Welp... went out with her again last night... it's clear that we are quite crazy about each other. To an absurd degree. She's falling for me hard already and I can't help but feel the same for her.
I always approach dating with a rational perspective similar to a lot of the people who post frequently in here. I never rush into anything, never get over invested, take things slow, make sure I'm compatible with the other person, make sure we have the same long term goals, etc. etc. I've been dating this way for years and have never really felt like I lacked control.
But with this girl, I am alarmed because I lack any ability to slow things down. I feel overwhelmed with feelings for her that completely shut off my ability to think straight when I'm near her. It doesn't feel like pure lust either. It feels like much more, which is scary as hell for someone I just met 2 weeks ago.
You read that right... 2 weeks.... and I already know how bad I'm going to fall for her.
Furthermore, this has all the signs of a trainwreck and I still want to go forward. She's been divorced, proposed to 5 times, is 34 and still isn't certain she wants kids (I do), and doesn't intend on staying in NYC for more than 3 more years - and I have no intention of leaving as of today (but remain open minded on that). I also found out why she rejected 4 of the 5 proposals - they all asked her to marry them to get her to stay in the country, and she refused. And the one she said yes to, she didn't get along with his family and it fell apart. So again... a lot of red flags here.
But at the same time, she has a life I always sort of wish I had. She works for the United Nations, has lived in over a dozen countries throughout her life, and does incredible humanitarian work that I have always dreamed of doing. She's also ridiculously attractive, highly educated, worldly, and incredibly elegant. I've always dreamed I'd meet someone like this, and now I have... and it's completely fucking me up.
I don't really know what to do. I find her irresistible but I know I need to pump the brakes hard on this. But I also feel like this girl is the unicorn I've been searching for my entire adult life.
I really do need advice on this guys.