Hey all, I've been thinking about what everyone said overnight.
... I was wrong. I finally got it as I went to sleep last night.
I went way off the deep end with my head canon. As several people repeatedly tried to explain to me, I guess this is really just... a soft drink, for drinking, with no other effects. The "mix it up" is using the trans model as a punchline. It's not that deep. Now that I've seen it I can't unsee it, it was so obvious looking back, I can't believe it took 20 people explaining it to me before I got it.
I also agree that the creators should've clarified the situation by now if this were what I thought it was. It's really telling that they haven't made any conciliatory gestures at all towards the trans community.
I thank the poster who talked about Cyberpunk's rules, I had no idea about that and it alsomakes things even clearer.
I guess I was blind to the reality because my brain couldn't even process they would try to go for something so shallow and crass. In a future that allows people to change their bodies... THIS is what they decide to go for? What a completely missed opportunity to actually do something a little deeper with this topic. I completely understand why the trans community is furious now. And obviously, now that I've put my reality glasses on, it brings everything else CDPR is doing into sharp detail too, and I can see how there's a consistent pattern of transphobia throughout it all.
Looking back, I'm embarrassed about some of the things I said, literally cringing right now thinking back to it. I'm sorry to have wasted everyone's time and emotional labor on this, and I apologize in particular to the trans members of ResetERA. I know it probably seems crazy to you all, but I don't think I would've ever gotten it without talking to people about it - I was really that blinded to the very banal explanation.