You can try skipping straight to "medium talk". I don't think there's an actual term like medium talk but it's what I call it. You know, stuff that comes after "hey the weather's nice huh?" and "do you have any siblings". You can ask things like "What do you care about in life?" or "What are things you like that people usually don't?" Skip the parts you don't like
I couldn't resist.
That sounds... pretty standard actually.
Love it haha
lolWho said it was a skateboard?
Lol. I feel like I would kill myself on heelies. At least I can jump off my skateboard.Who said it was a skateboard?
Lol well she is insisting she only has one drink. She has a flower arrangement to do early tomorrow. I've had a few already. So I'm loose at least.
We're texting right now. I have no desire to get back with her so no worries about that. We just still have a good relationship. It would feel weird to say I'm on a date though lol. I dunno.
I certainly did not. I'm not a doofus.
Leave the ball in her court, because "Not ready" could last forever. You could ask in a weeks time and if you still get rejected again then just block/delete and move on.
Remember to just do what you enjoy during this time, whether its the cinema, exercise, nature walks, games, going out, etc. Don't let a breakup stop you from what you like to do when you are single. Hopefully you find someone stronger who will be there for you through the worst rather than bailing.
Yup, forget her but if she does get back in touch that's a bonus.
Personally I prefer to date someone who can take some initiative when they want something. I don't want to be doing 100% of the chasing. I think a lot of women are bad with taking initiative because that is something socially expected of men in dating. That doesn't mean they can't do it if they want to, especially if they cancel on you and you literally tell them to give you a time they are free.
Couldn't have said it any better. You don't want someone in a relationship who takes so little initiative.
Your falling into the "what if" trap here. Actions speak volumes, don't come up with hypotheticals. My two strikes and your out rule worked very well to stop me wasting time with women that just liked the attention but had no intention to follow through.
I'm ruling out people who would waste my time and not know what they want. I prefer relationships to be a two way street and equal, rather than one party doing most of the heavy lifting. Some guys might be comfortable fulfilling old school gender norms of doing most of the initiation but I am not. It just makes it easier to find out how much a person is interested in me.
Just be prepared for her to make schedule changes frequently if she's the sole supporter and the kids are young.
There's nothing scary about dating sites/apps. I thought the same thing but it's like a cold swimming pool. You psyche yourself out by dipping your toes in so just jump in and you'll acclimate quicker. But you should also make sure you don't go into them feeling desperate to be with someone. It's a recipe for disaster. You wouldn't jump in the pool if you didn't know how to swim.
