There should be no defence of this guy's actions. I'm including the "swapping dirty DMs bit as well.
This guy is incredibly predatory. The entire relationship is founded on inblanced power dynamics. As far as I can tell, they didn't really know each other before, so the first thing interaction is this kind stranger offering to fly you out to a locations for a few days of gaming fun. Something she is obviously super excited for.
Then the complications start getting added, "I can't sleep without cuddling", "we don't need to fuck but maybe we can", "you can reject me but only before we get in the room, anything else breaks our verbal contract".
All of this is planned. This whole thing was an attempt to get laid and the fact he has posted those chat logs and doesn't understand how bad they look shows how fucking oblivious he is to his own actions.
He took advantage of this girl and she is now likely going to really struggle to have a public presence after this because she will be hounded by fucking idiot right on men who can't comprehend consent.
So no defending any of his actions, he gets everything he deserves.
This guy is incredibly predatory. The entire relationship is founded on inblanced power dynamics. As far as I can tell, they didn't really know each other before, so the first thing interaction is this kind stranger offering to fly you out to a locations for a few days of gaming fun. Something she is obviously super excited for.
Then the complications start getting added, "I can't sleep without cuddling", "we don't need to fuck but maybe we can", "you can reject me but only before we get in the room, anything else breaks our verbal contract".
All of this is planned. This whole thing was an attempt to get laid and the fact he has posted those chat logs and doesn't understand how bad they look shows how fucking oblivious he is to his own actions.
He took advantage of this girl and she is now likely going to really struggle to have a public presence after this because she will be hounded by fucking idiot right on men who can't comprehend consent.
So no defending any of his actions, he gets everything he deserves.