Then maybe you should stop doing that. :P
For those who do this... How is this fun? Serious question. I don't get it. I once invaded with my SL1 character (I was in NG+, hosts were in NG), with a maxed out pyro flame, maxed out lightning hand axe, and maxed out crimson robes. Hosts could barely scratch me, and I could easily one- or two-shot them. After doing that 2-3 times, I felt bad, and swapped my axe for a +0 one. Still, my upgraded armour felt way OP, they did chip damage on me and even with phantoms it was too easy and got boring super fast.
I will never, ever understanding Dickwraithing, and I'm glad the later games tried to prevent this (it was clearly not intended gameplay behaviour from the devs). Soul memory wasn't a great solution, but I understand why they did it, and fortunately they got it mostly right in DS3 with the weapon restrictions and removing upgradable armour.