We had like 75 or 80 people, and it was around 10k. You can make it work for on the cheap if you get creative.
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Average Wedding Cost for 2018 Weddings: $44K
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Seems about right. We spent a bit less than that but between some money from my wife's parents and the wedding gifts we made about 10 grand and everyone had a blast and my wife loved how it turned out so worked out great.
Where I live it's basically expected you bring cash as a gift to a wedding so the cost is usually mitigated unless you go crazy and start spending way more than you're gonna get back.
Wedding cost shaming is really stupid IMO, people like what they like and it tends to be one of the most important days in your life so why not spend some money if you can. The industry does rip you off on a ton of stuff though, I'll admit that sucks but what are you gonna do.
Where I live it's basically expected you bring cash as a gift to a wedding so the cost is usually mitigated unless you go crazy and start spending way more than you're gonna get back.
Wedding cost shaming is really stupid IMO, people like what they like and it tends to be one of the most important days in your life so why not spend some money if you can. The industry does rip you off on a ton of stuff though, I'll admit that sucks but what are you gonna do.
It's not insane if 10k isn't much money to you. Where I live, 10k is just a couple months' rent.
Mine was $240 and had 2 people (us). I don't think we could have even managed to get 30 people to show up, let alone hundreds. Are you all inviting your coworkers and random people on the street?
I have about 30 aunts and uncles alone and that doesn't begin counting my immediate family, my wife's immediate or extended family or our friends.
My brothers wedding was 7k but had 320 people. People need to stop overspending in my opinion for these things. Most of it was from food food and reserving a place for the reception.
The number one rule of having a nice wedding on a budget is to avoid hotels.
The best deals on venues tend to be city-owned places. They also don't usually have kitchen staff and food/drink packages, but that's really just another plus.
Also, don't go crazy on the dress. You can blow your entire budget on the stupid dress.
The best deals on venues tend to be city-owned places. They also don't usually have kitchen staff and food/drink packages, but that's really just another plus.
Also, don't go crazy on the dress. You can blow your entire budget on the stupid dress.
The problem is rationality goes out the window once its your kid
Most wedding have parents involved.
the eloping, fiscally conservative wedding some in here posted which I think is the best and awesome way of doing it, are outliers
most weddings which this survey has gone through, you can feel the parents trying their best to either show off the extravagance or literally earn Respect
As stated from my last post Desi weddings are notorious for save face/respectability. You have people go into fucking debt galore, not only to appease the child, but family, friends, community at large
Social Respect is a currency in the Desi world. Its called Izzuth (Respect in urdu). It can gain you many things but also takeaway. Weddings can be notorious. Izzuth currency during it is vital. Wrong moves of not inviting, not veing extravagant enough, or piss poor management all around, those things weight heavy but a
so carry on for generations, i shit you not.
Americans might find this really weird, but i have seen it for 3 generations, moving into my 4th, these social constructs can be a killer
I'm so glad we didn't spend $ like that. We spent under $2000 for everything and that included clothes, hotel and airfare. And when we got back we took all out clothes back.
What if I told you that I made money by doing so? That would be money lost.
Honestly, the wedding cake is the least of your financial worries if you go the traditional wedding route, you're probably looking at like $500 and a lot of venues will give you the cake for "free" as part of the food package.
Not a scam, but okay. You just don't understand how it works in some cultures.
Sounds like a pyramid scheme to me.
But you're right, I don't really understand you heterosexuals and your funny traditions.
You would think on this site, it would be common acceptance that marriage and weddings isn't just a heterosexual concept.
explain time.
cousin is getting married. First male of the family, so big deal.
dads side:
my family, mom, me, baby bro, dad passed away
My uncle #1, him, wife, son
first daughter, hubby, 2 baby girls
second daughter, hubby, 1 baby girl
uncle #2
Him, wife, 2 daughter, 2 sons
uncle #3
Him, wife, 2 daughters, 1 son-in-law, 2 sons
uncle #4
Him, wife, 1 daughter, 4 sons
aunt#1
Her, hubby, 2 daughters, 2 son-in-laws, 2 sons
aunt #2
Her, hubby, son getting married, bro
thats just my dad side, his sisters son. Now the fucked up part his dad is my cousin, cause hes my moms older sister son. So now my moms whole family + his sibling and their family join the fray
then you have extended family through wedding relations that are necessary to be invited, then super close friends that may not be blood related but grew up like siblings for a long ass time
im telling ya, 23&me or ancestry would have a fucking field day with our families dna
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I'm getting married next week, pushing $60k overall right now. Luckily parents are covering most of it but me and my fiancé are putting in close to $20k
I personally think it's a waste of money but coming from a south Asian family, it's means a lot of people and multiple events
I personally think it's a waste of money but coming from a south Asian family, it's means a lot of people and multiple events
look at my post above yours lol
also remember most Desi weddings are Alcohol free, so the price is more exorbitant to where its being funneled
food alone per plate could be $50-75+ per plate
our custom to give the groom and bride is around $100+1 per couple, so a total of $202
if immediate, balloons up to $500+
Shit parents drop $1000+ on top of what the wedding bill is...
That's insane, but as my fiancé and I are planning our own wedding right now I can see how easy it is spend so much. I thought $15,000 would be an easy ceiling to keep it under but we're probably going to end up overshooting that. Stuff just costs so much, even the budget options and doing most stuff DIY, especially in the area we live in.
what do you mean by "first male of the family"? first male person of that generation to get married? that doesn't sound like a big deal.
Fuck that. I'm having like a picnic in a park with some keys or some shit. I'll spend tens of thousands of dollars on my honeymoon thank you very much
What is a big deal exactly? Who determines it?
Hint: This is cultural
because i am counting like a dozen "wifes" and "hubbys" in that post.
My husband and I got married at the court house with our parents,grandparents and my brother. My parents had a reception in our back yard for our extended families and friends, they rented a tent and we made the food. It was around $500 and my grandmother bought us a cake. It was a great decision, no stress, everyone had fun and it didn'take years to plan. 12 years later are still happily married too!
What does that say about something being or not being a big deal?
I went to Vegas, had about 60 people come down with me.
I had an open bar (no shots) and the wedding was about 7000$ all in (with the bar tab being about 3000$ of that lol). It was a really fun night.
In hindsight, especially after being a part of a few weddings since then (almost 8 years ago) I would have done the exact same thing.
I had an open bar (no shots) and the wedding was about 7000$ all in (with the bar tab being about 3000$ of that lol). It was a really fun night.
In hindsight, especially after being a part of a few weddings since then (almost 8 years ago) I would have done the exact same thing.
My one small trick to save money on your wedding. Let your spouse invite all their friends and family but dont invite any of your. Splits the cost in half.
look, whatever, it's a big deal to them. i'm fine with that. i was just asking for clarification that "first male of the family" indeed meant just that, instead of maybe meaning something else that i might actually agree is a big deal.
Right, at the end of the day all of this stuff is cultural, and obviously no one is right in the abstract.
yep the first male of our generation to get married
The female side already has 5 marriages strong and next generation already, us boys just starting to get hitched or even contemplate marriage
as stated might not sound like a big deal to most, but its a huge fucking deal in our family
its almost sounding of the horns, domino effect in play, cause once a new generation male gets hitched, the rest of the families push their sons, its the catalyst
Also thank fuck no first cousin marriage bullshit, all our weddings have been outside with fresh blood. Fuck that old ass custom of marrying within, fucking barbaric
