Man, that "Fuck Yes or No." article in the OP is fucking me up. I've never had a mutual "Fuck yes" situation in regards to romance probably ever. Dates, sure. I can get a first date without much trouble. Sex, yeah. If I'm in the right head space and feeling myself I can turn a girl on pretty thoroughly. But romance? Extended fondness? Falling in love? That shit I've never been able to get mutually. If a girl is super into me I'm typically not into her, or if I'm super into somebody I usually wear out my welcome and drive them away.
Even with this girl I've been seeing on and off for a year and a half or so. We're not together, we're not a couple, but we're not just fuck buddies either. There's attachment and intimacy and a lot of shared history, even if one of the primary foundations of our interpersonal relationship is a strong attraction and sexual chemistry. But it's always been "Fuck yeah we're both down for grabbing a drink!" "Fuck yeah we can get a hotel room tonight!" "Fuck yeah you can come over, my folks are out of town!" (We both live with our parents) But where I would gladly take it further and say we're together, or wanna take things further, or make extended future plans, she's not feeling it. She says she doesn't love me like I love her, although she does make me feel loved fairly often. But it's just not a fuck yes for her. It's not even a yes in regards to that. And it's not like she's regularly going out with other guys and playing the field. When things are going good for us, we're exclusive to each other cause we both have busy lives and do a pretty good job of scratching that itch for each other. There have been a few times where we've "broke up" and she's gone out on dates and on one occasion she even slept with another guy, and I've slept with a few other girls in such times, but we always end up back with each other. I'd like to think it's out of more than just a habit, but maybe it's just because she hasn't found anyone that's better than me yet.
Anyhow, the article just confirms what my friends tell me and what I know, that I need to walk away and let her know I'm not just gonna be a fallback plan and try and find somebody that enthusiastically wants me. But that's so hard to do cause I'm in love with this girl, and she's more attractive and more captivating and more of everything I want than anyone else I've been with. But it's like she doesn't even wanna be in a relationship unless it's someone she feels as though she could potentially marry. And that's not me. And that fucking kills me. But I don't know if I got it in me to walk away, as satisfying as that would be on some level.
Sorry for the rant, in a weird depressed headspace today and typing it all out was some level of catharsis.