I mean...that could totally be true.
In many games you can choose to kill your way through a situation, or try to do it diplomatically, or just try to sneak through. Obviously not all these options are as moral as others, but each are just as effective.
Also I'm not sure how your example relates to politics exactly.
While what you are saying seems rational, it's ignorant.
Literally everyone knows it's not optimal to wait. That doesn't change the fact that when it happens to you the world flips upside down and the trauma of trying to get it reported only adds to the pain in a very significant way you have no business judging. As that other poster before me said, your psyche goes through a loop.
Gosh like dude when it happened to me it took me two years before I could re-open the issue mentally and realize I was abused at all. It made me sick when the connection hit. I literally threw up. I'd tried to bottle up all those feelings to get by before. I didn't even realize all the things my brain was doing to help protect me. And that's two years later, and all I wanted in that moment was to die. Telling someone was the last thing on my mind, let alone being anything I'd wanted to do. And at that point there was no point. I had no idea where they were. It's an immense amount of emotional energy to expend. I'd have no idea what I'd even want to have happen. Nothing legal would be proven. It would raise issues with my own family as letting them know would make things so, so, so much worse.
It is so much more complicated than you understand. Obviously these people getting caught immediately would be so much better. People who don't get caught tend to get bolder. We get that. All of us get that. But it isn't helpful to point out.
I think something that I haven't seen expressed and didn't understand until it happened to me, was how utterly naked reporting trauma makes you feel, which, when you have experienced trauma, is the absolute last thing you want. Aside from the fact that my family would probably vilify me in some way if they knew the things that happened to me, even with total support I would eternally be the kid in the family who was sexually abused. I don't really know how to explain how horrible that sounds. How naked and exposed and vulnerable that would make me feel. It would make it feel more real, more out there in the open. Being manipulated into things I did not want to do is the most humiliating, compromising....I don't have a word for it, kind of thing.
I've typed out a number of other things and deleted them a few times. Probably just isn't best if I keep rambling on about this.
Shit's complicated.
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