hell I'm pretty sure I have $20 brandname jeans in my dresser that I've had for 10+ years and the only visible damage is at the cuffs
hell I'm pretty sure I have $20 brandname jeans in my dresser that I've had for 10+ years and the only visible damage is at the cuffs
No I'm not a chef. I worked at a one Michelin star restaurant as a fish entremetier and I now work at a steakhouse which is supposedly one of the most exclusive in new York..
I'm just a line cook though. I've seen close to fifty line cooks quit this place in the last two years.
You don't get any sort of reward for lasting.
If I were to look for another job it would most likely pay minimum wage and offer shit hrs to where I couldn't attend school.
If I were to be a sous chef I would get maybe fifty grand which is shit considering you have to work 60-80 hrs a week.
So I:m desperately trying to get out of restaurant industry.
Bro I am 30 and I'm back in school for medicine. Fuckin' relax.
I was actually in a very similar situation at 27. Was pissing my life away up to that point. Then decided to change things around. Went to a tech school full-time while working two jobs. Fucking sucked, but things have turned around completely since then. Things can definitely turn around for you.
My last bio professor said I should go premed but I think I'll die trying to balance work and school.
If I can just hold on for one more year I'll apply to live on campus.
I was also wondering the same.. Like if you're in poverty I don't understand spending that much on jeans AT ALL. Like I make a lot more and I rarely, if ever, buy jeans when they're not on sale, and at Target their jeans are like ~30-40$? Do you not have a Goodwill or similar thrift store nearby?
You know in pretty much most professional careers, 30s is considered young?
Also your friend is an asshole and potentially keeping you down.
Yeah I get that. I wouldn't say I'm good at cooking so it wasn't really advice on that. My advice was more about minimum time, effort and expense to eat something healthy.Dude was supposedly a line chef at a michelin restaurant. He eats junk food because he wants to not because he needs cooking lessons from people on this forum.
Like I said above, you can find simple things to cook that are still healthy. The chicken meal I described hardly takes any time or effort. You can even buy vegetable packets that you can microwave. It sucks that you cook for work and that makes cooking for yourself undesirable but you should take care of yourself and at least go for the easiest way to be healthy.I bought a pan to cook and then I just realized, I don't really have the patience to cook at home. I'm apparently not alone as most of the people I work with don't cook at home either. Cooks generally don't like cooking for themselves.
I will look into a night auditor job thank you.Try to find an overnight gig as a night auditor for a hotel if you are trying to go to school at the same time. The work's not terribly hard, gives you plenty of time for studying, etc. Only downside can be the boredom. It will literally be hours of nothing to do but be present in case a phone rings.
Thank you.I know plenty of people who went to college later than you and it worked out for them. You don't need to put pressure on yourself to be perfect.
Just take it a day at a time and don't worry too much about the future. Things will pan out regardless - even when things look dire there is always a corner to be turned. Just work hard and as long as you give it 100% that's enough. Leave the rest of it in the lap of the gods.
Now I am going back to college and we both seem to agree that if I fuck up I have to kill myself or be stuck in poverty
"Being old and realizing if you mess up it's over"
"Im 30"
LOL
Yea I can definitely recommend a couple of books on frugal living. Just some simple changes people can make to save a lot of money. A lot of every day needs that anyone can easily DIY.You sound depressed, glad you're trying to address that.
I'm sorry your job is not fulfilling but you can live on 30,000 if you make good choices. My wife and I lived on 18,000 a year for many years in grad school and still came out with savings.
Please eat better and cheaper by buying food and preparing it at home. This whole thing you have about cooking is a rationalization of your self-harmful behaviour. I rarely "cook" anything, but I eat fairly healthy and most of my meals are made at home. Trader Joe's and Costco both have lots of decent things you can make without breaking out the pots and pans.
Also, you're not old yet so stop making your age some arbitrary point of no return.
You sound depressed, glad you're trying to address that.
I'm sorry your job is not fulfilling but you can live on 30,000 if you make good choices. My wife and I lived on 18,000 a year for many years in grad school and still came out with savings.
Please eat better and cheaper by buying food and preparing it at home. This whole thing you have about cooking is a rationalization of your self-harmful behaviour. I rarely "cook" anything, but I eat fairly healthy and most of my meals are made at home. Trader Joe's and Costco both have lots of decent things you can make without breaking out the pots and pans.
Also, you're not old yet so stop making your age some arbitrary point of no return.
She agrees that if this fails you should kill yourself? Stop talking to her.
Fucking hell, everyone zeroing in on how much money the OP spends on fucking trousers like it's even close to the most important thing about the post. OP is clearly struggling with mental health (based on other threads here in addition to the OP), but people are lining up to critique him for spending however much on jeans? Way to miss the fucking point, guys.
Yeah, of course, but the focus here on the jeans spending is far too narrow and just not helpful.Money problems can definitely contribute to and worsen mental illness.
I am almost thirty, and I work a job that every day I ask myself whether or not I can make it one more day.
Also, it pays badly, like only 30,000 a year .
She had people telling her to kill herself if she failed?Well that's reassuring.
Yeah, she is a partner at a law firm and she had a very hard life.
I think she thinks that the more pressure applied to me the better I will turn out as it sort of worked that way for her.
I have tried to get her to understand that working and not attending college can be very harmful to a person.
She just then will essentially get mad and tell me I have no idea how hard her life was and tell me that anyone can go to college like she did so I have no excuse.
I tried to explain to her that not everyone can go to college and she just tells me all about how hard her life was and so she thinks anyone can do it.
.She agrees that if this fails you should kill yourself? Stop talking to her.
She is blinded by survivorship bias. Find people that are actually supportive and dont gaslight you.Well that's reassuring.
Yeah, she is a partner at a law firm and she had a very hard life.
I think she thinks that the more pressure applied to me the better I will turn out as it sort of worked that way for her.
I have tried to get her to understand that working and not attending college can be very harmful to a person.
She just then will essentially get mad and tell me I have no idea how hard her life was and tell me that anyone can go to college like she did so I have no excuse.
I tried to explain to her that not everyone can go to college and she just tells me all about how hard her life was and so she thinks anyone can do it.