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Am I a golddigger?
- Thread starter Kismet
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Is there a shovel in his car's trunk? Does the trunk smell of bleach?
If it has only been a month, give it a chance for something to grow if you think there could possibly be something in the future. A really nice, good looking significant other who is wealthy and wants you to travel with them is something you should at least see if it amounts to anything. But if your are absolutely sure you won't fall for the guy, it is a crap thing to lead him on like that.
If he wants you to give him a chance, that's fine, that's not really taking advantage of him IMO, since he's willingly giving you gifts to entice you.
But, it'd be unfair to misrepresent your feelings to him (by telling him you like him more than you actually do, in order to get more gifts), and it's probably best to call it off if after a month or two more, if you don't develop any sort of feelings or deeper connection by then.
But, it'd be unfair to misrepresent your feelings to him (by telling him you like him more than you actually do, in order to get more gifts), and it's probably best to call it off if after a month or two more, if you don't develop any sort of feelings or deeper connection by then.
Yeah, I wouldn't be helping pay the rent or car repairs of a person I'm just "talking to." Buy drinks, sure, but you definitely set up the expectation that you were gonna be her extra wallet. Not that it means she should be expecting $200 gifts from you but still.
Yes its opportunistic, yes its gold digging and I could make a fetching afghan from the red flags between the both of you.
Sugar Baby/Daddy relationships are fine if the intention is clear. But everything you've explained shows that he is being more lead on than you think. Hoping love could grow one day when you've made it 100% crystal that you wouldn't give him a second glace after a week has a pretty low chance of success. You're telling us one thing and it doesn't match at all with what you've told this guy. But being asked after a MONTH of seeing him a few times to root up your life and move? I don't care how nice his Mariah falsetto is you don't know him. At all.
Sugar Baby/Daddy relationships are fine if the intention is clear. But everything you've explained shows that he is being more lead on than you think. Hoping love could grow one day when you've made it 100% crystal that you wouldn't give him a second glace after a week has a pretty low chance of success. You're telling us one thing and it doesn't match at all with what you've told this guy. But being asked after a MONTH of seeing him a few times to root up your life and move? I don't care how nice his Mariah falsetto is you don't know him. At all.
OP should also be prepared to return the hotel room and the airfare to Paris as well should things go South.
I wouldn't call you a golddigger but if you find him interesting give him a chance. Gve it a month or two and if it still feels off then break it off. If you don't break it off then you're officially a golddigger.
I think if you're being straight with him then there's not really any harm done. I'd say give it two or three months and if you're not warming up to him or developing any feelings then it's probably time to back off and admit it's going nowhere. And whatever you do, don't move in with him yet!
OP
OP
I do find him interesting. I really want to get to know him better.
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Doesn't seem like anyone else caught it but this seems like a major red flag. I can't know for sure of course but this is a common tactic for predators and abusers who want to ensure their partner is entirely codependent on them. If things don't end up working out for whatever reason, what would you be left with? No friends or family nearby, no career to fall back on? Why would he possibly want that for you?
If he didn't have money, you would have dropped him like a bad habit.
It's very clear why you are still maintaining this relationship. And, sadly, it's probably clear to the other guy but he's playing dumb because he appreciates the companionship.
It's very clear why you are still maintaining this relationship. And, sadly, it's probably clear to the other guy but he's playing dumb because he appreciates the companionship.
OP
OP
Well, I'll do my best to like him more. Because I really do like him. He would be an amazing friend.
Romantically I'm not there yet. It's just one month. But I'm going to try.
then you're a shameless person
predatory? lol
yeah because we all know that you can force romantic feelings by trying
That still feels like you are wasting his time AND money, because right now you dont feel anything and you cant even be sure to feel something in 6 months or 1 year. From your OP everything points to people reading that thread that most likely nothing will happen in terms of feelings and you even wrote yourself you would ignore him if it wasnt for the money.
Yes, but he's also trying to buy you basically. So, as long as you don't lead him on too much more (like don't go to Paris), and are pretty sure he isn't going to go psycho...ya know what, scratch that, just stop and call it all off..so much can go wrong here.
I think I could be with a guy like that, provided he is a top because then would be so much easier to mask my disinterest. if he is a bottom however it would be a dreadful bore having to please someone I'm not attracted to.
I'd be careful to let money and luxury run your decisions. Especially when it comes to relationships.
But i realize many people are drawn to just that.
Since you're asking, i think you have issues with it yourself though.
I think you want more in a relationship.
But i realize many people are drawn to just that.
Since you're asking, i think you have issues with it yourself though.
I think you want more in a relationship.
OP
OP
I would ignore him because I'm not ready for a relationship yet. I'm having my slutty era where I'm having sex with sometimes three different people a week.
If you have these fases, high chance is that you meet someone like him.
I'm still not ready for a relationship. But maybe he can change that. And calm me a bit down lol
If you have these fases, high chance is that you meet someone like him.
I'm still not ready for a relationship. But maybe he can change that. And calm me a bit down lol
I didn't want to bring it up but when I read that, it immediately set off alarm bells for me.
Dude is knowingly paying you for a chance you come around on him. You run the risk of missing out on someone else if things don't get better with him. Also, the longer it goes the more desperate he may become if it is not working.
Yolo.
Yolo.
just make sure he doesn't strangle you in your sleep or anything lol.
maybe ive watched too many movies but these sent up instant red flags for me:
seems to me like the dude feels like he can buy your love with money. and if in a few months you end up not reciprocating, I'd be afraid of things going south.
maybe ive watched too many movies but these sent up instant red flags for me:
seems to me like the dude feels like he can buy your love with money. and if in a few months you end up not reciprocating, I'd be afraid of things going south.
You are really doing your damnedest to justify being in a relationship with a man you don't really like. Guess the money is enough.
