- Oct 27, 2017
Yup, this is an incredibly good point. Speaking out about abuse helps everyone, and that's how you prevent further instances of abuse. If the lesson you are taking from this is 'victims should stay quiet' then you are an obstacle in the path forward to reducing abuse.It's a pretty massive contradiction that people think we should talk less about abuse and that the victims should be more silent when the abuser was a former victim himself who, if he had been free to be more open and talk about it earlier on in his life, might have got the help he needed to not turn into an abuser and eventually take his own life as a result.
But silence is the answer, sure. Just let the courts handle it somehow. It's better if we don't actually figure out how to deal with these issues as a culture, because it's not our place, and victims should know that nobody wants to hear about it unless it's in a courtroom.