I'll respond to these and then I think I'll leave it at that because I'm not sure I know how to clarify my points ITT anymore right now.
Ooomph, ya got me.
I dunno, if you think I'm a bigot, maybe just prove it or try another approach in this discussion? Or I guess I should just get in line and always comply with any judgment about my character, receipts or not, from someone on a messageboard who doesn't know me irl who seems to wants to be in a position of lecturing me on ethics whether it's earned/deserved or not?
Again, when did I defend bigotry. And why do you think that poor social skills are always indicative of bigotry? I'm really fascinated by this. Do you think someone who's, say, noticeably autistic or has another form of mental illness and is bad at reading social cues and emotional intelligence is always a bigot?
I guess my perspective is more masculine than feminine since I haven't lived as a woman, even though I'm not a very masculine person. I'd like to think I'm a mix of both, though, and that it informs my perspective.
When did I defend his friend? My very first post ITT from second one was making fun of someone like that.
I think it's possible to have life experiences that make you more aware of what those behaviors are, but I think it can also be subjective and not always grounded in hard justice/truth every time, which makes it a tricky subject. It doesn't seem fair to me that someone should be fired for a job they are qualified to do simply for not having sharp emotional intelligence, or for appearing kinda creepy, or for having weird or quirky behavior that isn't even hateful and/or discriminatory. It's tricky because it can become a question of not just "should I be allowed to fire someone for subtle behavior that I feel is problematic" but "how can it be factually determined when subtly weird behavior in someone is or isn't indicative of bigotry vs stemming from something else?" It is challenging and I honestly don't know how it would be determined precisely on a consistent basis, and I'm usually skeptical of anyone who says they know how to.