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Chloe Dykstra Posts About Domestic/Sexual Abuse at the hands of Chris Hardwick
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This is victim blaming, don't do that. People like Hardwick are likely master manipulators, this is what they do. They gaslight you and make you sound crazy while everything they say is completely rational, that's what they make you believe. It's hard to see that until you analyze things after the fact.
Hey people who don't read the articles... Read this part before making an ass of yourself:
I would also just to get ahead of the people who won't believe her.
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I agree. My point was to get people to read the link. I think too often people quote salacious bits but in taking it out of context it loses impact.
What does the last word mean? It starts with an f and ends with a t. Gosh I must be slow today.
Also, I think OP should just post the whole article, or at least include more info.
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They're posting one liner posts that don't amount to much.
You went in on a full analysis leaning toward blaming the victim asking questions when you could have just read the article and got your answers.
Oh, I know. I hate when people say that. But, this just happens to be that one time where it's true for me. Hardwick always seemed so eager to mingle with celebrities I totally saw him as someone that would stab his best friend in the eye to shake Norman Reedus' hand.
Wow I just saw he is 49 years old
He looks young for that age. I would have never guessed that.
And this story is awful.
He looks young for that age. I would have never guessed that.
And this story is awful.
The bit about him being obsessed with celebrity and ingratiating himself with famous people reads as very true to me. He always struck me as a parasite that was obsessed with becoming celebrity adjacent because he didn't have the talent or luck to become one himself. He was always just this vaguely charming white guy who squeezed every last drop of the currency of being an agreeable white guy afforded him.
I realized this was all armchair analysis and ultimately dumb to think, but the fact that it was spot on is chilling. This was a monster hiding in plain sight.
I realized this was all armchair analysis and ultimately dumb to think, but the fact that it was spot on is chilling. This was a monster hiding in plain sight.
Wow. I've followed both on Twitter for years now. In hindsight you can definitely notice some of the things she mentions here. I noticed the pretty dramatic weight loss she mentioned in photos she has posted of herself. Also how Hardwick just about instantly bounced back into another relationship (with another famous, wealthy person which now shouldn't surprise you after reading Chloe's story) and married her.
What people don't often get (like the banned user) is this is how domestic abusers operate. Every time you hear someone go "why didn't they leave them", it's because these people will often cage their victims in mentally and socially. And then people will go "he was nice to me!"
People don't get that just because an abuser is kind to you that they now are unable to be mean to others. Abusers are kind to people they don't believe to be targets or useful for being targeted, and often intentionally do so to build deniability into their social structure. This is part of the reason why domestic abusers get away with it. They are often useful to the community around them (job, money, influence). People will "turn in" the victim to their abuser to protect their own ass or just reinvent reality to say the victim is stupid/liar.
Everyone that's heard "why didn't you leave him?" has also heard "why are you being so dramatic" , "why are you starting shit all the time with him", etc, when they attempted to get help to escape it or confide in somoeone. Often from the same people. You get abandoned fast because abusers do such absurd things that you feel embarassed to to tell other people the absurd stuff they do to you, and often will blame the victim for causing the situation.
People don't get that just because an abuser is kind to you that they now are unable to be mean to others. Abusers are kind to people they don't believe to be targets or useful for being targeted, and often intentionally do so to build deniability into their social structure. This is part of the reason why domestic abusers get away with it. They are often useful to the community around them (job, money, influence). People will "turn in" the victim to their abuser to protect their own ass or just reinvent reality to say the victim is stupid/liar.
Everyone that's heard "why didn't you leave him?" has also heard "why are you being so dramatic" , "why are you starting shit all the time with him", etc, when they attempted to get help to escape it or confide in somoeone. Often from the same people. You get abandoned fast because abusers do such absurd things that you feel embarassed to to tell other people the absurd stuff they do to you, and often will blame the victim for causing the situation.
Yeah, that what I was talking about earlier. It's weird to have your dumb armchair analysis actually turn out to be true.
By the sound of it he didn't "turn into" Jack shit. He was like that when the relationship began.
Same. I usually hate that shit too, but I'm gonna be hypocrite here because he really wore his pathology on his sleeve.
I wonder how he is gonna try and approach this. I am usually one of the people on Era that has a wait and see approach to situations like this and wanna hear both sides before I make any kind of judgement, but there is just too many very specific details and situations in her letter for me to doubt this.
Specifically the claim about hospital visit and what he said to the doctor and her being blacklisted. As well as her being forced to alienate herself from her friends.
All of those things are easily corroborated and can be proven quite easily so there is no point in lying about it. So it sounds like she went through absolute hell. It's tragic what low self esteem and a belief in the good of others can do to someone. It's something that were hear about far too often.
Specifically the claim about hospital visit and what he said to the doctor and her being blacklisted. As well as her being forced to alienate herself from her friends.
All of those things are easily corroborated and can be proven quite easily so there is no point in lying about it. So it sounds like she went through absolute hell. It's tragic what low self esteem and a belief in the good of others can do to someone. It's something that were hear about far too often.
Domestic abuse is the issue we kick under the rug. What percentage of our fathers hit our mothers? We don't need to condemn our fathers and hate them and "out" them, but we need to be aware this still exists and some men will continue to do it because their fathers showed them it was ok.
Edit: I also like how when the Ray Rice video came out and it was the first popular non-dramatized video of domestic violence and the response is shock. What do you think domestic violence actually looks like?
Edit: I also like how when the Ray Rice video came out and it was the first popular non-dramatized video of domestic violence and the response is shock. What do you think domestic violence actually looks like?
It turned to shit once he stopped having interesting people on and started booking based on a celebrity anyway. I think I dropped it in like 2012 or something.
He always gave off this vaguely toxic vibe, but it sounds like he's way more horrible that anyone could have thought. He needs to be barred from anything tv or convention related going forward, at a bare minimum. I hope he is ruined.
Yeah. I get it. For people it's a form of vindication.
But, as you said, it adds nothing. This is about a victim. Our focus should be on them to help them. It's just as bad as the " oh no. Actor accused of crimes of a sexual nature. How will I watch my favorite show now?" crowd.
If your response starts with "I" and it isn't about sharing a similar personal experience, stop.
He probably didn't think what he was doing was abuse. It's easy to call out other people, not so much to look at yourself.
I've hated this dude for years, although my original reason was due to him mocking crowd reactions at Evo while hosting a show on G4. He always came off as very disingenuous. It's not at all surprising to hear he is a sociopath.
I have a feeling she won't be the first to speak up in support. Highly doubt Chloe Dykstra was the only victim.
I have a feeling she won't be the first to speak up in support. Highly doubt Chloe Dykstra was the only victim.
She said in the article he was terrified of her making it public. He knew his behavior was shitty or at least knew people would consider it shitty.