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Alyssa Milano backlash: "I'm trans. I'm a POC. I'm an immigrant. I'm a lesbian. I'm a gay man. I'm the disabled. I'm everything."

MinusTydus

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…she's also cancelled, apparently.

https://www.yahoo.com/lifestyle/aly...s-im-person-color-im-immigrant-132736541.html

Alyssa Milano slammed for calling herself 'trans' and 'a person of color' on Twitter

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A tweet of Alyssa Milano's saying the activist and actress is transgender, a person of color, an immigrant and disabled faced backlash from both sides of the aisle.

The debate began when Milano tweeted that she was celebrating her "transgender sisters" on Friday, which was International Women's Day. When someone asked if she's transgender, Milano responded that she is "everything" and encouraged her fans to not be afraid of what they don't know.




The criticism was swift, as people pointed out that Milano is a straight, cisgender, able-bodied white woman who hasn't had the same experiences as people with different backgrounds. One person pointed out that her tweet reflected the "I don't see color" approach, which they called "oppression and erasure."



Milano apologized for offending people in another tweet on Saturday, but added that she's glad her comment "invoked conversation." She explained that her intention was to reflect words from the poet Rumi: "This is a subtle truth. Whatever you love, you are."

Not everyone was happy that her apology included a "but" statement, arguing that it seemed to try to justify the tweet in question.



Danny Pintauro was the better 'Who's The Boss?' kid this whole time and we didn't even know.

More at the link. Sorry if you were offended, BUT... if old.
 
Soda

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This seems like a blown out of proportion thing. She's arguing that she's a human and therefore cares about other humans. Obviously she doesn't literally believe she is a POC that has faced the challenges that a POC would likely face.
 

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It was a fairly cringey tweet and she needs to take a step back. I don't think people are "cancelling" her over this though.
 
Thordinson

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I often use the phrase "my brothers and sisters" when referring to people in general. I don't, however, claim to be all those things because my experience is vastly different from oppressed minorities.
 
Gamonbozia

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I just want to say I thought the 2nd tweet in the op really nailed it. A cisgender white women trying to equate herself with actual marginalized people just seems gross to me. Even if the message had good intentions.
 
Tuck

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Eh I think her intent was fine but it clearly came off badly and is an odd thing to say. Wouldn't roast her over the coals on this, though it does seem like she's digging down on it.
 
Diablos

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I don't think she meant to offend but she clearly didn't think through her response.
 
Bee.Cups

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Yeah... this is pretty condescending and erasing. Don't just use terms for yourself because you think it'll get you points.

Not the best example, but it reminds me of recently, I was trying to explain my struggle with schizophrenia to someone and they cut me off halfway through the explanation so they could assure me they understood perfectly because they were paranoid sometimes in the past but they got over it.

I doubt she meant any harm, but it was a really dumb thing to say.
 
Potterson

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That's just a bad way of saying "I sympathise with all of you and I support you"... It's not like she is really faking she is trans or gay.

Like. That's not backlash worthy.
 
Klyka

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I think her intent is pretty clear in an "we are all human beings" speech, but yeah, definitely not what anyone wants to or should hear
 
Phamit

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I don't think she meant that literally or tried to equate herself with other minoritys.

She wrote that as reaction to someone questioning her gender just because she supported transwomen on women's day.
 
HStallion

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I think she meant fairly well with the original post but went about it in a pretty bone-headed manner.
 
Kitsunelaine

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"i'm sorry if you were offended" is the textbook non-apology

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To be charitable, I think she's more or less saying "We're all people," which is a positive sentiment.

Honestly, humans aren't built for social media. All the dumb shit people say used to be limited to the time and location where they said it, and spread further only through gossip and hearsay. I'm interested to see how we'll adjust to this new reality where all poorly articulated off-the-cuff remarks are immortal. I hope, against all the evidence of history, that we'll find a way to be fair minded and sensible about this.
 
danmaku

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Potterson said:
That's just a bad way of saying "I sympathise with all of you and I support you"... It's not like she is really faking she is trans or gay.

Like. That's not backlash worthy.
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Yup. It's not the best way of showing support, but there's no reason to be angry about it. Just explain the problem and move on.
 

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I was very confused from the title wondering how a gay man could be a lesbian, but I guess she's borked her attempt of expressing solidarity.
 
Masterz1337

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This is so dumb. She is pretty clearly trying to say she is just like everyone else, if she was any one of those things she deserves to be treated the same as she does now.
 
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Why when saying that she supports trans women on women's day would people feel the need to come out with 'but but are you trans?'

Like, I thought trans people wanted support? Or they don't? How do you know any more?
 
Spork4000

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I don't see the issue with this? She was basically saying "don't be a bigot" but in a roundabout way. This is a teachable moment, but nothing for her to get "canceled" over.
 
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I knew what she meant, but she probably should have just said "we're all people"
 
lint2015

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Stop getting angry at everything, especially things that aren't worth getting angry about, man. Figure of speech, do you not understand it?
 
Mikebison

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Renna Hazel said:
I can fill you in. Trans people still want, and deserve support.
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That's what I would have thought. So why come all hostile to somebody with a platform offering said support?

Edit: Tbf I just clicked on the profile of the person asking if she was trans and it's some dude with lots of memes about keeping 'snowflakes at bay' etc.
 
shinra-bansho

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Poorly thought out response; she probably shouldn't have responded to the dickbag Trumper who atted her anyway.
 
Renna Hazel

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Mikebison said:
That's what I would have thought. So why come all hostile to somebody with a platform offering said support?
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Well what you referenced was a single person asking a question that doesn't speak for all trans individuals. I also don't speak for that person so I can't say for sure why that question was asked.
 
Kinsei

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Mikebison said:
Why when saying that she supports trans women on women's day would people feel the need to come out with 'but but are you trans?'

Like, I thought trans people wanted support? Or they don't? How do you know any more?
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The person that asked that isn't trans. In fact a lot of trans people were giving him shit for that tweet.

Then Alyssa followed up with that other tweet which is one of the worst ways to say you support people.
 

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I think she meant well and the response of, "Are you transgender?" just sucked away any positivity from it. Don't think it was necessary.
 
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Kinsei said:
The person that asked that isn't trans. In fact a lot of trans people were giving him shit for that tweet.

Then Alyssa followed up with that other tweet which is one of the worst ways to say you support people.
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It just strikes me as her saying 'we're all people' kind of thing. Not the best way of saying so, but I think she meant well.
 
Kreed

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One person pointed out that her tweet reflected the "I don't see color" approach, which they called "oppression and erasure."
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Her intentions were fine, but yeah, "I don't see color" responses are never good when discussing social/ethnic minority issues. A simple "I don't need to be LGBTQ to respect and celebrate them" tweet would have worked and would have been less words to type.
 

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Looks like she got baited into saying something stupid by that Kirk person.

You don't need to be transgender to support transgender rights and that is what her response to him should have been.
 
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