It's why I personally prefer GSM (Gender and Sexual Minorities).
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It's why I personally prefer GSM (Gender and Sexual Minorities).
I have several. I have 2 stone ones, a hematite one, and stainless steel one, all pure black. I like the stone ones the best though. I only wear them on queer events, or when I feel like I should be more "out", basically on my terms. I do have some ace pride flag things on my bag though, so there's that.
But yeah, for rings, I recommend stone onyx rings. They can be found at like crystal and mystic (for lack of better term) type stores.
This is good to know. When I first heard speculation that he was an ace person (is this correct/preferred terminology?) I was wondering if they would do it right. Probably the one thing I knew for certain about aces is that representation in media is basically non-existent, and representation definitely matters.Yeah, quite a few aces on BoJack. Don't want to spoil what you haven't seen, but the way he comes out, not even by using the word, hit home. He nailed what he says with what lots of aces feel when they admit how they feel.
He quite literally says:This is good to know. When I first heard speculation that he was an ace person (is this correct/preferred terminology?) I was wondering if they would do it right. Probably the one thing I knew for certain about aces is that representation in media is basically non-existent, and representation definitely matters.
Of course! Just keep an open mind (and don't be a jerk, as with anywhere else) and you're quite welcome here. Feel free to ask any questions or whatever you may have, if you have any questions.Are non-aces with ace friends welcome here? Not trying to invade anyone's space.
How did you folk's friends react when you told them? Do they find it hard to comprehend?
Are you even out of the closet or is it publicly invisible enough that you're not even bothering?
How do potential dates usually react?I haven't really told anyone other than people I'm interested in dating. Well, and my psychologist.
It's not that I'm trying to keep things a secret or anything, just not something I really feel the need to discuss apart from that.
Sounds horrible. Really weirds me out how important sex is to a lot of people, but I would have thought a guy would have an easier time still finding someone.When I was younger, I would mainly get a bunch of people who didn't take it seriously / thought I was joking / figured they could get me to "change my mind."
And then when they found out I was serious and they couldn't get me to "change my mind," they would break up with me.
Being older now, most people just don't even bother responding at all. But, meh.
Sounds horrible. Really weirds me out how important sex is to a lot of people, but I would have thought a guy would have an easier time still finding someone.
Do you just date other people who you already know are asexual too, or are you still trying?
I told a coworker once and it was really awkward. I never explicitly said I was asexual but he was like "if you could have sex with one celebrity right now who would you pick?" and he laughed because I couldn't think of any. He was kinda a dick and nobody missed him when he quit but he took my non-answers as being modest and shy over a lack of interest.How did you folk's friends react when you told them? Do they find it hard to comprehend?
Are you even out of the closet or is it publicly invisible enough that you're not even bothering?
Do you think any of your friends would have a negative reaction if they knew?I told a coworker once and it was really awkward. I never explicitly said I was asexual but he was like "if you could have sex with one celebrity right now who would you pick?" and he laughed because I couldn't think of any. He was kinda a dick and nobody missed him when he quit but he took my non-answers as being modest and shy over a lack of interest.
A few years back I told someone in twitch chat that I was asexual and they were way more understanding. We moved to a private chat and they just simply had questions about it and never once accused me of being weird, they were just fascinated with the idea. I wish I could remember their username so we could talk again but it was years ago.
I will banter with people about sexual things, I just don't bring up any personal stuff. As far as being open, I wear a black ring now but literally no one around me (or seemingly any of my customers) knows what it means. I'm not sure if I want to tell my mom as she so desperately wants grandchildren... I'm hoping my brother fulfills that role so I don't have to. xP
My best friend is also asexual. Although his definition of it is a bit extreme since he thinks you have to be truly repulsed by sex to be a "true" asexual. I tried convincing him of it being a spectrum but he was steadfast. So in the end I found it easier to drop that notion around him than to continue arguing it. It is certainly nice to spend time with him knowing that we can be fully platonic opposite gendered friends with no ulterior motives. We slept in the same bedroom for over a week at his house and I felt perfectly safe from being touched inappropriately.Do you think any of your friends would have a negative reaction if they knew?
My best friend is also asexual. Although his definition of it is a bit extreme since he thinks you have to be truly repulsed by sex to be a "true" asexual. I tried convincing him of it being a spectrum but he was steadfast. So in the end I found it easier to drop that notion around him than to continue arguing it.
How did you folk's friends react when you told them? Do they find it hard to comprehend?
Are you even out of the closet or is it publicly invisible enough that you're not even bothering?
So, the pope might be doing a thing.
https://www.resetera.com/threads/pope-requests-roman-catholic-priests-be-given-right-to-marry.3510/
Maybe in the future, people will stop saying "asexual? like a nun or priest?" to us. :P
What is the difference between asexual and low libido? What whould a high libido asexual be driven by?
To expand on your comment (which I more or less agree with),Asexual = I don't want to fuck anyone, ever
Low libido = I kind of want to fuck someone but not enough to try and get laid, masturbation is enough
Since Jzeero more or less answered your post above and I already expanded upon, it I'll discuss the parts I don't think were answered:
Don't worry about asking questions, btw. Asking questions is good! As far as making them feel accepted, the biggest thing you can do is "not be a jerk" around asexual people. I'm not saying you are, especially based off you approached the thread in such an amazing way.How can I grasp this concept too in order to make asexuals life more commonly accepted?
I have a weird and oddly personal question. I've considered myself dexisexual, in that I really have to be comfortable with a partner in order to want to be intimate, but there is another aspect to it that I have yet to find a proper term for: basically, I don't find genitals attractive at all, and I have a strong aversion to classic intercourse(and have for as long as I can remember), despite enjoying other sexual acts. What does one even call that? I've looked through several asexual(and other sexually related) terms and found nothing that fits.
it's always nice to see a welcoming community that isn't going to do weird 'are you asexual enough' litmus tests :3
I agree that it gets tiring to hear that you need a better partner. Quite condenscending as fuck. I have had that experience on "the forum that should not be named" I also tried to see if I could "fix" myself by getting a surgery done for my phymosis problem. It did help as not making sex as uncomfortable, painful and having to pull my foreskin everytime as it got stuck (every freaking time the penis head was out). However sex is still the same regardless (not very comfortable and pleasurable!) :P.
I also agree that films and media portrays romance too narrow mindedly, tacked on and leads to sex regardless. I am not touch aversed thankfully when I am romantic with someone but I hate eye contact and touch with people I do not find platonically interesting. I do hug people I dont love even if it feels akward :P.
Doctor's jump way too fast to circumcision for that. There is always the option of a dorsal slit or partial circumcision (removing only the fimotic part).
She sounds a lot like me so you're in good company ;) When you don't ask she might be assuming your good and/or might not think about it at all, which is usually the case for me. Just talk with her about what works for you (outside of just asking)I never posted in the other's site thread (if there was one), but saw this one in the list of OTs considered for Community Spotlight (great initiative, BTW).
I'm not exactly sure if I should be posting here, as I'm not asexual... but my significant other is (she's OK with me posting here, before anyone asks :) ). We've been together for over 11 years now, and living together for around 6; as you can imagine, it makes things quite complicated to say the least, but we're very compatible otherwise so we don't want to break up. She does feel romantic attraction (for men only) and actually enjoys sex, she just has zero drive so if I don't ask, we can go for weeks without. :D
I was wondering if anyone in the thread has been in a situation similar to this, or knows of someone who has, and perhaps has any tips or pointers? One thing we should definitely do is talk about it with more people, as we're both relatively reserved and pretty much nobody else knows, not even our friends.
She sounds a lot like me so you're in good company ;) When you don't ask she might be assuming your good and/or might not think about it at all, which is usually the case for me. Just talk with her about what works for you (outside of just asking)
He quite literally says:
Absolutely nailed how so many of us feel upon being truthful with ourselves and looking past the lies.I'm NOT GAY! At least, I don't think I am... but... I don't think I'm straight either.
I don't know what I am... I think I might be... nothing.
Congrats! I already feel like we're a rarer breed so good on you!Oh, hey, just thought that I would share -
I'm demisexual/asexual, and I found someone else (or, rather, she found me) who's demisexual/asexual on these boards (not in this thread, but on these boards in general) and we're dating now.
Yay! :)
For me personally, I've had a decent amount of sex before realizing that I actually don't care for it at all, and from there I kinda pieced together that I was asexual. I still masturbate, but more as a maintenance action, to clear my head or whatever. Though I am gray-ace, so the answers will vary depending where one is on the spectrum.Hi all,
I was bouncing about the hangout threads and stumbled across this one. I find asexuality an interesting concept. For a brief moment in high school, I thought I may have been asexual. Prior to that experience, I've had no physical or romantic attraction to either sex, be it low arousal or not giving the idea of intimacy of that nature too much thought. Turned out that I was a late bloomer though, lol. However, I want to know if sexual pleasure interests you all or if it's more of a mechanical function that you take care of once in a while (that of course leads to more questions, but I'll leave that for now)?
or if it's more of a mechanical function that you take care of once in a while
Somewhat, but it's not a primary - or secondary, or tertiary - concern.
I don't "take care of [it] once in a while."
Contrary to what Maslow would have you believe, "sex" is not a "need" on the same level as eating and sleeping.