LOL wait isn't the definition of a bachelor..."an unmarried man"?
-
Ever wanted an RSS feed of all your favorite gaming news sites? Go check out our new Gaming Headlines feed! Read more about it here.
30 years old and up single Era, do you ever want to get married and/or have kids?
- Thread starter Awesome Kev
- Start date
open to getting married for sure but I'd rather be single for the rest of my life than force it with someone so it'd have to be the right person
kids, no thank you
kids, no thank you
Remember: YOLO and FOMO. Both of these should help you move forward.
Shit for some reason I didn't see the bachelor part in the title or the OP lmao - my mind went blank...
My bad š
So my life is meaningless bec I don't want to have kids?
Neither. I had a vasectomy last year. For marriage, the only benefit I see are tax benefits or for medical reasons, i.e. making decisions or hospital visitation.
This whole conversation reminds me of a Christmas diner I had with my GF's family a couple of years ago.
There was her aunt that was sitting in front of us and we were meeting for the first time, and boy did I curb her enthusiasm. It was like discussing with an entity called 'society' to me.
Long story short, she is like really deep Christian, and at first she saw us kissing and was all like ''Aw you guys are so cute, you go well together.'' etc. Then comes diner. She started asking us ''So when are you guys getting married?'' then we looked at each others and giggled, saying that it wasn't in our plans, you already could see that smile going down and then she started asking why. I followed that with ''I'm not Christian, I'm an atheist so I don't really believe there is a god out there and marriage is basically approving your union to that said 'god'. I also had the chance to have parents that did let me grow old enough to let me choose wether or not I'd like a baptism, which I refused.''. Stunned, she then asked why I wasn't interested in baptism back then and I basically answered that priests creeped me out and I didn't see any symbolism in having water poured on my forehead by one.
Then comes the child question ''When are you guys having a little baby then?'' as if it was a 100% locked certainty. Which we answered that we weren't too sure enough about having one instead of a straight ''No.'' because it was still uncertain at that period. Still, you could see the uneasiness in her face that we even dared have doubt on this.
After the diner she went to talk to my GF's mother (!!!) probably about our answers, as if we were aliens, and then once we were returning from there her mother kind of stealth-implied in the middle of a discussion in the car that my GF was Christian, which she replied by ''What? No! I was educated by you and dad who are Christians but it didn't make me one by default!'' and then she went speechless for almost the remaining hour and a half of the road.
Just for the record, we're all good now though. :)
There was her aunt that was sitting in front of us and we were meeting for the first time, and boy did I curb her enthusiasm. It was like discussing with an entity called 'society' to me.
Long story short, she is like really deep Christian, and at first she saw us kissing and was all like ''Aw you guys are so cute, you go well together.'' etc. Then comes diner. She started asking us ''So when are you guys getting married?'' then we looked at each others and giggled, saying that it wasn't in our plans, you already could see that smile going down and then she started asking why. I followed that with ''I'm not Christian, I'm an atheist so I don't really believe there is a god out there and marriage is basically approving your union to that said 'god'. I also had the chance to have parents that did let me grow old enough to let me choose wether or not I'd like a baptism, which I refused.''. Stunned, she then asked why I wasn't interested in baptism back then and I basically answered that priests creeped me out and I didn't see any symbolism in having water poured on my forehead by one.
Then comes the child question ''When are you guys having a little baby then?'' as if it was a 100% locked certainty. Which we answered that we weren't too sure enough about having one instead of a straight ''No.'' because it was still uncertain at that period. Still, you could see the uneasiness in her face that we even dared have doubt on this.
After the diner she went to talk to my GF's mother (!!!) probably about our answers, as if we were aliens, and then once we were returning from there her mother kind of stealth-implied in the middle of a discussion in the car that my GF was Christian, which she replied by ''What? No! I was educated by you and dad who are Christians but it didn't make me one by default!'' and then she went speechless for almost the remaining hour and a half of the road.
Just for the record, we're all good now though. :)
Last edited:
Above all else, I want to get married to my dream girl. This has always been my ultimate goal in life.
Got married after 30 and had my kid after 30.
I always wanted marriage & kids but with the right person.
I always wanted marriage & kids but with the right person.
I'd only get married for things that are reserved only for spouses, such as medical/dental benefits and the right to see them if they're dying. I don't feel the need for marriage otherwise.
I doubt I'll ever want kids. I know I can adapt to be a good father, but I personally don't think it's the right fit for me due to my disabilities.I was asked to be a sperm donor for my lesbian friends and I can't even go through with that.
I doubt I'll ever want kids. I know I can adapt to be a good father, but I personally don't think it's the right fit for me due to my disabilities.I was asked to be a sperm donor for my lesbian friends and I can't even go through with that.
I've been with my partner for 11 years and our first kid is 14 months old now. I will say that after a while, things can get a bit stale in a long term relationship. Life becomes very routine. I think the kid reinvigorated us as we are always facing new challenges and experiencing new developments in our family. I'm 32 now and I was reluctant to have kids until around 30. Now I wish I had started a few years earlier.
I thought this way for most of my life. But this year, I went to some bomb ass weddings and now I view it in the lens of weddings are the only events where you'll be able to wrangle together all of your adult friends for one big dance party. In that sense, I'm much more inclined to go through the ritual.
Sure, I'd like to be married one day, though I'm not sure about kids.
But right now I'm quite content being single and am happy to put off being with someone until I feel differently.
But right now I'm quite content being single and am happy to put off being with someone until I feel differently.
I've had a child at 42. If you are a man, you have some flexibility with that. My brother is 50 and trying for children.
I'd like kids and a wife one day but imma list it as neither because im just tryina take care of me.
I turned 30 this year and still hope to both get married / have kids.
That said, I'm just now coming out of a period where a series of health issues (both mental and not) led me to not pursuing any of it, so I definitely feel a combination of "how do I do this again" as well as some pressure of time now in doing so.
That said, I'm just now coming out of a period where a series of health issues (both mental and not) led me to not pursuing any of it, so I definitely feel a combination of "how do I do this again" as well as some pressure of time now in doing so.
Meh, I am deeply broken and thankfully enough self aware to not drag someone else into this mess. Plus, given the state of this world, having kids would be an unwise proposition unless you are financially extremely secure now and for the foreseeable future.
I used to want both. I don't even know anymore. Been burned a few too many times and now I'm bitter as fuck and just want to be left alone for the most part. I've learned to really appreciate my freedom. Don't need anyone coming in to fuck my shit up anymore. I can do that on my own.
34, in long term relationship. Neither of us for marriage, definitely not for kids. We enjoy freedom.
I'm already an uncle to 2 beautiful boys, so I don't really want kids of my own lol. I like being carefree in the parenting department, with no real obligations or responsibilities. I can be the "cool" uncle that only has time for FUN, playing music, video games, traveling and riding motorcycles. I feel like my nephews would become jealous and neglected if I had children of my own haha. But seriously, I don't think marriage is worth it unless you find someone so open-minded with a compatible personality. I wouldn't mind getting into a long-term relationship with someone, but signing the legal and financial binding documents scares me.
I also fear for the future of human civilization on this planet. Where are we headed? How much time do we have left as a species? It's all very daunting and unpredictable. I don't want to bring a child into this world, who I am responsible for, and for them to suffer from external factors, like lack of jobs, lack of natural resources, discrimination based on race or religion, a plummeting economy, diseases, world war, famine, etc. Even technology like social media makes me fear for the future of the next generation, because everyone is already depressed and nihilistic.
I also fear for the future of human civilization on this planet. Where are we headed? How much time do we have left as a species? It's all very daunting and unpredictable. I don't want to bring a child into this world, who I am responsible for, and for them to suffer from external factors, like lack of jobs, lack of natural resources, discrimination based on race or religion, a plummeting economy, diseases, world war, famine, etc. Even technology like social media makes me fear for the future of the next generation, because everyone is already depressed and nihilistic.
Last edited:
Yeah we have a kid as well. 11 year old son. We live in a relatively openminded country, thank god, but still a lot of people think without marriage there is no love or some idiotic shit like that. Says more about them, but they don't realize that. People are conditioned like dogs.
Aah, okay. Thanx for answering. Wow, that is some tragic stuff. And that makes having kids more complicated for sure. I think you're doing the responsible thing here. How hard it may be.
I had no idea about the final part of your story, haha. Go for it man.
Best of luck!!!!!
31, don't want to get married (it's just a piece of paper really, i don't need that to spend my life with someone) or have kids... and even if i wanted to, you really can't do that alone, and at this point i think this is how i'm gonna spend the rest of my life
nothing sad really, i made peace with it (still i'm not against a relationship, just i don't search for it and i doubt it will happen just like that)
and no i'm not a virgin, can't become a wizard anymore, sadly
nothing sad really, i made peace with it (still i'm not against a relationship, just i don't search for it and i doubt it will happen just like that)
and no i'm not a virgin, can't become a wizard anymore, sadly
I'm 28 but I don't think I would ever want to get married. May eventually want to have a kid, but even that I'm not sure on and I most often lean towards "no".
At the moment I'm 31 years old and single. A girlfriend and a dog would be my preference, marriage would not be completely out of the question but I definitely don't want to have kids.
