speed this was the original situation https://www.resetera.com/threads/da...e-one-of-your-animes.666/page-56#post-4238367
This would normally go without saying but in this case yeah, it's probably a good idea to point out...
To be fair, it took a while but he did see sense in the end maybe. But I can't imagine getting her baps out if there was not some instigation on his part.
Man, seeing someone with severe anxiety is really tough and draining.
You can have an amazing date but end up being pushed away by her and she is distant yet again. I don't know how it feels to be cheated on the way she was, but I just try my best to give her space and time. Even when I really want to see her. I get the sense and feeling she cares for me, but due to being hurt the way she was in a past relationship, she just refuses to fall deeply for someone so quickly and just has these walls guarding her. She lets them down sometimes, but once she realizes it she puts them back up.
I'm not gonna freak out, because I know that someone like her is capable of getting through it. And if we get that far, I know it will be worth it, she's an amazing person with a big heart. I try to be cautious with myself and expectation, but it's tough because sometimes I get anxiety too -__-.
You can have an amazing date but end up being pushed away by her and she is distant yet again. I don't know how it feels to be cheated on the way she was, but I just try my best to give her space and time. Even when I really want to see her. I get the sense and feeling she cares for me, but due to being hurt the way she was in a past relationship, she just refuses to fall deeply for someone so quickly and just has these walls guarding her. She lets them down sometimes, but once she realizes it she puts them back up.
I'm not gonna freak out, because I know that someone like her is capable of getting through it. And if we get that far, I know it will be worth it, she's an amazing person with a big heart. I try to be cautious with myself and expectation, but it's tough because sometimes I get anxiety too -__-.
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She wants attention and you are giving it to her. That's all.
So... For those who followed my story with my Parisian girl who lives 800km from me and who doesn't want to put a label on us for now and wants to stay in a gray area.
She came to my place for a few days last weekend.
It started badly, we had a fight over some stupid bullshit. The next day she was very cold and distant and didn't really respond when I tried to initiate things with her, and she said one too many joke about not wanting me etc...
I said that if she was friendzoning me she should say so and that from now on I would stop coming to her. She didn't like that and cried... We talked, I obviously have a hard time understanding her...
The rest of her stay was perfect as usual.
She definitely has issues with expressing her feelings... At the end of her stay, I asked if she still had a good time despite the fights. It took her 3 days to answer that some things should have been avoided but it was still very nice .
We're still in that fucking gray area, but 2 days ago she called me for 2 hours and we talked a lot about her moving to my city or me moving to Paris etc...
I also said that I won't be able to be in that gray area for long.
She also noticed that we've been talking since the end of January and we met at the beginning of February, so all that "it's too early" talk isn't really relevant anymore.
I think she might be in love with me but is petrified by her fear of commitment in a new relationship.
And apparently I've not been clear about my feelings and intentions, she said that she thought I only liked her for the sex, and she was really surprised when I said that I would be ok to move to Paris for her, as soon as my job allows me, which is 2019 though...
She came to my place for a few days last weekend.
It started badly, we had a fight over some stupid bullshit. The next day she was very cold and distant and didn't really respond when I tried to initiate things with her, and she said one too many joke about not wanting me etc...
I said that if she was friendzoning me she should say so and that from now on I would stop coming to her. She didn't like that and cried... We talked, I obviously have a hard time understanding her...
The rest of her stay was perfect as usual.
She definitely has issues with expressing her feelings... At the end of her stay, I asked if she still had a good time despite the fights. It took her 3 days to answer that some things should have been avoided but it was still very nice .
We're still in that fucking gray area, but 2 days ago she called me for 2 hours and we talked a lot about her moving to my city or me moving to Paris etc...
I also said that I won't be able to be in that gray area for long.
She also noticed that we've been talking since the end of January and we met at the beginning of February, so all that "it's too early" talk isn't really relevant anymore.
I think she might be in love with me but is petrified by her fear of commitment in a new relationship.
And apparently I've not been clear about my feelings and intentions, she said that she thought I only liked her for the sex, and she was really surprised when I said that I would be ok to move to Paris for her, as soon as my job allows me, which is 2019 though...
That's high level blue balling right there. Did you try to go any further?
Was that link to the wrong page? I don't see mention of Introvert there.
might be because I'm on 100PPP. It's post #5563. Goes right there when I click the link.
If he'd lost his 30+ year old dateless, kiss-less virgin status he'd have let us know.
Oof, that's even worse blueballs. Congrats on the grope though.
Found it. Oh no.............so Introvert is one of those posters who never listens to advice and just keeps on going through messed up situations and love to let us know every single detail.
Is there somekind of backstory from where your hands suddenly ended up on her breasts?
I've met my share of extrovert women, but they don't just show the titties nomatter how attention craving they might be.
i mean, i dunno
generally, when a girl lets me play with her nipples, she's looking forward to us both eventually doing things naked together
she could have just needed a boob exam, whoooooooo knows
it was probably just nothing, i mean they're just boobs. You should probably just ignore her from now on, she was clearly just trolling you into thinking she wanted you to touch her private parts.
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are you fuckin kidding me bro
she's clearly getting off on your innocence. Between grinding a boner out of you and letting you touch her tits, i'd say she probably finds the concept of so easily blowing your mind extremely appealing.
this girl will like, 95% take your virginity from you in a heartbeat, all you probably have to do is fucking ask
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I know this reference! Guess I lost my Resetera reference virginity finally.
Nope, he's been through this before. As soon as he shows serious interest she backs off. She's just sexually harrasing him for kicks.
Tbh Introvert I would report that lady to HR for sexual harassment and assault. She isn't wanting to have sex with you.
She's taking advantage of you and grooming you. She's getting off on the power imbalance. Why have you not done this yet? Please tell me it's not because you are so desperate to get some.
She's taking advantage of you and grooming you. She's getting off on the power imbalance. Why have you not done this yet? Please tell me it's not because you are so desperate to get some.
I always say don't shit where you eat. But if you are going to, get more out of it than feeling some tits. Smh.
