Social Faux Pas You Never Understood

Antrax · Jul 2, 2018

tr00per said:
So in raising my child, I have the responsibility to teach good manners and how to behave in general. It occurred to me recently that I never really grasped WHY we do some things as a society the way that we do. For instance:

No elbows on the table

Maybe I'm just not high class enough (I have no idea which fork goes where) but I've never personally subscribed to this one. If anything, it's a compliment to how good the food is. How would one eat a 3/4 pound double cheeseburger without putting their elbows on the table?

Don't point

I feel like this is a holdover from the days of the Salem witch trials or something. Pointing is a really effective way to communicate with someone. I could see how pointing to someone and saying something disrespectful could be bad, but surely that's more on the words than the gesture, right?

So what are some "Do"s or "Don't"s you never understood?

You're misunderstanding both of these. The elbows rule is only while you're actually eating. It's fine during chit chat. The idea is to avoid looking like you're shoveling food in your mouth. It's not a big deal unless you're at a formal place.

The pointing thing is to not point at strangers. That's rude as fuck since it means you're talking about them and they know it and can't respond.

Lumination · Jul 2, 2018

Shin Bobo Dakes said:
Depends where you're at on the food chain. I'm at the bottom at my job, so it's only good for me to hear what others make, but it's weird to hear others complain about being underpaid when they make $10,000 more than you.

Yeah, that's pretty much what I mean. It's only beneficial to you, but it would feel weird to you.

Deleted member 4034 · Jul 2, 2018

Picking your nose and farting in public.

Deleted member 40133 · Jul 2, 2018

Cyanity said:
Not giving the bride and groom lots of money or an expensive gift at their wedding. Like, I'm broke. Why am I expected to give you $200 when I show up to your wedding?

And if your counter-argument is "because weddings are expensive", then maybe: stop throwing expensive weddings?

It's a cultural thing. I have an italian background and am putting on a very expensive wedding that i can pay for many times over. Your meal is costing me $200 (each), it's more common courtesy to get SOMETHING. So really i am agreeing with you, if you can only afford $50 or something small, yeah that's fine. But i'm going to use your point as a jumping off point. Their are people who if the bride and groom aren't registered someplace for gifts they just get them nothing instead of the minimal effort of a card and some cash. Which quite frankly is bullshit. You wouldn't go to a birthday party without a gift

whitehawk · Jul 2, 2018

Wearing a hat indoors

Wishbone Ash · Jul 2, 2018

Kayo Police said:
Holding the doors open for people.

What? Do you like it when someone is two feet in front of you, and just lets a door slam in your face?

I mean, there's definitely a point where you shouldn't be expected to stand and look like a fool for someone across the parking lot or something, but this one is pretty odd to disagree with

whitehawk · Jul 2, 2018

Wearing a hat indoors

Goldenroad · Jul 2, 2018

Not tipping...in Canada. Servers here are all required by law to be paid at least minimum wage...so the person working at McDonalds making minimum wage has to tip when they go out to eat somewhere why? I just don't understand the double standard. I work my ass off for my customers and I have only been offered a very small tip like maybe twice in my entire career and I have always politely declined. That is what should be expected of all restaurant staff in Canada. I had a cousin who was a server and got all pissed off because he "only" got a $100 tip on a $1000 bill. Only $100...on top of his way more than minimum wage that he was making at the time. I get that minimum wage is not always enough to live on, but that's across the board...not just for servers.

Aaron · Jul 2, 2018

Not wiping your butt

ratcliffja · Jul 2, 2018

What's so bad about pushing over small children? What's the point in growing older if you can't take advantage of it?

Koo · Jul 2, 2018

FRANKEINSTEIN said:
Don't eat the last cookie.
Someone has to. Why not me?

I'm that guy I will eat the last of whatever to save people the shame of being the last to eat something. I agree, someone has to eat it. It's the worst when everyone is sharing a pizza and there is one slice left and everyone just sort of side eyes it for 10 minutes. Like everyone wants it, but nobody wants to say. I usually am just like - anyone want? No? *munch*

faceless · Jul 2, 2018

FRANKEINSTEIN said:
Don't eat the last cookie.
Someone has to. Why not me?

???

here it's don't leave less than a serving.

you leave 1 or 2 cookies, it's worse than finishing the cookies.

it's like leaving 1/4 cup of beverage in a beverage comtainer in the fridge.

Rivenblade · Jul 2, 2018

Waiting for everyone to get their food before you start eating. I get it. It's just...inconvenient.

Wingfan19 · Jul 2, 2018

This should be "Seinfeld" the thread, haha.

capitalCORN · Jul 2, 2018

Goldenroad said:
Not tipping...in Canada. Servers here are all required by law to be paid at least minimum wage...so the person working at McDonalds making minimum wage has to tip when they go out to eat somewhere why? I just don't understand the double standard. I work my ass off for my customers and I have only been offered a very small tip like maybe twice in my entire career and I have always politely declined. That is what should be expected of all restaurant staff in Canada. I had a cousin who was a server and got all pissed off because he "only" got a $100 tip on a $1000 bill. Only $100...on top of his way more than minimum wage that he was making at the time. I get that minimum wage is not always enough to live on, but that's across the board...not just for servers.

Server minwage is usually less than the normal minwage.

jwk94 · Jul 2, 2018

Shin Bobo Dakes said:
Being expected to wash your hands after going to the bathroom.

What

sph3re · Jul 2, 2018

Asking for a friend (no fooling, actually a friend)

Is it socially unacceptable to take out your Nintendo Switch at a restaurant and play it while waiting for your food?

NinjaScooter · Jul 2, 2018

Asking people to take off their shoes when they enter your house.

capitalCORN · Jul 2, 2018

sph3re said:
Asking for a friend (no fooling, actually a friend)

Is it socially unacceptable to take out your Nintendo Switch at a restaurant and play it while waiting for your food?

People fiddle with their phones all the time. Why not? Unless you're on a group outing/date and are ignoring the other party.

sph3re · Jul 2, 2018

capitalCORN said:
People fiddle with their phones all the time. Why not? Unless you're on a group outing/date and are ignoring the other party.

See, this is what I thought. My friends are just dicks.

Malverde · Jul 2, 2018

sph3re said:
Asking for a friend (no fooling, actually a friend)

Is it socially unacceptable to take out your Nintendo Switch at a restaurant and play it while waiting for your food?

This is perfectly fine

if you are still ordering off the kids menu.

NinjaScooter · Jul 2, 2018

Having to stand up to greet people. Fuck you I'm comfortable.

Croc Man · Jul 2, 2018

Referring to people as "he/she" when they're present. It's just easier to say!
Plus I think repeatedly saying a name sounds weird, maybe because that's what sleazy sales people do.

sph3re · Jul 2, 2018

DarthOrange said:
This is perfectly fine

if you are still ordering off the kids menu.

LOL, well alright then.

Funny you mention that though, because a family of 4 sat next to us and their youngest daughter pulled out a Nintendo DS. Didn't help my friend make his point, lol. I still don't see the issue, though.

joecanada · Jul 2, 2018

Shin Bobo Dakes said:
Depends where you're at on the food chain. I'm at the bottom at my job, so it's only good for me to hear what others make, but it's weird to hear others complain about being underpaid when they make $10,000 more than you.

Just one more reason to unionize. Want to know how much I make ? Look at my pay grid. Want to know how much my female counterpart makes? See same grid.

Kitsunebaby · Jul 2, 2018

My father used to flick me in the temples whenever he saw I had my elbows on the table. All that did was give me a hatred for silly rules. If you're a stickler for etiquette regardless of whether it's pragmatic or not, I'm probably going to assume you're a narcissist constantly searching for reasons to look down on others.

Kapryov · Jul 2, 2018

Socks and Sandals.

I don't do it - I don't wear sandals - but if you dare to look down while in public transport you can see some nasty ass feet... I support a movement of forced socks and sandals (if you're not going to take care of your feet).

FantasticMrFoxdie · Jul 2, 2018

For the love of dog, please teach your children to chew with their mouths closed.

thanks

Playco Armboy · Jul 2, 2018

NinjaScooter said:
Asking people to take off their shoes when they enter your house.

Nah people who wear shoes indoors are lames. I don't need your dirt and grime and possible dogshit all over my clean floors.

Deleted member 31817 · Jul 2, 2018

NinjaScooter said:
Asking people to take off their shoes when they enter your house.

So they don't spread dirt and mud everywhere

I

adrem007 · Jul 2, 2018

sph3re said:
Asking for a friend (no fooling, actually a friend)

Is it socially unacceptable to take out your Nintendo Switch at a restaurant and play it while waiting for your food?

While I get the phone comparison and all, I would totally make fun of a friend for something like this just for shits and giggles, sorry man

Deleted member 31817 · Jul 2, 2018

sph3re said:
Asking for a friend (no fooling, actually a friend)

Is it socially unacceptable to take out your Nintendo Switch at a restaurant and play it while waiting for your food?

Yes

joecanada · Jul 2, 2018

NinjaScooter said:
Asking people to take off their shoes when they enter your house.

No one has to take off their shoes they can eat dinner in the garage where they belong. One rock stuck in tread of shoes and your hardwood floor is wrecked among other obvious reasons

BLEEN · Jul 2, 2018

Cyanity said:
Not giving the bride and groom lots of money or an expensive gift at their wedding. Like, I'm broke. Why am I expected to give you $200 when I show up to your wedding?

And if your counter-argument is "because weddings are expensive", then maybe: stop throwing expensive weddings?

I'm so with you. Fuck that. Live less extravagant.

BlackRainbowFT · Jul 2, 2018

Most of them. Larry David is the manifestation of my id.

Sowrong · Jul 2, 2018

joecanada said:
No one has to take off their shoes they can eat dinner in the garage where they belong. One rock stuck in tread of shoes and your hardwood floor is wrecked among other obvious reasons

That's what floor mats are for.

Kurita · Jul 2, 2018

Kayo Police said:
Holding the doors open for people.

What. Pretty easy to understand, noone likes to get slammed by a door on its way back.

Morrigan · Jul 2, 2018

sph3re said:
Asking for a friend (no fooling, actually a friend)

Is it socially unacceptable to take out your Nintendo Switch at a restaurant and play it while waiting for your food?

Don't see why it would be since people play on their phones all the time.

out_of_touch · Jul 2, 2018

Playing music loudly in public without using headphones. Worry about yourself huh sweetie?

joecanada · Jul 2, 2018

Sowrong said:
That's what floor mats are for.

You put hardwood floors in and then cover your whole floor with mats?

Or you mean a mat at the door that the person scrapes their shoe on once and somehow all the rocks and shit jammed up in the soles magically disappears?

Lump · Jul 2, 2018

Why the fuck does punctuation go inside the quotes in American grammar, it should be outside the quotes unless the punctuation is actually part of the quote.

Adam_Roman · Jul 2, 2018

One that's frustrated me lately is how baby boomers and older despise talking about mental health. My dad acts like I should be ashamed that I see a therapist (despite him being the main reason I see one) and that I take an antidepressant. He doesn't believe that literally every one of my friends is super understanding and supportive of it. Hell, he refused to go to marriage counseling with my mom. I know this is mainly focusing on him but I've seen it from plenty of other older people.

Jecht · Jul 2, 2018

Morrigan said:
Don't see why it would be since people play on their phones all the time.

Massive difference between pulling a 5 inch phone out and taking a full game console out. If you're with me, your ass is getting roasted for that one.

ctj · Jul 2, 2018

Lump said:
Why the fuck does punctuation go inside the quotes in American grammar, it should be outside the quotes unless the punctuation is actually part of the quote.

I'm American and this annoys the hell out of me. I usually just put the punctuation outside even though it's considered "incorrect". It also just looks horrible aesthetically.

Morrigan · Jul 2, 2018

Jecht said:
Massive difference between pulling a 5 inch phone out and taking a full game console out. If you're with me, your ass is getting roasted for that one.

I assumed they meant when alone? But I think people fiddling with their phone when eating with others is rude too so what do I know

gutter_trash · Jul 2, 2018

Lump said:
Why the fuck does punctuation go inside the quotes in American grammar, it should be outside the quotes unless the punctuation is actually part of the quote.

because the intent is included inside the quote

Jecht · Jul 2, 2018

Morrigan said:
I assumed they meant when alone? But I think people fiddling with their phone when eating with others is rude too so what do I know

Yeah well if you're alone it doesn't matter. No difference between that and pulling your laptop or tablet out. Which plenty of people do in restourants and cafes.

He had mentioned his friends in a follow up post though so I assumed they were in a group.

Rhaknar · Jul 2, 2018

Forks on the left and knife on the right.

Who the fuck cares? I've done fork on the right my entire life, fight me.

Kurita · Jul 2, 2018

Rhaknar said:
Forks on the left and knife on the right.

Who the fuck cares? I've done fork on the right my entire life, fight me.

I assume that's because the default for most people is fork on the left hand and knife on the right hand.

gutter_trash · Jul 2, 2018

Rhaknar said:
Forks on the left and knife on the right.

Who the fuck cares? I've done fork on the right my entire life, fight me.

I swap them left and right when it comes to scoop rice , my Dad hates it when i do that

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