Caught up on the thread since the first page or so following the news. A whole lot of frustrating things in this discussion.
To begin with: obviously, as a society we need to get better at discussing abuse, mental illness, really a great many things. There are things about punishment and atonement, "missing stairs", how we lead communities, etc. that can be vastly improved. But... I sincerely don't understand a lot of the assumptions being made here about this situation and especially this forum?
Was there really a Twitter mob (and if it exists, it matters quite a bit here if anyone participating in genuinely supported his accusers, not trolls) going at him to begin with? Because my understanding (which ?absolutely may be wrong) was that he locked his account nearly immediately; I did not hear of some big mob attacking
him before this; there was the people making accusations normally, and then the mobs of shitheads attacking the accusers. And I need to be clear that I am absolutely not trying to make light of anything he may have received, but I am just deeply, deeply confused by comments going "this is what you contribute to when you call someone a monster on Era" let alone those blaming people who acted elsewhere based on the accusations.
Can discussion here ripple outward? Should we probably be thinking more about how we talk about people who may actually view the site? I can agree with that much. But there is something very weird to me about the idea of tiptoeing around their feelings of anger, disgust, betrayal, lack of safety, etc. This is deeply complicated, I understand why people are looking everywhere for answers, and I don't want to dismiss legitimate concerns people have over how we treat each other. But I don't know if "we should be less harsh when we talk about horrifying things people have done" is really the solution here? And that's kinda how I'm reading this.
This is just an incredibly shitty situation. And it feels like it's not anywhere close to being over, that it's just going to linger and cause more problems, no resolution for anything or anyone, and that scares me in itself.
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Now. Separately, I also think that though it was (extremely understandably) immediately overshadowed by this news,
the Kickstarter update written by Scott Benson before this happened may be helpful for some people to read. I think it speaks to some issues people keep trying to think through here, specifically something deeply personal happening in public (out of necessity), pretty well.