You really like to turn the subject about your money in an unsolicited way, huh.
You really like to turn the subject about your money in an unsolicited way, huh.
Alright! Just got home from work, and I have some thoughts:
First thought: Some of y'all, I suppose in an attempt to sound progressive on the subject of dating, are lacking the self-awareness to see how regressive you actually sound? Some of these posts aimed at OP are not too far off from guys in bars who have bought me drinks without even introducing themselves to me, and then got mad when I didn't give them my number. Or the guy who took me out to dinner and then a concert, but then texted me "you're a fucking bitch" after dropping me off at the end of the night because I wouldn't give him road head.
Let's make one thing absolutely clear: OP does not owe this man SHIT. Money, or the acceptance of gifts, does not mean that the giver now owns you, or that the receiver has to reciprocate in ANY way. If this man, who OP has been very clear with in regards to his feelings, feels like he can win him by black card swipe, that's on him. Full stop.
Next thought: OP, are you a Golddigger? NO.
Here's why:
Golddiggers target. They look for, isolate, and deceive partners for the express purpose of being taken care of or having access to that person's money. OP isn't doing any of that. OP isn't pursuing this guy; this guy is pursuing him. It was THIS GUY who brought up the subject of his wealth and started raining down the gifts when he sensed that OP was losing interest. OP isn't lying to this guy; he mentioned on the first page that he's been upfront about his ambivalent feelings. Maybe I've missed the posts, but I'm not getting the picture of a hopelessly in love man being conned out of his cash and taken advantage of oh the woe. I see a man who knows exactly what he's doing. I see a man who knows he's wealthy, who knows the power wealth has as a lure, and is using that power to get what HE wants. I'm seeing a man who has heard the saying, "It ain't trickin if you got it."
And hey, that's life! That is real freakin life. Some people date for love. Some people date for companionship. And some people date because they have the money to keep your ass around (and are willing to spend it). Those people are called sugar daddies; and the people who accept the "love language" of a sugar daddy in the form of gifts and trips to Paris, those are called sugar babies. These terms aren't just lyrics in pop songs. They're descriptors of actual relationship dynamics that play out in real life.
OP, I don't think you're doing anything wrong. Just continue to be honest with him AND yourself. And if he wants to keep spending his money knowing damn well how you feel? Shiiiiiieeeeeeet.
BUT, if you are going to live the City Boy life, a word of caution: make sure you keep YOUR BAG secured. Because sugar daddies do get bored...eventually.
Misunderstanding after misunderstanding. Bit it's ok. Just don't get mad about someone else's preference. Everyone has them, it's nothing personal. :)
*Reads OP and updates*
oh man i forgot all about this. and OP was like 'i have different standards and prefer successful guys' but evidently those standards don't include being able to successfully use a fork
Believe me, I always have a plan. I'm too calculated to not have a plan.
OP is the guy who hand fed his bf? Oh good grief.oh man i forgot all about this. and OP was like 'i have different standards and prefer successful guys' but evidently those standards don't include being able to successfully use a fork
also, thank you for that GIF that comes afterthis quote. it was initially very upsetting and confusing to me but now i think it's awesome
lmao!oh man i forgot all about this. and OP was like 'i have different standards and prefer successful guys' but evidently those standards don't include being able to successfully use a fork
Someone did a few pages back.
Also the guy who wanted to ask back the stuff he got for his ex (or for the both of them) 1 month after they broke up.
the irony...Also the guy who wanted to ask back the stuff he got for his ex (or for the both of them) 1 month after they broke up.
I actually don't mind the lashing. It's entertaining.
But yeah, I'm kinda getting bored now because the original OP is lost. I don't have anything to discuss here anymore that's worth my time.
There is sound advice in here that doesn't pass judgement on you at all but you seem disinterested in the introspection required to do some of those things that most good or decent people tend to do.
Also the guy who wanted to ask back the stuff he got for his ex (or for the both of them) 1 month after they broke up.
oh man i forgot all about this. and OP was like 'i have different standards and prefer successful guys' but evidently those standards don't include being able to successfully use a fork
Also the guy who wanted to ask back the stuff he got for his ex (or for the both of them) 1 month after they broke up.
I actually had more rich men after me and offer me things. But those were old and ugly. So I wasn't interested. If this one would be old and ugly, I would bail out hardddd.
Most of my exes were financially well off as well. I like to date men who also made it. Nothing wrong with it, I guess.
if this makes me an asshole, then so be it. This guy also likes me because of my position in life.
shockednotshocked.gifPeople who would date someone they're not into for money would probably really enjoy the kind of negative attention a thread like this gives them.
Never been more happy to see a thread backfire on such a deserving, awful OP. Don't think it being closed will make people forget your vile narcissism anytime soon, and when you inevitably leave the forum for good, don't leave an ass-stain on the door when it hits you. We just cleaned
Never been more happy to see a thread backfire on such a deserving, awful OP. Don't think it being closed will make people forget your vile narcissism anytime soon, and when you inevitably leave the forum for good, don't leave an ass-stain on the door when it hits you. We just cleaned
I mean, I'd have sex with him but it's my fertile period. I like his hairline as it is at this point in time, it's like it's threatening to recede because of all the manly testosterone but there's this sort of mild femininity about him which is sort of dragging the follicles back. I might feel differently once my hormone spike ceases but right now I'm straddling his freight train. OP, wanna a junior Narcissus? You have a closing window of opportunity if so. Buy me a ticket and I'll take your wicket ;-)
The last girl I had sex with...hmmm
That's probably longer than a decade ago haha
The last girl I had sex with...hmmm
That's probably longer than a decade ago haha
Hmm, I suppose this would explain the relatively recent decline in the fertility rate of the Western World. You bastard.